TRUSTED by your Teenager with Kristen Duke

Last weekend, I had a girls weekend get together with some of my closest friends to usher in my 40th birthday. I thought it would be fun to put a microphone in the middle of all of us, round robin style, while we sat on the couch chatting about various questions late at night. They weren't so sure they were excited about this idea. I assured them these were light questions, meant to be fun, and I thought it WAS pretty FUN!

We talked about favorite games, favorite meals, funny mom moments, things we DON'T do as a mom, what we hope our kids don't get into, what we'd do with no responsibility for a few days, dream family vacations, and some mom truths.

Head over to the full show notes on my website KristenDuke.com in the Beyond Good Intentions section of my site, to see us in our pink pinstripe pajamas, and how we were sitting/arranged on the couch as we talked about these topics.

I've also got a link to all of the family games we mentioned!

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I am thrilled about this episode. When I told my kids I was interviewing Hank Smith for the podcast, I was met with quite excited responses. They were kinda star struck, because they think he is a rockstar. He'll go into detail a little better about what he does in our chat, but he's basically a motivational speaker that travels around, encouraging youth and even adults to do good...be good...and even secrets to a happier life through humor and seriousness and then humor again. It is truly a talent, and we can't get enough of it in our family.

He has the ability to make serious things funny for kids and turn it into real life discussions. Thought provoking and insightful. But if you're coming for this interview for comedy, I hope you won't be disappointed, but I really enjoyed all he had to share, the life behind the spiritual comedian. A peek into his world, why he does what he does, and how he is raising his family.

He shares his thoughts on PATIENCE with kids, things take TIME.

He also share a conversation with his daughter on trust vs. her judgement and her brain developing. Those teens are almost there, but still an apprentice learning the trade of life, he says, and I love that.

Listen and Subscribe to the podcast so you can hear future episodes, and join the journey to strengthen your family.   If something stuck out to you from this episode or another, I'd love you to LEAVE A REVIEW and also come to instagram and share your thoughts with the community there (CapturingJoy.KristenDuke).

To see more links about the books and other things we chatted about, head to the Beyond Good Intentions home page and click on Episode #024 with Hank Smith.

I interviewed my daughter and asked her all about middle school! Cliques, bullying, social media, friends, and she was candid about it all. With summertime, it's challenging to put out a podcast episode each week, but I'm committed to it!

My daughter is the cutest, in that she volunteered me to interview her when she overheard me talking to my friend Shelley (episode #17) about what I should do this week when I had my interviewee postpone!

I've planned to have my kids and other teens on to chat, but this just kick started it, and I hope you enjoy. 

Give my daughter some love on instagram or in the reviews, I'm grateful for her willingness to share!

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I'm so so excited to share the interview with my dear friend Laurie! She and I met in college, but I was actually friends with her husband FIRST. We may chat a little bit more about her love story than I normally would with others, because I was THERE for it! It's a great story! 

Laurie grew up in a very small town on a Hawaiian Island with 2000 people, but is raising her family in Montana--how fun is that?? I loved hearing about her growing up years, and We also talked a lot about how she was a teenager bride, what her parents thought about that, and what they think NOW, after they've been married 19 years. 

I'm grateful Laurie was willing to talk about Nuerofeedback Therapy as a treatment for Anxiety, because I really think others hearing this will find it helpful. I'm quite fascinated by it myself!

Listen along to this episode to hear all about her life, parenting, and of course a discussion on electronics and social media with teens. She also shares about a late pregnancy mis-carriage, and how she and her family dealt with her passing.

Continue the discussion with us on Instagram: @CapturingJoy.KristenDuke

And see more notes and links to her favorites on the podcast homepage Beyond Good Intentions

Jessica grew up working HARD in the theater her parents ran, and talked about how that has blessed her throughout her life, in working hard at whatever it is she is doing. Cleaning urinals and scrubbing gum off of theater chairs turned into flipping houses, starting a DJ karaoke business in college, and now running 150 Orthodontic offices all over the US, Smile Doctors. 

