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Performance pressure is pushing down on us and Queen was right - that pressure is terrifying! In this Psychologists Off the Clock podcast episode, Yael speaks with Dr. Sian Beilock, an expert on performance and brain science, and author of Choke: What the Secrets of the Brain Reveal About Getting it Right When You Have to. Listen in to hear Sian's insights and about her research into how our experiences, neurology, emotions, and thoughts interact to both foster and stump our ability to perform under pressure. You'll learn about how mind-body communication leads to sub-optimal performance. And you'll gain knowledge and strategies to make high pressure situations work to your advantage! Performing under pressure is a skill, like any other, Sian tells us. Tune in to learn how to build it.

Listen and Learn:

Why Sian started studying choking in the first place (hint: it was a bit of 'me-search')

Sian’s definition of choking

What types of situations and personal characteristics lend themselves to choking

What’s going on physiologically and neurologically when you're choking under pressure

Strategies, tips, and tricks from Sian for dealing with choking

About embodied cognition, rest, and relaxation

How perfectionism and role switching might be involved in choking

Why self-compassion is so important when you’re performing under pressure

How prejudice, stereotypes, diversity, and evaluative apprehension impact the likelihood of choking

Performing Under Pressure Resources Mentioned:

Sian’s book - Choke: What the Secrets of the Brain Reveal About Getting it Right When You Have to

Sian’s book - How the Body Knows Its Mind: The Surprising Power of the Physical Environment to Influence How You Think and Feel

Alex Pang’s book, Rest: Why You Get More Done When You Work Less

Jessica Lahey’s book, The Gift of Failure

Carol Dweck’s book, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success

Deborah Spar’s book, Wonder Women: Sex, Power, and the Quest for Perfection

About Choke Expert Dr. Sian Beilock:

A cognitive scientist by training, Dr. Sian Beilock earned her Bachelor of Science in cognitive science from the University of California, San Diego, and doctorates of philosophy in both kinesiology and psychology from Michigan State University. Sian has served as the eighth President of Barnard College at Columbia University since 2017. Her work as a cognitive scientist revolves around performance anxiety and reveals simple psychological strategies that can be used to ensure success in everything from test taking and public speaking to athletics and job interviews.

Sian is one of the world’s leading experts on the brain science behind performing under pressure and the brain and body factors influencing all types of choking (from test-taking to public speaking to your golf swing). She has authored two critically acclaimed books published in more than a dozen languages - Choke: What the Secrets of the Brain Reveal About Getting it Right When You Have to and How the Body Knows Its Mind: The Surprising Power of the Physical Environment to Influence How You Think and Feel, as well as over 100 peer-reviewed publications. Her 2017 TED talk on why we choke under pressure has been viewed over 2 million times. You can find out more about Dr. Beilock here.

Related Episodes from The Psychologists Off the Clock Podcast:

Episode 34. Strengths, Goal Setting, and Grit with Dr. Alexis Karris Bachik

Episode 45. Rest with Dr. Alex Soojung-Kim Pang

Episode 75: Mindful Self-Compassion with Christopher Germer

Episode 88. Perfectionism with Sharon Martin

Episode 161. The Gift of Failure with Jessica Lahey

Episode 166. How to Manage Multiple Life Roles Skillfully with Sarah Argenal

Compassion is not a passive process, but an active one. It means being aware that someone (including you) is suffering and moving toward that suffering so that you can offer help. Compassion takes courage, wisdom, and strength. And, we can build more compassionate minds with practice. In this episode, Diana talks with Dennis Tirch and Laura Silberstein-Tirch about Compassion Focused Therapy, how they apply the principles of compassion to their family and in their work as founders and director of the Center for Compassion Focused Therapy. Listen in to hear heartfelt insights for a more compassionate future.

