How to be a winner on the first date

Umbert’s friend Alexandre looks for a fiancée and asks for advice on How to be a winner on the first date if he meets a pretty girl, and asks her for a date. 

Umbert is a man to whom his friends like to confess. Politeness and friendship have a rule: never tell another person the confidences made by a friend.

Today he meets Alexandre at the Café de Flore in Paris.

Umbert explains that pretty girls are difficult to seduce, and they pay attention to the etiquette and good manners, so it is important to follow his advice.

After meeting the “right person,” here is the second crucial moment: the date.

It is also the second difficult part because everything will have to be in fineness and elegance.

Benefits of this coaching :

* Best methodology to become irresistible.

* An innovative technique to unleash your charisma.

* Learn the new etiquette & manners.

* A better lifestyle.

“You’ll never have a second chance to make a good impression,” David Swanson.

1) General rules for a date

Simplicity is key. Be yourself; lying is a waste of time; she will discover who you are anyway.

The smile is the number one asset of seduction. Be friendly and charming.

The one who makes a woman laugh will be ahead of the one who floods her with many compliments.

Have physical, moral and intellectual elegance.

Highlight your qualities. For example, your success in an industry or a sport. There may be other contenders, so put all the chances on your side. Whether you are beautiful, intelligent, rich or the opposite, girls like success. Do not show off with your money, car or house. Make yourself appreciate for yourself; it’s essential for the future.

Before the appointment, you can think of a few topics. A man who does not know what to say will have no chance to please.

Avoid at all costs the vulgarity, the “heaviness” in the behavior, and don’t do too much, or say too much.

In all cases avoid personal problems, excessive development, and focus on the interest of the other.

If you are open, balanced, attentive, confident, cheerful! Then everything will be fine.

2) The date at the restaurant

* Arrive in advance. Never be late to the first appointment, it would be a huge and gross mistake. If it happens to contact her as soon as possible to let her know, she will appreciate it. Moreover don’t try the « sorry I’m so busy … », she wants you to be busy with her!  

* Personal items shouldn’t be on the table (sunglasses, phone, keys, etc.). This is a table for you and her, not yours.

* Turn off your phone!

* Get up when the woman arrives to greet her.

* If you’ve never met and are disappointed: do not show it, you will not see each other again.

* Find a sentence to welcome her, delicate, kind without doing too much. A compliment on her outfit and elegance will always be appreciated. A little shyness does not hurt or at least a low reserve.

* Never sit down first. The bench is always reserved for ladies. If there are only chairs, think of pulling the woman’s chair, unless the butler does it.

* When you sit down to the table, immediately put your towel on your legs, without waiting for the dish.

* Start the conversation and look at her eyes to talk.

* It is the man who places the order at the Maître d’Hotel and chooses the wines, after having asked the woman if his choice suits her. Do not look at the neighbors’ plate at another table to make your choice.

* The man serves the drink to the woman who accompanies him unless the butler does it.

* Before starting to taste the dishes, wait until she is served.

* If you have to leave the table for a few minutes,

Tonight Georges, who is one of Umbert’s best friend, has a date at Les 2 Magots in Paris.

Georges is a little stress and need more advice from Umbert to be more confident.

Umbert likes to help his friends. That’s why he writes about Date.

Benefits of this coaching :

* Best methodology to become irresistible* An innovative technique to unleash your charisma* Learn the new etiquette & manners* A better lifestyle

« What we encounter in life is destiny. The way we meet her is a personal effort, » Sathya Sai Baba.

1) Before the date

* Check your clothing. Wear clean clothes. It seems obvious, but it’s better to remember. Avoid right away: dirty t.shirt, a jean with holes, dirty shoes, heels damaged, soles with holes (yes, people look at your feet if you do not know how to sit!). Wear simple clothes that enhance, where you feel natural and comfortable.* Of course, you will have also taken care of your physical cleanliness (hair, nails, skin).* Do not wear too much perfume.* Speak in front of your mirror once ready. It will give you insurance.* Forget all your worries;otherwise do not go there.

Nothing beats an « arrival » smiling, relaxed, with a confident attitude.

2) During the date

Turn off your cell phone.

Always be natural, charming and courteous.

Do not talk about your work, trouble, family, breakup.

