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You say you don’t know what you want, but what if that’s not true? 

In this episode we’re talking about why so many women feel stuck in indecision and why “I don’t know” is often just fear in disguise. 

Indecision feels safe and clarity means change, being seen, possibly outgrowing people and choosing. 

We explore: 

• Why confusion is often a mask for fear.
• What happens in your brain when a decision feels dangerous.
• How the amygdala overrides logic and keeps you circling.
• Why your nervous system prefers familiarity (even when it’s wrong for you).
• The difference between intuition and avoidance.
• The fawn response and people-pleasing as survival strategies.
• Why waiting for a “sign” is often just delaying courage.

If you’ve been stuck in “I don’t know,” this episode will help you name what’s really underneath it.

Time Stamps: 

• 00:00 Why “I Don’t Know What I Want” Is Usually Not True.
• 00:58 Confusion as a Safe Mask: The Fear Beneath Indecision.
• 01:33 Waiting for a “Signy Sign”: How Your Brain Avoids Risk.
• 02:12 The Neuroscience of Going in Circles (Amygdala vs. Prefrontal Cortex).
• 03:14 What Are You Really Afraid Of? Being Too Much, Outgrowing People, Being Wrong.
• 03:54 Clarity Comes After Action: The Dartboard Mindset + Real Client Breakthrough.
• 05:30 Name the Truth Out Loud: Normalise Fear and Take the Next Step.
• 06:42 Homeostatic Resistance: Why the Familiar Feels Safer Than Better.
• 07:33 Fawn/Freeze Response: When “Confusion” Is a Trauma Pattern.
• 08:55 Try This Practice. 
• 09:55 Wrap-Up, Key Takeaways and Resources to Move Forward.

📥 Resources & Next Steps
 
🎧 Reignmaker Hypnosis Audio Collection

Three guided audios designed to help you:
• Release self-doubt
• Build embodied confidence
• Rewire old patterns and money stories.

This is where subconscious safety meets action.

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💬 Share what came up for you, we genuinely love hearing your reflections!

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Thanks for listening!

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This week we’re bringing this conversation back because it speaks directly to what so many women are moving through right now - the moment you realise you’ve been living as a version of you that feels safe but not true.

In this updated Season 3 episode, we’re joined by Jennifer Liss  - breathwork coach and host of F**k Around and Get Paid to talk about the masks women wear to be liked, the guilt that keeps us performing and what it really looks like to untether from an identity that no longer fits.

We explore why women become chameleons in different rooms, how to reconnect with what you actually want and the simplest ways to come back to yourself  through awareness, breath, nervous system support and joy.

What We Cover

• Leaving a “successful” life that no longer fits (and why it takes courage to start again).
• Why women become chameleons: different versions of self at work, in relationships, in rooms.
• The moment you realise you’ve been playing characters your whole life.
• Why clarity can’t come from the outside it has to come from you.
• Untethering from the “safe self” to meet the real self underneath.
• Joy as a strategy (not a bonus): why fun is transformational.
• How breathwork helps you access your real self under the layers.
• A simple, practical breath pattern.
• The truth about responsibility: guilt-based responsibility vs empowered responsibility.
• What to do when guilt shows up as you choose yourself (parts work & nervous system support).

Time Stamps: 

• 00:00 Welcome & Meet Jennifer Liss: Unmasking & the Question ‘What Do I Actually Want?’.
• 00:45 Burned Out Behind the Chair: Quitting a Successful Hair Business.
• 01:32 Starting Over: Back to School, $20/hr Internship and a New Career Path.
• 02:42 Why People Hide at Work: The ‘Rockstar’ Self vs the Corporate Mask.
• 04:31 Step One to Finding Yourself Again: Noticing the Characters You Play.
• 06:28 ‘I Don’t Know Who I Am’: Guilt, Shame and the Identity Wake-Up Call.
• 08:34 Untethering to the Soul Level: Getting Quiet to Discover What You Want.
• 10:04 Jen vs Jennifer: Choosing an Identity and the Energy You Show Up In.
• 12:14 No Shame in the Mask Game, until It’s Used to Shrink and Hide.
• 15:26 Responsible vs Sovereign: How Guilt (and Catholic Conditioning) Shapes Us.
• 18:14 Joy Isn’t a Bonus, it’s the Strategy: Pleasure as a Compass.
• 20:57 The Guilt Voice in Real Life: Choosing Joy (Spa Day Example) & Somatic Work Begins.
• 23:55 Radical Self-Acceptance: Talking to Your Inner Critic (Parts Work).
• 25:29 Imposter Syndrome & the ‘Other Shoe’ Fear When Joy Shows Up.
• 27:17 Growing Your Edges: Guilt Triggers, Expansion and Being Human.
• 31:30 From Corporate to Podcast Confidence: Humanising Interviews.
• 33:56 Breathwork Breakthrough: Finding Joy Under the Layers.
• 40:05 1-Minute Reset. 
• 44:25 Final Takeaway: Have More Fun (and Why It Pays Off).

