Register for the FREE Relationship Capacity Masterclass here: https://www.interconnectedlove.com/capacity-masterclass

In this episode, we continue the conversation from our previous discussion about leaving relationships that no longer feel healthy or aligned. If you’ve ever wondered “Why didn’t they just leave?” or asked yourself that same question, this episode explores the deeper layers behind that struggle.

We unpack the invisible forces that can keep someone stuck — including low self-worth, unconscious beliefs about deserving love, social stigma, shame, and the confusion that can arise when a partner’s behavior keeps us emotionally hooked.

Together we explore:

• The internal beliefs that can make leaving feel impossible

• How confusion and mixed signals can keep us attached

• The role of shame and social expectations

• Why someone might choose to stay — and why they might decide to go

This episode offers compassion, clarity, and a deeper understanding of the complex emotional landscape of difficult relationships.

Resources:

—Want to discover what type of partner you attract and why?? Get your personal relationship roadmap at interconnectedlove.com

—Shop LOAM for all things good for you and the Earth www.shoploam.com

Connect with us!

—Subscribe to our YouTube Channel: ⁠youtube.com/@truenorthing

—Follow our Podcast Instagram: Instagram.com/@truenorthingpodcast

—Have A Question You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Send us a note to [email protected]  

Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or psychological advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician, therapist, or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concern. Never disregard professional advice or delay seeking it because of something you heard on this podcast.

Register for the FREE Relationship Capacity Masterclass here: https://www.interconnectedlove.com/capacity-masterclass

This week on True Northing, we’re talking about something so many mothers quietly carry:

Why do kids often take their emotions out on mom?Why is it that a child can be regulated, respectful, and “fine” everywhere else… only to unravel the moment they’re back with us?

In this episode, Kristen shares vulnerably about a real-life parenting challenge she’s navigating — loving a child who thrives in other environments but seems to save their biggest emotions just for her.

Together, we explore:

• Why moms often become the emotional landing place

• What dysregulation with a primary caregiver can actually signal

• The role of attachment and emotional safety

• What might be happening beneath the behavior

• How to parent through those hard, triggering moments without losing yourself

We talk about the tension of asking, “What am I missing?” while also learning to see these moments not as rejection — but as relationship.

If you’ve ever felt like you get the worst of your child while everyone else gets their best… this conversation is for you.

Resources:

—Want to discover what type of partner you attract and why?? Get your personal relationship roadmap at interconnectedlove.com

—Shop LOAM for all things good for you and the Earth www.shoploam.com

Connect with us!

—Subscribe to our YouTube Channel: ⁠youtube.com/@truenorthing

—Follow our Podcast Instagram: Instagram.com/@truenorthingpodcast

—Have A Question You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Send us a note to [email protected]  

Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or psychological advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician, therapist, or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concern. Never disregard professional advice or delay seeking it because of something you heard on this podcast.

Register for the FREE Relationship Capacity Masterclass here: https://www.interconnectedlove.com/capacity-masterclass

This week, we’re sharing what’s alive for us — the real-time lessons, themes, and initiations we’re currently moving through.

We explore what it means to live from the understanding that truth is love — not harshness, not performance, not self-protection — but love. We talk about the kind of truth that softens instead of hardens, and how alignment feels in the body when it’s rooted in love rather than fear.

We also dive into this reminder: your radiance is for you, no one else. What shifts when your expression isn’t for approval, validation, or impact — but simply because it’s true?

And finally, we sit inside the tension of the in-between. The space where clarity hasn’t arrived. Where transitions are happening, but direction isn’t fully formed. How do you live, decide, and trust yourself when the next step isn’t obvious?

This is a conversation about integration, becoming, and letting love lead — even (and especially) when the path isn’t clear.

Resources:—Want to discover what type of partner you attract and why?? Get your personal relationship roadmap at interconnectedlove.com—Shop LOAM for all things good for you and the Earth www.shoploam.com

Connect with us!—Subscribe to our YouTube Channel: ⁠youtube.com/@truenorthing—Follow our Podcast Instagram: Instagram.com/@truenorthingpodcast—Have A Question You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Send us a note to [email protected]  

Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or psychological advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician, therapist, or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concern. Never disregard professional advice or delay seeking it because of something you heard on this podcast.

