Triggered AF

At Triggered AF, we love discussions around business and money, but we don't have enough of them. Especially as women, we get afraid to talk about how we're showing up and the steps we need to take to create and build lives that feel, look, and nourish us financially.

So in this episode, conversion copyrighter Tori Autumn discusses how she helps business owners, particularly women, make money and get to the bag. From how storytelling can move people to want to take action to the "power of one," tap into the apprehensions and fears keeping you from embodying your full self in business and learn to overcome them with Tori Autumn.

KEY POINTS:

• How to overcome the fear of showing up
• Learning to be comfortable as your authentic self in business
• 4 mental blocks stopping us from being visible
• What does a real marketing strategy look like?
• Moving past and through imposter syndrome
• Tips to transform followers into customers

QUOTABLES:

"I'm not self-made. I'm community mate." - Tori Autumn

"What truly fuels impostor syndrome is just the inner critic voice that's giving you proof. And proof, what it really is, is just a belief. And a belief, it's not a fact." - Tori Autumn

GUEST RESOURCES:

Tori Autumn

heytoriautumn.com

IG | instagram.com/heytoriautumn

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S6 EP8: Church and Trauma | Pamela Merritt

Skirts below the knee. No jewelry, accessories, or makeup. Stockings in bed and no relaxing your hair. Does this sound familiar?

For those raised in the church like Alechi, Dani, and their guest - religious trauma healer Pamela Merritt, this conversation is for you. Tune in as Pamela discusses church hurt versus trauma, how the Black community embodies religion, and the often confusing emotions around sex and religion. And be sure to lean in for her advice for reimagining your faith and reconnecting to the divine outside the church.

KEY POINTS:

• Why is church membership dramatically dropping?
• Is the rise in community violence correlated with the lack of connection to spirituality?
• Do we need the church to teach us accountability and structure?
• The positive benefits of the church
• What trauma looks like and how it's perpetuated from the pulpit
• How to nourish your relationship with the divine outside of the church

QUOTABLES:

"For black church kids, we embody the music. We embody the feel of church. We embody the culture. We embody the community that Black church gives us. So when people come to me for religious trauma, consultations, and they are transitioning, what I'm helping them with is understanding that their religious space does not determine the structure that they have to their life." - Pamela Merritt

"Once you understand who you are and what your needs are and what your beliefs are, you can reimagine your connection with the divine in a different way." - Pamela Merritt

GUEST RESOURCES:

Pamela Merritt

holysmokesmovement.com

thefaithcommunity.org

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Today's guest is the epitome of consistency and the sentiment she believes in most? Stop playing yourself and start WERKing for what you want!

In this episode, special guest Koereyelle gets triggered as she explains how you can uplevel your life without having to choose between the money and the honey. Listen in as she urges you to admit what you really desire and stop basing your life decisions on what someone else thinks you should do or expects you to do.

Stop playing with your potential and tune in to this bold episode of Triggered AF with Koereyelle!

KEY POINTS:

- Living in radical accountability

- How to stop playing yourself and stand in your standards

- Teach people how to treat you by how you treat yourself

- Do you know your value? Or are you underselling yourself?

- Challenges in curating your circle

- The effects of stepping into motherhood

QUOTABLES:

"I think the biggest mistake that we are making is not even being honest with ourselves about what we want." - Koereyelle

"We get the thing, we do the thing, we accomplish the thing, we got the title, we got the degree, we got whatever, and then we're still not happy. But a lot of times, it's because you're making decisions based on somebody else's opinion." - Koereyelle

GUEST RESOURCES:

Koereyelle

IG | instagram.com/koereyelle

Watch or listen to the Girl Stop Playin' Talk Show on all major streaming platforms!

YT | youtube.com/c/koereyelle

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Once we hit a certain age or phase in life, a lot of us begin to restrict ourselves, believing some things are just off-limits. From motherhood to dating to starting over in our careers, we are counting ourselves out. But why?!

In this episode, business coach and CEO of Built To Impact, Maya Elious, discusses why it's never too late to be exactly who you are destined to be! We just need to be a little bit delusional, a tad more accepting, and a lot more mindful. So tune in, get uncomfortable, and start shifting your perspective to believe in new opportunities at every stage, every phase, and every age of your life!

KEY POINTS:

- Are you counting yourself out too early?

