By Shanenn Bryant
If you struggle with jealousy and insecurity in your relationship, this podcast is for you! Often these insecurities come from childhood or experience with betrayal and cheating partners in past re
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Ever catch yourself saying "just so you know, I know what you COULD be doing" to your partner... even when you're pretty sure they're innocent? In this episode, Shanenn's calling you out when she gets into why we sometimes choose accusation over acceptance, even when our rational brain is screaming the obvious.
THE HEART OF IT
Have you ever noticed that quiet moment before you launch into relationship detective mode? That split second where your mind offers up a perfectly reasonable explanation, yet something pushes you to prove you're not easily fooled? Shanenn breaks down this fascinating pattern and reveals why our need to appear "aware" might actually be working against us.
Through real-life examples, she shows us how these small moments of choice can shift our entire relationship dynamic. Learn why phrases like "just so you know, I know" might be hurting your relationship. Other topics covered in this episode are:
TRUTH BOMBS "Your life will be so much calmer, so much happier, and with less anxiety if you make the choice of saying, 'You know what, I'm going to go with this logical explanation.'"
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
YOUR NEXT STEPS (Choose Your Own Adventure)
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Remember: Choosing not to say "just so you know" doesn't make you naive - it makes you brave.
00:00 Introduction to Top Self Podcast
00:49 A Teenage Adventure: Sneaking Out
04:41 The Consequen
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🎙️ Where my freaks at? Control Freaks that is.
In this episode, we dive deep with psychologist and author Joanna Kleinman to unpack why that voice in your head is working harder than a barista during morning rush hour.
Shanenn and Joanna talk about:
Don't Miss Moments:
"We're like starving dogs waiting for that bone of validation" - on why we stay in unhealthy relationships
"We're dishwashers - I'm a Whirlpool, you're a GE, but we all run the same programs" - on universal human patterns
Action Items from the Episode:
Follow Joanna on her podcast "Dethroning Your Inner Critic" where she dives deeper into the MIND Method and helps women stop being their own worst critics and start being their own best advocates.
00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome
00:20 Understanding the Inner Critic
01:58 Origins of the Inner Critic
06:47 Cultural and Social Influences
09:33 Control and Perfectionism
11:35 Healthy Relationships and Self-Worth
21:32 Practical Steps to Dethrone the Inner Critic
29:20 Conclusion and Podcast Promotion
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In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn's guest, award-winning psychologist Dr. Courtney Warren opens up about her own struggles with relationship insecurity and shares her thoughts about the lies we tell ourselves.
From crying when her college boyfriend went out with friends to becoming an expert on self-deception, Dr. Warren's personal journey and professional wisdom offer hope for anyone wrestling with jealousy and relationship fears.
Key Moments:
- 2:00 - Why self-honesty is the key to living a fulfilling life
- 9:00 - Dr. Warren shares a vulnerable story about her college relationship
- 21:00 - The Three A's of Authenticity framework revealed
- 31:00 - Why your friends might not understand your jealousy (and that's okay)
- 37:00 - Small changes that lead to massive transformation
Golden Episode Nuggets:
💎 The most damaging lies are the ones we tell ourselves
💎 Jealousy often has nothing to do with your partner
💎 Your worth isn't determined by your relationship status
💎 Change happens in micro-steps, not overnight transformations
💎 Finding the right support system is crucial for healing
About Our Guest:
Dr. Courtney Warren is a board-certified clinical psychologist and author who specializes in addictions, self-deception, and eating pathology. Her TEDx talk "Honest Liars" has helped countless people understand the psychology behind self-deception and personal growth.
Resources Mentioned:
- Dr. Warren's TEDx Talk: "Honest Liars"
- Dr. Cortney Warren's Website and Books
- Support groups for relationship insecurity - Jealousy Junkie Facebook Group
Quote of the Episode:
"You are not defined by your romantic relationships... whether you are loved or liked or rejected or single or coupled actually has no bearing on your value as a person." - Dr. Courtney Warren
Perfect for listeners who:
- Struggle with jealousy in relationships
- Want to build healthier romantic partnerships
- Are ready to face their own self-deception
- Feel alone in their relationship insecurities
- Are working on building self-confidence
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Feel like your relationship is hanging on by a thread? Do you wonder if too much damage has been done to the relationship?
I was there too but you can turn things around. Your relationship can recover from this, but it's might take you going against how you normally feel after an argument to make a difference.
It may take you recovering quickly instead of letting the shame and guilt of your actions take over. Apologize to your partner, forgive yourself, and push yourself to get back to normal as quickly as possible.
In fact:
Here are some common things to avoid but there's so much more packed in this episode:
Shanenn also shares some recovery strategies like:
## Resources Mentioned
- Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp
- Individual coaching options
- ForYourMarriage.com
- PsychologicalScience.com
Something to highlight from the episode:
"As bad as it gets, if you start making the changes, remember, you can make big changes with small steps."
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🎉 Special Announcement:
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Dates: November 4th & 5th at 1:00 pm ET
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I'm talking about you on this week's episode. The REAL you. Often we think we have to transform into someone else to overcome jealousy and insecurity and that seems like a huge feat to become your future self you want to be.
