Triggered AF

In "The Road Less Traveled" episode, Caryn Ward Ross, award-winning award-winning actress, producer, and writer emphasized that sometimes you figure out who you are by figuring out who you are not. As the founder of Main Character Energy University and the creator of the transformative (Re) Write Your Life Story Method™️, she encouraged us to allow yourself the space and grace to figure out who you are not because it fine-tunes who you are supposed to be. When no one chooses you, you choose you. Failure is not final, and as long as you're living you have another opportunity to create a life that works for you. Our pain is not just for us. When we master and come through it, we become a distribution site for healing and transformation for other people. Use your insight to hold the vision of who you are and don't always lean into your eyesight — that's holding the vision of who you are.

KEY POINTS:

• Sometimes we discover more of who we are by experiencing who we are not.

• When it's now or never, choose now.

• When you allow others to dictate your life, you become a supporting character in your own life.

• Hold the vision of who you are! That's insight, not eyesight.

QUOTABLES:

"Sometimes we discover more of who we are by experiencing who we are not."

"If you're not willing to fail and mess up how will you know when it looks and feels right?"

"If it's going to be then it's up to me."

"Our pain is not just for us. When we master and come through it, we become a distribution site for healing and transformation for other people."

Watch the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/mws0FYaBMvg

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:

Caryn Ward Ross

Website | https://www.main-character-energy.com/maincharacterpower

IG | https://www.instagram.com/carynwardross

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | instagram.com/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

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In the "How to Have a Better Relationship" episode, the founder of Brace Life Studios, Robert Brace, gave tools to help us navigate the challenges that come with romantic relationships. No one teaches you how to be a good partner and way too many of us are just winging it.

This conversation helps to provide the tools to show up as better people for our partners. Getting curious and putting our ego to bed in order to communicate more effectively sounds easy, but has been proven to trip many of us up. Healthy relationships don't happen by accident, nor do they happen overnight, our commitment to it changes the experience.

KEY POINTS:

• Once we get in our own heads it's easy to confirm whatever bias we have in our minds.

• If you're judging while your partner is explaining how they're feeling then your energy is spent on your judgment versus the curiosity of why they feel the way they do.

• Feeling like a simp a lot of times comes from the feeling of having to keep doing without ever receiving also.

• Lay your ego down and remain curious.

• When you dismiss your partner's effort it shuts them down and makes them less available to you emotionally.

• Natural is whatever you decide it to be.

QUOTABLES:

"Depth requires energy. Take the time to replenish yourself."

"Learn to listen through your own judgment."

"Stay curious because that's when you begin to better understand each other."

"If you want something that's going to last and go deep you're going to have to make some commitments to it."

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:

Robert Brace

Website | http://bracelifestudios.com

IG | https://www.instagram.com/robertbrace

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | instagram.com/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

RESOURCES:

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Triggered AF Podcast is produced by Triggered Media Group.

In the "How to End Your Fight With Food" episode, the founder of Escape from Emotional Eating, Jessica Procini, provides tools to tackle one of America's most prevalent issues today – our food. Our relationship with food exists on a spectrum – whether we're using it in a healthy way or abusing it. Taking steps to bridge the gap between your relationship with food right now and your ideal relationship with food is more effective than measuring food by quantity.

Food affects both the mental and physical aspects of our life, and the goal is to become an expert on yourself. We get so caught up in the 'what are we eating?' and judging that, but the stuff behind the what and the relationship we have with food is where we begin to transform and change.

KEY POINTS:

• Taking steps to bridge the gap between your relationship with food right now and your ideal relationship with food is more effective than measuring food by quantity.

• The root of emotional eating is usually connected to deeper issues.

• Identifying your current relationship and your ideal relationship with food is the beginning of creating healthier eating habits.

• What we eat and how we eat are connected to different parts of our lives.

QUOTABLES:

"Food is just a symptom. We have to be willing to go beyond it to heal [the problem]."

"Issues with food have very little to do with food itself and more to do with our patterns and habits."

"Our relationship with food and our relationship with ourselves is a long term journey."

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:

Jessica Procini

Website | http://innerwork.me

IG | https://www.instagram.com/jessprocini/

FB | https://www.facebook.com/jprocini

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | instagram.com/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

RESOURCES:

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YouTube: https://youtu.be/vcPgR9yCfs8

"In order to experience true joy, it also means that we have to experience this variety of emotions." This episode is a little different and was hosted with a studio audience in New York, NY at Brace Life Studio. Conversing with Dr. Jennifer Mullan, of Decolonizing Therapy at Triggered AF's first live event, The Evolve Experience, was life-altering. Dr. Jennifer helped us to begin to unpack the different ways to identify and release our rage. It is essential to acknowledge what is and be intentional about finding places and spaces where you can be revitalized.

Sometimes rage gets a bad rap. There are different layers of rage and acknowledging ways to rejuvenate yourself so that these past experiences are not controlling us is vital. Find ways to include compassion and grace within your life's experiences that may trigger rage. Learning how to release your rage in healthy ways helps you to remain in control.

