Umbert De Paris

When younger Umbert used to date many girls, meeting them during his numerous weekends traveling around the world.

From his experiences and readings here is All we know about the date.

Several things could attract girls: your appearance, intelligence, money, social status, kindness, attitude, style, all of those or some of these.

Something that you have they cannot describe, but that they resume with ‘he has it all”.

It’s sometimes strange that girls will tell you that they don’t like selfish boys while they seem to be sometimes attracted by the mystery that comes with it.

It could also be all that is wrong with you that they, in fact, like.

Who knows?

One day an Indian woman told Umbert: “French like to fall in love.”

That’s maybe why French date a lot.

“Love as a drug, like suicide, as a gift, as laziness.”, Christian Bobin, French poet.

1) Why are you single?

Let’s start with the truth or the reasons.

Why are you still single?

According to Aaron Zhu in Medium, here are 7 brutally honest reasons why you’re still single:

* You don’t go out much.

* You haven’t moved on from your ex.

* You’re nitpicky.

* Your self-esteem is too high.

* Your self-esteem is too low.

* You’re too mysterious (you don’t embrace vulnerability).

* You’re too independent.

Moreover, Tesia Blake adds in Medium All the Wrong Reasons Why You’re Afraid to Say “I Love You,” or maybe why you’re afraid of a long term relationship:

* You’re afraid they won’t say it back.

* You expect someone else to be responsible for your happiness.

* You believe you’re responsible for the other person’s happiness.

* “I love you” is not a binding promise.

* They might break your heart. Let them.

* Love is not like your actual heart — you do have more than one.

* And now that your fears are gone. Go enjoy love. Give it freely. Embrace the possibility that you might fall on your face instead of letting that fear stop you from living.

Going from single to a relationship is a change, but girls won’t take your life, they will be part of it. As your partner, not only in crime, they will make your life better, with more substance.

You can read the lovely article Fall In Love With Someone, But Don’t Fall Out Of Love With Yourself by Niklas Göke in Medium about this.

So let’s now move on.

2) The dating apps

Nowadays people use dating apps like Tinder, hppn, OK Cupid , Hinge,

The best May 2019 Weekend in Paris

After practicing meditation at Nalanda Gompa monastery in Bhutan, Umbert joined Ura Monastery to participate for 3 days in Ura Yakchoe festival.

The villagers wear Buddhist Monks’ sacred masks to sing, dance, and celebrate Guru Rinpoche, The Second Buddha.

The month of May in Paris is promising, spring is here, Umbert is sharing new places.

Benefits of this coaching :

* Best methodology to become irresistible.* An innovative technique to unleash your charisma.* Learn the new etiquette & manners.* A better lifestyle.

“To offer lily of the valley on the first of May is to offer happiness for the whole year.” French proverb.

DAY 1

* Check-in

Hotel des Grands Boulevards 17 Boulevard Poissonnière 75002 Paris

Young & beautiful people at the Hotel des Grands Boulevards. You will find such a young crowd in this hotel, in one of the trendiest neighborhoods of Paris. Umbert chooses to stay in an old 18th-century mansion, a new hotel designed by Dorothée Meilichzon. The entrance is through the porch which preserves the calm of the residence and allows one to admire this magical place which represents all the charm of Paris, in the pure style of the Age of Enlightenment.

Budget: from 189 to 391 euros per night

Etiquette: when arriving at the hotel until 6 pm says « Bonjour Madame or Monsieur,” and after 6 pm “Bonsoir Madame or Monsieur,» in French, it is not difficult.

Hotel des Grands Boulevards 17 Boulevard Poissonnière 75002 Paris 

* Brunch 2 pm

Klay Saint Sauveur, 4 bis rue Saint Sauveur 75002 Paris

Umbert joins his friends to tell them about his experience in Bhutan. At Klay Saint Sauveur, they take advantage of the green terrace in the heart of Paris and discover the Super Bowls which change according to the seasons.

