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Workplaces encourage and push the narrative of the 'good person' not allowing for questions or mistakes but instead placing undue pressure on staff to be perfect without mistake, question,  consideration, or exception.

In this episode, we explore our need to be the 'Good Person' and why we continue to allow this toxic persona to control and govern how we navigate work, especially during the vulnerable times of probation or leading up to promotions and bonuses.

What is clear is we have all suffered from 'The Good Person Syndrome' some of us still do and are buckling under that pressure. Let's discuss.

In this episode, we will also be discussing the latest Employment Tribunal judgment where a 39-year-old White Woman took her employer's Gartner Consultancy to court for Bullying, Victimisation, less favorable treatment, and constructive dismissal. She won part of her claim, one being the use of the derogatory term used by her employer referring to her as a 'Good Girl'. The judge set a precedent and his statement justifying his ruling is a turning point that we all need to be aware of.

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This is one for your Whatsapp group chats. When people get past the aesthetics of marriage the flowers the big dresses and the exuberant amount of money spent, people ignore the business side of marriage. The financial aspect sees both parties bring forth their finances into a financial pot. What does the business of marriage look like? Is marriage a business? - Yes, it is a financial institution and one we will discuss in this episode. When you are considering a life partner you must consider the business side of your marriage and what that brings and how monies are spent but also understand the financial health of your partner and financial associate and how both of you enter into the business of marriage.

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Since recording this episode Will Smith has released a statement apologising for slapping Chris Rock at the Oscars.

Whenever greatness and the TESTimony the devil will always show up to take the glory, in work and in life. The devil works overtime and uses people to deliver the agenda of disruption and chaos.

This episode contains x3 dilemmas.

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In this episode, we discuss Finding You Focus. Having the focus to know what you need to manifest and developing a plan to make your focus a reality. So many people are on the fast train without a destination because the focus is missing. Knowing what you are working towards, you need a FOCUS.

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In this episode, we discuss colleagues who take credit for your work and how we develop the skills and tools to deal with these situations. I will also be discussing the importance of not pigeonholing yourself but ensuring you create options and in turn, choices that will enable you to navigate more freely in your career.

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A continuation from the previous 'Mass Exodus episode'.

In this episode, I discuss the reaction and fallout of my resignation and the audacious audacity of senior managers after staging a coup, in their attempt to use me to replace Debra, my line manager.

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After 14 months of contracting at this organisation... I have resigned. 

There is also a strength in knowing when it is time to leave. - let's discuss it!

*In this episode we also have x2 Dilemmas

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In this episode we discuss self-confidence. Being confident in the workplace and navigating imposter syndrome whilst also navigating white-dominated spaces is an extreme sport.

'Self-confidence is an attitude about your skills and abilities. It means you accept and trust yourself and have a sense of control in your life. You know your strengths and weakness well, and have a positive view of yourself. You set realistic expectations and goals, communicate assertively, and can handle criticism.'

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We have all heard of or watched the 'Tinder Swindler' on Netflix. In this episode we discuss it and how we have fallen foul of some degree of swindling or dating deception. We will also discuss how we are swindled, manipulated, and sold a dream by organisations to then find out the glittering website, offices, and meeting rooms hide toxic and problematic workplaces.

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I recently received a dilemma from a Black Queen. Her performance in her role has been 10/10. She has maintained a 'Feedback Folder' which supports her overall performance. She has achieved all objectives to a high standard and continues to grow within the organisation. Within her performance review documentation, her line manager sought to use the Performance review document to 'humble her'. Her Line Manager added false, misleading, and detrimental feedback in her performance review document and when challenged has been bullying our fellow Black Queen to sign the document and therefore effectively agreed with the information knowing it is untrue.  When challenged she was told 'it isn't a big deal, it isn't serious, and should challenge her within her role.  How can our fellow Black Queen sign a document with false information that will then be kept in her HR file know that the information is untrue and without merit.

In this episode, we discuss the above and also how she has now had to file a grievance complaint. However, this has not been straightforward. Our sis despite my advice was influenced by her trade union rep and has now effectively found herself in a position where she has no leverage, shown her cards too early, she is now effectively is being managed out because she did not manage this situation and found herself conflicted.  In that conflict, she was influenced by other voices and none of those voices centers Black Women.

Let's discuss.

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