Try Self-Love

Episode 3 is all about the feels, good and bad. In this episode Becky and Kristen explain the importance of recognizing your feelings and the clues they offer as to what is going on inside your head. You also get a sneak peek at what it’s like to be coached by Kristen. Time does not heal all wounds and you can never truly run from your feelings, but you can learn to stop being mean to yourself, which changes everything!

Explore the concept of self-love with Becky and Kristen In this introductory episode. Discover what it is and what it isn't. Telling yourself you’re lazy won’t motivate you to exercise or eat better. Being kinder to yourself will. Many people think self-love is arrogant, indulgent or selfish. They are dead wrong. Self-love includes self-compassion, self-awareness, and self-acceptance. By learning to love yourself you will be able to better love those around you. This is a practice that will change your life - guaranteed.

Quote by Brené Brown: ​​”We can only love others as much as we love ourselves.”

In the second episode of Try Self-Love, coaches Kristen and Becky help you become more self-aware with three simple steps. You can’t change things unless you’re aware of the problem. Becky hates the word, “should” and Kristen wants you to make yourself the focus of your life (in a healthy way, of course). Once you’re in touch with your feelings it’s much easier to offer yourself compassion, understanding and some love!

Episode 2 is all about rebuilding your foundation so that self-love is possible. The first step to making any changes is to become aware of what you’re doing that you don’t like. As Kristen says, make yourself the focus of your own life. Through self-discovery we uncover who we are, what we like and don’t like, why we do the things we do. 

When you can understand why you’re doing something then you’re able to access compassion for yourself, particularly the wounds you carry. To help you with this, Becky developed a thought journal that you can download. As you practice paying attention to unwanted behaviors or feelings, you can dive deeper into the thoughts behind them.

For example: when you are pounding potato chips or shoveling in some oreos (without really tasting them) try to “scratch the record” as Becky and Kristen say; try to get your own attention. Ask yourself: why am I doing this? What am I feeling right now that led me to grabbing food and stuffing my emotions down?

Let’s say you get your answer, perhaps, “I feel anxious.” Okay, let’s figure out why you feel anxious. What thoughts were you thinking that led to you feeling anxious? What were you telling yourself? No matter your behavior or feelings - it all begins with the thoughts. 

We also learned about ANTs - automatic negative thoughts. We have so many negative thought patterns that we don’t even register when we’ve begun to play our “greatest hits,” as Becky calls them, the endless berating of ourselves for every mistake we’ve ever made. Once you start being mean to yourself, all your regrets want to come pile on top, too. Stopping these ANTs takes time, but the first step is being aware of them.