Budget: around 37 euros

Etiquette: Before telling a story about yourself, ask your friends if they are well and do not talk about you too long unless you are asked questions.

Klay Saint Sauveur, 4 bis rue Saint Sauveur 75002 Paris

* Shopping 3 pm

Lanvin, 15 rue du Faubourg Saint Honore 75008 Paris

Umbert begins shopping at the Lanvin store. The combination of checks and stripes, sober colors like purple and gray are very successful. Umbert loves the 3 D printed jacket, very modern and comfortable to wear.

Lanvin, 15 rue du Faubourg Saint Honore 75008 Paris

Givenchy, 28 rue du Faubourg Saint Honore 75008 Paris

The man and the woman are the mirror of each other in the Givenchy Spring-Summer 2019 collection. Umbert does not stand up to the Hawaiian cotton shirt printed with monsters, black in color.

A short historical reminder is necessary.

At all times men have put on make-up. In the time of King Louis XIV, they put white powder on the face and red on the cheeks. At the court of Louis XVIII, it was indispensable to be noticed by the king and appearing more handsome and more aristocratic.

In the past, the boyish style of Coco Chanel in 1915 was a revolution and liberation; the Yves Saint Laurent women’s tuxedo, or the men’s skirt at Dior had already jostled the genres.

In 1971, David Bowie was scandalous about the album cover “Hunky Dory,” where he appears makeup. The years pass, the mores change, and in 1973 he is elected the best dressed British, while the makeup for men is not yet usual.

Ashley Clarke in Mr. Porter article Why Makeup For Men Might Soon Be A Grooming Essential finds an origin in some parts of Asia, where makeup is a normal part of life for young men, driven mainly by celebrity culture and the loosening of traditional norms of masculinity, especially in the movie industry. These influences are slowly arriving in the West, but many men still have a big hang-up about wearing makeup. What about today?

L’Observatoire Des Transidentités (Observatory of Trans Identities) with Karine Solene Espineira in her article Non-binary genres on the Internet and Facebook, reports that it is increasingly known that a minority of the population is transgender, in the sense that the person does not identify with the gender ‘assigned to birth’ from the appearance of its organs genitals, but rather as the other option of the two commonly accepted genres that we find on our administrative documents.

They feel both man and woman, sometimes in the middle; a ‘mix’; ‘Of variable gender’ depending on the circumstances, the day, the year … even some have the impression of being completely foreigners to all that and to be ‘without genre.’

The term ‘genderqueer’ is sometimes seen as an umbrella term (broad, grouping many identities, similar to non-binary), sometimes as an identity in itself (with the emphasis on being ‘other’ by compared to binary genres).

One of this trend website is genderqueerid.com

Genderqueer flag

For Les Bons Détails (The good details), the No Gender is not a light trend but an underground movement that is gradually gaining momentum thanks to the millennials that advocate a freer fashion and a more individualized style. No provocation, no claim, but a desire to be oneself and exceptionally comfortable. The taste is more important than the genre.

GQ journalist Rachel Tashjian in her article 2...

The best April weekend in Paris

Umbert returns from a stay in Playa Maderas, on the Pacific coast of Nicaragua, a surfing, sailing and yoga spot. In April, Umbert offers chic, unexpected and underground places but still very Parisian.

Benefits of this coaching :

* Best methodology to become irresistible.* An innovative technique to unleash your charisma.* Learn the new etiquette & manners.* A better lifestyle.

“A little glass of Alsace wine is like a light dress, a spring flower, it is the ray of sunshine that brightens up life.”, Christian Dior, fashion designer.

Day 1

* Check-in

Hôtel Raphael, 17 avenue Kléber 75116 Paris

Since 1927, Hotel Raphael has been a favorite place for intellectuals, filmmakers, artists such as Steve Mc Queen, Robert De Niro, and Ingrid Bergman. Umbert takes the time to enjoy the cozy atmosphere and warm tones of the decoration.

Budget: classic room: 600 euros, luxury room: 700 euros, prestige room: 1500 euros.

Etiquette: The hotel staff appreciates that your things are not hanging in the room; it is also a mark of respect for them.

Hôtel Raphael, 17 avenue Kléber 75116 Paris

* Brunch 2 pm

Beefbar, 5 rue Marbeuf 75008 Paris

Umbert has lunch at the Beefbar, which is “the temple of exceptional meat,” in a superb Art-Déco decor. The “Big K” is a world-famous Kobe beef, served with bacon and cheeseburger. Pierre, a big meat lover, chooses a French beef fed only cereals.

 

Budget: Big K: 29 euros, Heart of filet of 300 grams: 49 euros.

Etiquette: to choose a restaurant and have lunch with friends, you have to check the prices before, to respect their financial possibilities.

Beefbar, 5 rue Marbeuf 75008 Paris

* Shopping 3 pm

Waiting for The Sun, 9 rue Notre Dame Nazareth 75003 Paris

Passing in front of a beautiful window of glasses, Umbert thinks of the summer. Wooden frame glasses, organic degradable acetates, the brand Waiting For The Sun wants to protect the planet. Umbert loves the look of the K 2 model.

Budget: model K 2: 150 euros.

Waiting for The Sun, 9 rue Notre Dame Nazareth 75003 Paris

Archives 18/20, 20 rue des Archives 75004 Paris

Umbert discovers the clothes of famous designers or creators of the brand, and the vintage accessories of the Archives 18/20 concept store. For the spring he chooses the sneakers of the Veja brand.

Budget: Veja sneakers: 115 euros to 125 euros.

Archives 18/20, 20 rue des Archives 75004 Paris

Maison Labiche, 105 rue Vieille du Temple 75003 Paris

To have a unique garment, in a natural material, it is possible following Umbert choice. He has it embroidered by Maison Labiche, after having chosen the pattern and the color.

Budget: 15 euros for embroidery plus clothing.

The best startup is actually in Saint Germain, Paris

Staying in Paris for the week, Umbert had the chance to take back.

Having some coffees at one of his favorite places, the Café De Flore, he saw many people watching social networks or videos on their phone, all the time, even walking or in couples (each of them on their smart-phone).

Umbert loves technology, but also human interactions.

“When the heart is in alignment with the sun, there is nothing more beautiful,” Christian Bobin, poet.

Our times are very passionate, with a tech revolution taking step by step all that people used to.

And people don’t like change.

This adversity goes everywhere, through human interactions, behaviors, politic, friendship or at work.

Sometimes with excess, with the « I Love It » or « I hate it » state of mind.

Today? What should we do?

Umbert was walking through Saint-Germain Des Prés in Paris and saw this charming shop called Grim’art.

Grim’art

It remembers him the old times in France, and all the French culture and history.

It seems very touristic, but helped him questioning about What should we do?

So he started to compare the tech world to the artistic vibe that he feels in Saint Germain.

The tech world & The artistic vibe in Saint Germain

Checking his phone (he does as well), he saw this article from Le Monde (a famous French newspaper): « These people do not exist: welcome to the era of « fake faces », sorry this is in French, but I’m sure you understand that it is about the software StyleGAN creating fake people.

« Should this exist? », the podcast, Caterina Fake, startup founder.

As Daniel C. Dennett, the Austin B. Fletcher professor of philosophy and co-director of the Center for Cognitive Studies at Tufts University, says in his article “WILL AI ACHIEVE CONSCIOUSNESS? WRONG QUESTION” in Wired:

The danger is the influence that these technologies can have on our decision-making processes.

Why not give the legislator the power to sanction companies that abuse it?

Already the media and other social networks mainly influence us because they manipulate us unconsciously, sometimes pushing some to death (example: false news, destruction of reputation).

In any case, the morality of bot, robots and AI is already in doubt.

Every morning, and every night, Umbert answers his emails and keeps his social networks up to date.

It is best to answer only two times a day to avoid permanent stress and interruptions.

Of course, Umbert immediately responds to everything urgent.