- Finding a balance between delusion and acceptance

- "Sometimes we fight so hard to keep our limitations."

- How to start trusting your own voice

- Why you need to be mindful of who you get advice from

- Navigating dating in different phases of life

- Stop limiting your abundance!

QUOTABLES:

"If you have breath in your lungs, you have purpose in your life, and you are valuable." - Maya Elious

​​"There are some things that are possible. But is it purposeful? I think we need to really just ask ourselves, what is God's purpose for me right now in this season?" - Maya Elious

"You will eat yourself alive trying to live in regret and stay in a situation so long because you feel like you've invested all of this time." - Maya Elious

GUEST RESOURCES:

Maya Elious

Mayaelious.com

IG | instagram.com/mayaelious

IG | instagram.com/builttoimpact

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For many people, especially those of color, we're taught never to show our underbelly - never to move forward with anything until it's perfect. It's almost ingrained in us to wait for perfection before we make a move, which, in reality, only results in delays and sometimes even forfeitures. So how can we get out of our own way and stop waiting for perfection?

In this episode, author and award-winning journalist L'Oreal Thompson Payton gets triggered as she talks about what it means to wait for perfect, how it affects us, how it shows up in our lives, and what we can do about it. From her fertility journey to COVID lockdowns to writing her first book, tune in as L'Oreal shares her experiences with perfectionism, and when it hurt her as well as served her.

KEY POINTS:

- How L'Oreal's fertility journey taught her to release control

- Steps to overcome the need for perfection

- The connection between procrastination and perfection

- "Done is better than perfect."

- Releasing perfectionism in your relationships

- Why we need to learn how to rest

- Can perfectionism ever be useful?

QUOTABLES:

"You can't control life. You can do your best, and you can show up, and you can try again. But you can't be perfect all the time. Nor should you." - L'Oreal Thompson Payton

"Perfect is the enemy of good. As Black women, we have been conditioned from the womb to work twice as hard to get half as much." - L'Oreal Thompson Payton

GUEST RESOURCES:

L'Oreal Thompson Payton

ltinthecity.com

IG | instagram.com/ltinthecity

Twitter | twitter.com/LTintheCity

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Chrissy King spent nearly a decade of her life yo-yo dieting and being consumed by her weight, equating her worth with her appearance. But when Chrissy finally reached her smallest size and strongest body, she was the most miserable she had ever been as an adult. And with this, The Body Liberation Project was born.

Taking back control of the narrative around our bodies, tune in as Chrissy and your Triggered hosts share their experiences with body image, self-worth, and how you can become so liberated in your body that it becomes a force for good.

KEY POINTS:

- How the Eurocentric standard of beauty has affected the way we see ourselves

- The rise of diet culture and the quick-fix mentality

- Why we need to be mindful and curate our social media following

- Steps to repair our sense of self-worth

- What inspired The Body Liberation movement?

- Is size a real metric of health?

QUOTABLES:

"Body image is not a one-time situation. It's something that is a lifelong journey, especially because we're going to keep getting these messages that tell us something is wrong with us." -Chrissy King

"If we are deriving our worthiness simply on how we look, it's impossible to feel worthy because this physical vessel is just the thing that's allowing us to have a human experience. And this vessel is going to change, regardless if we want it to or not." -Chrissy King

GUEST RESOURCES:

Chrissy King

Chrissyking.com

IG | instagram.com/iamchrissyking

FB | facebook.com/ChrissyKingFitness

Twitter | twitter.com/iamchrissyking

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The idea of surrendering or relinquishing control can be scary for a lot of us. Especially after COVID, when many of our senses of identity were shaken - losing jobs, loved ones, and things we long identified with. So in this episode, transformational speaker, visionary, and guide Kute Blackson gets triggered as he debunks the misconception of surrender and reveals its true magic.

Tune in as Kute invites you to let go and release expectations, goals, and visions that do not genuinely align with your soul. And to understand that when things don't go according to plan, this is the true love of the universe.

KEY POINTS:

- How to release unaligned expectations and identities

- "You cannot miss your destiny."

- Learning to trust divine timing

- Allow yourself time to grieve what was in order to move on

- The role of our ego versus our soul

- When things don't work out, get curious

- Why surrender is the most powerful thing we can do

- What does true surrender look like?

