Training4Manhood

Guests: Gabe Boyd and Michael Thornberry

Point Man: How a Man Can Lead His Family (Revised & Updated Version) by Steve Farrar

Chapter 9 Save the Girls

Girls need relational connection.

Girls long to feel safe.

Girls process their world differently than boys do.

Girls face significant challenges as they enter their teens.

Girls need healthy boundaries.

Girls need dad’s active engagement.

Girls need to be assured of their innate beauty.

Chapter 10 Telling Your Kids What You Don’t Want to Tell Them

Howard Hendricks - why should we be ashamed to discuss what God was not ashamed to create?

A man is responsible to teach his children about sex.

Better to be “attached” to parents and learn from them than from peers!

Chapter 11 Start Your Own Nation

Even the poorest man that has a family is to be prophet, priest, and king in his own home.  Oliver Heywood

Jeremiah 29:5-7 - seek the welfare of the city - start families, be prosperous…even in the midst of the evil around you…

Be a good citizen…elections are just around the corner!

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Guest: Chas Taylor

Everyday I spend time with God - because that’s important in discerning the voice of God. “Spending time” with God includes reading God’s Word - do you have a reading plan that helps you to focus and allows others to hold you accountable. It can also include prayer - a two-way street of communication between you and God.

Psalm 118:8 - It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in man. It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in princes.

Are you trusting in God and His direction for your life? First step is being OPEN to LISTEN to the voice and leading of the Lord! The second step is to be OBEDIENT to what the Lord shows you!

Discerning the voice of God is both “super personal” and involves the affirmation of Godly counsel and community.

How do we put ourselves in a position to hear the voice of God? God invites us to surrender ourselves, our priorities, our plans to His purpose.

Discerning the voice of God requires patience - and remember that God might be answering other questions than the particular one that you’re focused on at that time - God’s timing is perfect.

Discerning the voice of God is helped by removing the “noise” around you so that you can listen more closely! You might need to have some quiet time - some “wilderness” moments that you can plan to get away from the normal/noise that can help heighten our senses to hear God’s leading in our lives. Fasting can help you “focus” on the things of God by giving you a physical reminder - when your body tells you that you’re physically hungry, take time to fill your mind with the Word of God - fast from the physical to focus on the spiritual!

T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle ([email protected]) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Guests: Gabe Boyd and Michael Thornberry

Point Man: How a Man Can Lead His Family (Revised & Updated Version) by Steve Farrar

Chapter 6 Husband and Wife Teamwork in the Marriage Cockpit

Teamwork within marriage…

1. Mutual understanding of the Romo-Whitten Principle

Man as a poor understanding of authority when…

• He lacks interest in his wife’s input and disregards her feelings

A mature man…

• Loves his wife sacrificially

One way that some men keep from being mutually accountable is through intimidation.

Chapter 7 Restoring the Ancient Boundaries of Gender and Marriage

A child’s sexuality is at the very core of his identity.

In our culture, two things are being assumed…

1. Gender is not fixed; it is fluid

Genesis 1:27

1. Our maleness and femaleness is an essential part of our humanity as God has created us

Chapter 8 How to Raise Masculine Sons and Feminine Daughters

“Men are generally more careful of the breed of their horses and dogs than of their children.”  William Penn

Ephesians 6:4 - Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

How can a father embitter this children:

• By overprotection

Fathers should raise their children with tenderness:

• Listen to them and respect their feelings

Give your children the three A’s

Attention

Affection

Affirmation

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Guest: Dan Panetti

Men think it a shame to be ignorant of their trade, but no shame to be ignorant of God. Thomas Watson

Truth knowledge brings a man out of love with himself. The more he knows, the more he blushes at his own ignorance. Thomas Watson

Colossians 1:9-14

And so, from the day we heard, we have not ceased to pray for you, asking that you may be filled with the knowledge of his will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, so as to walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to him, bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God. May you be strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, for all endurance and patience with joy, giving thanks to the Father, who has QUALIFIED you to share in the inheritance of the saints in light. He has delivered us from the domain of darkness and transferred us to the kingdom of his beloved Son, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.

1 Timothy 3 - good to desire to be an overseer…

Competency and Character - which one is more important in your life?