He reminds you of the basic principles knowing that speed often goes against what must be done. The best is to think about it before answering.

Benefits of this coaching:

* Best methodology to become irresistible.* An innovative technique to unleash your charisma.* Learn the new etiquette & manners.* A better lifestyle.

“To listen well is almost to answer,” Marivaux, French writer.

1) Email

* In principle (except between young people) won’t be familiar with a user at the first conversation.* Always have a politeness formula.* Do not use familiarity at the beginning.* Make a selection of attachments: do not send too much, especially not useless ones.

The goal is to be cordial and concise.

People have no time to waste, and do not want long and endless e-mails.

2) The phone

Except for an emergency, do not call before 9 am and after 9 p.m.

* Say “Good morning” or so.* Introduce yourself as soon as the correspondent picks up.* Ask if you do not bother.* Be polite and concise. Go straight to the point.* Suggest a lunch or dinner to talk longer.* Thank and greet kindly before hanging up.

Never interfere in a phone conversation.

If you invite friends to your home and the phone does not pass, allow them to give your fixed number.

If someone calls your friends on your landline, pass the conversation directly without asking any questions.

3) Your messaging

Prepare a simple message, avoiding humor.

4) Places where to turn off your cell phone

* Airplanes.* Hospitals.* Schools.* When driving a car.* Cinema and public places.* Religious ceremonies.* Waiting room.* During a professional appointment.* With friends except in case of necessity (in this case it is necessary to warn them).

Umbert practices these simple tips to avoid any misunderstanding.

What to remember: make it simple and polite. Nothing beats a physical appointment in case of misunderstanding.

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Enjoy the journey!

Umbert De Paris

The best March weekend in Paris

The Museum of Fine Arts in Seville has organized an exciting exhibition “Murillo IV centenary.” Umbert took advantage of this exhibition and charming city before returning to share with you The best March weekend in Paris.

Benefits of this coaching :

* Best methodology to become irresistible.* An innovative technique to unleash your charisma.* Learn the new etiquette & manners.* A better lifestyle.

“Mars who laughs, in spite of showers, secretly prepares spring” Théophile Gautier, poet, and French novelist.

1) Day 1

* Check-in 

Relais Christine, 3 rue Christine 75006 Paris

In the heart of Saint-Germain-des-Prés, near the Latin Quarter, an intimate and chic stay is at Relais Christine. Umbert enjoys the lounge with its many fireplaces to relax; then he takes a bike loaned by the hotel to discover the beautiful Parisian neighborhoods.

Etiquette: It is difficult to get places in gourmet restaurants or theater. The concierge often has a solution. Give him a tip of 50 euros or more to thank him.

Relais Christine, 3 rue Christine 75006 Paris

* Brunch 2 pm 

Les Bouquinistes, 53 Quai des Grands-Augustins 75006 Paris

Umbert recommends you to have lunch near the Seine in this world-famous Michelin-starred restaurant “Les Bouquinistes”: Guy Savoy proposes to “Take a meal in a work of art.” Octopus Carpaccio, the lamb with olives and hummus, are a culinary discovery.

Etiquette: If you find a little cork in your glass, either remove it with a fork or a clean knife, or ask for another drink.

Les Bouquinistes, 53 Quai des Grands-Augustins 75006 Paris

* Shopping 3 pm  

Arty Dandy, 1 rue de Furstenberg 75006 Paris

You will find clothes, objects, and very trendy decoration at Arty Dandy. Umbert chose Pete Sorensen’s old leather sneakers, model Tribeca.

Arty Dandy, 1 rue de Furstenberg 75006 Paris

LDB, 56 rue de Rennes 75006 Paris

LBD is an excellent place to find timeless clothes. Umbert advises sweatshirts from the sportswear line and jogging pants that are making a big comeback.

LDB, 56 rue de Rennes 75006 Paris

Hollington, 9 rue Racine 75006 Paris

Workwear from Hollington inspired clothing, designed in the ’70s and taken over by this fan...

How to behave in the street, especially when traveling!

