In this special Q&A episode, we’re diving into your questions! We discuss online therapy vs. in-person therapy, how therapists decide when to listen vs. challenge a client, and what to do when your sense of purpose is shaken—like after losing a job. We also explore concerns around “over-therapizing,” self-diagnosis, and the fear of being labeled in therapy. Plus, we share practical ways to check in with yourself emotionally and physically when you feel anxious or stuck.

We couldn’t get to every question, but we’d love to hear more from you! Drop your questions or feedback in the Tally form below. We’ll try to cover them in a future episode or even dedicate a whole episode to a few:

Questions & Feedback Form

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00:00 Intro

03:17 Is BetterHelp & other online therapy worth it?

14:49 How do I check in with myself emotionally and calm my anxiety?

32:20 How do I bring up a self-diagnosis with my therapist without being labeled/dismissed?

46:58 When should a therapist listen vs challenge a client?

53:21 What happens when your sense of purpose is shaken? (e.g. losing a job that gave you meaning).

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In this episode, we explore the unique fulfillment sex provides and whether it’s a want or a need. Can we ever thrive without it? We break down the difference between lust and eros, the role of intimacy in sex, and whether sex can ever be just sex—is casual sex ever truly casual? We also discuss the challenges couples face in sexual fulfillment and when sex reaches its greatest potential in a relationship.

00:00 Intro

02:32 Is sex a want or a need?

04:22 Is life all about pleasure or is there more?

11:47 When sex becomes necessary

17:20 Intimacy - the missing piece of the sex puzzle

18:28 Which stage of a relationship is sex the best?

21:11 Is casual sex ever just sex?

26:53 Lust vs. Eros

35:42 The orgasm gap - why we're not having great sex

39:12  Men's insecurities with receiving feedback on sex

43:49 Why the Bible uses the word "knew" for sex

44:48 Can sex toys ever be a hindrance?

46:21 The problem with p*rn and other explicit content

58:44 Closing thoughts on intimacy

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Is masculinity under attack, evolving, or just misunderstood? What does it mean to be a man in the 21st century? In this episode, we break down masculinity, exploring how men have embodied manhood in the past, the role of rites of passage, and why masculinity vs. femininity is a false dichotomy. We also dive into the high-value man concept, toxic masculinity, and what’s really at stake for men today.

00:00 Intro

02:55 How do we define masculinity?

07:35 Masculinity vs femininity is a false dichotomy

10:00 Why "rites of passage" matter to men

23:49 C.S. Lewis' thoughts on masculinity

27:15 How to address men's physical insecurities

29:57 Addressing feelings of weakness & inadequacy

39:48 What is toxic masculinity?

47:04 The truth about the "high value man"

57:06  High-value man vs. pursuing high values

01:00:18 Evaluating high-value men influencers

01:04:53 How to embody modern masculinity

Finding the right therapist can feel overwhelming—but it’s one of the most important decisions you can make for your mental health.

In this episode, two therapists break down how to choose the right therapist, why knowing your goals is crucial, and what actually makes therapy successful. We also share our own experiences searching for therapy, discuss how to tell if therapy is working, whether agreeing with your therapist’s worldview matters, and how to pick between a psychiatrist, psychologist, LMFT, LPC, or LCSW.

Whether you’re new to therapy or looking to switch, this episode will help you make the right choice for your mental health journey.

00:00 Intro

03:50 How David found a therapist

06:02 How David found a therapist

06:53 Why people get so little from therapy

08:47 Different kinds of therapy

14:59 How to get the most out of therapy

19:47 The most important factor for success

23:55 Being honest with your therapist

27:38 How to find a therapist on Psychology Today

32:44 Is therapy for the mentally ill or for everyone?

34:48 What if therapy is not working for me?

42:33 Should I see a psychiatrist, psychologist, or counselor?

49:21 What if my core beliefs differ from my therapist?

In this Valentine’s Day special, we’re tackling why dating feels harder than ever—and what to do about it. With apps, social media, shifting expectations and gender dynamics, modern dating is more complicated than ever before. We discuss the big trends in 2025, the reality of hypergamy (dating up in status or resources), and why so many people feel stuck. We’ll share a practical starting point to successfully navigate the dating world and build a meaningful relationship.

Why do we feel restless in our own lives, like we should be somewhere else, doing something more? In this episode, we break down the feeling of boredom and dissatisfaction with ordinary life, using an apt Jerry Seinfeld stand-up clip as a launch point. We explore whether this restlessness is a modern problem or just part of being human, why patience matters, and how embracing the ordinary can actually lead to a richer, more meaningful life. Plus, we dive into the power of myth and story in transforming the way we see our everyday experiences.

In this episode, we discuss the unfiltered truth about marriage and why it’s not for the faint of heart. We challenge the fairy tale narratives, explore why real love often feels like a battle, and reveal what makes it all worth it. Whether you're in the trenches of commitment or preparing for the road ahead, this conversation will help you navigate the struggles and come out stronger.

In this episode, we're tackling the voice in your head that's never quite satisfied. We challenge common beliefs about self-criticism, reveal how judgment might actually be useful when framed correctly, and explore the all too familiar world of perfectionism and high achievement.

In the debut episode of "Two Therapists At A Bar," we're exploring the question: Is modern therapy overrated?

Join us as we dive into the explosion of "therapy speak" on social media, examine whether therapists are truly serving their clients effectively, and explore what real therapy looks like beyond the Instagram quotes and TikTok trends.

As practicing therapists ourselves, we're pulling back the curtain on our own profession, serving up our honest thoughts and uncomfortable truths about the state of modern therapy.