Not only did the theater teach her hard work, but she says, "Confidence is built on stage, as well as being quick on your feet." 

They've moved a few times, and she speaks of the resilience of kids, and the opportunity for growth when their family has moved. You gain more friendships and experiences.

Living on their working ranch, she hopes to live completely sustained by it someday. 

She speaks of her health challenges with Lupus, and how her kids have had to help take care of her at times. 

Positivity is key in any ailment that you're dealing with.

She talks about being "pro child" and not just go along with the norms, but listen to their needs.

The proper way to raise your children is with the proper amount of neglect--listen to hear THAT ONE explained!

Hard Knock rules of life is that you live and learn. Watch your kids make mistakes and fail, the greatest lessons in life.

Head on over to my instagram: @CapturingJoy.KristenDuke to share your favorite parts of this episode!

You can also view the show notes and past episode on the Beyond Good Intentions home page. 

Intuitive eating, I was thirsty for this conversation with Amy, and it couldn't have come at a better time in my parenting. Teaching children intuitive eating has been heavy on my mind in the past few years, and I just love everything Amy had to say! Coming from someone who has struggled with a binge eating disorder, she has a lot of really great insight on the topic.

 My heart broke when Amy said that she cried to her mom in the 4th grade because she felt overweight, but looking back at that little girl, she wasn't at all, just different shaped. I hung on her every word as she told me what she would say right now to that little girl, an important perspective that I think every parent should hear. She spoke about a binge eating disorder, and how after therapy for it, she gained 100 pounds.

She gave a lot of really great insight on teaching children intuitive eating, highlighting words she feels we should and shouldn't use.

It's SUCH A TOUGH thing for adults to get under control, that intuitive eating, even harder to know how to best teach our children. But they model us, so we need to figure it out to best guide them. 

We discussed complementing our kids, and how society has made it tricky, and that we need to retrain the brain with positive affirmations to not be about looks.

I definitely had a lot to think about after our conversation, I'm really grateful for her perspective.

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Follow Amy at BeautifullyBrokenJourney.com and on Instagram: @BeautifullyBrokenJourney

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If you haven't heard me say this before, it's quite a challenge for me to figure out how to NAME each podcast interview. We talk for nearly a full hour, about the span of their ENTIRE life thus far, and I have to pick one little part out of it that is a big ATTENTION GRABBING or unique, even though we may only touch on that part for a bit of the conversation.

 Yes, it's true, she lived in a tent for a time as a child, and on a macadamia nut farm in Hawaii, how fascinating is that??? She shares about her blended family, her parents divorce, and her teenage years where she caused her mom maybe a little grief. 

She then shares about her business with her husband and how they made their first million before age 30. But of course the majority of our chat was about parenting. The utter heart wrenching decision as to when to STOP having kids, one I can completely relate to, and how she isn't sure if she is "done" yet. 

She speaks about co-sleeping, getting her tubes tied, relying on inspiration, and blaming herself for a birth defect of one of her kids. 

I also LOVED the advice she gave wrapped around her favorite books. 

 I hope you will join me over on Instagram and share your favorite part, Crystal will be there reading along as well, it's always fun to hear what sticks out to others from the convo, give her some LOVE!

As I've said before, that's the best way you can say "thank you" to myself and those I interview, is by just showing up over on social media to share you listened, so that others will want to come hear what it's all about!

My instagram is: @capturingjoy.kristenduke where we will be chatting about this on the day it comes out! Search the #BeyondGoodIntentionsPodcast hashtag on instagram to find all of the episodes if you listen later. 

I also wouldn't be SAD if you left a review on ITunes, it really helps this little podcast succeed. 

I hope you were able to take some tidbits from my chat with Crystal and implement them into your life, and take your parenting Beyond just Good Intentions. 

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If you are new to the Beyond Good Intentions parenting podcast, I encourage you to scroll through the titles and summaries of the other episode interviews, so many great conversations on parenting.