HOW do you develop this godly character - 1 Timothy 3:8 - TRAIN…just like an athlete practices, works hard refining their craft, you have to do the same thing!!!

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Point Man Book Study (2 of 4)

Guest: Gabe Boyd and Michael Thornberry

Point Man: How a Man Can Lead His Family (Revised & Updated Version) by Steve Farrar

Chapter 3 Real Men Don’t

Real men don’t commit adultery.

“Affair” vs. “Adultery”

An affair is “an escape from reality, or a search for meaning outside the marriage.”

Usually happens in the life of a man who is either bored or frustrated with his marriage.

When you leave your wife to commit adultery with another woman, you take yourself with you. And you are your biggest problem.

1 Samuel 2:30 - “Those who honor Me, I will honor.”

The lure of adultery is that another woman will truly meet your needs.

Chapter 4 A One-Woman Kind of Man

Commitment - Cortes - “burn the ships”...no turning back…

Guys, if we are going to save our boys, then we must save our marriages.

Be careful of adopting the thinking of today - don’t I have a “right to be happy”?

1 Timothy 3:2 and Titus 1:6 - character qualifications for spiritual leaders in the church…

• Includes being a “man of one woman” - or a “one-woman kind of man”

A one-woman kind of man is a man who demonstrates his commitment by disciplining his eyes.

W.M. Taylor said, “Temptation rarely comes in working hours. It is in their leisure time that men are made or marred.”

Temptation itself is not sin but a call to battle…

Chapter 5 Anorexic Men and Their Bulimic Cousins

“We owe the Scripture the same reverence which we owe to God.”

John Calvin

Strategy #3 - To effectively sever and alienate a man from the spiritual disciplines that will keep him fit and effective for spiritual battle.

Problem 1 - men don’t know the Word

Problem 2 - men don’t know how to apply the Word to their lives…

Howard Hendricks - “In the spiritual realm, the opposite of ignorance is not knowledge, but obedience.”

How to fight spiritual anorexia and bulimia - Psalm 1

“His delight is in the law of the Lord and in His law he MEDITATES day and night.”

Spiritual Plan to Read the Bible:

1. Plan a time

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Guest: J. Josh Smith

Senior Pastor, Prince Avenue Baptist Church

Josh began his ministry as senior pastor of Prince Avenue Baptist Church on January 14, 2018. Josh was the senior pastor of MacArthur Boulevard Baptist Church in Irving, Texas for 12 years before coming to Prince. Josh received his Bachelors in Cross-Cultural Studies from Liberty University, a Masters of Divinity from Southeastern Seminary, and a Doctor of Ministry in Expository Preaching from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary. He and his wife Andrea, have four daughters and one son.

The Titus Ten: Foundations for Godly Manhood - Bible Study Book with Video Access

Josh - Go to work, work hard. Go home, work hard. Go to bed tired (from previous episode).

What does it mean that men need to have “ZEAL?”

Men - go to church, take your Bible, take a journal, take notes, be engaged - model this for others to see, especially your children!

Zeal has three parts:

1. Knowledge. Your zeal must be grounded in the Word of God - seeing the world (and ourselves) through the lens of Scripture and God’s design. Proverbs 19:2 says that zeal without knowledge is not good!

Josh - another word for zeal would just be a Biblical understanding of LOVE. When we love the Lord, we will be moved to passionate action…we simply can not sit on the sidelines and not engage in the great battle for souls!

Do you have as much zeal/passion for the things of the Lord as you do for the things of the world?

What about guys that are a little more “reserved” - I’m just not that kind of guy - Revelation 3 tells us that God hates a lack of zeal - be either hot or cold, but don’t be “lukewarm” - a person without zeal!

The temperature of a man’s heart is the temperature of his home. What you’re passionate about will affect and infect those around you!

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Guests: Gabe Boyd and Michael Thornberry

Memorial Service Celebrating the Life and Legacy of Dr. Steven James Farrar

Point Man: How a Man Can Lead His Family (Revised & Updated Version) by Steve Farrar

Chapter 1 Point Man on Patrol

It is harder to lead a family than to rule a nation. Chinese Proverb

Dr. James Dobson - “I believe, with everything within me, that husbands hold the keys to the preservation of the family.”