Register for the FREE Relationship Capacity Masterclass here: https://www.interconnectedlove.com/capacity-masterclass

-----

Why is it so hard to leave a relationship — even when you know it’s not right?

In this episode, we explore the deep attachment and neurobiological forces that keep us bonded to partners long after the connection has become painful, confusing, or unfulfilling. You’ll learn how love impacts the brain, why breakups can feel like withdrawal, and how your nervous system can mistake familiar pain for safety.

But we go beyond the science.

We also look at the emotional patterns that may be quietly keeping you stuck — like trying to finally feel heard, accepting breadcrumbs because they feel familiar, or believing deep down that the love you truly want might not be available to you.

This conversation is an invitation to reflect, not judge. If you’ve ever wondered, “Why can’t I just walk away?” this episode will help you understand yourself with more compassion and clarity.

You’re not weak. You’re wired for connection. And understanding those wires can help you choose differently.

Resources:

—Want to discover what type of partner you attract and why?? Get your personal relationship roadmap at interconnectedlove.com / Use Code: TRUENORTH for $20 off

—Shop LOAM for all things good for you and the Earth www.shoploam.com

Connect with us!

—Subscribe to our YouTube Channel: ⁠youtube.com/@truenorthing

—Follow our Podcast Instagram: Instagram.com/@truenorthingpodcast

—Have A Question You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Send us a note to [email protected]  

Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or psychological advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician, therapist, or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concern. Never disregard professional advice or delay seeking it because of something you heard on this podcast.

Feeling overwhelmed, stuck in a hard season of life, or like everything is out of control? In this episode, we talk about how to stay grounded and emotionally steady when life feels chaotic and uncertain.

In this off-the-cuff episode of the True Northing Podcast, Kristen and Allison sit down for an honest conversation about what it feels like to live through “stormy seasons” of life.

Using the archetype of The Storm as a metaphor, they explore how chaos, uncertainty, and emotional upheaval often signal deep transformation — even when it just feels like everything is falling apart. They talk about the very real struggle of wanting control, the discomfort of surrender, and the emotional work of letting go of what no longer fits who we’re becoming.

The conversation weaves through personal growth, nervous system regulation, and the pressure many mothers feel to be the emotional anchor for everyone else — even while weathering their own internal storms. Kristen and Allison share reflections on finding moments of steadiness in unstable times, why self-care is actually a form of responsibility (not indulgence), and how community helps us remember we’re not meant to ride out hard seasons alone.

If you’ve been feeling stretched, unsettled, or in the middle of change you didn’t exactly sign up for, this episode is a reminder: storms reshape the landscape — and you’re not the only one learning how to stand in the rain.

Resources:

—Want to discover what type of partner you attract and why?? Get your personal relationship roadmap at interconnectedlove.com

—Shop LOAM for all things good for you and the Earth www.shoploam.com

Connect with us!

—Subscribe to our YouTube Channel: ⁠youtube.com/@truenorthing

—Follow our Podcast Instagram: Instagram.com/@truenorthingpodcast

—Have A Question You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Send us a note to [email protected]

Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or psychological advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician, therapist, or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concern. Never disregard professional advice or delay seeking it because of something you heard on this podcast.

In this episode of the True Northing Podcast, Kristen and Allison break down Shadow Work 101 — what your “shadow” actually is, how it forms, and why it plays such a big role in your relationships, triggers, and patterns.

They talk about how emotional and nervous system growth doesn’t always happen at the same pace as insight, and why real change requires more than just “knowing better.” You’ll learn how parts of yourself get pushed into the shadows (often because they once helped you survive), and how those hidden parts can quietly run the show in adulthood.

Kristen and Allison walk through:

• What shadow work really means (in practical, not mystical terms)

• Signs your shadow might be showing up — especially in your biggest triggers

• The cultural and gender messages that shape what we hide

• Why integrating your shadow leads to more authenticity, self-trust, and deeper connection

• Simple, realistic steps to start doing shadow work in everyday life

This episode is all about helping you move from self-judgment to self-understanding — so you can become not just your “best” self, but your whole self.

