Trigger Proof Transmissions

We already know that Chronic Illness and Mental Health "Disorders" are due to Trauma. On today's transmission I discuss a common but seldom-talked-about "Small t" trauma that causes such a high incidence of health and relationship problems, and they're not addressed properly in our system.
When you get this right, you realize you have the ticket to authentic relationships, less anxiety, and living in alignment with your purpose. Without addressing this hidden root cause, our experience of life becomes a struggle with no way out. If you want to learn the difference between "coping" and healing, jump on.

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

Amazing relationships aren't luck.
They're a skill.
They are work.
If you want to learn how, there are 2 skills to master.
When you get them right, the secure, safe, loving, mutual relationship you've always wanted is right within your grasp.
Without mastering these 2 skills we will forever be playing the blame game, hoping for a hero to come save us.

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some Trigger Proof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

This is one of the most common questions we get from those who are not only partnered/married, feeling stuck in a situation where they're not getting their needs met, but also with single folks not sure if they're ignoring red flags.

Without learning these 3 concepts, you're forever repeating patterns.

When you get this right, you make a powerful choice for your future.

Some great questions from clubhouse guests who were gracious enough to have me give them some tough love.

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

Insecurity in Relationships shows up in many different ways.
Jealousy, Running away, picking arguments, creating drama when there isn't any, making up stories--- We all have our moments.
Deep down we hope to meet and find people that don't bring out the worst in us, and are able to come to win/wins when things go awry. 
But without specifically working at these key inner-game "upgrades",  we end up repeating the same arguments without any resolution, and dating the same people in different bodies.
When you make these specific upgrades, you are able to turn even the most toxic relationship dynamics into healthy and secure relationships. 
Today's Fb live is also broadcast on Clubhouse and will invite guests up to ask questions and receive some coaching. 
Going from Insecure to Secure isn't easy, but it's your birthright.

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

After a vulnerable post from @Vanessa Cormier I wanted to use her question as a guide to speak about safety in relationships and why we can lose capacity to be in healthy secure relationships.
Without this awareness, we slip into patterns and repeat the same cycle again and again.
To learn how to break the cycle, pay attention, and grab a pen.

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

Shame is a weapon that perpetrates Intergenerational Trauma, destroying Self Worth in the process.
Even the most well-meaning parents can unknowingly use shame as an unconscious strategy to get their kids to behave or comply.
Whether you have kids or not, if you've been noticing that you're a perfectionist who has been leaning hard into Self-Hate you will want to grab a pen and listen into this conversation. 
We are dealing with cycles of "Small T" traumas that didn't even start with you, and I believe it's been creating an endemic anxiety in the collective.

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

Question from community member Heather Mason:
“I'm seeking advice on how to not take on my partners emotions/life situation.  I am definitely an anxious attachment.  He has made a decision to leave a toxic job (toxic for him) and is now in a state of not knowing what to do and is depressed and not on a good place.  He has stopped communicating and being present in the relationship.  Me being anxious attachment, this sets me off in a panic, wanting to fix the situation and help him. I know its not about me but it makes me extremely anxious.   How do I establish the boundary for myself to not take it on myself and still be a supportive partner?”

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

Everyone wants to feel safe in their relationships and connected to their confidence and mojo.
Life is scary alone-- and much more enjoyable when we are surrounded by love and acceptance.
But chances are, your stories aren't helping you achieve that.
In fact, I don't mean to be rude, but...
Nobody cares much for your stories.
From what I've observed in my own life and in helping others---
our stories keep love and understanding FAR AWAY from us.
When you learn how to self-reflect and find yourself in one-- You can change your entire world around you.
When you don't -- you are forever a victim and child looking to be rescued.
I go deeper in this transmission.

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

Question: Why do we repeat the same arguments?
Why do I end up with the same cycle in relationships that keep ending?
I get these questions alot.
There's a very startling reality that is seldom addressed when we are dealing with relationship dynamics.
Without addressing this critical issue, we end up repeating the same cyclical patterns feeling abandoned, frustrated, and misunderstood.
On this Transmission I talk about 3 blind spots we must consider if we are to break these cycles and create Secure Relationships out of Insecure dynamics.

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

In our free fb community, I asked the question:
"How do you Self-Sabotage?"
and the responses I got were staggering.
Everything from "I don't feel right when things are good"  to "I play a small game" to "avoiding asking for what I want and having fairy tale expectations instead". 
It's frustrating when we don't understand
why the hell we can't do the things we're
thinking we need to do in order to get the results we want in relationships, health, and our careers. 
Without understanding this profound concept I'm about to share, we're bound to repeat endless cycles, spinning our wheels and going nowhere.  When you finally get this strange concept into your body, you are able to get back into flow and find the energy to move foward where you were once stopped. 
What did you discover in this training?

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis: