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Following a wonderful evening at Diane’s, Umbert must thank her for her invitation.

Say « thank you » is part of the international savoir-vivre. It also helps to maintain cordial relationships. It is a form of respect.

The fact that you decline or accept an invitation is not the problem, but you have to thank for the invitation, that’s the most important.

Thank you Dear ! Here is a Process on how to thank

 

“Politeness is for the mind what grace is for the face”, Voltaire, French philosopher

« La politesse est pour l’esprit ce qu’est la grâce pour le visage », Voltaire, philosophe Français

 

In this article :

1) What are the different types of “Thank you”

2) Thank before the party

3) Thank during the party

4) After the party

5) How to decline

 

1) What are the different types of “Thank you”

The automatic “thank you”, for example at a shopkeeper. It’s the one you use automatically.

“Thank you” says with his heart, to a friend or someone who is helping you.

The “thank you” for an invitation, that’s the one we are talking about.

The hypocrite or forced « thank you », try to avoid it, find a real excuse instead off playing.

 

2) Thank before the party

Answer as soon as possible to accept or refuse an invitation, in the 24 hours.

Answer through the same canal as the invitation.

So if it’s a card, answer with a card, if it’s online, answer online.

The card must be white, the ink color blue or black, stay neutral. Nevertheless, if you are a real artist, you can create something for the host.

Show that you are very happy to be invited.

Never asked if you can bring someone with you, unless it’s a friends party.

If you are on diet, that’s not a problem, just let the host know before. Same for allergies.

If you are a couple, don’t forget to mention the other person.

 

3) Thank during the party

Arrive 15 minutes in advance, and adapt you style to the dress code, it shows that you respect the host. Too early may disturb the host, too late is not respectful for the others.

Thank the host with a gift : chocolates for a diner, wine, flowers or something more personal if they are friends like a coffee table book.

If the host has children, bring something for the kids, the all family will appreciate.

You can send the gift before you arrive, bring it, or send it the next day.

Regarding the flowers, the best is to go in a nice flower shop, and ask some advices describing the host. Always stay neutral and chic. Add a thank you card.

After a dinner, leaving, thank your hosts for this wonderful evening. Make a compliment on the housekeeper’s attire, the dinner or the bouquets is always welcome.

For a particular moment such as a wedding or a baptism, things are more a protocole. You have to first thank with a card, then send a gift with another card.

Don’t make any gift if it is just a cocktail party. A thank you card will be enough.

 

4) After the party

Call your host the next day to thank, or send a handwritten « thank you » card. 

Avoid the email, it is less friendly.

If you were the host, thank the guests for coming. Say a big thank you for the flowers, wines or chocolates they offered.

You have 1 month to thank everybody if it’s a wedding or baptism.

 

5) How to decline

You can answer that you thank the host for the invitation, you are very happy to be invited,

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When Umbert goes to the restaurant with his friends, they like to discover new dishes and try any new experiences.

For exemple he likes to go to The Ritz, and meet the famous chefs from the Escoffier School. This is his favorite place in Paris.

But sometimes some dishes requires different utensils, especially in France.

Here is list to know if Should you cut your steak with the oysters fork ? How to eat some dishes properly.

 

“Whoever does not eat at the table eats in the barn”, French proverb

« Celui qui ne mange pas à la table mange à l’étable », proverbe Français

 

In this articles : 

* Soup

* Asparagus

* Artichoke

* Salad

* Caviar

* Oysters

* Mussels

* Lobsters

* Sushis

* Foie gras

* Escargots

* Omelet

* Spaghetti

* Fishes 

* Poultries

* Sandwiches

* Tacos 

* French fries

* Cheese

* Fruit pies

* Chocolate cake

* Orange

* Pear/apple

* Ice-cream

 

* Soup : only with a spoon. You can now finish the plate by leaning backwards and slightly to the right (for right-handed) or left (left-handed).

