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Birth trauma and maternity care expert Dr. Jan Smith shares about the psychological impact of traumatic birth experiences.

Co-host Diana Hill shares her story of stillbirth and how she grappled with applying the processes of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to her own loss. Alexis Bachik, a professor of positive psychology, shares how hard it was to stay positive in the face of years of exhausting and devastating infertility treatments. Anne Cushman reads from her powerful memoir about love and loss in motherhood.

Diana Hill talks with Sunita Osborn, a clinical psychologist and expert in reproductive trauma about strategies to navigate the loss and unpredictability of infertility, miscarriage and stillbirth.

If you’re a frequent listener of the show, you may wonder what makes this team tick? Behind the scenes, we are a team that spans 5 time zones, two countries, 6 states, and lots of interests. Join us in a special episode celebrating our off-mic team members, 1.5 million downloads, and discussing what we are up to and what matters most to us.

Listen and Learn:

What the team is really like behind the scenes

What the team looks for in a good podcast episode

What the team is reading

The different ways co-hosts prepare for interviews

How each time member would spend their days if they knew they were the last!

Resources & Recommendations:

Yael’s recommendations: Tinker, Tailor, Soldier, Spy: A George Smiley Novel, I Feel Bad About My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being a Woman, Winnie-The-Pooh, Part of Your World: A Twisted Tale, The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less, Paradox of Choice by Barry Schwartz TEDx Talk

Katy’s book recommendations: We Were Never Here, Reese’s Book Club Picks, The Paper Palace, Be Mighty: A Women’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance, Written Exposure Therapy for PTSD: A Brief Treatment Approach for Mental Health Professionals, The Boy, the Mole, the Fox, and the Horse 

Diana’s book recommendations: Harry Potter Illustrated, Home Body, Never Good Enough, episode with Stephen Porges

Debbie’s book recommendations: “heavy” fiction book (part of Hillary Mantel’s series about Thomas Cromwell), The Mirror and the Light 

Michael’s recommendations: ACT On Your Business, Stephen King books, Terry Pratchett Discworld novels, Unwinding Anxiety, Man’s Search for Meaning.

Attend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat and her free online summit From Striving to Thriving (coming up October 15th and stream anytime after release date)

Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.

Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! 

About Our Team

Diana Hill, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist and co-author of ACT Daily Journal: Get unstuck and live fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She offers regular teachings in compassion and ACT through Insight LA , Mindful Heart Programs and her blog on Psychology Today Through her online teachings, executive coaching, clinical supervision, and private therapy practice Diana encourages clients to build psychological flexibility so that they can live more meaningful and fulfilling lives. Diana practices what she preaches in her daily life as a mom of two, homesteader, and yoga teacher. Learn more about her latest offerings here and follow her on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter to get tools to build psychological flexibility into your daily life. 

Dr. Debbie Sorensen is a clinical psychologist with a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University and a bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder. She works with adults in her private practice in Denver, Colorado, and is a part-time clinical research psychologist at the Rocky Mountain Regional VA Medical Center. She is a co-host of the Psychologists Off the Clock podcast, and has co-authored the book ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She loves living in her home state of Colorado with her husband, two daughters, and dog, and getting outdoors in the beautiful Rocky Mountains.

Dr. Yael Schonbrun is a licensed clinical psychologist who wears a number of professional hats: she a small private practice specializing in evidence-based relationship therapy, she’s an assistant professor at Brown University, and she writes for nonacademic audiences about working parenthood. She has a B.A. from Washington University in St. Louis, a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the University of Colorado, Boulder,

We haven't spent much energy discussing money on POTC, yet richness in all its forms is a dominant force in our modern well-being. Not surprisingly, richness serves many functions. At its best, wealth-growing can be incredibly rewarding and lend itself to an enriched quality of life. But there's another side to wealth. Striving for richness can hook you into an unsustainable cycle of overwork, unfulfilled desire, stagnation, and even persistent unhappiness. Shannon Hayes, Ph.D., author of Redefining Rich, is a sustainable farmer, entrepreneur, cafe owner, and the Chef and CEO of Sap Bush Hollow Farm, LLC. She has spent her career researching (and growing her own) sustainable wealth. In this episode of POTC, Shannon and Yael discuss the importance of balancing your practical and psychological desires and relationship with wealth. Listen in today to learn how to redefine rich for yourself.

Listen and Learn:

Yael and Diana dig into the research behind dimensions of psychological wealth and predictors of happiness

How the work of Alex Pang impacted Shannon’s philosophical stance

Flexible ways to approach wealth in order to foster sustainability both personally and globally

Shannon explains Money Paradox and why it’s integral in redefining richness for yourself

Yael’s expert application of ACT to getting “unhooked” from unhelpful, traditional views of wealth

The strategic balance of meeting both your practical and psychological needs that leads to a deeply enriched life

How Shannon uses napping, rest, and boundaries to enrich her quality of life and grow sustainable wealth

Practical advice for saying “no” (even when feelings of guilt show up!)

The role of diversification in defining and redefining wealth and in supporting ongoing richness throughout your life

Resources:

Buy Shannon’s book, Redefining Rich: Achieving True Wealth with Small Business, Side Hustles, and Smart Living!