Umbert loves to wander around the city during his monthly weekends, or at night.

He knows that the new etiquette and good manners demand to be always discreet and not to disturb others, even in the street and in all circumstances.

He also pays attention to respect the people and their country when traveling.

If someone asks him his way, he always responds kindly or apologizes if he doesn’t know the answer.

When a car driver gives him the passage, he thankfully nodded politely.

Benefits of this coaching :

* Best methodology to become irresistible

* An innovative technique to unleash your charisma

* Learn the new etiquette & manners

* A better lifestyle

« Courtesy is the main part of the etiquette; it is a kind of charm by which one is loved by everyone » Jacques Deval, artist and filmmaker

1) Public transportation

Always stay behind the line and let the people exist first, especially in the subway, taxi or bus stations.

Let your seat to older persons, women or persons with disabilities, if the other places are taken.

Put your bags under your knees; they don’t need a seat.

It is not convenient to eat or unpack food; the smell will disturb the other passengers.

Please don’t talk loudly on the phone, wait that you will arrive.

Always be gentle with the driver in buses, or any employee from the public transportation company, they try to make their job the best they can. Umbert always says « good morning » or « have a nice day » to the driver.

2) When shopping

Umbert loves to shop around and discover new things and trends.

When he goes to a shop, if there is a push door to open, he always holds it if someone wants to enter after him or exit.

When it is a pull door, don’t forget to hold the door first, to let the other enter or exit.

When the elevator arrives, let the people exit first, then enter and make some space for others. This is the best way not to waste your and others time.

In the escalator stay on the right side so the people in a hurry can walk fast on the left side. People, especially in the cities are working, so if you respect them, they will also appreciate the tourists.

3) Rainy days

They are part of the charm of Paris and North Europe in general.

These days are often synonymous with congested sidewalks because many streets in old cities are narrow. Do not forget that this is what makes them historical and charming.

Umbert pays attention not to jostle someone by walking too fast, and not to disturb everyone with his umbrella.

He always lowers his umbrella to let a woman pass.

A woman, meanwhile, will lower her umbrella to let an older woman pass.

Don’t forget that many works and are often in a hurry. They should, therefore, be given priority.

On the opposite, if you are in a hurry, do not “stick” the person in front.

When Umbert inadvertently hustles someone, even if he tries never to do, he immediately apologizes.

4) The priorities, especially with women

Umbert is a gallant man when he sees a woman walking on the same sidewalk; he leaves her the side along the wall, proof that he takes care of her safety.

He always leaves room for a woman on public transportation.

A man does not turn around and look at a woman. It’s a proof of respect.

If he meets a married person with another man, he pretends not to have seen them. He lets the woman come to him if she wishes.

If a person arrives with a stroller, he moves to let her pass.

If he meets a senior, he takes a step aside to let her pass.

5) With your group of friends

Umbert knows many people in Paris, and he often meets friends in his favorite neighborhoods.

When discussing, they let the passage free,

How to behave at the restaurant like a gentleman

Umbert loves to go to the restaurant. He is a gourmet, and every month, he gives you his choices for the best places. You can check Umbert Weekends in Paris.

To behave correctly at the restaurant is not a protocol matter, but part of the Art-de-Vivre and new etiquette.

Umbert helps you about How to behave at the restaurant like a gentleman.

Benefits of this coaching :

* Best methodology to become irresistible.

* An innovative technique to unleash your charisma.

* Learn the new etiquette & manners.

* A better lifestyle.

« The gastronomy is an incredible source of happiness” Pierre Hermé, famous French pastry chef.

1) Arriving at the restaurant

If you have invited a woman, be sure to arrive before the time, if not contact her. You can also read my article How to be a winner on the first date.

When arriving with a lady, a man always goes first to the restaurant, and hold the door. Why? This is an old tradition: to protect the woman from looks, or fights that were common in hostels in the past. If there is a staircase: the man goes first, it is also an old tradition because the man should not see the legs of the woman, and when they go down to avoid a fall to the lady.