* Asparagus : you can eat them either with your fingers in an intimate dinner, either cut with its fork, leaving in the plate the harder part. If the asparagus are very thin : they can be folded in the middle with a knife and put in the mouth with a fork.

* Artichoke : use to fingers to did the leaves in the vinaigrette sauce. Use your fork and knife to eat the heart.

* Salad :  the salad should not be cut with a knife. Take your fork to fold the large leaves. The host must serve cut leaves to avoid this problem.

* Caviar : serve the caviar with the little spoon, then spread it on the toast or blinis. You can use your fork and knife, or your fingers, to eat the blinis.

* Oysters :  the oysters are eaten with elegance. It is necessary to take the shell in the left hand, to unhook the flesh with the oyster fork, and to suck it with the water from shell without making noise.

* Mussels : hold the shell in the palm of your hand and use an empty shell as a pliers to detach the flesh. 

* Lobsters : the claws are cracked with a nutcracker. Take the meat with a seafood fork. If the piece is big you can use a knife to cut it into small pieces.

* Sushis : you need some chopsticks. Pick up the sushis so it doesn’t break into pieces. Dip it into the soy sauce, eat part of it, then let the chopsticks on the table side by side. The best is to practice before with someone who will teach you. Advice from one of Umbert friend who is a well-known chef in Tokyo : “don’t put to much perfume before going to a sushi place, because the strong smell may modify the sushi taste and your experience.”

* Foie gras : do not spread it. In France, it is eaten with a fork, with a piece of toast. In England, cut a piece and place it delicately on a piece of bread.

* Escargots : hold the shell in tongs, use a snail held and remove the snail from the shell. Use the fork to dip the bread in the garlic butter.

* Omelet : the omelet is cut and eaten only with the fork.

* Spaghetti : never cut with a knife. Wrap them around a fork.

* Fishes : for the soft fishes use the fish cutlery. Split the fish with the fish knife from head to tail and lift the nets.

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“Ocean’s 8” shows us the “hand-kissing” ! Richard Armitage, allias Claude Becker, bow in front of Anne Hataway, allias Daphne Kluger, and makes her the “hand-kissing”.

Umbert is used to major international events, and he knows the MET Gala in New York, where the movie takes place.

He likes to watch pretty girls in evening dresses, all very originals.

But Should we still do the hand-kissing in Paris, New York, London, Shangaï and Auckland ?

 

« I am in favor of maintaining the French habit of hand-kissing; after all, you have to start somewhere », Sacha Guitry, French cineast

« Je suis en faveur du maintien de l’habitude française du baise-main; après tout il faut bien commencer quelque part », Sacha Guitry, metteur en scène Français

 

In this article :

1) When to do a hand-kissing

2) How to do a hand-kissing

 

1) When to do a hand-kissing

Nowdays, the hand-kissing is reserved to a conservative upper class or diplomats. 

It is also still used in countries like Malaysia, Bruneï or Indonesia. There it is a common way to greet elder people of both genders, primarily the closest relatives (both parents, grandparents, and uncles or aunts) and teachers.

The “hand-kissing” is chic, but requires courtesy, restraint and elegance.

It is never practiced in the street, or in a public place : cafe, restaurant, opera, cinema, beach, etc …

It must be avoided with foreigners who are not used to it, except those who used to the international etiquette.

During a reception, a man can only do a hand-kissing to the mistress of the house, and the elderly ladies.

Umbert specifies that it can only be practiced with married women.

It is not appropriate for a gloved hand, except the one of a dear friend.

 

2) How to do a hand-kissing

The technique :

1 The man must not raise the lady outstretched hand towards him. The lady gives her hand.

2 The man must bow a little, and touch the hand he gently takes.

3 He does not kiss the hand but touches it with his chin.

4 The kiss must be fast, brief.

Don’t forget to train with a friend, it should fun !

 

Umbert is looking forward to traveling again to these major international events.

New York often misses him, but Paris is more into his heart.

What must be remembered : just remember the technique, so when you go to an event where you see the others doing the hand-kissing, you will be able to do it.

 

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When Umbert is in Paris, he often goes to some very interesting talks about his favorite subjects : travel, technology, startups, emotional intelligence and many more …

Sometimes, he doesn’t really understand everything, especially when it is very technical.

When dining with friends, after several nights out, he doesn’t always know what to say or answer, because he ’s tired. 

Sometimes you start talking and you may notice that your audience is not interested in what you are saying.

Or you’ve just realized that what you’ve said is so stupide !!!

Don’t talk, you are listened !

The silence is sometimes better …

 

“The silence is golden, so I’m silent … « , MC Solar, French singer

« Le silence est d’or, alors je me tais … « , MC Solar, chanteur Français

 

In this article :

1) Talking

2) Listening

 

1) Talking

When you are talking, sometimes, it is better to stop.

But when ?

If your speech is too long or does not involve anyone, stop immediately, otherwise the others may leave the room because they are bored, or find you too narcissistic …

If someone interrupt you, let him talk. His attitude is wrong for sure, but the best is to not do the same.

When arguing, know that you will put more pressure, just because what you think and say will be different from the other point of view, and it may disturb him a little or more.

If you have different ideas from the one who talks, let him finish first.

Depending on the situation, you may also think about your answer 24 hours, then come back to it.

Arguing is good, it helps both of you by sharing experiences.

When the debate becomes heated, watch the others, stop talking, it will help everybody to calm down.

On the other hand, If just one of you talk and the other listen, the discussion may be boring, and nobody has time for boring things. 

I know some business techniques teach you that not talking and listening is the best solution. I don’t agree with this, I thinks that if you want a long term relationship, you need to share experiences and talks.

2) Listening

Learn to listen to others. Listening is as important as knowing how to speak.

It also shows that you are interested in the other and what he says.

When you visit a friend who is in pain, your presence is often enough. Words could be misunderstood in a critical situation.

When you do not understand a discussion, or do not know anything about it, it is better to stay quiet so you do not look ridiculous.

When the talking is getting to emotional, it is better to stop arguing a little, to calm down, then restart.

 

Umbert try to always stay calm, so he can focus on talking smart.

He knows that it is not easy when you’re stressed by your job, or something bad that’s just happened.

That’s why, sometimes, Don’t talk, you are listened ! 

But not always, don’t forget that life is about sharing, and talking is a way to share.

What must be remembered : talk only when you think that what you want to say is important for the others. If you have a doubt it may be that it is better to say nothing.

 

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Why 12.5 and not 15 ?

Making friends, or acquaintances, is really going out of your confort zone.

When Umbert meets acquaintances, or new people, he knows that the warm tone of his voice is as important as his laugh and smile.

Umbert wants to share with you 15.5 Dos to make people love you.

 

“It’s sometimes in the eyes, in a smile, that the words we never knew how to say are hidden”, Yves Duteil, French composer

« Et c’est parfois dans un regard, dans un sourire, que sont cachés les mots qu’on n’a jamais su dire », Yves Duteil, compositeur Français

 

In this article :

1) Introduce your self

2) Compliment

3) Break the ice

4) Make eye contact

5) Ask questions

6) A warm tone

7) Smile

8) Laugh with them

9) Be interested

10) Don’t interrupt

11) Answer appropriately

12) Don’t do things to deliberately bring them down

13) Ask if they want to hang out

14) Let them do what they want

15) Promote them

15,5) ?

 

1) Introduce your self

Regarding this part, you can read my article How to introduce yourself according to the New Etiquette (Vidéo & Podcast)

2) Compliment

Immediately find something in their behavior or dress that you can emphasize on, and make a compliment.

This is not lying or being hypocrite, it is just a way to find great things about everybody.

You can even train in the street by looking at the others and find one thing nice with each person you cross.

That way you will find the world and the people much more beautiful.

3) Break the ice

Let the magic do it, don’t try to make too much internet search about the person, because the person may thing that you are playing with her by not being natural.

Try to find something you have in common, or some experiences you can share, without conflict or too much arguing.

4) Make eye contact

Eyes contact in the western world is a proof of respect, interest and trust.

Don’t be too pushy, just consider the person you are talking with.

5) Ask questions

If you ask questions, it will help you have some interest in the discussion.

It will also show that you are active in the talking and interested in the other.

6) A warm tone

The tone must neither be hysterical, nor too discreet, neither choleric, nor too moderate.

I would say be natural, and everything will be fine.

With the elderly : they are people in need of warmth and smiles. Do not be condescending or unfamiliar, but you can laugh, discuss and especially show that the age difference is not important.

With children : discuss naturally by showing that you are interested in them. Ask for their name, age, school, classmates, sports, etc …

7) Smile

Smiling is a symbol of seduction and elegance.

I know you have some problems, everybody have some, but when you meet people, try to forget them, just for that moment.

As a training, you can stand in front of a mirror, try several smiles, look at the features of your face, remember the most natural, the one that gives you the most value, and use it as often as possible.

Be carreful, a smile can be heard ! Yes, on the phone, people “hear” your smile. Before hanging on the phone, relax, smile and you will have a warm tone that will be appreciated and effective.

What does the smile mean ? Trust, affection, charm, security and it is disarming (in case of conflict with a person)

 

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When Umbert and his friends go to the theater or the opera, they know that they have to be chic, and respect the New Etiquette so everybody can enjoy the show.

It is a politeness due to the actors. They‘ve done a lot of difficult work before to be on stage that night, so you have to respect them.

 

« The world is a play; each of us must learn how to play his role. », Palladas, Greek poet

“Le monde est une pièce de théâtre ; il faut apprendre à jouer son rôle.”, Palladas, poète Grecque

 

In this article :

1) 10 Must do on how to behave at the theater or the opera

2) How to choose your seat

 

1) 10 Must do on how to behave at the theater or the opera

Here are some rules to follow at the theater or the opera :

* Dress to impress ! The gala evenings at the opera are very dressy : an opportunity for Umbert to wear a tuxedo and a bow tie. His friend Diane puts on a long dress. 

* When Umbert goes to a show with Diane, he’s always in charge of the cloakroom, and the purchase of the program he offers to Diane, before entering for the room.

* Be on time. Do not enter the room when the show is started. It is necessary to wait for the end of the act. In many theaters and at the opera, the doors are closed as soon as the show begins. What a shame to ruin an evening for a few minutes !

* Even though a theater offers food, do not eat in the room. At the opera it is strictly forbidden.

* Don’t even drink alcohol before the show, the smell may disturb your neighbors. If you are a little tipsy, excuse yourself to your friends, and wait for them outside or directly at the restaurant after the show.

* It is particularly impolite to speak during the show, you have to respect the actors and the other spectators.

* If you do not like the show, you have to wait for the intermission to leave, or wait for the end hoping that something will please you.

* If you fall asleep, close your eyes discreetly, it is not respectful for the actors, especially if you are in the front row.

* Do not sing the tunes you know.

* Never criticize the quality of the show, it’s a very hard job, and you have to respect it.

 

2) How to choose your seat ?

When Umbert is with friends, he respects the etiquette to choose the seats, even if there is a reserved seat with a number on his ticket :

* If there are 2 couples : the women sit in the middle, side by side, between the men (the wives next to their husband).

* If Umbert goes to the show with 2 women, he sits between them.

* If Diane goes to the show with Umbert and Charles, she sits in the middle.

* In a box, women sit in the front row.

 

Umbert loves to go out and knows how to behave at the theater or the opera. He likes to dress and to show off a little with his friend Diane. They always have such an amazing time !

The theater or the opera are a priority for Umbert when traveling for his monthly Weekend in Paris. 