📥 Resources & Next Steps

🎧 Reignmaker Hypnosis Audio Collection
Three guided audios designed to help you move out of self-doubt and into embodied self-trust:

• Self-Doubt Release
• Inner Confidence Boost
• Money Mindset Rewire.

Our new action-based container is coming!
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In this powerful conversation, we’re joined by Kristy Eagleton, a transformational coach specialising in deep somatic work.

Kristy shares her journey from losing her home, marriage, business and identity, to rebuilding her life from the inside out.

We explore:

• What happens when everything crumbles (and why it sometimes has to).
• Ego death and identity loss.
• Narcissistic family patterns and emotional immaturity.
• The power of somatic healing over mindset work.
• Why high-functioning women burn out.
• Outsourcing power vs insourcing safety.
• Parts work and inner child healing.
• How to find safety in your body (Kristy guides us through a beautiful process).
• Why embodied power creates sustainable confidence.

Time Stamps: 

• 00:00 Guiding Self-Aware Women to Embody Their Power (Intro).
• 01:01 When Everything Crumbled: Business Loss, Home Loss & Divorce.
• 02:21 Breathwork in COVID: Healing, Ego Death & Finding Confidence.
• 04:11 Moving to Queensland: Family Patterns, Survival Mode & Kids as the Anchor.
• 06:58 Manifestation Meets Action: The $700 ‘Rent’ Plan & The Perfect House.
• 10:29 The Turning Point: ‘I Don’t Need Anyone to Change’ (Insourcing Safety).
• 14:43 The Cost of Outsourcing Your Power & Letting It Be Hard.
• 17:38 More Tests: Boundaries, Narcissism Lessons & Choosing Self-Connection.
• 21:01 Somatic Truths: High-Functioning From Fear vs Love.
• 22:59 60-Second Reignmaker Shift: Find Safety in Your Body (Guided Practice).
• 27:49 Why Power Must Be Embodied: Somatic & Parts Work Explained.
• 32:26 Key Takeaway & What’s Next: Programs, Membership & Where to Find Her (Wrap-Up).

👩‍💼 About Kristy

Kristy is a Transformational Coach specialising in deep somatic work. Kristy works with people who know they want a spectacular life and are ready to release and reprogramme anything that is subconsciously blocking them. Creating a bright and deeply satisfying life through remembering your inherent worth, the beauty of your intention and the gift that you were put here to be. 

✨ Kristy’s Somatic Manifestation Circle: Fall Into Place
Includes an 11 day manifestation challenge AND the first forever yours x group coaching & healing session free this Thursday 19 February:

https://www.skool.com/kristyeagletoncoaching/about

🌿 Learn more about Kristy’s deep dive transformational coaching:
 kristyeagleton.com or email [email protected] 

 📥 Resources & Next Steps 

If you recognised yourself in this conversation, don’t rush to “fix” anything.

Pause, find safety in your body and choose one small action that builds self-trust.

🎧 Reignmaker Hypnosis Audio Collection

Three guided audios designed to help you move out of self-doubt and into embodied self-trust:

• Self-Doubt Release
• Inner Confidence Boost
• Money Mindset Rewire. 

If you’re ready to go deeper, we’re creating a new action-based container for women who are done overthinking and ready to actually move.

Make sure you’re subscribed, we’ll be sharing more very soon! 

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We’re entering the Chinese Year of the Fire Horse - an energy defined by action, freedom, momentum and bold forward movement.

In this week's solo episode we explore what Fire Horse energy really means, why it feels like things are already speeding up and how this year supports women who’ve spent too long overthinking, hesitating or waiting to feel ready.

The Fire Horse isn’t about reckless speed or burning everything down. It’s about consistent movement, self-trust in action and choosing progress over paralysis.