KEY POINTS:

• Events like colonization and historical trauma have an impact on everything and everyone surrounding us. Most traumatic events are associated with these events. The lack of love and affection we all deserve is missing from our everyday lives. If a situation begins controlling you, remove yourself before it escalates.

• When trauma happens it didn't just verbally happen, your body had a response and it keeps the score. And if it's keeping score it needs a way to release some of that pain in order for it to start to heal.

• Anything related to trauma is like a mirror being held. And it requires people to self-reflect and not everyone is ready to look at things that are buried or are painful so it's important to meet people where they are.

• Anxiety, panic attacks, depression, and illness manifests when we keep swallowing our emotions versus having a conversation or admitting we need help.

QUOTABLES:

• "Find ways to release rage in a healthy manner."

• "We do better together than separated"

• "The stigma of people thinking we're weak many times keeps us from seeking or asking for help."

• "Don't only just stuck in what feels good or bypassing [your emotions] and jumping to what feels good."

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:

Dr. Jennifer Mullan

Website | http://decolonizingtherapy.com

IG | https://instagram.com/decolonizingtherapy

FB | https://facebook.com/DecolonizingTherapy

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching, visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | instagram.com/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching, visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

RESOURCES:

For more info, visit: http://triggeredafpodcast.com

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In the "Managing Your Anxiety as an Entrepreneur" episode, Jackie P. Taylor gave us the tools to stay in the game while growing your business or advancing professionally. Creating a balance within sets the tone for external relationships. You are the most important asset in your life. Your evolution requires you to prioritize your mental health and integrate your wants and needs into your schedule. Finding balance between our personal and professional life helps you see clearer.

Prioritize yourself as an asset in your life. You need time for you. That way you are able to reset and add value to others. You cannot function on empty. It is important to learn your triggers and energizers, so that you are in control of yourself and not being controlled by external factors.

KEY POINTS:

– There are highs and lows in life and it is important to embrace stress, but it should never remain a constant factor in your everyday life.

– Use the resources and guidance around you to elevate in any way possible.

– Developing strategic relationships is NOT a bad thing. Create relationships with those that can benefit you and be willing to also provide a benefit to them as well.

QUOTABLES:

– "Treat your personal life and your health the same way you would any other asset in your life."

– "Embrace Stress."

– "A solocation is just as important as a group vacation"

– "When you learn something, implement immediately"

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:

Jackie P. Taylor

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jackieptaylor/

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/thehrexpert

"Give Me A Boost" Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1955107815?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_QZ4YY4EAA0GKQK11SX9Q

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

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LinkedIn | linkedin.com/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

RESOURCES:

For more info, visit: http://triggeredafpodcast.com

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In the "The Unspoken Stressors of Being a Stepparent" episode, children's book author, Jennie Guay, helps us break down the complexities of being a step-parent. Being intentional about creating healthy spaces as a step-parent is the basis of the relationship. Every parent and step-parent has their unique set of parenting tactics; however, all tactics must benefit and protect the child.

Having open discussions on the role you'll play and the dynamic of each parent is vitally important to the continued success of any step parent journey. Not only is communication important for all adults involved, but it is essential to create a space for the child to communicate their feelings.

Learning how to manage your frustrations connected to parenting starts with healthy communication. It's imperative to understand if you have trouble managing your own emotions, you will struggle as a stepparent. You will need to find ways and tools to manage your stress on a daily basis.

SPONSORED BY:

Dating Well AF Course, visit to learn more: http://datingwellaf.com

KEY POINTS:

• Deciding what you agree "bad" parenting looks like is a great place to start when coming into agreement on parent styles with multiple parents. If you can get on the same page as to what you agree is bad, ensuring there are no negative implications on the children, then you can get on board with each other. If you all agree on the wrong way then that's a strong position to start from.

• Identify the parenting methods that are not acceptable for your family unit, agree on those as a unit, and consistently reinforce those with your child(ren).

• You cannot tell children what to think, but you can teach them how to think.

• If you have trouble managing your own emotions, you will struggle as a stepparent. You will need to find ways and tools to manage your stress on a daily basis.

• Knowing how to teach your child instead of telling them what to do will benefit them most in the future.

QUOTABLES:

• "There is no right way to parent, but there is a wrong way."

• "It is important to allow children to have choices and avenues to communicate their feelings."

• Children go on feeling, not just the title of mom and dad.

• "You cannot tell children what to think, but you can teach them how to think."

• "Sometimes our own coping mechanisms can work against the connection with our children."

• "It can be challenging to be a better person for a child you may not have had otherwise."

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:

Jennie Guay

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/jennie-guay-77720219

"Howie Blend - Playdate Adventures with Family & Friends" Book: https://www.amazon.com/Howie-Blend-Playdate-Adventures-Friends-ebook/dp/B099GRSWKM

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | instagram.com/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

RESOURCES:

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In the "Things My Mother Did Right" episode, your Triggered AF Podcast hosts explore how to overcome the hurt experienced by your mother. No one is perfect and mommy wounds - much like church hurt - can cut deep! Those childhood experiences can still affect our lives today. Some of us had some really crappy, mean, broken, and downright evil mothers … and still, there's something about them raising us that made us who we are.

