Can you keep a guy interested without having sex with him? Spoiler: YES. 💋In this episode, we’re talking about how to build attraction, chemistry, emotional connection, and sexual tension without ever feeling like you have to cross your own boundaries to keep someone around.We get into the difference between a guy genuinely liking *you* versus simply wanting something physical, how to create anticipation without sex, and what to say when someone starts pressuring you or making you feel guilty for saying no. Because your boundaries aren't something you have to earn the right to have—and the right person isn't going to require you to abandon them just to keep their attention.Then we answer some of your questions about waiting until marriage, first kisses, guys with different expectations around physical intimacy, confusing touch, consent, and knowing when a situation needs to be brought to a trusted adult. We also talk about recognizing when someone is testing your boundaries and why you're ALWAYS allowed to say no, change your mind, or leave—even if you previously said yes.And obviously, we had to put ourselves to the test with STAY, WALK, OR TALK IT OUT: What if he respects your no immediately? Keeps asking after you've said no? Hits you with the dreaded “if you loved me, you would”? Supports your decision to wait? Gets annoyed when you set a boundary? We're giving our verdict on all of it.Whether you're waiting until marriage, waiting for the right person, not ready yet, or simply don't want to—you never owe someone access to your body to earn their love or attention.The person who's right for you won't need you to sacrifice your boundaries to keep them interested. 💗Welcome back, queens. Let's talk about it.

My twin KJ and I tried something new: I read your DMs out loud and we both write our advice on a card — no peeking, no cheating — then reveal to see if twin telepathy is real or if we're actually two different people lol. This episode we get into a friend acting way too comfortable around a crush, a "joke" from a guy friend that actually hurt, the ick that keeps ruining my talking stages, and figuring out if a guy who's amazing in person but dry over text actually likes you. We also do story time on a theme park love triangle gone wrong, quick hits on cuddling and dead-end snap streaks, and our game "Would She Say It or Would I?" — guessing red flag vs. no big deal on stuff like liked exes' photos at 2am, "I don't like labels," and being told you're "not like other girls." Ending it soft with something I needed to hear during a hard season, in case you do too.

Send me your story or question — KJ and I might answer it blind on the next one.

DOUBLE TROUBLE IS OFFICIALLY HERE 😭🎀 KJ is now officially joining me as the co-host of the podcast, and I’m SO excited for this new era.

In this episode, we’re basically catching you up on everything going on in our lives right now — traveling, Nashville, cruises, New York Fashion Week, our upcoming Salem trip, our current Starbucks obsessions, and all of the random chaos happening behind the scenes.

But then we get into some of your questions, and girl… we cover A LOT.

We talk about intimacy, how past experiences can affect the way your body responds in relationships, somatic healing, learning to listen to yourself, and why there is absolutely NO timeline you need to follow when it comes to being intimate with someone. You never owe somebody access to you just because you’re dating them, because everyone else is doing it, or because you feel like you “should” be ready.

We also get into friendships and GIRL CODE 👀 — dating a friend’s ex, when something crosses a boundary, being honest with your friends even when they don’t necessarily want to hear it, and why I genuinely think female friendships are one of the most important relationships we can have in our lives.

Then we answer more of your college and relationship questions: how to tell if a guy actually has genuine intentions, red flags to watch for, dealing with homesickness, keeping long-distance friendships alive, and why having your own community and your own life makes dating SO much healthier.

This episode is basically girl talk, life updates, relationship advice, friendship advice, healing, college chaos, and KJ and I talking way too much all rolled into one. 😭💗

And I think one of the biggest reminders from this episode is this: you do not have to rush your life. Not intimacy. Not relationships. Not friendships. Not figuring yourself out. Listen to yourself, communicate, protect the relationships that genuinely pour into you, and let yourself grow at your own pace.

Love you girlies. Welcome to the new podcast era. 💋

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CHAPTERS
00:00 — Double Trouble Begins
03:02 — KJ Is Officially Joining the Podcast
05:58 — Life Updates + Our Recent Travels
08:58 — Starbucks Pumpkin Season Is HERE
11:55 — Nashville, Minnesota & Cruise Adventures
14:59 — New York Fashion Week + Our Salem Trip
17:53 — Answering Your Intimacy & Relationship Questions
19:24 — Somatic Healing, Trauma & Listening to Your Body
25:31 — Relationships, Boundaries & Communication
36:45 — Is This Violating Girl Code?
44:56 — Why Female Friendships Matter SO Much
46:32 — Dating & Relationships in College
53:07 — How to Deal With Homesickness
56:47 — Making Long-Distance Friendships Last
61:20 — How to Tell If His Intentions Are Genuine
64:00 — Closing Thoughts + What’s Coming Next

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High school dating is genuinely its own universe 😭💗 and in this episode, KJ and I are breaking down EVERYTHING I wish someone had explained to me when I was younger.

We’re talking about what high school boys are actually thinking, how to tell if a guy likes you, the different types of guys you’ll meet, first relationships, first kisses, communication, intimacy, peer pressure, trust, and all of the confusing little situations that feel like the end of the world when you’re experiencing them for the first time.

We also categorize the different types of high school boys — from the egomaniacs I would personally tell you to RUN from, to the shy kings, to my personal pick for an actual relationship: the nonchalant chiller guys. 😭

But more than anything, I want this episode to remind you that you do not have to rush your high school experience. You don't need a boyfriend just because your friends have one. You don't have to kiss someone because everyone else already has. And you NEVER have to become intimate with someone because you feel behind or pressured.