We talk about:

• The shift from the Year of the Snake into the Fire Horse.
• Why this is a powerful year for Reignmaker Women.
• Action over endless thinking.
• Fire Horse energy, the nervous system and avoiding burnout.
• Why this year isn’t asking you to change, just to stop holding back. 
• A guided visualisation to help you choose one small, intentional action.

This is the year of movement, momentum and trusting yourself enough to go.

• 00:00 Introduction to the Year of the Fire Horse
• 00:49 Reflecting on the Year of the Snake
• 01:47 Embracing the Energy of the Fire Horse
• 03:24 Balancing Action with Self-Care
• 06:30 Harnessing the Power of Breath Work
• 07:30 Practical Tips for Sustainable Habits
• 09:37 Guided Visualization Exercise
• 12:21 Final Thoughts and Encouragement. 

📥 Resources & Next Steps

If this episode stirred something in you, don’t rush to 'figure it out', choose one small action that helps you trust yourself in motion.

🎧 Reignmaker Hypnosis Audio Collection

 Three guided audios designed to help you move out of self-doubt and into embodied self-trust:

 • Self-Doubt Release
 • Inner Confidence Boost
 • Money Mindset Rewire. 

📸 Connect with us on Instagram → @reignwhenitsraining
💬 Share what came up for you or tag us in your reflections, we’re always listening!

If you liked this episode please share it with another Woman and we would LOVE a review, it genuinely helps us reach the women it’s meant for.

Thanks for being here. 

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Want to grow on Instagram?

We’re joined by visibility and Instagram expert Hey Helen Williams, who grew her audience from 2,000 to 70,000 followers in under nine months without pretending to be someone she’s not.

In this episode, Helen shares:

• Her story of going from stagnant growth to massive visibility.
• Why one viral reel changed everything and what she did next.
• How introverts can build visibility without performing.
• The truth about selling on Instagram with integrity.
• The mistakes people make when trying to grow and what to do instead.
• Her take on pricing, boundaries and building a business that fits your life.
• The mindset shift that helped her earn 1.5x her corporate salary.

PLUS:

• A visibility tip anyone can implement today.
• A 60-second Reignmaker Shift to help you post before you feel “ready”

Timestamps: 

• 00:00 Introduction to Visibility and Instagram Growth
• 00:12 Meet Helen Williams: From 2000 to 70,000 Followers
• 01:45 The Turning Point: Strategies for Instagram Growth
• 04:07 Going Viral: The Impact of a Successful Reel
• 05:49 Monetizing Instagram Success
• 10:09 Visibility Tips for Introverts
• 11:14 Practical Tips for Instagram Visibility
• 13:01 Coaching a Diverse Audience
• 13:53 Imposter Syndrome and Viral Reels
• 14:54 The Importance of Enjoying Instagram
• 15:46 Managing Social Media for Clients
• 16:58 Income Growth and Digital Products
• 18:18 The Value of Paid Content
• 20:01 Future Plans: In-Person Events and Retreats
• 21:44 AI and Authenticity in Social Media
• 25:24 Final Thoughts and Key Takeaways

Helen is an Instagram visibility and content expert having grown her own account from 2k to over 70k followers last year. She helps others to create high engagement content that grows their business and sells their services with ease! 

📣 Follow Helen on Instagram: @heyhelenwilliams
Join her community: The Elevate Collective

📥 Resources & Next Steps

Reignmaker Hypnosis Audio Collection
Start shifting your inner world with 3 powerful guided audios  - Self-Doubt Release, Inner Confidence Boost and Money Mindset Rewire.

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In this week's solo episode of How to Reign When it’s Raining, Mum and I are discussing the emotional weight of staying loyal to outdated identities.

From letting go of the 'strong one' to realising you're still performing a role you no longer want to play, this episode is for the woman who’s ready to stop performing and start returning to herself.

We explore:

• Why it’s so hard to release a version of you (even when it hurts).
• The emotional cost of pride, people pleasing and protection.
• Childhood patterns that shaped our adult identities.
• The power of reminders: from phone backgrounds to abundance alarms.
• A mini visualisation to let go of the version of you that no longer serves

00:00 Reflecting on Personal Growth
00:35 The Power of Abundance Alarms
02:40 Identity
04:45 Struggles with People-Pleasing
07:16 Releasing Old Identities
12:52 Guided Visualization for Letting Go

She was strong, she held it together but she’s done now.