Enter and wait for the butler to place you.

If the butler leads a couple to the table, the woman goes first.

It is essential to wait until the hostess places you. However, you can politely ask to change if the table proposed does not suit you.

The man gently pulls the woman’s chair to invite her to sit down and extends her right hand to the table. The woman is still sitting in front of the room and on the bench if there is one.

When Umbert invites friends to the restaurant, he asks for a table and leads his guests there.

2) At the table

If the man arrives before and is already at the table, he must get up when the woman comes to greet her.

Never sit down first. The bench is always reserved for ladies. If there are two women, they will be side by side. If there are only chairs, think of pulling the woman’s chair, unless the butler does it.

When you sit down to the table, immediately put your towel on your legs, without waiting for the dish. The towel should not be tied around the neck, shirt or belt. It must stay on your knees, except to wipe your lips before drinking, so the glass is not dirty.

Turn off your phone! Personal items shouldn’t be on the table (sunglasses, phone, keys, etc.).

Do not put elbows on the table while eating.

To make your choice on the menu, do not look at the neighbors’ plate at another table. Do not choose dishes which are too expensive, to respect the other guest regarding the bill, or too modest, so you’ll seem cheap.

The host chooses the wines, after having asked everybody if his choice suits them.

When the waiter comes to you with a bottle of red wine, look at the label to check the order. Turn the red wine in your glass delicately before tasting and agreeing.

The men serve the drink to the ladies who accompany them unless the butler does it.

Glasses: the water glass is the largest on the left. The red wine glass is the middle one; the smallest white wine glass is on the right. Wipe your lips before drinking, so you do not stain the glass.

If you do not want to drink wine, do not put your hand on the glass to refuse, but say “no thank you” to the server.

The bread is not eaten before the first course is served, even if you are starving!

Before starting to taste the dishes, wait until everyone is served. Exception: if you are many at the table, and your neighbors ask you to start. However, for an appetizer or a cold dish,

Can or should a man wear makeup?

What do you answer?

Yes: to be even more attractive.

No: not to lose his manhood.

Let’s check why Chanel and Givenchy launch a men’s make-up line.

« The best thing is to have a natural look, but to have a natural look, you need makeup. », Calvin Klein

A short historical reminder is necessary.

At all times men have put on make-up.

In the time of King Louis XIV, they put white powder on the face and red on the cheeks.

At the court of Louis XVIII, it was indispensable to be noticed by the king and appearing more handsome and more aristocratic.

In 1915, Coco Chanel changed the codes of fashion; it is a revolution and liberation.

In 1971, David Bowie was scandalous about the album cover “Hunky Dory,” where he appears makeup. The years pass, the mores change, and in 1973 he is elected the best dressed British, while the makeup for men is not yet usual.

With this in mind, the brand CHANEL  has just created the line of men’s makeup “BOY CHANEL” first marketed in South Korea.

Three products are available:

* A foundation: among the four shades, choose the one that comes closest to the color of your skin to stay very natural. Apply with a brush or a light sponge to ensure a good hold.* A lip balm: it is moisturizing and matte. The lips are highlighted but keep their color. Renew it often in the day.* An eyebrow pen: it emphasizes the look while maintaining the shape of your eyebrows. The line must be light.

Givenchy “Mister”

 The brand GIVENCHY has also created the makeup line “MISTER” intended to mix the feminine and masculine genres.

Four products are to try:

* An anti-fatigue fluid.* A transparent gel to draw eyebrows.* A corrector.* A stick for a matte complexion.

Chanel‘s slogan for BOY is: “Beauty is not about sex, it’s about style.”

Are you ready to adopt this new style, to assert yourself, to rebel, to dare?

If so then do not hesitate, everything evolves towards the “no gender.” #nogender

That’s why Chanel and Givenchy launch a men’s make-up line.

What to remember: Of course, this is going to be polemical. So consider that it will make you more attractive and that applying it sparingly will not take away your masculinity.

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Enjoy the journey!

Umbert De Paris