Are you struggling to move forward? Or are you still in communication with your ex? Maybe you've found yourself in the position of being an option or, worse, a backup plan. Today, we dive into the dynamic world of the “No Contact Rule,” a radical self-care move that empowers you to break free. Breakups happen to all of us, even breakup coaches. This week, we’re joined by Janice Formichella, a seasoned breakup coach and host of the podcast “Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.” Get ready as Janice shares her 5 Breakup Lessons, hidden truths behind breakups, and why breaking the chains is your ticket to a brighter future. If heartache has you in its grip – you're exactly where you need to be. Tune in for insights, inspiration, and the roadmap to mending that broken heart. I’m Kerry Brett, and Shot@Love starts now.

Janice Formichella is a breakup coach passionate about helping people from all backgrounds beat their breakup, overcome loneliness, and make the end of a relationship the start of a powerful new beginning. Today, she shares 5 Break Up Lessons from her life. Why healing is a roller coaster, why the no contact rule is your secret weapon, how routines help, and why you should keep the details of the breakup on a need-to-know basis. 

Kerry Brett and Janice Formichella cover a lot of ground – topics, including;

Janice’s Journey to Helping Others with Breakups:

Janice's personal experience led her to help others navigate breakups.
·      Emphasize that breakup pain can be eased and the process shortened.
·      Importance of Giving Yourself Grace
·      Acknowledge the difficulty of the initial weeks after a breakup.
·      Taking time off is crucial for self-care during this challenging period.

Lesson 1: Acknowledging the Loss:
·      Losing something that isn't good for you can still hurt.
·      Breakups occur for a reason; it's essential to acknowledge this fact.

 Lesson 2: Keeping Positivity from Past Relationships:
·      Recognize and retain positive aspects from past relationships.·      Janice's affirmations and routines helped maintain self-esteem.

 Lesson 3: Letting Go of Hurtful Words:
·      Discard hurtful words spoken in moments of pain and anger.

 Lesson 4: Dealing with Negative Emotions:
·      Breakups bring out anger, disappointment, and regret.
·      Avoid self-destructive behavior and cope positively with emotions.
·      Journaling and expressing emotions creatively can help.

 Lesson 5: Setting Boundaries and Moving Forward:
·      After a breakup, staying friends or continuing favors is unnecessary.
·      Setting boundaries and focusing on self-care is crucial.

 The No Contact Rule:
·      After clarity on reasons for the breakup, begin the No Contact Rule.
·      Journal about the qualities of a new partner or write a letter to your future self.
·      No Contact helps create space for a new future.

 Leaving the Past Behind:
·      Avoid engaging in discussions about the breakup or damage control.
·      Care less about others' opinions and focus on moving forward.

 Avoiding Revisiting Old Memories:
·      Don't dwell on old memories or hypothetical scenarios.
·      Delete or archive old text messages, screenshots, and block numbers.
·      Emphasize the importance of self-love and acceptance.

To learn more about Janice Formichella, follow her on Instagram @janiceformichella and tune into her podcast Breakups, Broken Hearts and Moving on all platforms.

 

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