Transforming Monday

You work hard, taking on new challenges to prove yourself, demonstrating your skill, your talent, your ability to perform at a higher level than anyone else around you and then one day it happens...

...you look around and realize your life is completely out of balance and you're nowhere near your ultimate outcome and you couldn't find the path with a flashlight and a 6 man searching party.

You've become a prisoner of your own success. Trapped at a stop along the way because of how awesome you are.

Listen to this episode and hear how a 30 minute meeting with John Terhune made me realize how I've become a prisoner of my own success and what I, and you, can do to break free from those chains.

John Terhune's Attitude Pump: http://www.attitudepump.com/page/page/8819016.htm

Transformation Radio is sponsored by http://atransformedyou.com

People say "The grass is greener on the other side"...and it is. It's greener for one of two reasons:

1) It's been well fertilized in manure

-or-

2) It's been well taken care of, manicured, weeded, and loved.

Most people spend their lives running away from things... from bad jobs, from bad boyfriends/girlfriends, etc. They run away to greener grass because they're attracted to the smell of the manure. Whether it's a new car, new job, new city, new relationship... if you're running away from what you have, you're being pulled by the smell of crap and, well, you'll end up smelling like manure.

If you have a concrete vision of what your life to be like, you're running towards something...and the greener grass will be all yours and, honestly, the envy of the neighborhood.

Standards are one thing...expectations are another. You can't walk into your job expecting everyone to recognize your genius. You can't expect others to do things the way you would. You can't expect others to process information or communicate the way you would.

If you do, you're being unfair to them.

It's as if you're telling them the way they think, communicate, and live isn't good enough...

Do you have unrealistic expectations of others? Of yourself?

Don't set yourself up for disappointment and failure by creating expectations of failure, of worry, of stress, or are just simply unrealistic.

Being perfect, or feeling the need to be perfect, is something that plagues all of us. For me, it began in 2nd grade and was a limiting belief I killed within the last few years.

Additionally, mix Sheldon, Leonard, and Raj in a blender, and that was me.

Feeling like one has to be perfect kills the dreams of the crazy ones, the freaks and weirdos that change the world.

This week's sponsor is http://atransformedyou.com

Do you not care what other people think...or not care what other people think? Believe it or not, there really is a difference. One is not allowing others' opinions to run your life, while the other is a narcissistic, egotistical dismissal of other peoples' opinions.

Learning to strike the balance between the two is essential for healthy growth, healthy relationships, and a healthy you.

As always, Transforming Monday is sponsored by http://atransformedyou.com.

So, you think that raise, that promotion, that new job will be the thing that makes your life pitch perfect. Before too long, though, you're sitting at your desk at the end of a long week asking yourself "What the hell did I get myself into?" and "How in the hell did this happen?"

Yep, we've all been there. Some of us numerous times.

Listen and learn how to distinguish between building a career and building a life, why one can easily overtake and destroy the other, and how to prevent your tombstone from saying "I wish I spent more time at the office".

Everyone hates this interview question... mostly because they haven't given any thought to what they want their life to look like beyond getting the job they're applying for.

However, this question holds the key to finding the path you need to travel.

Defining the life you want, down to the most minute of details, exposes the path you need to travel. It enlightens you on what skills you may need to learn, the types of people you need to network with, and, honestly, motivates you to get off your ass and move in the direction you want to go.

It's inevitable that along your journey to becoming the you you want to be and creating the life you want to live, you're going to run into haters. Haters are those who tell you you're fooling yourself, you're an idiot, you can't do it... they're bound and determined to drag you back down to their level.

Turn that Hater-ade into fuel to push you even higher. Use their words to motivate you whenever things are tough and you're feeling like giving up. It'll be sure to give you that kick in the pants just when you need it.

Most people fail in setting outcomes and milestones because they set them too big, and never make it, or too small and they aren't motivated.

Find that sweet spot of achievable, challenging, and rewarding milestones to meet along the path towards your big, audacious goal and you'll be amazed how easy the road will be.

Fear stops us from asking for what we want and going after what we truly desire. Fear creates those presuppositions, those movies in our head of a future that hasn't come yet. Fear causes us to make excuses. Fear makes us comfortable and forces us to settle.

Find out how the three words "...and then what?" can shift your thinking and smash those excuses and fears that hold you back.