It remembers him about his grand-father who was singing opera the all day.

What you should remember : always be chic, and do everything you can to not disturb the others so they enjoy the show.

 

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Today Umbert advises his friend Alexis, visiting Paris from Montecito in California, about dating.

Alexis thinks that French girls are tough regarding the dates, that’s why he looks for any original ideas.

The 2 friends think that the more original the place will be, the better chances Alexis will have.

They don’t want to look like random guys going in a random restaurant. 

They want something new, unexpected, creating a surprise them so the girl will have a crush on Alexis

That’s why Umbert advices Alexis to not go to the restaurant on a 1st date ! Try to find the Phantom of the Opera ….

 

« Paris is very small for those who love each other with such great love. », Jacques Prévert, French writter

« Paris est tout petit pour ceux qui s’aiment d’un aussi grand amour. » Jacques Prévert, écrivain Français

 

In this article :

1) Basic rules for a date

2) The restaurant

3) The cocktail or wine bar

4) Everything else is the best ! 

 

1) Basic rules for a date 

The first appointment should be in a neutral place, not late at night. Never at ones home.

Choose a refined place, quiet to talk.

The choice of the place is difficult because it is also very related to the habits of the protagonists and their intellectual level.

Try to find something close to where both of you live. You don’t want to have time for a lot of hesitations on your way home.

Avoid places where your friends are, or where you know everybody. Your princess wants the all attention. You want to be as natural as possible, and you won’t be if your friends or acquaintances are around.

If you haven’t met already, remember to mention a distinctive sign so you will recognize each other (color of your clothes for exemple)

 

2) The restaurant

This is one of the most common idea.

If you choose this one, try to find something original and chic.

You can choose a place with an all new experience. For exemple an Indian restaurant with a Bollywood decoration, and a very friendly staff. 

Another idea would be an ice restaurant, build with ice. 

The goal is to surprise her, and this place will be the topic to start the discussion.

Always stay with chic places, even if they are specials.

Fine dining are very old school, unless they organise a special and fun event. For exemple an oysters and champagne evening, or a thematic party.

A woman will always be flattered to be invited to a fine dining, but Umbert would keep this option for the second time. It will improve again the surprise effect, and also reassure her.

Don’t forget to check my article Chronology on how to behave at the restaurant like a gentleman, and respect the New Etiquette (Video & Podcast) before going to the restaurant.

 

3) The cocktail or wine bar

Having a drink in a wine or cocktail bar, then dine elsewhere is a very good option.

At least, if something goes wrong, you’ll be on time to cancel the restaurant.

Choose an intimate place, with beautiful lights, perfect for the conversation. The candles highlight women, and make them feel confortable.

Avoid loud music and too much noise in general, it will stress you.

 

4) Everything else is the best !

Umbert likes to go for a picnic, in a calm and beautiful place. Women never expect you to organize such a thing. It is also a chic idea, that shows that you don’t want to show off,

 

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Umbert knows a lot of people in Paris, and often receives several invitations for an event on the same day.

This doesn’t bother him because, fortunately, he knows how to decline politely if necessary.

Now days, everybody tries to improve his business or career, so a lot of events are organized, and you may receive a lot of invitations.

In the same way as saying “thank you”, knowing how to apologize is an important aspect of the New Etiquette.

Some of your acquaintances may insist, even try to « close » ! 

That’s why knowing how to excuse yourself, even apologize, is very important so they won’t be offended.

 

« Let’s excuse as far as common sense allows it », Anne Baratin, French poet

« Tâchons d’excuser tant que le bon sens le permet », Anne Baratin, poète français

 

In this article :

1) Methodology on how to apologize

2) Declining an invitation

3) Everyday excuses

 

1) Methodology on how to apologize

* 1 Apologize as soon as you can. The more the time passes, the less your apologies will be accepted.

* 2 Prefer to do it face to face, otherwise use Skype or FaceTime. Avoid writing on social networks or text.

* 3 Don’t blame the other person. You are trying to solve a relationship problem, so don’t start with a fight !

* 4 Listen : carefully, you have to show empathy to be trusted. The other person should understand that you care.

* 5 Validate : repeat the problem with your own words, to show that you understand the person concern. At this time you’ve just stop the drama.

* 6 Apologize : tell the person that you are sorry if you did something wrong that has hurted him/her. Be authentic and sincere, it is very important. Never lie, she will figure out later anyway. You are responsible for what she feels.

* 7 Silence : the person should tell you if she apologize or not. If she doesn’t, restart the process.

* 8 Even if she accepts your apologies, real forgiveness may take time … But once done, the relationship should be stronger.

2) Declining an invitation

You can use the same process if you want to decline an invitation.

For exemple :

Umbert is invited next week, the same evening at Alexia for her birthday, and at Paul for a dinner with friends. 

He will go to Alexia and FaceTime Paul immediately to apologize : “Paul, I know you’ve done a lot of wrk to organize this party, unfortunately I won’t be available for your dinner and I regret it. ”

Silence …

Paul answers : « I understand Umbert, no worries, thank you for telling me right away, I hope that we’ll see each other soon . »

Umbert : « yes for sure, let me call you next week so we can organize a get together with some friends arriving from Mumbaï, that should be fun. »

If an invitation has been sent to you by email or mail, write a thank you card, and send it the next day.

3) Everyday excuses

Now that you know the process, train at home, so you can use it immediately, all the time.

Here is where it may be useful :

* Umbert is late and jostling a lady in the street : “Madam, I’m so sorry, are you all right ? Is there anything I can do ? » Silence … 

* Arriving late at the restaurant, he tells his friends “Please forgive me I’m late, I hope I haven’t waste you time ? Silence … Let’s enjoy this moment together” 

* When Umbert asks a service to someone, for example when he asks his way, or an information to a salesperson, it is always necessary to start by saying “Good morning,

 

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Whether in Paris or traveling, Umbert respects the New Etiquette codes of each country.

An essential rule exists everywhere : to avoid vulgar words and vulgarity in general. 

A good orator has a huge power, and if you know how to talk, you will seduce your audience.

There are many events nowadays where you can mingle with others. Follow those advices to attract most of the people.

 

“Everything is understood except vulgarity », Louis Pelletier-Dlamini 

« Tout peut se comprendre sauf la vulgarité », Louis Pelletier-Dlamini

 

In this article :

1) The basics

2) The art of speech

3) Avoid rude words

4) The worst is the vulgarity

5) What about the familiarity ?

 

1) The basics

When he meets a friend or an acquaintance, Umbert always tries to be warm and respectful.

Articulate, be audible, do not speak too fast or too slow, and pronounce all the letters of a word, are also important.

We must use a language accessible to all, knowing who we speak to. Do not use technical words related to your work because it is often incomprehensible to the uninitiated.

Keep a measured, not peremptory or insulting tone.

Before talking about yourself, ask others about their job, what they like, the news.

Never start a sentence with “Me, I …”, but by: “It seems to me that …”.

Ask often “What do you think?“, then listen, it is a mark of respect. To know how to listen is a proof of greatness. Never cut the talk.

To argue is advised, it is a proof of sincerity and respect for the other. On the other hand, do it with a moderate tone, making logical remarks, and respecting the point of view of the other. Nobody know the truth ! Look for the compromise.

Do not mention disasters, financial difficulties, illness, conquests, and avoid talking negatively about others. Try to find some entering matters.

If a discussion about a political or religious subject goes wrong, you must know how to stop.

If you are an adult, avoid using the language of teenagers, it is ridiculous. The vocabulary of adolescents belongs to them. They do not expect you to copy them.

You must know how to end a conversation, when you detect in the interlocutor some signs of trouble : yawning, look at the watch, a hand that strikes …

Remember to always end the conversation with a polite and friendly phrase like : “I was delighted to be able to talk to you, I hope we will have the opportunity to meet again”.