Resources:

—Want to discover what type of partner you attract and why?? Get your personal relationship roadmap at interconnectedlove.com

—Shop LOAM for all things good for you and the Earth www.shoploam.com

Connect with us!

—Subscribe to our YouTube Channel: ⁠youtube.com/@truenorthing

—Follow our Podcast Instagram: Instagram.com/@truenorthingpodcast

—Have A Question You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Send us a note to [email protected]  

Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or psychological advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician, therapist, or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concern. Never disregard professional advice or delay seeking it because of something you heard on this podcast.

Themes: shadow work, shadow work 101, what is shadow work, how to do shadow work, shadow self, carl jung shadow, jungian psychology, emotional triggers, why am I so triggered, self awareness, personal growth, healing journey, inner work, psychology explained, mental health podcast, therapy concepts, self discovery, emotional healing, inner child and shadow, relationship triggers, understanding yourself, trauma and the nervous system, psychological growth, authenticity and self acceptance, therapist podcast

The middle of change can feel disorienting, frustrating, and unproductive—but it’s actually where the most important work happens.

Kristen and Allison dive into the often-overlooked in-between phase: the shedding, the waiting, and the quiet preparation that precedes clarity. They discuss how energy cycles influence creativity, why patience is a spiritual practice, and how human design can help you move in alignment rather than force. This episode is a reminder that slowing down isn’t falling behind—it’s how you find your way forward.

Resources:

—Want to discover what type of partner you attract and why?? Get your personal relationship roadmap at interconnectedlove.com

—Shop LOAM for all things good for you and the Earth www.shoploam.com

Connect with us!

—Subscribe to our YouTube Channel: ⁠youtube.com/@truenorthing

—Follow our Podcast Instagram: Instagram.com/@truenorthingpodcast

—Have A Question You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Send us a note to [email protected]  

Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or psychological advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician, therapist, or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concern. Never disregard professional advice or delay seeking it because of something you heard on this podcast.

Themes: spiritual growth, life transitions, personal growth podcast, navigating uncertainty, patience in life, self care and rest, creative energy cycles, human design podcast, feeling stuck in life, clarity and purpose, trusting the process, emotional regulation, spiritual podcast, inner work journey, rest is progress, creativity and rest, self reflection practices, intuition and growth, alignment in life, transition seasons, spiritual self care, podcast for personal development, mindfulness and growth, preparation phase, embracing uncertainty

Perfectionism in parenting can unintentionally create anxiety—for both parents and children. In this episode, Allison breaks down the concept of the “good enough parent” and why mistakes, followed by repair, are essential for healthy emotional development.

You’ll learn how rupture and repair strengthen emotional resilience, how children learn conflict resolution through parental modeling, and why shielding kids from all discomfort can actually limit their growth. This conversation offers grounded parenting advice for navigating challenges with more compassion, clarity, and emotional capacity.

Resources:

—Want to discover your capacity level in relationship?? Get your personal relationship roadmap at interconnectedlove.com

—Shop LOAM for all things good for you and the Earth www.shoploam.com

Connect with us!

—Subscribe to our YouTube Channel: ⁠youtube.com/@truenorthing

—Follow our Podcast Instagram: Instagram.com/@truenorthingpodcast

—Have A Question You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Send us a note to [email protected]  

Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or psychological advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician, therapist, or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concern. Never disregard professional advice or delay seeking it because of something you heard on this podcast.

Themes: parenting podcast, good enough parenting, parenting perfectionism, emotional resilience for kids, rupture and repair parenting, gentle parenting, parenting advice, child emotional development, parenting challenges, emotional regulation skills, conflict resolution for parents, raising emotionally resilient children, mindful parenting, attachment parenting, parenting without perfection, emotional intelligence in children, repairing parent child relationship, conscious parenting, healthy family dynamics, parenting psychology, how to handle parenting mistakes, parenting mindset, emotional capacity parenting, real life parenting, modern parenting

Low capacity isn’t a personality flaw — it’s a nervous system state. In this episode of True Northing, we unpack what it really means to be a low capacity woman and why emotional overwhelm shows up the way it does.

