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At the age of 96 The Queen of the United Kingdom passed away, this of course has given rise to topical discussions both on social media and within the workplace. The topic of the British empires role in colonisation is a painful one especially when people tell you how you should feel about the monarchy and how to react to the passing away of the Queen of England. One thing is for sure one cannot discuss the monarchy without being honest about their role in colonisation, slavery and the destruction and interruption of peace in Africa.

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Policing your self esteem is a duty YOU owe to yourself.

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'You have to acknowledge someones win even if it is at the expense of your losses'

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In this episode I will be discussing why as Black women we accept crumbs instead of an apology that consists of acceptance and accountability. Why as Black Women do we allow those outside of our community to continuously use us and our trauma to make money. Why are we all too willing to see self appointed allies as Messiahs' of social justice.

What is clear is the weaponisation of 'be kind' and mental health to evade accountability. The issue isn’t  where one sticks their foot or their pursuits in the bedroom. It is about racism and the use of racism  by night and the pretence of allieship by day.

We will also be discussing how to protect your job from those seeking to piggy-back on your shoulders to advance their careers.

This episode also includes x2 dilemmas

Referenced Podcast Episode:
'B.A.M.E - Our Racial Experiences are not the same: Defining & Clarifying Boundaries'.
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In this episode we discuss the the model minority, the acceptable minority that allows themselves to be controlled and puppeteered.  Case and point Rishi Sunak down to the final two in his bid to be Conservative Leader and the next Prime Minister. Note, what happens in government is mirrored in the work place.

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In this episode we discuss a dilemma received in the mailbox.

A fellow Black Queen sent an email to her line manager correcting the continued mispronunciation  of her name. Her email was ignored, after following up for a response she then received a meeting in the diary from HR labelled 'Private and Confidential'.


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'The more you have to protect, the weaker you become, thats why everyone and everything around you cant be a liability; - By Dencia

Creating boundaries with your family especially in a culture laced in religion often creates  division and a choice, a choice between your peace and showing up in a culture that will tell you your mental health cannot be more important than your family.  The first daughter especially in the African culture i belong too  comes with a burden of responsibility that you are born into. Your identity  becomes the first born daughter and removes the person and stripes you of you individuality, you show up for your duty a duty your younger siblings then expect.

As we evolve and grow into adulthood the structure of the home that becomes  the foundation is removed and adult siblings now make a choice to forge relationships and a further choice of forging healthy relationships such relationships require boundaries.

In a culture that sees boundaries as disrespectful how can a first born daughter create healthy sibling relationships and remove the duty to enable her to also live in her truth and pursue her peace and what makes her happy?

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ACAS gives employees and employers free impartial advice and mediation on workplace disputes, employment rights, and best practices. 

ACAS must be used before approaching an employment tribunal. The view is that an employment tribunal must be used as the last resort and therefore ACAS provides a service of mediation to find a compromise in a workplace disputes. In the event that a compromise cannot be found and a Claimant has exhausted a grievance process and therefore not found a resolution through ACAS, a Claimant can take an employment matter to an Employment Tribunal.

In this episode I will be discussing my friend's case which we took to ACAS I managed to negotiate an out-of-court settlement for her of nearly £50k and renegotiated the terms of that settlement which included:

1. Payment within 7 days
2. A tax-Free settlement with all tax liability to be fully paid by her employer to HMRC
3. Payment of 10 therapy sessions
4. Agreed wording for an employment reference 
5. Letter of retraction and an apology in writing for a false accusation made during the course of her employment.
6. Payment in lieu of notice to enable her to leave this employment on full pay for 3 months.

We will be using her employment dispute as a case study for this episode.

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The passive-aggressive inverted commas in emails create the tension the author intended. The use of inverted commas as a microaggression is used to reinforce one's position and to provoke a response from you.

In this episode, we also discuss my most recent boss reapplying for a role she has been doing for almost 2 years

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Apologise for the disruption to the audio. We are replacing our Apple Mac for a greater podcast listing experience. - Back to regular programming next week.

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As children, we were often not encouraged to use our voice, or have an opinion the old saying of 'Children should be seen but not heard.' This then evolves into being easily manipulated as we second guess ourselves or question the decisions we initially decisively make.

In the working world, we become susceptible to career manipulation this is demonstrated by displaced loyalty to a company that no longer serves you or being talked out of resigning, etc I am labeling this a Code Black!

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