Triggered AF

Owning Your Power Through Challenges

About 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 13 boys in the United States experience child sexual abuse and we are almost certain that the number is far higher since many victims don't ever come forward. Unfortunately, someone known and trusted by the child or child's family members, perpetrates 91% of child sexual abuse. How do victims of child sexual abuse move forward to lead full, healthy lives? Is that even possible? According to Alreen Haeggquist, lawyer and author of "Fired Up: Fueling Triumph from Trauma", with a great deal of work, healing and deep empathy, it is absolutely feasible. While it's common to focus on the heinous acts, many people neglect to acknowledge the lifelong effects these acts may have on the victims. Alreen founded her firm, Haeggquist & ECK LLP, in San Diego in 2008, to help women find their voice and stand up for themselves while providing tools to aid them on their journey to wholeness. Tap in to this episode to hear Alreen's heart-wrenching story and her path to triumph.

Watch the conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/dasZ4WbVlQ4

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• Quote of the Week

"The ability to say no to yourself is a gift. If you can resist your urges, change your habits, and say yes to only what you deem truly meaningful, you'll be practicing healthy self-boundaries. It's your responsibility to care for yourself without excuses." ― Nedra Glover Tawwab

Dating Well AF Tip

• "When people show you who they are, believe them the first time." - Maya Angelou

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

• Trust your gut!

• Teach children about "stranger danger" but also teach them about "tricky people".

• The incorrect response of the adult can greatly negatively impact the child by retraumatizing them.

• We are conditioned to be silent about our pain and trauma.

• Once you have been abused, you are more likely to be abused again by multiple people.

• Studies have shown that there may be a link between child sexual abuse and illnesses like autoimmune diseases and fibroids.

• While an apology might be nice, empathy and working on your own healing, is the key to forgiving yourself and your abuser.

CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTS:

Alreen Haeggquist

Linkedin | https://www.linkedin.com/in/alreen-haeggquist/

Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/alreen/

Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/alreenh/

Website: https://www.alreen.com/

Book: https://www.alreen.com/book/ (Fired Up: Fueling Trauma From Triumph)

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/in/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

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Using psychedelics to heal deep trauma requires surrender. Your healing comes in states of surrender. And surrender is the most powerful position we can possibly put ourselves in. Digging into our healing requires us to feel safe. Exploring this type of healing should not be ventured into without support, proper research, and a trained professional. We talked about everything from micro-dosing, exploring the creator, and the masses avoiding what is misunderstood. Tap into the episode to learn more now.

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https://youtu.be/vq8fMPCLQmI

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• Quote of the Week

Healing doesn't mean the pain never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives. ― Akshay Dubey

• Dating Well AF Tip

"Give yourself permission to heal from the same thing more than once." – Alex Elle

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

• The only way to heal the next generation is to take off our masks and really be vulnerable with the next generation, not hiding our mistakes, but also telling the messy parts.

• Most of us don't embrace change until we hit rock bottom.

• Your healing comes in states of surrender.

• You will have to deal with your triggers and traumas in order to live a full life.

• To heal deep trauma requires you to reopen the wound

CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTS:

Nicholas Jordan Moore

Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/nicholasjordanmoore/

Website: https://vulnerabilitybook.com

Get the book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CH2B9PWG

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/in/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

RESOURCES:

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Naming Our Demons: How to Overcome Shame

The more stories you collect the more clogged your meaning-making machine can be. Many times, this prevents us from moving through our emotions as quickly. Sitting down with Shaun Derik, affectionately known as, Internet Jesus, we took a deep dive into the things we hide, the shade we throw, and the actions that aren't as becoming. One of the things children are supposed to teach us is how to move through emotions quickly. Your emotions are supposed to last 21-90 seconds long. Tap into the episode to help develop your tools to get there.

Watch the conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/SA07wbeF05I

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• Quote of the Week

"Shame hates it when we reach out and tell our story. It hates having words wrapped around it — it can't survive being shared. Shame loves secrecy." - Brené Brown

• Dating Well AF Tip

"Learning how to identify and manage how you respond to your triggers helps you to breathe through your triggers so you can think."

• STEP #1: Write down 10 of your triggers. Then on a scale of 1(mild reaction)-10(Blowing shit up), rate each one.

• STEP #2: For all 6+ ratings, write out your usual or default reaction.

• STEP #3: For all 6+ ratings, create new alternative reactions or defaults.

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

• How you're feeling is not always an indication of how you're doing.

• Your emotions are supposed to last 21-90 seconds long.

• One of the things children are supposed to teach us is how to move through emotions quickly.

• Working through shame can be achieved by asking yourself "why?" Getting down to the why behind your decisions and choices helps you overcome your shame around them.

• Different people have different access to learning tools so you cannot hold judgment for them based on your growth and resources.

CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTS:

Shaun Derik

Instagram | http://instagram.com/shaunderik

TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@shaunderik

Website: https://beacons.ai/shaunderik

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/in/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

RESOURCES:

For more info, visit: http://triggeredafpodcast.com

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Triggered AF Podcast is produced by Triggered Media Group.