Kristen and Allison explore emotional capacity through a nervous system lens, breaking down how low capacity develops, why it looks different in women and men, and how childhood environments and generational patterns shape our ability to tolerate emotion.

This episode covers:

• What “low emotional capacity” actually means

• Why some women become easily dysregulated or emotionally overwhelmed

• How low capacity shows up in relationships and communication

• How low capacity presents differently in women and men

• How awareness — not pressure — expands emotional capacity

If you’re navigating emotional overwhelm — in yourself or your relationships — this episode offers clarity, compassion, and a path forward.

Resources:

—Want to discover what type of partner you are and why?? Get your personal relationship roadmap at interconnectedlove.com

—Shop LOAM for all things good for you and the Earth www.shoploam.com

Connect with us!

—Subscribe to our YouTube Channel: ⁠youtube.com/@truenorthing

—Follow our Podcast Instagram: Instagram.com/@truenorthingpodcast

—Have A Question You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Send us a note to [email protected]  

Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or psychological advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician, therapist, or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concern. Never disregard professional advice or delay seeking it because of something you heard on this podcast.

Themes: low capacity woman, emotional capacity, nervous system regulation, emotional dysregulation, women and emotional overwhelm, emotional tolerance, nervous system healing, relationship patterns, childhood trauma and emotions, emotional regulation for women, low emotional capacity, trauma informed relationships, nervous system and emotions, emotional resilience, women and nervous system, healing emotional patterns, attachment and nervous system, generational trauma, emotional overwhelm in relationships, self awareness and healing, emotional maturity, relational nervous system, trauma and emotional capacity, emotional fragility vs regulation, true northing podcast

Why do over-functioning people so often find themselves in relationships with low capacity partners?

In this episode of True Northing, Kristen and Allison explore the powerful—and often painful—dynamic between high and low capacity individuals. We break down why over-functioning and self-abandonment feel so familiar in relationships, how these patterns form in childhood, and why empathy can quietly become imbalanced over time.

We talk about the subtle ways over-functioning shows up: doing the emotional labor for both people, anticipating needs, minimizing your own feelings, and staying “regulated” at the expense of your own truth. At the core of this pattern is a deep belief of unworthiness—one that teaches us to earn love by being needed rather than by simply being ourselves.

Through a relational and nervous-system lens, we explore:• Why certain people naturally pair up with low capacity partners • How childhood attunement (or lack of it) shapes adult relationships• The hidden costs of over-functioning• Why allowing gaps in relationships is necessary for mutual growth• How to practice receiving care and tolerating discomfort without over-managing

This conversation isn’t about blaming yourself or your partner—it’s about understanding the pattern, reclaiming your needs, and learning how to stay connected without abandoning yourself.

Whether you recognize yourself as an over-functioner or are navigating a low-capacity dynamic, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and practical insight for creating more balanced, conscious relationships.

Resources:—Find out what your relationships say about you at interconnectedlove.com—Shop LOAM for all things good for you and the Earth www.shoploam.com

Connect with us!—Subscribe to our YouTube Channel: ⁠youtube.com/@truenorthing—Follow our Podcast Instagram: Instagram.com/@truenorthingpodcast—Have A Question You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Send us a note to [email protected]

Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or psychological advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician, therapist, or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concern. Never disregard professional advice or delay seeking it because of something you heard on this podcast.

Themes: over-functioning in relationships, overfunctioner, low capacity partner, emotional capacity, relationship dynamics, self abandonment, people pleasing, emotional labor in relationships, childhood trauma healing, attachment patterns, nervous system regulation, high capacity people, relationship psychology, therapy podcast, women’s mental health, conscious relationships, emotional healing journey, codependency patterns, relational healing, self worth healing, burnout in relationships, receiving support, psychology podcast, healing childhood wounds, authentic relationships