<p>Ever feel like you're stuck in a never-ending cycle, no matter how hard you try to change?</p> <p>In this episode, I'm getting real about why it's better to change the systems around you rather than trying to change yourself. I open up about my own struggles and the eye-opening realization that life is too short to be stuck in a rut. Inspired by this, I created a group called Empower X to help women master their lives. I lay out three game-changing steps to transform your systems: identifying your Queen Bee Role (QBR), delegating and automating tasks, and setting boundaries to protect your time. By following these steps, you can reclaim your time, lower your stress, and truly shine as your best self. So, let's dive in and start making those changes!</p> Summary <ul> <li>Transforming the systems around you is more effective than trying to change yourself.</li> <li>Identify your Queen Bee Role (QBR) and build systems that support it.</li> <li>Delegate and automate tasks to free up your time and energy.</li> <li>Set clear boundaries and protect your time to reduce stress and prioritize what matters most to you.</li> </ul>

Ever feel like you're stuck in a never-ending cycle, no matter how hard you try to change? In this episode, I'm getting real about why it's better to change the systems around you rather than trying to change yourself. I open up about my own struggles and the eye-opening realization that life is too short to be stuck in a rut. Inspired by this, I created a group called Empower X to help women master their lives. I lay out three game-changing steps to transform your systems: identifying your Queen Bee Role (QBR), delegating and automating tasks, and setting boundaries to protect your time. By following these steps, you can reclaim your time, lower your stress, and truly shine as your best self. So, let's dive in and start making those changes! Summary Transforming the systems around you is more effective than trying to change yourself. Identify your Queen Bee Role (QBR) and build systems that support it. Delegate and automate tasks to free up your time and energy. Set clear boundaries and protect your time to reduce stress and prioritize what matters most to you.

Transforming Systems, Not Yourself: 3 Tips to Reclaim Your Time and Sanity | EU 232

You’re exhausted.
Not just physically. Emotionally. You’re running a household, keeping up with your career, holding the family calendar together, and still somehow managing the grocery list. You’re the default parent, the peacekeeper, the one who never stops, even when you should be resting. And somewhere in between the laundry and the late-night emails, you’ve lost the version of yourself that wasn’t running on fumes.

I’m Veronica Cisneros, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, wife, and mom of three. I know what it’s like to feel disconnected from your spouse, stuck in silent power struggles over household chores, and torn between excelling in your career and actually enjoying your family. I’ve been the people-pleaser, the overachiever, the one trying to “hold it all together” while anxiety worked overtime behind the scenes.

On Empowered and Unapologetic, we’re ditching the guilt and having the conversations no one’s having at the PTA meeting. Here, you’ll get real talk and therapist-backed strategies on:

• Navigating marriage when it feels more like a business partnership than a relationship.
• Breaking the cycle of over-functioning and learning to rest without guilt.
• Sharing the mental and physical load at home—without another chore chart that no one uses.
• Shutting down power-pleasing patterns that leave you drained and resentful.
• Managing the anxiety that comes from constantly being “on.”

If you’re tired of looking like you have it all together while feeling like you’re falling apart, you’re in the right place. This is your space to breathe, laugh, and rebuild connection, without having to compromise yourself in the process.

Let’s do this together.

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You’re exhausted. Not just physically. Emotionally. You’re running a household, keeping up with your career, holding the family calendar together, and still somehow managing the grocery list. You’re the default parent, the peacekeeper, the one who never stops, even when you should be resting. And somewhere in between the laundry and the late-night emails, you’ve lost the version of yourself that wasn’t running on fumes. I’m Veronica Cisneros, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, wife, and mom of three. I know what it’s like to feel disconnected from your spouse, stuck in silent power struggles over household chores, and torn between excelling in your career and actually enjoying your family. I’ve been the people-pleaser, the overachiever, the one trying to “hold it all together” while anxiety worked overtime behind the scenes. On Empowered and Unapologetic, we’re ditching the guilt and having the conversations no one’s having at the PTA meeting. Here, you’ll get real talk and therapist-backed strategies on: • Navigating marriage when it feels more like a business partnership than a relationship. • Breaking the cycle of over-functioning and learning to rest without guilt. • Sharing the mental and physical load at home—without another chore chart that no one uses. • Shutting down power-pleasing patterns that leave you drained and resentful. • Managing the anxiety that comes from constantly being “on.” If you’re tired of looking like you have it all together while feeling like you’re falling apart, you’re in the right place. This is your space to breathe, laugh, and rebuild connection, without having to compromise yourself in the process. Let’s do this together.

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