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I went against everything I believed in and put aside my stance and got my friend a job where I worked. This is not something I have ever done outside of my best friend who I have worked with several times before. - For several months I felt like a hypocrite.

This person was a close friend who had been unemployed for 12 months, she told me this in the middle of the pandemic where the roles in my sector were slower than usual due to covid. I went against my better judgment I went against my personal views on this I couldnt reconcile myself with the fact that I was less of a friend for not knowing my close friend was struggling and unemployed and had been for an entire year when I had the contacts and opportunities to get her a role. I had this overwhelming feeling of guilt. I went against everything I believe in, my better judgment and I took a risk.... it was my biggest regret of 2021. My gut and my stance however strict never fails me. I felt that my emotional need to cover my friend blindsided me. I also allowed myself to be manipulated and rather than asking myself 'why had she beeen unemployed for 12 months in a boyant market pre pandemic'.

Sometimes things happen to remind you why you have taken a stance on a subject or topic, sometimes we are reminded that you have to make difficult decisions which may make you feel bad but there comes a point where you have to give yourself permission to put your mental well being and yourself first.

I recognise in myself the flaws in my character, especially when I feel responsible to save people especially friends. It is a burden brought about from my trauma with my mother, where I needed her to save me, to be there for me to cover me and she did not. She did not afford me the covering needed from her. I also now realise she did not have the capacity or the tools to cover me in the way I needed. I then carried the unresolved issues and burdened myself with wanting to save others. I have discussed this extensively with my therapist and sat in the feelings of feeling betrayed, disappointed and let down. I know where my responsibility sits, I also recognise that this big L is my learning lesson to carry as a reminder that friendship does not extend to trying to save someone, that is not my role. My role as a friend is to be supportive and encourage my friends to save themselves. Being a good friend is not measured by your ability to find a solution sometimes it is ok to support your friend to find the solution for themselves.

I have forgiven myself for the silly decision I made for going against my principals and I am also celebrating the liberation from the burden. I have learned the lessons and hope you can learn from me and do better.

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Workplaces encourage and push the narrative of the 'good person' not allowing for questions or mistakes but instead placing undue pressure on staff to be perfect without mistake, question,  consideration, or exception.

In this episode, we explore our need to be the 'Good Person' and why we continue to allow this toxic persona to control and govern how we navigate work, especially during the vulnerable times of probation or leading up to promotions and bonuses.

What is clear is we have all suffered from 'The Good Person Syndrome' some of us still do and are buckling under that pressure. Let's discuss.

In this episode, we will also be discussing the latest Employment Tribunal judgment where a 39-year-old White Woman took her employer's Gartner Consultancy to court for Bullying, Victimisation, less favorable treatment, and constructive dismissal. She won part of her claim, one being the use of the derogatory term used by her employer referring to her as a 'Good Girl'. The judge set a precedent and his statement justifying his ruling is a turning point that we all need to be aware of.

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This is one for your Whatsapp group chats. When people get past the aesthetics of marriage the flowers the big dresses and the exuberant amount of money spent, people ignore the business side of marriage. The financial aspect sees both parties bring forth their finances into a financial pot. What does the business of marriage look like? Is marriage a business? - Yes, it is a financial institution and one we will discuss in this episode. When you are considering a life partner you must consider the business side of your marriage and what that brings and how monies are spent but also understand the financial health of your partner and financial associate and how both of you enter into the business of marriage.

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Since recording this episode Will Smith has released a statement apologising for slapping Chris Rock at the Oscars.

Whenever greatness and the TESTimony the devil will always show up to take the glory, in work and in life. The devil works overtime and uses people to deliver the agenda of disruption and chaos.

This episode contains x3 dilemmas.

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In this episode, we discuss Finding You Focus. Having the focus to know what you need to manifest and developing a plan to make your focus a reality. So many people are on the fast train without a destination because the focus is missing. Knowing what you are working towards, you need a FOCUS.

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In this episode, we discuss colleagues who take credit for your work and how we develop the skills and tools to deal with these situations. I will also be discussing the importance of not pigeonholing yourself but ensuring you create options and in turn, choices that will enable you to navigate more freely in your career.

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A continuation from the previous 'Mass Exodus episode'.

In this episode, I discuss the reaction and fallout of my resignation and the audacious audacity of senior managers after staging a coup, in their attempt to use me to replace Debra, my line manager.

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After 14 months of contracting at this organisation... I have resigned. 

There is also a strength in knowing when it is time to leave. - let's discuss it!

*In this episode we also have x2 Dilemmas

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In this episode we discuss self-confidence. Being confident in the workplace and navigating imposter syndrome whilst also navigating white-dominated spaces is an extreme sport.

'Self-confidence is an attitude about your skills and abilities. It means you accept and trust yourself and have a sense of control in your life. You know your strengths and weakness well, and have a positive view of yourself. You set realistic expectations and goals, communicate assertively, and can handle criticism.'

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We have all heard of or watched the 'Tinder Swindler' on Netflix. In this episode we discuss it and how we have fallen foul of some degree of swindling or dating deception. We will also discuss how we are swindled, manipulated, and sold a dream by organisations to then find out the glittering website, offices, and meeting rooms hide toxic and problematic workplaces.

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