Listen and Learn:

Why it’s so hard to be compassionate when we feel threatened

Why we have an inner critic and how to respond when it shoes it

The core qualities to develop to build a more compassionate mind

How compassion is different from kindness

How we can respond to a long, dark winter with compassion

How we can heal divides with compassion

What yoga and compassion focused therapy have in common

Suggestions to build a more compassionate future together

Resources:

The ACT Practitioners Guide to the Science of Compassion by Dennis Tirch, Benji Schoendorff, and Laura Tirch

How to be Nice to Yourself by Laura Silberstein-Tirch

Stephan Porges on the Polyvagal Theory

The Compassionate Mind Foundation

About Laura Silberstein-Tirch

Dr. Laura Silberstein-Tirch

Laura R. Silberstein-Tirch, PsyD, is the Director of the Center for Compassion Focused Therapy., and serves as an Adjunct Assistant Professor at Albert Einstein College of Medicine of Yeshiva University. Dr. Silberstein-Tirch is a clinical supervisor and compassion-focused therapy (CFT) trainer who presents internationally on mindfulness and compassion and is an author of 3 books, including “How to Be Nice To Yourself." She is a founder and Past-President of the New York City chapter of the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science and the Compassionate Mind Foundation USA. Her research interests include psychological flexibility and emotions as well as CFT for anxiety and depression.

About Dennis Tirch

Dr. Dennis Tirch

Dennis Tirch, Ph.D. is the Founder of The Center for Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) in NYC, Past-President of The Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS), President of The Compassionate Mind Foundation, North America and an Associate Clinical Professor at The Icahn School of Medicine at Mt. Sinai, NYC. He is an internationally acknowledged expert psychotherapist, supervisor and trainer in CFT, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Buddhist Psychology (BP). Dr. Tirch is an author of 7 books, numerous book chapters and peer-reviewed articles on mindfulness-based psychotherapies. Dr. Tirch regularly trains CFT and ACT globally, through workshops and courses in-person and online. His work has been covered by The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post and NPR among other media outlets. Through regular Twitter and other social media posts, Dr. Tirch shares compassion focused insights with tens of thousands of people each day. Dr. Tirch is an Ambassador for the Ram Dass Fellowship, and an advocate for yoga, sobriety, and vegetarian/vegan living. Dr. Tirch is a Zen dharma holder, lay teacher of Sharma.

50. Compassion Focused Therapy with Dr. Russel Kolts

145. Caring, Compassion, and Cooperation with Paul Gilbert

90. Dr. Paul Gilbert on Tricky Brains, Caring, and Living like Crazy

147. Extending Compassion with Dr. Janina Scarlet and Sara Shairer 

46. Altruism and the Flow of Compassion with Dr. Yotam Heinberg

131. COVID-19 Anxiety, Cultivating Safeness, and Polyvagal Theory with Dr. Stephen Porges

Microaggressions. These small, often unintentional acts of racism are probably affecting you more than you know! In this week’s podcast episode, Dr. Monnica Williams, author of Managing Microaggressions: Addressing Everyday Racism in Therapeutic Spaces and co-author of Eliminating Race-Based Mental Health Disparities: Promoting Equity and Culturally Responsive Care across Settings, and our co-host Debbie discuss microaggressions in therapy spaces, race-based mental health disparities, and racial trauma. Join us for an informative episode, where we can grow and learn together!

"Good people can and do commit acts of racism."

Dr. Monnica Williams

 

Listen and Learn:

 

What microaggressions are and why they’re so pervasive

The different categories of microaggressions 

How microaggressions have affected Debbie and Dr. Williams personally 

How self-identity impacts the occurrence and aftermath of microaggressions

How subtle, covert microaggressions impact race-based Mental Health treatment disparity

The psychological impact of microaggressions and racial trauma

Dr. Monnica Williams’s recommendations for the mistakes therapists make in therapy

Dr. Monnica-approved methods for pointing out, apologizing for, and validating the experience of microaggressions if you commit one (as we all do sometimes!) 