I'm so delighted to have this interview with my 94 year old Grandpa Ball. I already chatted with my grandma in episode #12, and so many of you listeners wanted to hear from Grandpa after his cameo at the end! If you liked her story, you will surely love his as well.

It's hard to know how to title an episode for someone, let alone someone who has lived 94 years. Since his childhood injury has shaped so much of his life, I thought it was a fitting title, but we talk about so much more!

From him calling himself a "spoiled brat" as a child, losing a hero in a tragic way, being rejected from WWII, and then of course how he met my grandma and the words of warning his own mother gave him after meeting my grandma just once. 

Though his memory seems to be most foggy about parenting his two girls, one of them my mom, I was pleasantly delighted to hear what he was most strict about. 

In the end, he shares his heart about losing my mom nearly 3 years ago, a pain we both share. 

If you loved this, please hop on over to Instagram and share what it is you loved! This helps others who may be on the fence about listening, want to hear. I promise, it's not just for my ego to be stroked...being a part of the conversation makes this more of a community, which is important to me.

I'm happy I was able to convince my friend Shelley to chat on this episode with a fairly unscripted agenda. I'd already interviewed her husband, Brian (in episode #12) and I wanted to wait a while to do an official podcast with her in the standard format.

In this chat, we are just shooting the breeze, parenting style. She is one of my closest friends, and greatest confidants when it comes to parenting and life. Even though she didn't necessarily WANT to speak on air, and do a mini photo shoot, I love her response when I asked her with partially squeezed eyes, and her response was, "Kristen, I'll do anything for you." THAT is a true friend. 

PLUS, if you really want insight as to how our family operates, she's one of the best that can tell you, and she does share some of her observations about the Duke Family in this episode!

We start our chat with me highlighting a few times in our 5 year friendship that I've cried on her shoulder...I'm a sensitive soul! We then discuss some of her favorite episodes of Beyond Good Intentions and her "a-ha" moments. We talk about how we aim to implement different parenting tactics such as yelling and asking rhetorical questions, and how we also need to be flexible. 

One of my favorite discussions is to talk about what we DON'T do as moms, that we may see others doing, and that we are ok with it. I love this discussion because I think as we are more vocal about what we DON'T DO, it gives allowance for others moms to realize we don't need to...and we CAN'T do it all the time. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this in the Instagram discussion, what do you not do and feel ok with?

We close with chatting about our thoughts after attending a parenting conference recently. Listen all the way to the very end of this episode where I have a REQUEST for you. It's how all of YOU can be a part of this podcast, I want to hear YOUR voice! (Literally)

A funny quote from mine and Shelley's chat happens towards the end, "Sometimes, being a parent is just super annoying." Ha!

Jeanette Bennett runs her own business, juggling multiple magazines, and when sharing her favorite business books, we discussed how running a family is just like running a business, they go hand in hand!  She's got 5 kids, ages 5-20, and I loved picking her brain on all things parenting. 

Raised the 2nd of 7 kids, her dad was even her high school teacher! See how that was for them...Then as an adult, from getting her masters degree as a young mom, teaching at a University, ambitious business skills, and managing it all for 20 years.

I love the story she told about a mistake she felt she made when she went to school with her daughter to share her spotlight of the week. I think all parents can relate!

I also love their Sunday phone rule, need to adopt this in my family!

You'll have to listen to see how we are related, too, but we still haven't met in person!

Here are a few of my favorite quotes from our chat:

"Your actions are evidence of what you truly want."

"See a nee, fill a need."

"Your house is a factory, not a museum. You are raising and creating kids, it's going to be messy."

Head to KristenDuke.com for the show notes of this Beyond Good Intentions podcast about her favorite books, favorite family games, and meal.

Come chat about this episode on Instagram: @CapturingJoy.KristenDuke

You can follow her personal instagram at: @JeanetteWBennett or interesting articles at @UtahValleyBride or @UtahValleyMagazine