Trust in Joy

My go-to person in life died 6 months ago. Her memorial is this weekend in Colorado and in true Tina fashion, she requested it be a taco & tequila shindig.    She was hospitalized from a stroke the day I moved into my house, and died 2 days later. She was my best friend for the past 15 years.    I recorded this video on Christmas Eve, exactly 3 weeks from her death. It was 11 pm and quiet. I made the video for myself, to capture my thoughts on how my greatest fear came true which was—if something really good comes into my life, something else gets taken away—and how now I could see that 1) that's not true; life has highs and lows and they are not related, 2) where this fear stems from...my family's past and 3) I responded to this tragic news in an empowering, trusting way that is different from how I behaved in the past. The resilience I now have is a testament to years of identifying my limiting beliefs, discovering their root cause and choosing to not let it derail me.   As I packed for my trip to Colorado to celebrate the gem of a human that Tina was, I thought about what I said in this personal video and how it might resonate with someone. So I decided to post it publicly.   In this episode:    Siblings remembering and interpreting the same experience, differently    How good can you stand it   Generational trauma   Don't play it safe because there's always a chance you can get hurt in life.    Sometimes you just need someone to hear you.    "I was basking in what I loved and at the same time, without me knowing it, my best friend was being rushed to the hospital."   Staying unseen and small and then everyone will be OK; it makes no sense. Looping subconscious beliefs.    Are you trying to protect yourself but it's actually hindering/hurting you?    Just because you get older, doesn't mean you've evolved     I've been working towards completing my coaching certification.    ** To meet my graduation requirement, I need a few more hours of outside coaching practice. So, I'm opening up 4 spots of free coaching. This will be 6 sessions for 4 individuals who would love a safe space to gain clarity and receive guidance on what's their next right step. **   To apply, please fill out this form. 
https://forms.gle/xcNU2mxuZMn6Y6tUA   I know summer is filled with fun and your schedule may be all over the place. Not to worry,  I'm confident we can find the time to connect. 

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I talk about how to get in sync with the feeling you want, right now.

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The meticulous way she patiently made her mother's masala chai tea made our last chat together even more sweet. 

How can we continue to create these moments of casual, insightful conversations over homemade food or drink? And make it accessible within your schedule?

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I gave water polo a try and played alongside the best in the country!

Also, in this episode, I quit my dance performance. When one door closes, another opens.    Quote of the episode: "My peace is more important than keeping the peace." —MJ   You can send me a voice note here :)

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fake rings, single girl vs single guy sitch 

some things are more enjoyable when shared and do you want to go for a walk on June 2nd?   For details on the walk & to RSVP see here:    https://trustinjoy.myflodesk.com/list  

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Can you imagine floating every weekend in the Dead Sea? 
Meet Serina, co-founder of The Dead Sea Company.   That is how she spent her childhood and now, together with her sister and brother, they've created a skin care line based around their "hero ingredient" the Dead Sea mud.    We talk about giving yourself little breaks to reset throughout your week and how a 5 minute skincare routine can feel luxurious, not like a chore. (i.e. You look forward to a mud mask; you don't get excited about taking off your makeup.)   Come along with me and learn how to paint your face!   Bonus! Use code JOY at checkout to receive 10% off your order.  https://www.thedeadseaco.com/pages/the-dead-sea-glow   Mother's Day is coming up—The Dead Sea Mineral Mask Kit is a beautiful gift! I'm also going to include it in grad gifts.    @thedeadseacompany
    P.S. From their sales, they donate to Eco Peace Middle East, an organization addressing water scarcity in Jordan. 

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What do you think about my dad's comment? 

Do you ask for help? 

Do you do it all yourself?

And the biggest question: What in your life is feeling like a 'no'? Because...if it's not a HELL YES, it's a NO. Take that through every aspect of your life.

 

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Have you thought of this before (re: your kids)? 

"How much time do I need to spend with these people?"   You may be surprised by the answer.    I've completed a course by the Language of Listening—it's based in positive psychology and play therapy. In this episode, I share one of the skills I'm about to put into practice.   It feels weird and too basic and my kids might be annoyed by it—but I'm also looking forward to it! Listen in to see if you want to give it a try with your kiddos.    Rachel Norman is a parenting coach who facilitated this course. Her blog is a useful parenting gem! She's a guest on an upcoming episode. Stay tuned!   https://amotherfarfromhome.com/   SAKARA: No cooking! Delicious, nutritious, plant-based meals delivered! $50 OFF HERE   Want to get together with a supportive and energizing group? Jump on my list to be notified of future meetups: signup here  

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It's a lot easier to say 'YES' to things when you may not have a lot more time. 

Thankfully, I do. But what was the purpose of this recent scare? Listen to hear...   Please talk about what you are currently going through, with someone you trust. You are never alone.    Want to get together with a supportive and energizing group of women? Jump on my list to be notified of future meetups:  signup here   Everyone benefits in the company of compassionate, empowered women!  

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