 

Resources Mentioned on the Podcast:

 

Link to our sponsorship page

Follow Dr. Monnica on Twitter: @DrMonnica 

Visit Dr. Monnica’s website: http://www.monnicawilliams.com 

Dr. Monnica’s blog on psychology today: Culturally Speaking

Dr. Monnica’s book: Eliminating Race-Based Mental Health Disparities: Promoting Equity and Culturally Responsive Care across Settings 

Dr. Monnica’s book: Managing Microaggressions: Addressing Everyday Racism in Therapeutic Spaces

 

About Monnica Williams:

 

 

Dr. Monnica Williams is a board-certified, licensed clinical psychologist, specializing in cognitive-behavioral therapies. She is an Associate Professor in the School of Psychology at the University of Ottawa, Canada Research Chair in Mental Health Disparities, and Director of the Laboratory for Culture and Mental Health Disparities. She is also the Clinical Director of the Behavioral Wellness Clinic, LLC in Tolland, Connecticut, and she has founded clinics in Kentucky, Virginia, and Pennsylvania. Dr. Williams completed her undergraduate studies at MIT and UCLA. She received her doctoral degree in clinical psychology from the University of Virginia. She was an assistant professor at the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine in the Department of Psychiatry for four years, where she worked with Dr. Edna Foa who is a world renowned expert on OCD and PTSD. She was also a director of the Center for Mental Health Disparities at the University of Louisville. 

 

Dr. Williams has published over 100 peer reviewed articles, books, chapters, and scientific reports with a focus on anxiety related conditions and cultural considerations. She was named one of the top 25 thought leaders in PTSD by PTSD Journal, and she frequently contributes to the public scientific discourse as a media expert. She is frequently featured on PBS, NPR, and the New York times, and she has a fantastic blog on psychology today called Culturally Speaking. Along with Daniel Rosen and Johnathan Kanter, Dr. Monnica co-authored the book Eliminating Race-Based Mental Health Disparities: Promoting Equity and Culturally Responsive Care across Settings. In this episode, we discussed her most recent book, Managing Microaggressions: Addressing Everyday Racism in Therapeutic Spaces. You can learn more about all of Dr. Williams’ work here.

 

Related Psychologists Off the Clock Podcast Episodes:

 

Episode 162. APA Guidelines on Race and Ethnicity in Psychology with Dr. Karen Suyemoto

Episode 156. The Psychology of Radical Healing Collective

Episode 150. Immigrant and Refugee Mental Health with Dr.

A great wizard once said, “Words are, in my not-so-humble opinion, our most inexhaustible source of magic. Capable of both inflicting injury, and remedying it." Humans are social animals who thrive on effective communication. However, each of us has a different communication style, and sometimes, differences in those communication styles inflict injury. In today’s world, where communication looks very different than it used to, understanding differences in communication styles and learning to remedy word-inflicted wounds is of utmost importance. In this timely episode, Dr. Deborah Tannen talks with Jill about how communication styles affect our everyday relationships. Join us to learn more on the ‘best’ way to talk in different contexts, gender differences in communication styles, saying what you mean, meaning what you say, and much more!

Listen and Learn:

Dr. Tannen’s definition of conversational style

Why communication style is important in various domains including intimate relationships, workplace relations, and difficult conversations 

Saying what you mean and meaning what you say

Jill and Dr. Tannen’s account of gender differences in communication styles

Dr. Tannen’s wisdom on the ‘best way to talk’

What a double bind is and how it affects women 

Questions and phrases you can use to improve your communication style right now

How different communication platforms change the intent of your words

Resources

Link to our sponsorship page

Gary Chapman’s five love languages

Visit Yael’s website to find out more on her work with couples 

Dr. Tannen’s memoir and where you can purchase it

Information on Dr. Arlie Hochschild 

Dr. Tannen’s books, That's Not What I Meant! and Talking from 9 to 5

Alicia Menendez’s book, The Likeability Trap 

Dr. Tannen’s training video on women’s language in the workplace 

The New York Times’ article, It's Not Just You: In Online Meetings, Many Women Can't Get a Word In 

About Dr. Deborah Tannen

Dr. Tannen is a University Professor and Professor Linguistics at Georgetown University and author of many books and articles about how the language of everyday conversation affects relationships. She is best known as the author of You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation, a book that has brought gender differences in communication style to the forefront of public awareness as a New York Times best seller. Her collected works include eight books for general audiences as well as sixteen books and over one hundred articles for scholarly audiences. 