Hoe-tales: The Pros and Cons of Being a Slut

We thought that we were done slut-shaming, but apparently we're back to calling women sluts and whores. The double standard is real. Way too many are pointing the finger at women calling them out of their names, but not enough people are recognizing that they're not sleeping with themselves. Plus, the assumption of what someone is doing without actually knowing is definitely frustrating all parties involved. We're so quick to pass judgment on women on their own journey learning to navigate and figure themselves out. Your youth is designed for learning and exploring. And keeping your options open, having a multitude of energetic exchanges, and living life your way is your choice! Just be clear of the consequences, benefits, and opportunities of it all! We talk through the whole spectrum and explore the pros and cons of being a slut.

Watch the conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/8q4ikMIo-hs

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Quote of the Week

"If you consider a woman less pure after you've touched her, maybe you should take a look at your hands." - Kaija Sabbah

Dating Well AF Tip

"Knowing who you are and what you want sets your standard and helps you date better." – Alechia Reese & Dani Bourdeau

• Getting to know yourself better is a lifelong journey of self-discovery and personal growth. It takes real intentional effort to become your own bestie.

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

• Sex connects and disconnects some women and it's many times based on how you were introduced to it.

• You will have to resolve the person you once were as you change and evolve, it's necessary to forgive yourself and honor that past version of yourself without feeling shame.

• The decisions you make directly affect your type of lifestyle and experience.

• Is ignorance really bliss? Once you know how it's supposed to feel it's hard to go to something that doesn't feel good.

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/in/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

RESOURCES:

For more info, visit: http://triggeredafpodcast.com

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Money and Legacy: Planning for the Final Chapter

Over 70% of African Americans don't have an estate plan. Over the next 25 years the largest wealth transfer will occur in American history, but the majority of Black people aren't going to participate in that because we don't have estate plans. You can keep complaining about what's happening to you or learn how to build legacies for yourself and your families. Edges were laid and wigs were snatched speaking with Attorney India Ali, Esq. and Ashley M. Fox of Empify, they gave actionable steps that you can use today to begin preserving and structuring the legacy for your family. Whether you're rich or working on it, this episode is for you!

Watch the conversation on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/_SLg_eOby3I

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• Quote of the Week

"Might fuck around and find out how worthy I am in this lifetime." – Lauren Eliz Love

• Dating Well AF Tip

"The longer you entertain what's not for you, the longer you postpone what is."

• Dating potential and not honoring what you truly want and the type lifestyle you desire will only ensure you never get it.

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

• Legacy is started and created while you're living.

• We hyperfocus on death, but when it comes to legacy planning, focus on putting a structure around the legacy you're living now.

• You plan trips, marriages, and vacations. Be willing to also structure your end of life plans.

• People die, assets don't!

• Wanting your children or family to "get it out the mud" comes from a place of anger, not love.

• Set your child up so they have the tools and resources to lead the life they want to lead versus the one they have to lead.

• The person in the mirror is who changes your life.

CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTS:

India Y. Ali, Esq

Instagram | http://instagram.com/askattorneyali

TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@askattorneyali

Website: https://askattorneyali.com

Ashley M. Fox

Instagram | http://instagram.com/_ashleymfox

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashleymfox1

Website: https://www.empify.com

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/alechiareese

LinkedIn | http://linkedin.com/in/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram | http://instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

RESOURCES:

For more info, visit: http://triggeredafpodcast.com

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In the "How to Stop Self-Sabotaging When Dating" episode, Triggered AF hosts, Alechia & Dani get honest about all the ways in which we sabotage ourselves when we're dating. If you want to attract better partners you'll want to get super clear about what works for you. From there, it's crucial to work on the parts of you that don't yet believe you deserve what you want so you sabotage yourself. You set the standard and boundaries for the way people handle you. Treat yourself so well that anytime you're treated contrary to what is your norm or standard, you can course correct. You'll be waiting a long time hoping for others to validate your importance in the world. So, first start with you! Listen in now for a little taste of what's included in the DWAF course and use these tools to date well and live even better.

Watch the conversation on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/q0UCIcyouak

Discover the best types of partners for you with the "What Type Dater Are You?" Quiz: https://bit.ly/dwafquiz

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KEY POINTS:

• Be intentional with how you treat and love yourself.

• Set the standard for how people treat you.

• Identify what you love about yourself and work on ways to show self-appreciation.

• Learn to be vulnerable about your journey and tell yourself the truth.

QUOTABLES:

"If you do not believe that you are worthy of good things, you begin to attract things and people that do not treat you well."

"Replace negative self-talk with positivity."

"Learn yourself so that you can choose your partner and not settle for being chosen."

"Set boundaries and standards that you are able to maintain as well."

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | instagram.com/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

RESOURCES:

For more info, visit: http://triggeredafpodcast.com

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May all your delulu come trululu. In the episode of "Using Delusion to Create an Inspired Life," we focus on the power in transforming your reality through astronomical thinking. Delusion is essential in shifting your mindset. You cannot allow the expectations and opinions of others to dictate your life and the vast opportunities it holds. Everyone has different experiences in life, and there is no right or wrong answer in these experiences. Another person's experience – although true for and to them – does not have to be your reality. Create a delusion that is supportive of your purpose regardless of what others think you may or may not be able to accomplish. Remember, your delusion serves as an armor for your dreams.