Listen, rate, review, and subscribe to Shannon’s podcast, The Heart of Sap Bush Hollow.

Check out Shannon’s weekly essays on her blog, and support her research by visiting her Patreon.

Read the research behind becoming Psychologically Rich.

Antifragile, by Nassim Nicholas Taleb

Rest, by Alex Pang

The Power of a Positive No, by William Ury

Attend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat and her free online summit (coming up October 15th) where you’ll learn how to go from striving to thriving! 

Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.

Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! 

About Shannon Hayes:

Shannon Hayes is a sustainable farmer, entrepreneur, cafe owner, and the Chef and CEO of Sap Bush Hollow Farm, LLC. She holds a Ph.D. in sustainable agriculture and community development from Cornell University and a bachelor’s in creative writing from Binghamton University. Shannon is the host of The Heart of Sap Bush Hollow podcast and the author of several books. Her work is frequently used in college classrooms and has been featured on national television as well as in the New York Times, New York Times Magazine, Brain, Child magazine, U.S. News and World Report, the Atlantic, National Public Radio, Grit magazine, YES! magazine, Elle magazine, JUNO magazine, and many national newspapers across the globe. Shannon also speaks nationally, teaching about sustainable business and inspiring rural and urban families alike to live creative lives in harmony with community and planet. Learn more about Shannon by visiting her website, http://theradicalhomemaker.net, and make sure to buy her latest book, Redefining Rich! 

Related Episodes:

Episode 45. Rest with Alex Pang

Episode 130. Working Less with Alex Pang

Episode 182. Do More With Less: How to Stretch in Work and Life with Scott Sonenshein 

Episode 196.

Anger and irritability are running high, and we're here to help! Learn strategies for managing anger, and listen to Dr. Russell Kolts talk about compassion and anger.

Behavioral Scientist Katy Milkman provides evidence backed strategies for initiating and maintaining behavioral change.

Worried your kid is an asshole? Or that he or she is well on the road to becoming an asshole? You're not alone.

Bad behavior (read: assholery) is no fun to be around, let alone to parent around. In this episode of POTC, Yael and Melinda Wenner Moyer, author of How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes, discuss what kinds of behavior to be concerned about, the risk factors for assholery, and evidence-based practices for intervening with asshole behavior. Listen in to this episode for practical advice on identifying the function of asshole behavior, instilling theory of mind, setting the stage for empathy, responding to sibling rivalry, and much more!

Listen and Learn:

Yael and Jill’s personal experiences and struggles raising kids in a world of too much parenting advice

The conflicting responses to Melinda’s book’s title

A science-based explanation of why kids act like assholes 

Melinda’s personal experience managing parenting and work (and practical advice on how you can too)

Expert-approved recommendations for teaching kids to take responsibility for their behavior

Practical advice for teaching kids to consider others’ perspectives and how their own behavior impacts others

Melinda explains growth mindset, fixed mindset, how the two differ, and why they’re important for your child’s development

Practical advice for utilizing rewards without fostering assholery

What the science says is an effective approach to curbing sibling fights

How to approach kid screen time with younger kids and teens

How to know when assholery is code for needing additional support from a parent or an expert (like a psychologist)

And much, much more!

Resources:

Melinda’s book, How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes: Science-Based Strategies for Better Parenting--From Tots to Teens!

Check out Anders Ericcson’s and Robert Pool’s Peak: Secrets from the New Science of Expertise 

Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.

Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! 

About Melinda Wenner Moyer:

Melinda Wenner Moyer has a master’s in Science, Health & Environmental Reporting from NYU and a background in cell and molecular biology. She is a contributing editor at Scientific Americanmagazine and a regular contributor to The New York Times, Washington Post, and other national magazines and newspapers. She is a faculty member in the Science, Health & Environmental Reporting program at NYU’s Arthur L. Carter Journalism Institute. Melinda was the recipient of the 2019 Bricker Award for Science Writing in Medicine, and her work was featured in the 2020 Best American Science and Nature Writing anthology. Buy Melinda’s most recent book, How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes: Science-Based Strategies for Better Parenting--From Tots to Teens! Keep up-to-date with Melinda’s work by subscribing to her newsletter, here!

Related Episodes:

Episode 58. Balancing the Big Stuff with Miriam Liss and Holly Schiffrin   

Episode 83. The Tao of Work and Family Balance with Tod Perry and Carl Totton

Episode 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Susan Pollak

Episode 123. Tantrum Survival Guide with Rebecca Schrag Hershberg

Episode 149. How Not to Lose it With Your Kids with Carla Naumberg

Episode 166. How to Manage Multiple Life Roles Skillfully with Sarah Argenal

Episode 187. Raising a Child with ADHD, with Russell Barkley 

Episode 200. Growing Grit with Angela Duckworth

Parenting and education experts, Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, discuss how to talk with kids about anxiety, stress, motivation and technology.

OCD and Anxiety experts Dr. Lisa Coyne and Dr. Ben Sedley talk about ideas from their book, Stuff That's Loud: A Teen's Guide to Unspiraling When OCD Gets Noisy!