Ask questions; women love to be listen.

Stay relaxed; it’s a party.

Dominate your shyness.

Smile and look her in her eyes.

Do not cut the floor.

When talking, avoid « me I, » and prefer, « I think that » or « it seems to me, » « in my opinion. »

If you feel an attraction, you can touch her arm while talking.

Specify what you are looking for in the relationship.

The difficulty is to talk about your qualities, without putting too much value.

Remember that women don’t like:

* Men who show off, and talk about everything they are supposed to possess.* The stubborn who talks about money, and especially how to save it. Attention! It is you Sir who must pay the totality of the bill.* The false intellectual who pretends to know everything.* The seducer who enumerates his conquests and considers himself already a winner.* The obsessed who talks about sex constantly.* The unfortunate man with whom from the first sentence we are in the drama.

3) What men don’t like:

The hyper-liberated woman, often unstable.

Those who do not respect your private life. She is always listening to you and doing everything you want.

The authoritarian: Either we obey, or we leave!

The agitated who lists all the activities she does.

The depressive who lives in problems

The snobbish looking only for a comfortable material life. Do you have enough money to pay for her lavish lifestyle?

Georges is so happy to get that quick advice before tonight date.

He now feels more confident and will enjoy the party for sure.

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Umbert is planning his holiday invitations.

He will be so happy to welcome his friends and family in his elegant apartment in Paris.

He wants to help you remember some simple rules on How to welcome your guests.

Benefits of this coaching :

* Best methodology to become irresistible

* An innovative technique to unleash your charisma

* Learn the new etiquette & manners

* A better lifestyle

“We do not arrive at people home empty-handed,” French proverb.

1) Welcoming guests

Forget about the fatigue, nervousness, worries.

The host must imperatively be ready to welcome his guests. Umbert likes to dress, perfume, to make sure that his style is impeccable.

Everyone is greeted with a kind word that expresses the joy of receiving.

If the guests have sent flowers or chocolates before, thank them warmly, but discreetly to not bother those who would not have brought anything.

If there are few guests, open the package in front of them. If it is chocolates or candies, offer them at the end of the dinner.

If there are many guests, open them afterward, and call or write the next day to thank.

Providing vases with the water for the flowers offered is necessary. Arrange the flowers in it and highlight the bouquet.

If someone brings a wine that does not fit the menu, say that you keep it to share it with them at the next dinner.

If one brings fresh champagne, serve it as an aperitif or dessert.

Toasting can bring fun and make your party special. The host proposes it to celebrate this night and to welcome everyone or a special guest. The host should stand up, raise his glass, make a short speech and have fun! Don’t forget to watch everyone, then look at the special guest, if there is one, who will say a polite thank you.

When the aperitif is finished (1-hour maximum) the host gets up and places the guests.

If a guest is very late, do not wait for him to eat.

2) The présentations

The presentations are the first act of interaction with the other guests.

The first impression being the one that counts the most, Umbert reminds you of the basic rules of the New Etiquette and manners.

Immediately giving the best self-image is a delicate art, so Umbert offers you that general advice that is easy to follow anywhere :

* First, you have to stand up to meet the guests.

* Keep your arms loosely at your side, ready to shake hands.

* Smile to give the image of a person at ease, happy to know those that are presented to you.

* Do maintain eye contact to prove your sincerity and confidence, do not keep your sunglasses if you are outside.

* Speak clearly to avoid having the caller repeat, especially your name, so never chew gum, or eat while talking.

If you are shy or uncomfortable, have someone introduce you.

If you meet a celebrity, do not stare at her, and take a picture only with her permission, especially if she has a bodyguard !!

The presentations rules :

* Three criteria must be respected: age, sex, and social status.

* The youngest person is presented to the oldest, the man to the woman, an employee to his employer, the least “graded” to the most “graded.”

* The persons to reach out first are the women, the hosts, older people and people of high social standing.

The presentation process :

* State your name first, then your second name: “Good evening, Umbert De Paris.» Never say the name first, or Mr. Umbert De Paris or I am Umbert De Paris. Only use Mr or Mrs when you make an appointment, for example, at the hairdresser. You can say « Mr,» « Sir,» « Mrs » or « Madam » only for an older person.

* How should the handshake be? Be careful; it reveals your personality!