However, you already ARE your future self. In fact, you are much closer than you think because its not about changing who you are, its about uncover the layers of pain, hurt, disappointment and programming that you've been layering on over the years, covering up that care-free, relaxed person you once where.
Key Topics Covered:
You weren't born jealousy and insecure, you were conditioned that way. These are just faulty, fear-driven habits—not core components of who you are. Your feelings are perfectly valid but the thoughts creating them may need to be examined and adjusted.
Lucky for you... I have a free workshop coming up and I will share a little bit about what we'll do in that workshop in todays episode. The link to join is in the show notes or go to Topself.com/workshop to register.
00:00 Welcome and Exciting Announcements
00:10 Embracing the Fall Season
00:59 Introduction to Identity and Future Self
02:37 Challenging Jealousy as an Identity
04:53 Understanding the Root of Jealousy
06:23 Real-Life Examples of Jealousy
11:00 The Role of Past Experiences
13:26 Triggers and Nervous System Responses
14:22 Different Relationship Dynamics
17:45 Understanding True Safety
18:25 Reprogramming Your Brain's Safety System
19:15 Embracing Your Future Self
20:24 Accessing Your Inner Confidence
21:30 Join the Self Discovery Workshop
23:21 The Layers Covering Your True Self
25:42 Final Thoughts and Workshop Details
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Feeling needy? Do you feel like you're high-maintenance and your constantly asking for things from your partner to make you feel better?
It has everything to do with your core wounds and your relationship to self. In this episode, Shanenn share's her acronym S.E.L.F to learn how to identify your personality needs and how to self-source those needs.
She shares the importance of becoming the captain of your own ship to maintain emotional balance and independence. Shannen invites you to take small steps towards self-sufficiency and happiness.
Don't miss this lighthearted take on serious topics, as she promises cracking the code on meeting your own needs could be a game-changing, life-altering experience.
00:00 Welcome and Introduction
00:19 Understanding Limiting Beliefs
01:03 Today's Topic: Meeting Your Own Needs
01:41 The Acronym SELF
05:49 Identifying Your Needs
14:46 Steps to Identify and Meet Your Needs
28:27 Conclusion and Challenge
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How we attach in relationships is everything! That's why we talk about it so much on the podcast and this episode is full of attachment style nuggets you're not going to want to miss. This week, Shanenn has none other than licensed marriage and family therapist and attachment coach Jessica DaSilva.
Jessica not only shares her own experiences as a former fearful avoidant but discussed all four types: anxious, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant, and secure attachment.
If you are wondering why you're friends are quite like you and could give a flying fruit loop about their husbands traveling out of town with a young co-worker, than slap on those earbuds and turn up the volume because Jessica's here to tell you why that is.
00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome
00:44 Understanding Attachment Styles
02:17 Personal Journey with Fearful Avoidant Attachment
04:04 Impact of Attachment Styles on Relationships
04:51 Path to Becoming a Therapist
07:49 Exploring Anxious Attachment
12:48 Navigating Relationship Needs and Communication
15:05 Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Dynamics
17:44 Fearful Avoidant Attachment and Jealousy
22:02 Strategies for Developing Secure Attachment
31:13 Conclusion and Podcast Promotion
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If you've been feeling like you are not strong enough to conquer this jealousy thing or you just dont have what it takes to change your life around, I'm here to tell you, that's not it. That's not why so stop beating yourself up. You may just being going about it in the wrong way.
In this episode, Shanenn talks about the struggles of managing jealousy and insecurity despite trying various self-help techniques. She shares personal stories, including recent disruptions preventing new episodes, freeing a groundhog, dealing with a trapped skunk, and the misadventures of her skunk-sprayed German Shepherd BUT.... that's not even the good stuff you came here for.
She shares the importance of addressing subconscious programming and introduces her upcoming 'Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp' for those feeling stuck in their emotional battles.
00:00 Introduction to Overcoming Jealousy and Insecurity
01:37 Personal Updates and Apologies
02:48 The Groundhog and Skunk Saga
10:39 The Main Topic: Addressing Jealousy and Insecurity
13:35 The Turning Point: Therapy and Self-Discovery
18:00 Understanding the Subconscious Mind
23:22 Invitation to Join the Bootcamp
25:08 Conclusion and Upcoming Episodes
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Ever been caught in the whirlwind of 'should I or shouldn't I?' when it comes to relationships? This episode takes a deep dive into the life-changing realization that the real question isn't about what to do, but about who you want to be.
Do you want to be a jealous, anxious person or someone who trusts and opens their heart? Tune in to learn how settling your internal chaos can transform your life and relationships.
00:00 Understanding Your Inner Self
00:12 The Dilemma of Trust and Action
00:27 Defining Your Desired Self
00:50 Practicing the Person You Want to Be
Check out Abby's amazing Tedx Talk
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The one thing I hear so much is how ashamed you are about being jealous, it actually even affects the growth of this podcast because you don't share it with your friends and family because you don't want them to know you're this way.
But I know you don't want to be this way and I also know that unfortunately you feel as ashamed and judgement because people will say your crazy, psycho or nuts and that makes you feel even worse.
Guess what, you don't deserve for ANYONE to say that to you. Not your spouse, your partner, your friend, your family members... no one. And on the show today, I talk about why you don't deserve it.
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