Dan - every member of the family important - as MEN, we are responsible for being the leaders of our homes, the best husbands/fathers that we can be

The man’s job is to cultivate his family - the spiritual lives of your wife and children should be GROWING…

• Honest assessment - is your family better off spiritually because of the work that you’re investing into them…leading, modeling, praying, studying, etc…? Are you guiding your children toward success and prosperity in terms of God’s economy?

Chapter 2 Save The Boys

The First Principle of Fathering: Being There

Error increases with distance - if you are going to save the boys, you must start by being there.

Less Time = Less Influence

The Second Principle of Fathering: Teaching Them to ACT Like Men

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Guest: Ty Olsen

The last five Psalms (146-150) all begin with this verse: “Praise the Lord!”

Worship (singing in particular) is one of the graces that God uses to bless His children. The Psalms (songs in Scripture) were used by generations past to draw closer to God.

God’s grace in our lives demands something, a response - singing is one avenue to respond and show God’s worth (worship) to the watching world.

“Singing has a natural effect of joy in the heart. But so also, it has the power of rendering the heart joyful.”

William Law, A Serious Call to a Devout and Holy Life

Singing is both an act of worship and an act of discipline.

Clarification - the “Million Man March” in Washington, DC was a gathering of African American men on October 16, 1995. Promise Keepers had a different gathering in the nation’s capital at the National Mall that was much smaller on October 4, 1997.

The natural response of seeing something beautiful is expressing it…sharing it with others. If something is really compelling your heart, you aren’t fully experiencing it unless you’re telling somebody! The way we worship and the joy we experience is an incredible testimony to a watching world of our true understanding of God’s goodness.

Matthew 26:30 - And when they had sung a hymn, they went out to the Mount of Olives.

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Guest: Bruce Curran

Tough times are a part of every journey, but you do have a choice to make of what you’ll do with the pain - will you listen and learn from it, or numb the pain in an attempt to avoid the reality of it?

Jeremiah 29:13 says, “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” Have you sought after God with all of your heart?

“Draw nigh to God and He will draw nigh to you,” is the good old King James Version of James 4:8, which is translated to “Come near to God and He will come near to you” in the New International Version.

Bruce: “I’m thankful for my cancer. It’s made me a different person, a better person; and a man madly in love with my God.”

Dan: Pain wasn’t just an indicator that something was wrong, but also as an opportunity to learn. Pain is a reminder that there is a better day coming - are you prepared for that day?

Are you in pain? Are you interested enough to stop numbing the pain and start learning from it? Will you seek the truth and not settle for anything less?

We have something similar in our lives to the TPMS on our cars - is your “check engine” light in your life going off…are you ignoring it? You ignore the pain in your life at your own peril.

Bruce: If you don’t deal with the pain in your life, you take it with you into everything that you do - your marriage, your parenting, your work, etc.

Physical pain - go see a doctor. Heart/emotional pain - go seek Godly counsel.

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Guest: Bruce Curran

Mentoring another person is a learning process - for both individuals! As you love Christ more and more, you can share that love with others - that’s the mentoring and discipleship process.

Family of origin is very important to the development of a person’s heart - how were you raised, what truths/lies were presented to you as normal, what were you taught, how were you trained - you have to dig deep into the heart issues so that you can wrestle with these ideas and move forward in life.

“Soul-care” is often ignored or overlooked, but is so important in your life - you take care of yourself physically…and now mental health wellbeing has been promoted…but what about the health and wellbeing of your soul…is that not as or ever more important?!

Love is the most powerful force in the entire universe - and Scripture says that “God is love” (1 John 4:8). If you’re willing to search for love, start with the Word of God…and ask God to reveal Himself to you - and then pay attention, look and listen for God’s communication to you about Himself and His love for you.

Happiness is generally based on your circumstances, JOY is the essence of the presence of God that is based on Him and not on you. Joy is a fruit of the Holy Spirit - and if you want the fruit of joy, you need to have yourself rooted in Christ.

Upon what are you building your home/life - on the convenience of this world or on the foundation of Jesus Christ - see the story that Jesus taught in Matthew 7 about this principle.

When the storms of life come, are you asking God what you’re supposed to learn from the trials and tribulations…or do you see yourself as a victim and look to blame others for your problems?

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