Dr. Tannen is one of only six in Georgetown University’s College of Arts and Sciences who hold the distinguished rank of University Professor. She has been McGraw Distinguished Lecturer at Princeton University and spent a term in residence at the Institute for Advanced Study in Princeton, New Jersey. She has twice been a fellow at the Center for Advanced Study in the Behavioral Sciences at Stanford in Palo Alto, California. The recipient of five honorary doctorates, she is a member of the PEN/Faulkner Foundation Board of Directors. Read her recent essays in The New York Times and The Forward or view a full list of her articles for general audiences here. To learn more about what Dr. Tannen is up to, visit her website at deborahtannen.com.

Related episodes

Episode 163: The Likeability Trap with Alicia Menendez

Episode 165: How We Talk and Why It Matters with Katherine Kinzler

Episode 62: Language, Suffering, and Meaning with Dr. Matthieu Villatte

Episode 104: You’re Doing it Wrong with Professors Bethany Johnson and Margaret Quinlan

Episode 121: Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill Stoddard

Episode 28: Maintaining And Healing Romantic Bonds With Relationship Expert Dr. Yael Schonbrun    

Episode 72: Committed Action with Dr. DJ Moran

We all have unhelpful habits, and whether you overeat, use substances, or worry, you may have noticed these habits have gotten worse lately. In this episode, Diana joins Dr. Judson Brewer (Dr. Jud), neuroscientist and author of The Craving Mind: From Cigarettes to Smartphones to Love - Why We Get Hooked and How We Can Break Bad Habits, for a fascinating conversation about why stress makes our habits and addictions worse. Additionally, they talk about what’s happening in your brain when you’re caught in these habits, and how to unhook from even the trickiest ones using mindfulness and curiosity.

Listen and Learn:

Diana’s and Debbie’s pandemic habits

How Diana’s shifting unhelpful habits to values-based ones (get her free download here!)

The three core elements of a habit

What’s happening in your brain when you are craving

Why uncertainty and stress makes it harder to break unhealthy habits

How anxiety and rumination are similar to smoking and eating 

Dr. Jud’s groundbreaking brain research on mindfulness and the Default Mode Network

How curiosity changes your brain and why it is key to unhooking from habit loops

Why it doesn’t work to “think your way out of a craving” or “think your way out of anxiety”

Mindfulness tools you can use right now with yourself and your kids to get grounded

Why swapping choosing kindness and generosity over self-righteous rumination is “so much sweeter”

The personal values that underlie Dr. Jud’s work

Resources

Five Finger Breathing with Dr. Jud Brewer

Watch Dr. Jud study Anderson Cooper’s brain in an fMRI

The Craving Mind: From Cigarettes to Smartphones to Love - Why We Get Hooked and How we can Break Bad Habits, by Dr. Judson Brewer

Dr. Jud’s Ted Talk: A Simple Way To Break a Bad Habit

Dr. Jud’s App-based behavior change programs: Unwinding Anxiety®, Eat Right Now®, and To Quit®.  Get 20% off with coupon code OFFTHECLOCK

Change unhealthy habits into values-rich ones with this handout

Dr. Yotam Heinberg on “growing roots” practice

Listen to Diana’s interviews with Paul Gilbert here and here to learn more about threat, drive, and compassion systems in the brain

Dr. Jud Brewer

About Dr. Judson Brewer

Dr. Judson Brewer is the Director of Research and Innovation at the Mindfulness Center and associate professor in psychiatry at the School of Medicine at Brown University, as well as a research affiliate at MIT. Before that, he held research and teaching positions at Yale University and the University of Massachusetts’ Center for Mindfulness. Read more about his research here.

As an addiction psychiatrist and internationally known expert in mindfulness training for treating addictions, Dr. Jud has developed and tested novel mindfulness programs for habit change, including both in-person and app-based treatments for smoking, emotional eating, and anxiety (Eat Right Now, Unwinding Anxiety and Craving to Quit).

Based on the success of these programs in the lab, he co-founded MindSciences, Inc. to create app-based digital therapeutic versions of these programs for a wider audience, working with individuals, corporations, and hospital systems to put effective, evidence-based behavior change guidance in the hands of people struggling with unwanted behaviors and “everyday addictions.”