Watch the interview on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/M-QQGRGgRJ4

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KEY POINTS:

• Another person's experience does not have to be your reality.

• You are in control of your destination.

• Breathing is your permission slip to try again each day.

• It is not everyone's responsibility to feed into your delusion.

• Your delusion serves as an armor for your dreams.

QUOTABLES:

"You decide what your reality is."

"There are endless possibilities and opportunities in this life."

"Use delusion to create the life you want!"

"It is important to not be constantly seeking validation, but if you must seek validation do so for the favorite version of yourself."

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | instagram.com/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

RESOURCES:

For more info, visit: http://triggeredafpodcast.com

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In the "How to Improve your Money Mindset" episode, former Wall Street analyst and founder of Empify, Ashley M. Fox, describes how simply putting yourself in certain spaces can create the opportunity to expand your life. You must create an abundant mindset in order to attract abundance. We attract who we are and not what we want; therefore, training your mind to believe you are worthy of things is essential to accomplishing your goals. Ashley dives into the alignment of priorities in order to create generational wealth and invest in your future. Those that are wealthy subscribe to the mentality that they are deserving of wealth. You must feel like you are worthy of the lifestyle that you desire to bring it to fruition.

KEY POINTS:

• You have to put yourself in uncomfortable places to become comfortable.

• Trust that you know yourself better than anyone else.

• Do not allow others' stories or experiences to determine your reality.

• Remove the psychological blocks and words from your mind that hold you back.

• Wealth does not have a benchmark.

• Investing is not an option, it is a standard.

QUOTABLES:

"You don't attract what you want, you attract who you are."

"Your talent can get you into places that your character can kick you out of."

"If you have the money to spend on a company, you have enough money to invest."

"Learn the rules so you can break them like an artist."

"You cannot save your way to wealth."

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:

Ashley M Fox.

Website | https://www.empify.com

IG | https://www.instagram.com/_ashleymfox

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | instagram.com/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

RESOURCES:

For more info, visit: http://triggeredafpodcast.com

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Watch the interview on YouTube: https://youtu.be/KrcQV6eHQL4

In the "What Self Love Looks Like in IRL" episode, Triggered AF co-hosts got even more honest about the flaws they're still working through and the actions they're taking to work through them. It is absolutely okay to decide exactly what works for you and stand in that. Alechia and Dani got very real and provided a number of practical solutions and tools that can be used to overcome the challenges our flaws present.

SPONSORED BY:

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KEY POINTS:

• Some things that we sometimes see as flaws aren't always flaws. Sometimes it just won't work in the space we're trying to put it in.

• Way too many people say they're "working on it," and yet take no actionable steps to actually work on it.

• Many times we revert, the goal is to determine what you do after you revert.

QUOTABLES:

"It can be very difficult to submit after so many years of having to figure it out on our own."

"America has hardened women, so many of them think they have to leave in order to be soft."

"We're all trying to figure out a new normal and it can cause a lot of head butting."

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | instagram.com/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

RESOURCES:

For more info, visit: http://triggeredafpodcast.com

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This episode is a little different and was hosted with a studio audience in New York, NY at Brace Life Studio. Conversing with Nikkia McClain, Unique Matthews, and Amber Lee Forrester at Triggered AF's first live event, The Evolve Experience, was hilariously open, honest, and perspective shifting. Each of these dynamic women provided tools to help us identify and move through the blockages that keep us stuck. It is absolutely ok to wake up and decide that you want to create a better version of yourself. And identifying and addressing the past experiences that helped create these blockages is the first step to overcoming them.

We are powerful enough to recreate our own reality and rewire our thought process. The mental blockages connected to certain things and people serve as reminders for the work we still need to do. Remember, stop advocating for your limitations. Hold yourself accountable and take actions that enable you to evolve.

KEY POINTS:

• Recognize what you want to change and what triggers those unhealthy habits.

• Find ways to release the suppressed energy inside of you. Create conscious changes that compliment healthier habits.

• Make decisions to adjust the things you internalize rather than completely eliminating the things that satisfy you.

QUOTABLES:

"Many of our relationships are mirrors of who we are"

"Either you'll pay now or you'll pay later."

"Stop advocating for your limitations!"

"Forget everything you thought you knew about food and be willing to start over."

CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTS:

Nikkia McClain

IG | https://instagram.com/nikkiamcclain

IG | https://www.instagram.com/tenenicole/

IG | https://www.instagram.com/supportyourgirlfriends/

Unique Matthews

IG | https://instagram.com/amorunique__

IG | https://www.instagram.com/eatinncheat

Amber Lee Forrester

IG | https://www.instagram.com/theflowcoach

IG | https://www.instagram.com/quartzwellness

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | instagram.com/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

RESOURCES:

For more info, visit: http://triggeredafpodcast.com

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Watch the conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/gcYEcUB8-bI