Treasured Truth

According to scripture, God has given us everything that pertains to life and godliness, and that includes marriage.  And when God gives us instructions, what we need to do is just follow them.  Pastor Ford urges married folks to heed the instructions in God’s word in order to have healthier marriages.

In order to have a healthy marriage, Pastor Ford asserts that we have to start letting go of stuff and practicing complete forgiveness.  We have to make sure that we’re not repeatedly dealing with stuff that we didn’t fully deal with in the past.

Women believe their marriage is working as long as the communication continues, and Pastor Ford agrees that’s true. He explains that the silence of the woman is the death knell of a marriage.  As long as she can talk about the issues, she thinks she thinks they can be resolved.  But when she stops talking, that’s a sign the marriage is in deep trouble.

As we conclude this study about how to look deeply at a potential spouse before you leap into marriage with them, Pastor Ford looks at some more examples from the book of Ruth and encourages men to carefully consider a woman’s character before she becomes his wife.  

When considering someone as a potential spouse, one way to determine if they have a Christ-like attitude is to observe their willingness to be self-sacrificial for the good of the relationship.  Jesus sacrificed Himself for all of us and is the supreme example for us all to follow as we serve each other, especially in marriage.

Pastor Ford lets us know that our real focus should be on worship.  Whatever we are going through, we ought to be able to say like the Psalmist says, “This is the day that Lord has made, WE WILL rejoice and we be glad in it.”

Many people think they will be able to change their prospective spouse once they are married to them.  But Pastor Ford reminds us today that it’s a very dangerous thing to think that you’re going to change somebody.  That strategy almost certainly leads to disappointment and unmet expectations.

On today’s Treasured Truth, Pastor Ford reminds us that there are only two kinds of marriages.  You’re either growing up in marriage or you’re giving up.  So, we should all consider this—when we react to a problem in marriage, what are we doing?  Are we growing up, or are we giving up?

Pastor Ford warns single people who are considering marriage to not make a permanent decision based on the superficial evaluation that may come as a result of “falling in love.” To really ensure that you know who it is that you are marrying, you really have to look deep before you leap!

As we begin a new message encouraging men who are considering marriage, Pastor Ford will emphasize the importance of having pre-marital counseling.  It’s a crucial tool that will help you find out who a person truly is before you marry them.