How to leave the party in style

The dinner is over; the coffee is served, you have to know when to leave according to the New Etiquette.

Entering the room and make a fantastic impression is very important to be irresistible.

However, leaving the party in style too, so they remember you.

Benefits of this coaching :

* Best methodology to become irresistible.

* An innovative technique to unleash your charisma.

* Learn the new etiquette & manners.

* A better lifestyle.

« Paris is a party,» Ernest Hemingway, writer.

1) General rules

When Umbert is invited, he always observes the other guests know when he should leave.

So, when all the other guests have already left, he knows it’s time to thank the hosts and call a taxi back home.

French like parties that end at a late hour. However, when you see the host is tired, you know it’s time to leave.

He stays just if the hosts ask for it, especially if the conversation is passionate.

Sometimes Umbert also invites friends. He rents one of the fantastic reception rooms of a Parisian palace. He likes The Ritz; for example, it remembers him the 90’s and the crazy parties there. He wants his guests to enjoy their evening until the end, so he remains cheerful and warm, even if it lasts until the early morning. He then accompanies his guests and thanks them for coming. Isn’t it all the charm of Paris and the French way of life?

2) Leaving the table

First, watch for the first signs of trouble or fatigue in the guests or hosts. On weekdays, think of the hosts who work the next day.

You cannot leave until the hostess (housewife) has stood up first, followed by the host (husband) and the other men who should push out the chairs of their neighbors.

Then place your unfolded towel on the right side of the plate.

Leave as discreetly as possible.

3) What to say

Do not leave without greeting or thanking the hosts.

A compliment to the hostess is always welcome.

Greet the other guests only if they get up too.

If it is very late, and there are still several guests, you can address a collective “Good night,” and warmly greet the hosts.

4) The next days

No matter the quality of the evening, you must thank the hostess the next day, by phone or with a thank you card.

It is imperative to invite the hosts in the next 1 to 2 months.

If you met people you like, invite them for the first time too.

Paris and its parties, Ernest Hemingway, is right: « Paris is a party.»

Now you know How to leave the party in style.

The dandy-chic, the laughs, the music, it’s always fun, and Umbert and his male friends like to go there to seduce the pretty girls. Still in style!

What must be remembered: the way you leave is as meaningful as the way you enter a room. Do it in style, thank the hosts, make a compliment, leave discreetly saying a general « Good night » most of the time.

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Enjoy the journey!

Following a beautiful evening at Diane’s, Umbert must thank her for her invitation.

Say « thank you » is part of the international Savoir-Vivre. It also helps to maintain cordial relationships. It is a form of respect.

The fact that you decline or accept an invitation is not the problem, but you have to thank, that’s the most important.

Thank you, Dear! Here is a Process on how to thank.

Benefits of this coaching :

* Best methodology to become irresistible.

* An innovative technique to unleash your charisma.

* Learn the new etiquette & manners.

* A better lifestyle.

“Politeness is for the mind what grace is for the face,” Voltaire, French philosopher.

1) What are the different types of “Thank you.”

* The automatic “thank you,” for example at a shopkeeper. It’s the one you use automatically.

* “Thank you,” says with his heart, to a friend or someone who is helping you.

* The “thank you” for an invitation, that’s the one we are talking about.

* The hypocrite or forced « thank you,» try to avoid it, find a real excuse instead of playing.

2) Thank you before the party

Answer as soon as possible to accept or refuse an invitation, in the 24 hours.

Answer through the same canal as the invitation.

So if it’s a card, answer with a card, if it’s online, answer online.

The card must be white, the ink color blue or black, stay neutral. Nevertheless, if you are a real artist, you can create something for the host.

Show that you are pleased to be invited.

Never asked if you can bring someone with you unless it’s a friends party.

If you are on a diet, that’s not a problem, just let the host know before. Same for allergies.

If you are a couple, don’t forget to mention the other person.

3) Thank you during the party

Please arrive 15 minutes after the official beginning of the party, and adapt your style to the dress code, it shows that you respect the host. Too early may disturb the host, too late is not respectful for the others.

Thank the host with a gift: chocolates for dinner, wine, flowers or something more personal if they are friends like a coffee table book.

If the host has children, bring something for the kids, the all family will appreciate.