 

2) The art of speech

Never improvise, be brief, clear, simple, do not speak too fast, but also be original and personal.

If a personality is present, you must talk to him/her with his/her title.

Remember to have the right posture : keep the bust straight, hands flat (it is a sign of insurance, knowledge of the subject), not in the pockets.

Look people in the eyes, to seem more sincere, and show that you are interested in them.

 

3) Avoid rude words

The evolution of the manners makes the use of the bad words very current nowadays.

Sometimes no one pays attention. But precisely, you have to stand out to please.

This is why, in all circumstances, Umbert tries to never use rude words.

The use of bad or vulgar language is ridiculous for adults.

In a company, it can shock, or not, according to the habits.

This is worse in front of children, where you should never use rude words, even to laugh. If this happens,

 

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Umbert returns to Paris from the Venice Biennale, which is one of the most prestigious architectural events in the world. Umbert likes to discover futuristic designs. He has participated to a lot of conferences.

This month, you’ll discover How to spend the best October weekend in Paris.

October is one of the months when Paris is in full effervescence, because all hotels, restaurants, shops, exhibitions and other activities are always full. It is better to book well in advance.

 

“Autumn is a second spring where every leaf is a flower”, Albert Camus, French writer.

« L’automne est un deuxième printemps où chaque feuille est une fleur » Albert Camus, écrivain français.

 

 

In this article : 

1) Day 1

* Check-in : Hôtel Alfred Sommier

* Brunch : Crabe Royal

* Shopping : J.M. Weston, Lipault, Maille, Daniel Lévy

* Hairdresser : Coiffirst

* Diner : Lucas Carton

* Cocktail : Andy Wahloo

2) Day 2

* Coffee & Croissants : Café Pouchkine

* Exhibition : Gustave Klimt & Hundertwasser à L’Atelier des Lumières

* Brunch : Astier

* City tour : Mondial Paris Motor Show, Fête des Vendanges de Montmartre, FIAC, Rolex Paris Masters

* Diner : Café de la Paix 

* Show : Chicago au Théâtre Mogador

* Cocktail : Le Serpent à Plumes

3) Day 3

* Brunch : Plaza Athénée

* Exhibition : Miró au Grand Palais

* High tea : Hôtel Meurice

 

When travelling to Paris Umbert recommends the travel guid Lonely Planet Paris. He likes it because it gives you a lo of details about the culture, monuments, maps, and other cool spots.You can buy it directly from link.

 

1) Day 1

* Check-in 

A prestigious hotel awaits Umbert, in an elegant Haussmanian building, property of the Sommier family since the 19 th century. The historical decoration, and the latest technologies, make it the place to be.

Hôtel Alfred Sommier, 20 Rue de L’Arcade 75008 Paris 

Etiquette : Before going out, tidy your room up. That’s how we recognize an educated person.

* Brunch 14:00-15:00 

New Place de la Madeleine, a restaurant dedicated to the tasting of the famous Kamchatka Royal Crab, fished since 1870 off the coast of Alaska. This exceptional variety of crab is the most popular in the world for the delicacy of its meat, full of marine flavors. Umbert and his friends love this casual atmosphere.

Crabe Royal, 19 place de la Madeleine 75008 Paris

Etiquette : If the crab is husked it is eaten with a fork and a knife. If it is not husked, you have to use the crab claw after breaking it in 2. The server will be happy to explain.

* Shopping 15:00-17:00 

J.M. Weston : These shoes are handmade in France to ensure an absolute comfort. Umbert advises the famous moccasins but also the Derby, the Cambre boot and the Basket. J.M. Weston, 1/3 boulevard de la Madeleine 75008 Paris 

Lipault : Jean-Paul Gaultier, famous French stylist, signs the winter collection of the brand, specializing in luggage and leather goods.