Your first experiences are YOURS. There is no timeline you need to follow.

We also talk about how important communication and trust are when you do get into a relationship, how to recognize when someone genuinely likes you, and why understanding your own boundaries is way more important than trying to impress a teenage boy who probably has approximately three thoughts bouncing around his head at any given moment. 💀

High school love can be exciting, dramatic, confusing, heartbreaking and SO fun all at once. Cherish it, learn from it, and please don't waste your entire high school experience trying to get one random boy to choose you.

Choose yourself first. 🎀

CHAPTERS
00:00 — Introduction + Album Update
04:55 — Dating in High School: What We Wish We Knew
14:52 — Understanding How High School Boys Think
25:03 — The Different Types of High School Boys
34:49 — Who Should You Actually Date?
35:18 — Intimacy, Trust & Communication
41:42 — Peer Pressure & Feeling “Behind”
45:29 — How to Tell if He Actually Likes You
48:01 — High School Dating: Would You Rather?
58:27 — Looking Back at Our High School Experiences

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College is one of the first times in your life where you suddenly have SO much freedom… and absolutely no idea what you’re supposed to do with it.

In this episode, I’m giving you all of the college advice I wish every girl heard before freshman year. We’re talking about making friends, finding your people, dating in college, hookup culture, partying safely, relationships, breakups, mental health, ADHD, confidence, and learning how to actually take care of yourself when you’re finally on your own.

I also want to talk about something I think gets forgotten in all the excitement around college: you do not have to lose yourself just because everyone around you is changing.

You don’t have to participate in hookup culture because everyone else is. You don’t have to party every night to have the “college experience.” You don’t have to stay friends with people who make you feel lonely. And you definitely don’t have to lower your standards just because dating in college can feel like the Wild West.

College is supposed to be a time where you figure out who YOU are — not a four-year audition to get everyone around you to like you.

So whether you’re an incoming freshman, already in college, or just entering a new chapter of independence, I hope this episode feels like having an older sister sitting down and telling you everything you actually need to know.

Welcome to your college era, girlie. Let’s make it a good one.

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Hi girlies!! 💕 In today's episode, we're talking all about friendships and how to find the girls who are actually meant to be in your life. I'm sharing everything I wish I knew about making friends in high school, recognizing friendship red flags, and learning how to trust your intuition when meeting new people. We'll talk about why you should never force a friendship, how to tell if someone is genuinely happy for you, and why protecting your peace is so much more important than fitting in. I also share my own experiences with friendships, what I learned from them, and why it's okay to outgrow people as you grow into the best version of yourself. If you've ever struggled with making friends, felt left out, or wondered if the people around you are really your people, this episode is for you. Grab your favorite drink, get comfy, and let's have a little big sister chat. I love you girls so much, and I hope this episode helps you find the friendships you truly deserve. 💗✨

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Hi girls!! 💕 In today's episode, we're having the ultimate big sister chat all about surviving (and thriving) in high school. Whether you're starting freshman year or heading back for another year, I'm sharing everything I wish someone had told me before I walked into school for the first time. We're talking about making new friends, outgrowing old ones, staying away from drama, navigating crushes and dating, getting good grades, building confidence, and creating a school year you'll actually look back on and love.

I also walk you through my 5-Day Back-to-School Glow Up Guide to help you reset your mindset, become your most confident self, and step into this school year feeling like that girl. We'll talk about romanticizing your life, building healthy habits, protecting your peace, putting yourself out there, and why the biggest glow up has nothing to do with changing who you are and everything to do with becoming more of yourself.

If you're feeling nervous about school starting, wondering how to make friends, or just need someone to remind you that you're going to be okay, this episode is for you. Grab your favorite drink, get comfy, and let's get ready to make this your best school year yet. I love you girls so much, and I'm so excited for this next chapter with you! 💌🎒✨

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In this episode, I'm catching you up on everything that's been going on, from my recent breakup to my vacation and all the life lessons I've learned along the way. I'm sharing what's helped me heal, how I've been navigating heartbreak, the mindset shifts that changed everything for me, and why this chapter has taught me so much about self-love, manifestation, and embracing new beginnings. If you're going through a breakup or just need a reminder that better things are ahead, this episode is for you.

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Have you ever wondered if having a roster actually helps your dating life... or if it's secretly making it harder to find a real connection?

In this episode, KJ and I are debating the pros and cons of having a roster and whether keeping your options open is actually the move. We talk about the psychology behind the paradox of choice, share our own dating experiences, and discuss why having too many options can sometimes leave you feeling even more confused.

We also get into emotional availability, self-worth, and whether people keep rosters because they're protecting their hearts or just avoiding commitment. Plus, we share our honest opinions on whether a roster helps you find the right person or keeps you from giving someone a real chance.

If you've ever had a roster, been on someone's roster, or you're just trying to figure out what actually works in dating, this episode is for you. 💗

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In this episode, I'm sharing my favorite tips for becoming more attractive by focusing on what truly matters on the inside. I talk about how building confidence, finding hobbies you genuinely love, taking care of yourself, and knowing your worth can completely change the way you show up in the world. I also share why gratitude has become such an important part of my life and how embracing your authentic self is the ultimate glow up. If you've ever wanted to feel more confident, radiant, and secure in who you are, this episode is for you. Let's work on becoming the best version of ourselves together because real beauty always starts from within.

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