72. Committed Action with Dr. DJ Moran

103. Healthy Habits with Dr. Dayna Lee-Baggley

4. Habits: The Science of Behavior Change

90. Dr. Paul Gilbert on Tricky Brains, Caring, and Living Like Crazy

145. Caring, Compassion, and Cooperation with Dr. Paul Gilbert

46. Altruism And The Flow Of Compassion With Dr. Yotam Heineberg

Dr. Seuss told us, “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose.” But what do you do when you’re in charge of many brains in many heads? What happens when you’re in charge of steering many feet (some of which have tiny shoes) traveling in many different directions? Is there any room left to choose? 

In this week’s episode, Sarah Argenal, author of The Whole SELF Lifestyle for Working Parents: A Practical 4-Step Framework to Defeat Burnout and Escape Survival Mode for Good, discusses her framework to escape survival mode, find balance, and defeat burnout. She explains that we often find ourselves working from problem-solving mode, moving from problem to problem and finding the quickest solution for each. As we get caught up in solving problem after problem, we experience burnout and find ourselves trapped in survival mode. Unless we get more strategic in how we approach our many life roles, life can become small and lose its vitality. Sarah provides a strategic framework for working from the inside-out so that we can allow our many purposes to better serve us, and to bring back a vitality that guide us in each of our many life roles. 

Listen and Learn:

How survival mode might be affecting you right now

Four steps you can take toward creating a more vital life

Tips and tricks for escaping survival mode

Strategies for including more self-care into your routines

Methods for discovering what areas of your life are most important to you (and which are less important)

What gets in the way of working from the inside-out, and how you can approach this work (even if you are too busy and tired!)

How to make your purposes better serve you (instead of you serving them!)

How to defeat burnout, find balance, and escape survival mode

About Sarah Argenal:

Sarah Argenal attained her masters in counseling psychology with an emphasis in marriage and family therapy and adult development from the University of San Francisco. She is the founder of the The Argenal Institute LLC based in Austin, TX, host and executive producer of Working Parent Resource Podcast, and author of the book The Whole Self Lifestyle for Working Parents: A Practical 4-Step Framework to Defeat Burnout and Escape Survival Mode For Good. Sarah uses twenty years of experience and her signature program, the Whole SELF Lifestyle™, to help working parents escape survival mode and enjoy their lives.

Resources:

The Whole SELF Lifestyle for Working Parents: A Practical 4-Step Framework to Defeat Burnout and Escape Survival Mode for Good, by Sarah Argenal

For more from Sarah’s work, check out the resources at The Argenal Institute.

Yael’s essay on working parenthood in the Wall Street Journal.

24. Choosing Both: Straddling Meaningful Career and Parenthood with Dr. Yael Schonbrun

45. Rest with Dr. Alex Soojung-Kim Pang

58. Balancing the Big Stuff with Drs. Miriam Liss and Holly Schiffrin

73. Essentialism with Greg McKeown

83. Tao of Work and Family Balance

134. What to do When Work, Parenting, and Partnership Collide During Quarantine

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How you talk informs who you are, who you group up with, and how you perceive others. But while language is a profoundly powerful influencer of how we engage in the social world, we seldom acknowledge its impact on social injustice. In this episode, Yael talks with professor and psychologist Katherine Kinzler about the role of language and accent in prejudice, empathy, identity, morality, and ingroup/outgroup formation. In Katherine’s book, How You Say It: Why You Talk the Way You Do-And What It Says About You, she describes how language and accent are an often overlooked contributor in cultural affiliation and discrimination. Katherine offers evidence for their critical role in perpetuating injustice, and shows us why increasing awareness of linguistic biases can empower us to pave the way towards a more just and compassionate future.

Listen and Learn:

The surprising ways that language influences who we are and our cultural affiliation

The power of language in perpetuating prejudice and stereotyping

How media and film perpetuate stigma related to language and accent

Why the evolution of language can predispose humans towards prejudice

How recent events demonstrate the overlooked role of linguistic discrimination

That language is not just about communication, but rather is about social life

Why common myths about monolingualism are wrong

How we can use language as a tool to increase compassion and empathy, and reduce prejudice

About Katherine Kinzler

Dr. Katherine Kinzler is a psychology professor at the University of Chicago. Her research sits at the intersection of developmental and social psychology where she focuses on the origins of prejudice and ingroup outgroup thinking with an emphasis on understanding how language and accent mark social groups. Katherine’s writing has appeared in the New York times and other media outlets and the world economic forum named her as one of the 50 scientists under 40 working to shape our future.