This episode explores the gifts and the pain caused by our mothers and how shifting our perspective can bring about true healing. Figuring out how your childhood experiences are connected to your trauma helps you better understand how to make healthier choices. Your habits and cycles are inherited from your parents and those who raise us, but we get to decide how much of an effect they have on our lives.

SPONSORED BY:

Dating Well AF Course, visit to learn more: http://datingwellaf.com

KEY POINTS:

• Understanding our mothers were simply women having a human experience helps us to remove our expectations and requirements to free ourselves from what we hoped they would be for and to us.

• Apologizing to your children is an important part of parenting. Learning how to communicate with your child is an essential part of parenting. There's nothing wrong with seeking help from a therapist to guide you through traumatic experiences. Healing is a timeless journey.

• Cultivate a community to reparent that inner child. So many of us are stuck at the place and in the stage where the trauma happened. Stop moving, living, and operating from a space that's not even who you really are. Don't condemn yourself to a life of misery. You can change.

QUOTABLES:

• "Slow progress is still progress."

• "It is ok to acknowledge when you are wrong and apologize."

• "Children pay more attention to what you do than what you say."

• "If you have to isolate your mother or parents for your own sanity, do it from a place of power, not a place of pain, frustration, bitterness, and resentment."

• "Check in with yourself to determine what type of boundaries you may need to put in place for your protection."

• "Sometimes their reactions to you aren't solely about you. Sometimes that's just who they are."

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

For coaching visit: http://gotvaluenation.com

Instagram | instagram.com/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

For coaching visit: http://danifostercoaching.com

Instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

RESOURCES:

For more info, visit: http://triggeredafpodcast.com

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In this episode, your Triggered hosts discuss another dope topic that doesn't get talked about enough - adoption. And here to answer some of the questions many want to ask but few have the access or ability to, Alechia and Dani welcome Erin Quick - founder of PairTree and self-described modern adoption advocate.

Discussing the realities of adoption as opposed to what we may hear on the grapevine, tune in as Erin debunks common adoption misconceptions, shares her own dark days of infertility, and why her jaw-dropped when she went through the adoption process.

KEY POINTS:

• The jaw-dropping realities of the adoption process
• Steps to navigate the grief that comes with infertility
• Challenges of transracial adoption and resources to overcome them
• Do Black families adopt? Debunking the myth
• Common misconceptions around adoption
• What is "adoptive parent guilt"?

QUOTABLES:

"When you get pregnant, and then when you lose a baby, it's one of the darkest times and it's not talked about, and it's there. When you do talk about it, you realize you're actually part of a gigantic club." - Erin Quick

GUEST RESOURCES:

Erin Quick

Pairtreefamily.com

IG | instagram.com/pairtreefamily

FB | facebook.com/PairTreeFamily

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"Perfectionism is for basic bitches."

In this episode, recovering perfectionist and founder of Perfectaholic, Crystal Love, wants you to say goodbye to perfectionism and hello to the good life. Sharing how she was forced to let go of perfectionism, tune in as Crystal speaks to what pain can teach us, what it means to be this AND that, and how we can start to accept and embrace all the messy parts of our own journey.

KEY POINTS:

• Accepting "both and all" parts of you
• Steps to embrace yourself through the chaos
• Boundaries, saying no, and taking time for yourself
• How to release the desire for control
• The "what if" to "even if" method for getting out of your head

QUOTABLES:

"The truth hurts. It especially hurts when that truth is coming from yourself. And you have to be ready to accept that pain." - Crystal Love

"Most things that are beautiful are not perfect. They're broken. They're flawed." - Crystal Love

GUEST RESOURCES:

Crystal Love

perfectaholic.com

IG | instagram.com/aperfectaholic

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Fear is a Friend with Tonya Rapley

In this episode, Alechia and Dani talk about the one thing that trips up every single one of us, whether male, female, black, white, orange, or purple - FEAR. At some point, every human has to deal with fear. Fear of failure. Fear of the unknown. Fear of….But how can we reframe our relationship with fear so it can go from being our enemy to something we can leverage and utilize as a friend?

Tune in as mompreneur and founder of My Fab Finance, Tonya Rapley, shares the importance of trusting your intuition, how she uses fear as a catalyst, and the steps you can take to shift your defaults and habits to live a life NOT rooted in fear.

KEY POINTS:

• How Tonya learned to move and work through fear
• Building your fear muscle
• Ask yourself: What's the worst that can happen if I fail?
• Tips to override and rewire deep innate fear
• Your intuition is your superpower
• Why you need to get clear on your core values

QUOTABLES:

"Every extraordinary thing is on the other side of fear." - Alechia Reese

"The more that I tried and the more that I faced fear and the more that I was successful, made me more fearless. And I think that we expect to be fearless without trying ourselves." - Tonya Rapley

GUEST RESOURCES:

Tonya Rapley

Tonyarapley.com

IG | instagram.com/tonya.rapley

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