📥 Resources & Next Steps

Reignmaker Hypnosis Audio Collection
Start shifting your inner world with 3 powerful guided audios  - Self-Doubt Release, Inner Confidence Boost and Money Mindset Rewire.

📸 Connect with us on Instagram → @reignwhenitsraining
💬 Tag us with your reflection. 

If you enjoyed this episode please share it or we'd love a review! Feedback is really important, and we listen :) 

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• Everything in the course plus 8 weeks of live coaching
• Weekly hot seat coaching, live Q&A, direct access to Nichole & Ben
• Tuesdays 7:30–9pm UK | Starts Feb 3 | Max 20 couples
• VIP is the only place Ben coaches - the male perspective matters.

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• Code auto-applies at checkout
• VIP offer valid until Jan 31st
• Self-paced course available anytime

Learn more & enrol: house-of-farrow.com/love-for-life-course

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From global music stages to silent breakdowns behind closed doors, this week’s guest - Dr. Clarita De Quiroz - shares her powerful story of healing, identity and reinvention.

In this raw and moving conversation, Clarita opens up about the personal battles behind her success, including anxiety, chronic bulimia, childhood trauma, toxic relationships and the numbing effects of medication. She takes us through the mindset shifts that helped her rebuild from rock bottom, earn a law degree and doctorate and return to the stage sober, present and fully expressed.

This episode is a masterclass in resilience, emotional honesty and redefining success - from someone who’s lived through breakdowns and breakthroughs.

Whether you’re navigating burnout, starting over or struggling to trust your voice, this one will meet you where you are.

In this episode:

• Why Clarita left music (and what brought her back after a 10-year break)
• The truth about anxiety, antidepressants and emotional suppression
• How trauma shaped her inner world and the tools that rewired it
• Growing up with zero emotional support and learning to self-validate
• The moment she realised her environment was the problem
• From bulimia to boundaries: reclaiming her body, voice, and worth
• Why starting over isn’t failure and what success means now. 
• 0:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome
• 00:50 Clarita's Academic Journey
• 01:38 Life in Dubai and Business Ventures
• 02:24 Overcoming Personal Struggles
• 04:07 Impact of Medication on Mental Health
• 05:51 Music Career and Break
• 07:39 Childhood Trauma and Family Dynamics
• 13:28 Moving to Dubai and Personal Growth
• 15:57 Therapy and Healing
• 21:30 Setting Boundaries and Self-Worth
• 23:05 The Power of Starting Over
• 23:19 Embracing New Beginnings
• 23:49 The Journey of Self-Improvement
• 26:18 Redefining Success
• 28:29 Overcoming Personal Challenges
• 30:14 Finding Joy in Sobriety
• 31:34 Advice to My Younger Self
• 36:13 Defining Success and Happiness
• 38:34 Future Plans and Reflections
• 40:53 Key Takeaways and Conclusion

Connect with Calrita De Quiroz:

📸 Instagram 

🌐 Website

🏨 Check out her Hotel here! 

Clarita de Quiroz is an award-winning international recording artist, pianist, composer and entrepreneur, widely recognised as one of the Middle East’s most accomplished independent musicians.

She is the only artist in the United Arab Emirates to have achieved three number-one albums, including A New Key, which debuted at number one after a decade-long hiatus and marked her return as a classical-crossover pianist and vocalist. Her earlier albums, Speak.Delete.Repeat. and A New Key, showcase her distinctive fusion of classical piano, soul, and contemporary pop.

Clarita has performed on prestigious stages across Europe, Asia, and the Middle East, and has opened for global icons including Sir Elton John, Kelly Rowland, Gabrielle, and the Sugababes. In 2012, she was named “Best Singer of the UAE,” and she has since been featured in Ahlan! magazine’s Hot 100 list of influential figures in the region.

Beyond public concerts, she is frequently invited to perform at private royal engagements in the UAE, and recently received a formal award presented by members of the royal family - a rare honour that reflects both her artistic standing and professional reputation.

Alongside her music career, Clarita is also a highly accomplished academic. She holds a Master’s degree in Law with distinction and has recently completed her doctoral research in business and digital transformation

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You don’t need more time. You need one minute of courage.

This week, we’re asking a different kind of question:

How do you want to be remembered?

In this episode, we explore the powerful connection between legacy, courage and momentum, and why a single minute of daily bravery can rewire your self-trust, shift your nervous system and build your future.