Resources:

How You Say It: Why You Talk the Way You Do-And What It Says About You, by Katherine Kinzler

NPR Interview with Katherine Kinzler

NYT Book Review on How You Say It

Katherine’s University of Chicago webpage

Other Resources:

Article showcasing the work of Dr. Deborah Tannen

Link to Duolingo, a fun, game-based app that helps adults and children learn new languages

Psychologists Off the Clock

163. The Likeability Trap with Alicia Menendez

62. Language, Suffering, and Meaning with Dr. Matthieu Villatte

If you are experiencing Pandemic Stress, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) can help! This is a stressful time for most of us; the mental health aftermath of a pandemic is sometimes called a "second pandemic" because of the rise of depression, anxiety, and PTSD. And in addition to fear of the coronavirus itself, we are currently facing other major, global stressors like climate change, forest fires, systemic racism, economic uncertainty, and political divisiveness. No wonder so many of us are exhausted!

In this podcast episode, co-hosts Diana Hill and Debbie Sorensen discuss Pandemic Stress and give examples of how they use ACT practices themselves, as they experience emotional ups and downs. Whether you are anxious, depressed, lonely, or irritable, Diana and Debbie have some strategies from ACT that might help you be more flexible and accepting in the face of the pandemic. As Diana says in the episode, "it's almost like ACT was made for Pandemic Stress!"

Listen and Learn About

Pandemic Stress and the "second pandemic" of mental health concerns.

Diana and Debbie's own experiences with Pandemic Stress.

The difference between threat, fear, and anxiety.

How Psychological Flexibility and ACT offer the key to navigating pandemic stress.

Why practicing acceptance is more helpful than experiential avoidance.

Shifting your perspective when "doom and gloom" thoughts arise.

Letting go of unrealistic personal expectations, and finding a healthy routine that supports your wellbeing.

Loneliness, moral distress, and loss during COVID.

How we can reconnect to our values, do the next right thing, and have a sense of common humanity.

Building social connection and effectively working from home.

Resources

Diana’s 6 ACT Strategies for Transforming Anxiety & Increasing Psychological Flexibility

Debbie’s Pandemic Stress Blog Posts

If you need a good cry, here’s a link to the song The Next Right Thing from Frozen 2

Diana's friend Gwendolyn's beautiful song and you can sign up for Gwendolyn's community singing newsletter

Pandemic Stress Articles

"How I used ACT to cope with COVID"

Article on Pandemic-Related Distress

Uncertainty and Psychological Flexibility

Family systems and Psychological Flexibility

The Moderating Roles of Psychological Flexibility and Inflexibility on the Mental Health Impacts of COVID-19 Pandemic and Lockdown in Italy

Responding to Moral Dilemmas in the age of COVID

Older Adults and Social Connection while Social Distancing

4. Habits: The Science of Behavior Change (Part 1)

5. From Awareness to Action: Behavior Change (Part 2)

7. Insomnia: Strategies to Stop Struggling with Sleep with Dr. Alisha Brosse

37. Post-Traumatic Growth

42. Strategies to Increase Focus and Work More Effectively

43. Willpower With Dr. Kelly McGonigal

44. Anxiety Happens with Dr. John Forsyth

52. Palliative Care and Healing with Dr. Michael Kearney

59. Zzzzzz…The Science of Sleep

62. Language, Suffering, and Meaning with Dr. Matthieu Villatte

77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Dr. Jill Stoddard (now our fabulous co-hosts!)

116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Dr. Jenna LeJeune

117. Bearing Unbearable Loss: A conversation About Grief with Dr. Joanne Cacciatore

118. Moral Injury and Shame with Dr. Lauren Borges and Dr. Jacob Farnsworth

124. Nutritious Movement and Why it Matters with Katy Bowman

131. COVID-19 Anxiety, Cultivating Safeness, and Polyvagal Theory with Dr. Stephen Porges

132. The Joy Of Movement With Dr. Kelly McGonigal 

133. Mental Health in the Age of COVID-19 with Dr. Robyn Walser

134. What to do When Work, Parenting, and Partnership Collide During Quarantine

138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Dr. Robyn Walser

146. Parental Burnout with Lisa Coyne

149. How Not Lose It with Your Kids with Dr. Carla Naumburg

152.

