Trust in Joy

I went to a tequila tasting. It was comical and lackluster and a good example of what NOT to do in your business. My friend who joined me was weeks away from the grand opening of her business. The way this event unfolded shined a spotlight on how she wants to conduct herself and how she wants her clients to feel, in her space. This is valuable intel; and it was gained in an unusual way! 

  Also in the episode, I mention the MyFLo app. I have been using this app for many years—it's so much more than a period tracker. It was my introduction into cycle syncing. When a woman, who is still menstruating, understands how she is different/her needs are different during each of her 4 phases throughout the month, her life makes more sense! The clarity you'll receive! That's why I had low energy then! Oh, so my desire to organize everything (!) last week was normal! etc.    There are specific foods that support you during each phase. Your body craves certain types of exercise during each phase. And, due to hormonal levels, your brain is optimized for different tasks within each phase. I continue to find this so interesting. And also, continue to eat chocolate avocado pudding during my menstrual phase. (simple recipe here)   To quote the app, during your ovulation phase: aka, your sparkly time, "The overall hormonal effect on the brain is one of openness to new things, creativity and beginnings." —Flo Living   Interested in cycle syncing? I highly recommend this free app: myflo app   Get goodies and perks! (newsletter signup here) Work with a stylist! (closet edit + style advice here)   

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In this week's episode, we are going inside Vida Voyager—a new local boutique with colorful, Scandinavian vibes. 
 
Nasha's story is a great example of slowly taking action in the form of following your curiosity. She made a major career change from working as an attorney for the Federal Court of Appeals in San Francisco to moving to Plymouth, Michigan...and taking small steps which lead her to become the owner of the sustainably sourced and chicly curated boutique, Vida Voyager. 

We need local boutiques. Because even though you can go online and have the world at your fingertips, there's something to be said about creating communities. These shops make up the streets that make up towns. Supporting the owners of these businesses is imperative—they're bringing us something that we may not find on our own. They're opening our eyes and giving us an experience—whether that's by ourselves or strolling with a friend. 

See how a Stylist shops :)

We shot an in-store video of me perusing the goods! Click HERE to watch.

Vida Voyager's site:

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Ever feel like you just can't get it together?    Me too.    There's a deep root to that. You might be in fight, flight, fawn or freeze mode.    What I've come to see now, is that I was in what is called the freeze state. I went through a year long divorce (while living together) and couldn't get it together to show up, authentically, to continue hosting this podcast that I enjoy so much.   It's been over 6 months since then. During that time, I intentionally put a pause on action and expectation. This is something that was so foreign to me—not taking action, not making “it” happen…I have high expectations of myself, and so, the combo of not doing and being OK with that, felt terrifying.    The truth is, I've recorded lots of episodes during this pause time—introspective ones on what it's like to grieve, adjust to a new life, and really feel the root cause of how my life unfolded in this way, and guest chats too.    I held back on airing these episodes because…I was afraid. I felt scared that I would say too much, be too vulnerable—put those emotions out there like some silly high school girl on TikTok. But then I reminded myself that I would have LOVED to have heard someone who was going through what I was, at that time.    I'm excited to bring back the show! Thank you for listening.    To Be Magnetic Free Clarity Meditation   To Be Magnetic Membership: Use code: LENA for either option (monthly discount or pay in full discount)

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I took a weekend trip with my girlfriends. It's been 22 years since the 4 of us have been on a vacation together. (That was our high school spring break in Acapulco!)

A picture was taken of me sea shelling. (I'm turning that into a verb.) It's proof that whatever you liked as a kid, you'll probably still enjoy as an adult.

What did you enjoy as a kid?

The quote for this episode is extra special. While on my flight, my friend texted me a FB post—it was a note left from a friend who died of brain cancer. It's moving and honest. It shows us that running towards life is the way to live!

This is the Season 2 Finale. The Dating Lena podcast will be back in the fall. Enjoy the rest of your summer! Bask in Dolce far niente – the sweetness of doing nothing. Or if you want ideas of fun things to experience, check out the list I put together—they're some of my favorite artist dates! Go to www.lenalikes.co/girls-weekend/

 

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I'm back from my Greece immersion! We can call it a wellness retreat, spa camp or, relevant to the topic of this podcast—the ultimate solo date. 

Going on this trip was a big deal for me. I was travelling by myself, internationally, meeting up with people I didn't know, on an island I've never been to for 10 days. My motivators were fun, relaxation, beauty and exploration. 

The experience proved once again, that it's ok to say 'yes' to yourself...to do the thing that gives you excitement, rest or peace. 

I haven't seen examples of women like me doing this. I see multi-millionaire women, who are mothers of young children carving out time for retreats. I'm not there. What I do see is women in my demographic feeling like they need a reason to say yes to rest, fun or their interests. 

The word 'deservingness' feels big. You might attach arrogance to it or a whole bunch of other emotions. 

In my conversations with women on this trip, I've realized there's a mindset that you have to be burnt out from work or your family...have a health scare or have gone through a traumatic experience to deserve an epic vacation, time to yourself, meals that make you feel good, or the time you need each day for your health. (physical, mental etc.) Often, we rally around the woman who is at a low, to give HER permission to take what she needs to get back on track. 

What if we didn't let it get to that point? I'd love to see more women speaking up and receiving what they need (rest, adventure, support and so on). I don't see the downside to making yourself a priority. It's a form of prevention!

Be the role model you need to see and in doing so, you'll be one to others. 

This episode's quote is: "When you communicate your needs. You give other people permission to do the same."— To Be Magnetic Journal

See my trip pics: @lenaporter

See my shopping pics: Lena likes...

 

 

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The ultimate solo date! I'm going on a 10 day international retreat—traveling alone and meeting up with strangers. Ole!

  That red ruffle bikini! https://www.lenalikes.co/beachy-things/   How do you spend your me-time? I'd love to hear. DM @lenaporter   or email: [email protected]

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You already do this me-time activity! I'll give you 3 clues: 

* You do this a few times a year

* It's a non-negotiable 

* You feel pretty afterwards

 

Listen to see if you guessed correctly. :)

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Have you ever heard of a Moab rose? It's one of the blooms I played around with during my flower arrangement class. If you like flowers, then this episode is for you!

  Connect with me on IG @lenaporter   Check out photos from past episodes:  https://www.lenalikes.co/tag/podcast/

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Bonus episode! This isn't about a date. Ali Wong's recent comedy special inspired me to write about bras and here I share the ones featured on my newsletter. 

  Go here purchase an Egift card for a Personal Styling Session (or book a session for yourself!): www.lenaporter.com   Go here see the bralette picks and shop them: www.lenalikes.co/comfortable-everyday-bralettes/

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Listen up all you teeth grinders, TMJ'ers and bite guard wearers! (I won't tell anyone)...

"Gua sha has been proven to help relieve tension in the face, reduce puffiness and inflammation, and it can even help reduce sinus pressure." Combine those benefits with a refreshed feeling and a dewy look, and that is what you get from a Gua Sha facial. It's now my favorite kind [of facial]!

To book a facial or to purchase a gua sha tool: Primrose Esthetics

Gua Sha tutorials by Britta Plug

@Green Beauty Academy

Tell me your favorite kinds of self-care? DM @lenaporter or email: [email protected]

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