We share:

• How to anchor courage (even when you feel small)
• Why most women wait too long to take action
• How repetition creates safety
• A guided visualisation where your 85-year-old self gives you the message you need to hear. 

This isn’t about achieving more, It’s about remembering who you are and starting now.

If you’ve been avoiding the thing, second-guessing yourself or waiting for the “right” time, this episode will meet you right where you are (and the vizualisation is powerful!). 

🎧 She Reigns in Action
Take one minute today and ask yourself:
What’s one small act of bravery I could take towards the woman I want to become?

Then do it! And let us know what happens.

📥 Resources & Next Steps

Reignmaker Hypnosis Audio Collection
Start shifting your inner world with 3 powerful guided audios  - Self-Doubt Release, Inner Confidence Boost and Money Mindset Rewire.
 

📸 Connect with us on Instagram → @reignwhenitsraining
💬 Tag us with your Daily Brave moment, we’d love to hear what your 85-year-old self whispered back.

If you enjoyed this episode please share it with a woman who needs reminding that she doesn't have to wait. 

We'd love a review! Feedback is really important, and we listen :) 

Thank you for being here xx

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What would you allow yourself to want if you truly trusted yourself to have it?

In this first episode of 2026, we explore why thinking big isn’t about ego, pressure or unrealistic goals but about rebuilding self‑trust.

Drawing inspiration from The Magic of Thinking Big and decades of subconscious work, this episode breaks down why so many women stay stuck not because they lack ambition but because playing small feels safer to the nervous system.

We talk about:

• Why “being realistic” often means shrinking your desires
• How playing small slowly erodes self‑trust
• The subconscious reason women drift instead of committing
• Why visualisation works (even before you take action)
• How confidence is built before the leap - not after it. 

This episode includes a powerful guided vizualisation to help you experience how the mind and body respond to imagined risk - and how you can use that to build confidence safely, from the inside out.

If you’ve been quietly wanting more, doubting yourself or waiting for permission to begin this conversation is your reminder: thinking big is an act of self‑trust.

🎧 Resources & Next Steps

If this episode stirred something in you our Reignmaker Hypnosis Audio Collection was created for moments like this.

These guided sessions support you to:

• Release self‑doubt
• Strengthen inner confidence
• Rewire your relationship with money and safety. 

You can explore the full collection here

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We’d love to hear what this episode brought up for you.

Message us on Instagram @reignwhenitsraining or share your biggest takeaway and tag us. 

And if this episode resonated, please rate, review or share it. It helps more Reignmaker women find this space.

Here’s to a braver, brighter 2026 and everything you’re ready to imagine into being!

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As this year comes to a close, so many of us are already questioning ourselves.

Am I doing enough?
Have I achieved enough?
Am I… enough?

In this special Reignmaker Rewind episode, we revisit one of the most powerful conversations we’ve had around self-worth, identity and the subconscious stories women carry for decades, often without even realising it.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why feeling “not enough” is learned, not true.
• How childhood experiences and emotional memory create adult self-doubt.
• The role your subconscious and nervous system play in confidence.
• Why visualisation works (and what happens in the brain when you use it).
• The difference between becoming someone new and releasing an old identity.
• How to begin rewriting your inner dialogue with compassion, not pressure.

We also guide you through a gentle release meditation to help you physically and emotionally let go of the version of you that doesn’t belong in the next chapter.

This isn’t about fixing yourself for the new year.  It’s about returning to who you were before you were taught to doubt yourself.

• 00:00 Reflecting on the Year and Self-Worth
• 00:47 Understanding the Root of 'Not Enough'
• 01:06 Personal Stories of Self-Doubt
• 02:13 Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
• 04:42 Childhood Experiences and Self-Worth
• 10:44 Reframing Negative Beliefs
• 13:19 Visualisation and Self-Acceptance Exercises
• 17:13 The Power of Visualization and Meditation
• 21:16 Concluding Thoughts and New Year Wishes

Listen to The Original Episode 

Listener Reflection (NYE Journaling Prompt)

Before the year ends, ask yourself:

• What version of me am I done dragging forward?
• Where do I still try to earn what was meant to be unconditional?
• If I truly believed I was enough… how would I move differently next year?

Let yourself write freely.

Final Reminder

You are not just entering a new year… you are releasing an old identity.

And you are enough - exactly as you are.