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In this world of information overload, where everything is at our fingertips, our desire for instant gratification often impedes our path to personal growth.

Personal growth is a life-long journey that takes patience, discipline, awareness, and constant focus.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny. - Lao Tzu”

The language we use creates our reality. There are 5 words in particular that create a dull, drab reality that is guaranteed to lead to a life of regret.

Listen to this episode to learn what those 5 words are and what two phrases you can immediately replace them with to start creating massive change and the life you always "wanted".

Nobody likes to be criticized.

Nobody.

However, if you have relationships with people who hold you accountable, then criticism is an inevitable part of that relationship's dialogue.

Tonight we focus not on how to deliver criticism (that'll be in a future episode), but on how to receive and accept criticism without nuking the relationship.

There are 3 simple things you can do to be better at accepting criticism AND ensure the integrity of the relationship stays strong.

Listen in to find out what they are.

Yes, that time of year is once again upon us...the beginning of the holiday season. It's that time of year where we are easily overwhelmed with all we have to do, and easily stressed because of...oh, so many reasons.

Tonight we talk about the two types of people:

Kairos (event/moment/relationship) oriented people

Chronos (linear time/Type A) oriented people.

Being a chronos oriented person, it's easy to get overwhelmed when the schedule gets full and when schedules aren't kept.

Kairos people can let time get away because they're more 'in the moment' and end up stressed because they're confused as to where the time went.

Listen to how Charlotte (kairos) and I (chronos) work on balancing the two when things get crazy. Find out how we set schedules, say no, don't commit to things we can't do, and how we keep our schedules open to allow for spontaneity in a season where free time can be a luxury.

We've often talked about how relationships can be strained, particularly when you're on a journey of personal growth. Others don't understand you, they're confused as to why you're not the same person they've always known, and perhaps they're taken aback by your new-found confidence....

...and this can strain, and even break, long-standing relationships. Particularly with those closest to you.

What do you do when you want to see about healing those relationships? You can't go back to the way things were...yet you're unsure about how to proceed.

Honesty....and honest communication without judgement...are the keys to taking those first steps.

Listen to this episode to find out how relationships can be healed, whether you're the one hurt or the one who did the hurting.

Rumors and the Damage Done

Hey Rockstars!

In our lives, we've all either been subject of or have even spread rumors.  They've either hurt us or given us a sense of power and belonging by "knowing" some juicy bit of information about someone else.

Problem is, rumors are often false information.  They're based on one person's observation without fact-checking that observation with the subject of the rumor.

Listen to tonight's episode to find out:

the major reasons rumors get spread

how to combat rumors

how to quench rumors with one simple question

 

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Remember... It is what it is....and the next stop is truly anywhere you decide it to be.

Quitters Never Win

Nobody ever reached their own personal finish line by quitting half way through the race.  

No seed ever sprouted without being watered and cared for.

Your dreams are the same way.

In order to make your life "all killer, no filler", you must be willing to do the impossible.  You've got to face failure and not let it beat you.  You've got to be so determined to get what you want out of life, that it's as necessary as breathing.

You must also have patience.  Success doesn't happen overnight.  It's the culmination of the blood, sweat, and tears you put into making things happen.

On this episode, we discuss facing failure, why visualization without action is a waste of time, and the importance of never...NEVER giving up.

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Everyone Has A Story

From the beginning of time, stories have been at the center of the human experience.  Even before man could talk we've shared stories.  Cave paintings, fables, parables, art, song...all of these and so many more allow us to express our unique stories in unique ways.

Your story is just as unique as you are yet parts of your story are the stories of thousands of other people.  Your challenges, your successes, your failures...they make you uniquely you yet allow you to connect with others.

What's your story? 

For every person that shares their story, there are hundreds more who wish they had half the courage as the one sharing their story.

You owe it to the world to share your story.

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In a recent post on the Transforming Monday Blog, I talked about "honesty without compassion".  This is when we communicate bluntly using phrases like:

I’m just being honest.

I just say it like it is.

You know me… I’m blunt.

...or the #1 answer... "I was just trying to help!"

The problem when we communicate these statements without compassion is that we often end up offending and insulting the person we're communicating with.  We invalidate what they are feeling because these phrases are interpreted as "I'm right, you're wrong".

If we're going to communicate effectively, especially in difficult circumstances, then rapport building is a skill that needs to be learned.

Building rapport allows us to connect with the other person, getting past the outer defenses we all have, and allows us to communicate more effectively.

On this episode, Charlotte from Moms With A Passion, again joins me as we discuss the importance of building rapport so that we can gain permission to communicate and, at the same time, understand the boundaries we and others have.

We discuss simple ways to build rapport, such as:

Communicating in the other person's language (Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic)

How agreeing with them lowers their defenses

How physical movement can build and/or break rapport and change the pace of the conversation.

These simple techniques are easily put into practice in your daily life and you will astonish people with your awesome communication skills.

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Finding that reason, that "Why", that drives you to change some facets of your life is what every motivational and inspirational speaker, book, seminar, etc., tells you is absolutely vital to changing your life.

It's true.

Most people find a "why" that only interests them in making changes. They'll read a book, watch a movie, attend a seminar, and then inevitably fade back into their boring, ho-hum, average life.

Why?

Their life doesn't suck enough to force them to dig deep and find that "why" that pushes them to from interested to committed. Finding the right "why" is the difference between "I'd like to" and "I have to". The right why develops a sense of urgency, of desperation, that that thing in your life has to change.

Reflecting on the last 12 months, in which I made some Earth shaking life changes, I realized for years my 'why' was a wimpy why and that's why my life was miserable. It wasn't until things got more painful than the pain of changing my life did I become committed to making changes.

Listen as I share my story of how I went from interested to committed and how that "why" is again burning deep within my gut.

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