You can send the gift before you arrive, bring it, or send it the next day.

Regarding the flowers, the best is to go to a beautiful flower shop and ask for some advice describing the host. Always stay neutral and chic. Add a thank you card.

After dinner, leaving, thank your hosts for this beautiful evening. Make a compliment on the housekeeper’s attire, the lunch or the bouquets are always welcome.

For a particular moment such as a wedding or a baptism, things are more a protocol. You have to first thank with a card, then send a gift with another card.

Don’t make any gift if it is just a cocktail party. A thank you card will be enough.

4) After the party

Call your host the next day to thank, or send a handwritten « thank you » card. 

Avoid the email; it is less friendly.

If you were the host, thank the guests for coming. Say a big thank you for the flowers, wines or chocolates they offered.

You have one month to thank everybody if it’s a wedding or a baptism.

5) How to decline

You can answer that you thank the host for the invitation, you are pleased to be invited, but unfortunately. Never lie (people always find out later when you do), find something logic.

Always decline with a written card if possible, or a call.

If you are a couple, don’t forget to mention the other person. You both decline.

Umbert is now eager to return to Paris, where every evening a new invitation to a fabulous party amuses him. 

The glamorous Paris,

How to eat some dishes properly

When Umbert goes to the restaurant with his friends, they like to discover new dishes and try any new experiences.

For example, he likes to go to The Ritz, and meet the famous chefs from the Escoffier School. This is his favorite place in Paris.

However, sometimes some dishes require different utensils, especially in France.

Here is the list to know How to eat some dishes properly.

“Whoever does not eat at the table eats in the barn,” French proverb.

* Soup: only with a spoon. You can now finish the plate by leaning backward and slightly to the right (for right-handed) or left (left-handed).

* Asparagus: you can eat them either with your fingers in an intimate dinner, either cut with its fork, leaving in the plate the harder part. If the asparagus are skinny: they can be folded in the middle with a knife and put in the mouth with a fork.

* Artichoke: use two fingers to dip the leaves in the vinaigrette sauce. Use your fork and knife to eat the heart.

* Salad: the salad should not be cut with a knife. Take your fork to fold the large leaves. The host must serve chopped leaves to avoid this problem.

* Caviar: serve the caviar with the little spoon, then spread it on the toast or blinis. You can use your fork and knife, or your fingers, to eat the blinis.

* Oysters: the oysters are eaten with elegance. It is necessary to take the shell in the left hand, to unhook the flesh with the oyster fork, and to suck it with the water from the shell without making noise.

* Mussels: hold the shell in the palm of your hand and use an empty shell as a plier to detach the flesh.

* Lobsters: the claws are cracked with a nutcracker. Take the meat with a seafood fork. If the piece is big, you can use a knife to cut it into small pieces.

* Sushis: you need some chopsticks. Please pick up the Sushis, so it doesn’t break into pieces. Dip it into the soy sauce, eat part of it, then let the chopsticks on the table side by side. The best is to practice before with someone who will teach you. Advice from one of Umbert friend who is a well-known chef in Tokyo: “don’t put to much perfume before going to a sushi place, because the strong smell may modify the sushi taste and your experience.”

* Foie gras: do not spread it. In France, it is eaten with a fork, with a piece of toast. In England, cut a piece and place it delicately on a piece of bread.

* Escargots: hold the shell in tongs, use a snail held and remove the snail from the shell. Use the fork to dip the bread in the garlic butter.

* Omelet: the omelet is cut and eaten only with the fork.

* Spaghetti: never cut with a knife. Wrap them around a fork.

* Fishes: for the soft fishes use the fish cutlery. Split the fish with the fish knife from head to tail and lift the nets if the flesh is hard to use the cutlery especially the knife.

* Poultries: detach the flesh with the knife and fork. Never use your fingers. Do not suck the bones. When can you use your fingers exceptionally? With ortolans, quail wings, wings of young pigeons, frog legs. Caution: provide a finger rinse (warm water with a lemon slice or mint leaf).

* Steak tartare: it is eaten with the fork and the knife, the pieces are cut just before eating. The tartare in France cannot be consumed with mayonnaise.

* Sandwiches: tea sandwiches are eaten with the fingers. For the other ones, even club-sandwich, you can use a fork if they are not cut already.

* Tacos: you can use your fingers.

* French fries: do not use your fingers. Prick them with a fork.

* Cheese: present it, it is possible to leave the label. Warning: the

* Camembert never stays in its box as pretty as it is. Cut it if it is round into sections.

28 tips to stay gallant

Umbert meets many women during his trips to Paris.

French women are the most difficult women to seduce. In any case, this is what the men he met on his many travels around the world say.

If we check the definition of « Gallant » in the dictionary, it is synonymous with: brave, spirited, noble-minded, chivalrous, exceptionally polite and attentive to women, courtly, to court or act as a lover of.

This shows us that a gallant man is a MAN!

Married or single, it is important to remember the basic rules.

Benefits of this coaching :

* Best methodology to become irresistible* An innovative technique to unleash your charisma* Learn the new etiquette & manners* A better lifestyle

« Gallantry is not old-fashioned,» J.C. Robedat

1) Gallantry in a relationship

* The years have passed, remember to be always gallant.* Relive the emotions of the first date: the place and the emotions.* Offer roses, or the flowers she prefers.* Return to the dating place, and have fun!* Show her that she is always unique; of course, she is.* Organize a trip to be happy as on the first days. Always check if she wants to relax, or discover.* Watch your wife every day; she is beautiful.* Compliment her on her new hairstyle.* Always notice her new dress.* Do not forget her birthday, your wedding anniversary (make a gift for this specific occasion), and Valentine’s Day.* Find a place where you’ve danced, and go back. Champagne of course to celebrate your relationship!* Listen to her conversation. Women love to be listened to.* Laugh with her.* Show her that you care, and care of course!* Go out without the kids, as on a date.* Avoid looking at other women, even if it’s sometimes tricky.* Give her something to dream about, and offer it, also if you think she has everything. Find something original.* Sometimes a small gesture full of tenderness is enough.

2) Gallantry for singles

* Do not insist on your choice to be single. A single person must not proclaim his life choice all the time and claim his freedom. It’s annoying for others.* Never talk about her single status either.* At the table, do not put her next to a woman, but between two men.* Don’t talk about family life, children, etc. She doesn’t have one, so it is embarrassing.* Avoid troublesome questions.* Put her on the same level as the others, and all subjects.* Please pay attention to her behavior towards the spouse of the other guests.* Don’t wear a hyper-sexy outfit or tacky haircut. You’d be ridiculous.* Please don’t insist on your many dates. It is vexing for those who have a stable emotional life.* The best is to forget your single status and be natural!

As a single person, Umbert often advised his married friends, because they forget some of those rules. He always remembers them those 28 tips for staying gallant.

Gallantry is very important to have your relationships keeps going.

What you must remember: always care, she is your priority. Forget your single status, and have a great conversation. Offer a gift sometimes and remember why you’ve spent time with her. 

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Enjoy the journey!

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7 Advice to choose the dishes and wine for your dinner party 

After Thanksgiving, Umbert has now enough time to think about the holidays season.

He is going to invite his best friends and family for dinner at home.

Umbert loves the holiday season. This is, with summer, the best time of the year. It is very relaxing, full of emotions and love.

He gives you 7 advice to choose the dishes and wine for your dinner party at home.

Benefits of this coaching :

* Best methodology to become irresistible

* An innovative technique to unleash your charisma

* Learn the new etiquette & manners

* A better lifestyle

« Real cooking is a form of art, a gift to share, » Oprah Winfrey, American producer

Think about your meal for several days in advance to be relaxed.

Privilege a menu and seasonal, local and organic products.

Remember to consider the nationality and religion of the guests. You cannot impose foods proscribed by religion.

1) The aperitif

The aperitif is usually taken outside the table, in the living room or own the garden terrasse.

It’s a good idea to make a homemade cocktail, but also to offer a range of classic alcoholic and non-alcoholic beverages.

2) The entrance

The entrance must be light. It can be presented on plates when sitting at the table to avoid clutter.

3) The main course

The main course, fish or meat, must be light. Avoid some dishes that are too heavy or have a very particular taste.

4) The cheese/salad

Here is the ideal cheese plate:

* Hard dough (Gruyère, Comté, Beaufort).

* Soft dough (Camembert, Brie, Munster).

* Goat cheese.

* A marbled paste (Blue, Roquefort, to serve with a little butter).

The cheese must be served at home temperature.

If you serve salad and cheese at the same time, plan a large plate.

5) The bread

Cut it into large chunks and slanted.

Present two baskets on the table with a matching towel at the bottom.

6) The dessert

It is inversely proportional to the heaviness of the meal.

7) The wines

Here we give only a few basic tips.

Every wine has its type of glass.

During a meal consisting of several dishes, two kinds of wine are in principle offered from the lightest to the strongest.

Taste:

* White wines before the reds.

* Dry wines before mellowness.

* The youngest before the older ones.

The more meat is raised, the more powerful the wine. The finer it is, the lighter it is.

Decantation: it is linked to the grape, the vintage, the region, and the winegrower.

If you are not a connoisseur, ask the wine merchant.

Champagne :

* Keep it cool 48 hours before opening.

* The younger it is, the more it must be drunk cold, in a 2/3 flute.

* Avoid blowing the cap.

* Connoisseurs turn the bottle and not the cap until the carbon dioxide escapes whistling.

With those easy 7 advice to choose the dishes and wine for your dinner party at home, Umbert can handle any invitation at home.

He loves having his friends and family at home.

In December in Paris, the City Of Lights, where the holiday season is magic!

What you should remember: follow those 7 advice, and take it easy. The simplest the better. Always match the food with the wines, and don’t forget to create your home cocktail to impress your guest, it will be fun!

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Enjoy the journey!

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Umbert joins Paris after participating in the International Comic Strip Festival in Angoulême (France).

His favorites were: Batman celebrating his 80th birthday and the Taiyo Matsumoto retrospective devoted to childhood.

It is now time to spend a festive weekend with his best friends in Paris.

Benefits of this coaching :

* Best methodology to become irresistible* An innovative technique to unleash your charisma* Learn the new etiquette & manners* A better lifestyle

« The trip is the part of the dream. », Xavier Roy Photographer.

1) Day 1

* Check-in

Le Pavillon de la Reine 28 Place des Vosges, 75003 Paris

In the heart of the Marais district, Umbert chose this address to appreciate the charm and the discretion of this place, full of history, on the oldest site of Paris. Umbert and his friends like to chat in the living room of the restored hotel, in front of the big fireplace, forgetting the time.

Le Pavillon de la Reine 28 Place des Vosges, 75003 Paris

* Brunch 14:00-15:00

Café des Musées 49 Rue de Turenne, 75003 Paris 

The best beef bourguignon in Paris! Umbert doesn’t hesitate to recommend this dish to his friends. The dish simmers 5 hours according to a traditional recipe: a real bistro and a family kitchen.

Café des Musées 49 Rue de Turenne, 75003 Paris

* Shopping 15:00-17:00

Isaac Reina 12 Rue de Thorigny, 75003 Paris 

The motto of Isaac Reina is: “Keeping the essentials: the function” Umbert finds that by choosing men’s bags of pure and natural beauty. He likes Model Number 909, the perfect bag for the weekend.

Isaac Reina 12 Rue de Thorigny, 75003 Paris

Le Slip Français 137 Rue Vieille du Temple, 75003 Paris 

All underwear for men gathers in this fantastic shop: underpants, boxers, pajamas, socks. The choice is vast, the colors and the motifs are inventive. Umbert chooses boxers “Marius Quatro.»

Le Slip Français 137 Rue Vieille du Temple, 75003 Paris

Saint James 116 Rue Vieille du Temple, 75003 Paris, France 

You will be sexy and so trendy with a striped sweater and a hat like sailors.

Saint James 116 Rue Vieille du Temple, 75003 Paris, France

Pied de Biche 5 Rue Commines, 75003 Paris 

For comfort and elegance, Umbert loves to put on shoes with city sneakers. The model with leather upper is perfect for walking on pavers, or in the countryside, and combines with many types of pants.

Pied de Biche 5 Rue Commines,...

Dear All, 

I would like to thank you for all the joy and experiences you have made in my life. 

You will always be special for me. 

This year, my only goal is to make people happier. 

A new year is like a blank book, and the pen is in our hands. It’s a chance to write a beautiful story for ourselves. 

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Happy New Year !

Umbert De Paris