QUOTABLES:

"Sometimes the goal itself that we're pursuing is not necessarily truly authentic with what is in alignment for our soul, the highest intention. And so sometimes things don't manifest, because, to me, this is the universe's way of course correcting you to dig deeper." - Kute Blackson

"Surrender is the password to freedom. Surrender, for me, is the key to the next level of life. Surrender is the real secret to true, limitless manifestation." - Kute Blackson

"I believe that when you follow your soul, and you truly surrender without conditions, you will always end up in the right place." - Kute Blackson

GUEST RESOURCES:

Kute Blackson

Kuteblackson.com

boundlessblissbali.com

IG | instagram.com/kuteblackson

FB | facebook.com/kuteblackson

Find The Magic of Surrender book on Amazon: amazon.com/Magic-Surrender-Finding-Courage-Let-ebook

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"Your boyfriend is keeping you from your husband sis!"

In this episode, Alechia and Dani want you to start dating well AF. And for that to happen, it's time to get choosy!

Now we aren't talking about out-of-this-world expectations or superficial and unrealistic standards. In this episode, your Triggered hosts ask you to get intentional and dive into what it takes to get the partner you desire and know you have the power to do so.

So lean in and take notes. It's time to get clear on what you want and stand in the power to get it!

KEY POINTS:

- Is there a time limit on how long it takes to get married?

- How and when do you communicate your desires in a relationship?

- Being vocal versus thirsty

- What does it really mean to get choosy?

- Get clear on your must-haves, nice-to-haves, and non-negotiables

- "If he wants to, he will"

QUOTABLES:

"I don't believe in the float. I float in water, not in my relationships."

"If you want to be married, if you want a serious, committed relationship, don't be afraid to vocalize that for fear of losing something that you don't have anyways."

"You have to get clear. Clarity informs your decisions, and your decisions inform your choices. And that is how you get what you want, ultimately."

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As much as we talk about vulnerability, your Triggered AF ladies have never dedicated an episode to their own insecurities. So to kick off Season 6, Alechia and Dani get honest about some of their personal struggles and things they've had to work through in hopes of helping you do the same.

So join the conversation as your hosts pull back the curtain and acknowledge some of their very real insecurities on their path to understanding and overcoming them.

KEY POINTS:

- Are you insecure or do you have insecurities?

- Alechia and Dani share their insecurities

- Is your circle feeding your insecurities?

- Acknowledging and overcoming your insecurities

QUOTABLES:

"The main thing is not to let your insecurities rule and control and debilitate you. That is the main problem. We all have them. But some of us are wallowing in insecure waters at all times."

"At some point, it can't just be everybody else's fault. At some point, I am going to do one thing or something to help change what my experience will be."

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Trauma can bring us an immense amount of pain, but it can also be a beautiful gift if we allow it to be. In this Season Finale episode of Triggered AF, Alechia and Dani welcome Phoenix Jackson, an impact entrepreneur and strategist, to talk about trauma in a different light. Tune in as Phoenix shares her personal journey of healing and spirituality, leaving the environments that caused her trauma, studying different spiritual systems, and ultimately finding Buddhism as the one that forced her to dive into herself. Discover the power of meditation and self-reflection in healing, and the need for forgiveness as Phoenix shares how she used her trauma as a gift to transform her life. So join in on the conversation as your hosts & Phoenix offer a fresh perspective on trauma and the ways in which it can be used as a tool for growth and transformation. KEY POINTS: - Trauma as an opportunity for growth and transformation - Tapping into the power of Sisterhood and female friendships - Defining ourselves beyond external titles and accolades - Having a trusted advisor or consigliere when navigating personal and professional challenges. - Removing yourself from unhealthy environments and seeking alternative spiritual paths - The difficult and unglamorous journey of confronting and processing trauma QUOTABLES:

"Real healing is simply sitting in the energy that is stuck within your body...it's like dissecting all of that to sit with your own self. That's healing and that is never pretty."

"What do you get out of trauma? What is the gift? And if you cannot avoid it, how can you get something positive out of it that transforms your life?"

"The biggest lesson for me is that when we're in a state of transition or change, it's important to be still and listen to our intuition and inner voice."

GUEST RESOURCES:

Phoenix Jackson

IG | @phoenix_jackson_ instagram.com/phoenix_jackson_

https://hy.page/phoenixaffect

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