Women are told to be nice, but not too nice. Be successful, but not too successful. Just be likeable.

Join Jill for her interview with award-winning journalist and author of the book The Likeability Trap, Alicia Menendez, as they examine the impossible bind women find themselves in: to succeed, women must be competent and likeable; but the more women are seen as competent, and the more they achieve, the less likeable they become. Alicia discusses how women can let go of old rules and reimagine leadership rather than reinventing themselves.

Listen and Learn

What likeability traps are

What the "Goldilocks Conundrum" is

The problem with focusing on women as the solution

The need for systemic change

Ideas for where to start moving the conversation forward

How to think about ambition during a pandemic and how to juggle the challenges of today’s difficult times

About Alicia Menendez

Alicia Menendez

Alicia Menendez is an MSNBC anchor and host of the Latina to Latina podcast. Dubbed “Ms. Millennial” by The Washington Post, “journalism’s new gladiator” by Elle, and a “content queen” by Marie Claire, her interviews and reporting have appeared on ABC News, Bustle, FusionTV, PBS and Vice News. Her first book, “The Likeability Trap” was published in November 2019. She lives in New Jersey with her husband and two daughters.

Resources

Visit Alicia's webpage

Buy the book The Likeability Trap: How to Break Free and Succeed As You Are

49. Empowering Women with Dr. Robyn Walser

121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill Stoddard

In this episode, Diana interviews Dr. Karen Suyemoto, the chair of the APA Guidelines on Race and Ethnicity in Psychology. Race and culture are present in all of our interactions. As mental health professionals, it is our ethical responsibility to understand the ways in which race and ethnicity impact us personally, our interactions with clients, and the communities we serve. Everyone is also caught in the system of racism and oppression. It is our responsibility as mental health providers to strive towards understanding the complexities of this system and how we can contribute to systemic change.

Listen and Learn

How do race and ethnicity interact, and how are they defined

Why understanding the influences of race and ethnicity is so central to psychology

The role personal inquiry plays in the guidelines

Why practicing cultural humility and understanding positionality is important in the work of a psychologist

How racism and privilege has impacted the field of psychology

How the therapy room can be a reenactment of racial trauma

What it means to be an activist in psychology

How we can carry out a deep commitment to change

How to hold both race and the individual authentic relationship in our inter-racial interactions

About Karen Suyemoto 

Karen Suyemoto has a joint appointment with the Psychology Department and the Asian American Studies Program and Critical Ethnic and Community Studies graduate program at the University of Massachusetts, Boston. Their research interests focus generally on Asian American psychology and issues related to social justice and anti-racist therapy/ practice/education. Their research addresses fostering awareness and advocacy for social justice through examining relations of race and racism to mental health; investigating effects of resistance and coping with racism, and exploring the complexity of relative and ascribed power and intersectional discrimination. Additional research addresses how cultural responsiveness and racial social justice can be developed through and integrated into education, training, research methods, and practice. Their current research projects include a quantitative study examining the effects of racism for people of color and how taking action to challenge racism may moderate negative psychological effects and a two-book project focused on transformative teaming and learning about oppression and privilege (with Grace Kim and Roxanne Donovan).   Professor Suyemoto was the Chair of the recently released Guidelines for Race and Ethnicity for the American Psychological Association. They served as the past president of the Asian American Psychological Association and as the AAPA delegate to the American Psychological Association Council of Representatives. In 2013, they were recognized as a White House Champion of Change: Asian American Pacific Islander Woman Leader and also awarded the Asian American Psychological Association’s Distinguished Contributions Award.

Resources:

APA Guidelines on Race and Ethnicity in Psychology

Dr. Suyemoto's Web site

150. Immigrant and Refugee Mental Health with Dr. Sandra Mattar

156. The Psychology of Radical Healing Collective

144. Healing Racial Trauma with Dr. Kristee Haggins (Re-Release from June 2019)

96. Effective Conversations About Diversity Issues with Drs. Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado