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Growing up, I believed so many lies from the enemy. Lies that I was a nobody. That I was worthless. That I was unlovable. That nobody cared about me. I was a reject. I hated everything about myself.  I absolutely hated being alone, because that’s when all of these thoughts would come at me the strongest.

When I was 17 and gave my life to Jesus, I wish I could say that all of those thoughts went away, but they didn’t. I still struggled a lot. 

I remember thinking as a new Christian that I was broken beyond repair. I used to ask myself, “Why am I like this?” Why can’t I make friends… I don’t just mean those people you say hi to here and there, but those close friends who are there for you no matter what. I don’t want to be alone anymore. Why can’t I be different? What’s wrong with me?”

I’m just thankful that at this point in my life, I was crying out to God as I was asking these questions. My heart-cry at this time was, “God change me. Show me what I need to do and I will do it!”

What I didn’t realize back then was after giving my life to Jesus, I had the power on the inside of me to watch those dead areas of my life come to life. I had the power on the inside of me to heal those broken places. I had the power on the inside of me to get rid of the loneliness. 

That power is the resurrection power that Jesus gave to us after He died on the cross and rose again from the grave. 

How? How does the resurrection power work in our lives? Listen to what Abraham did in Romans 4.

Romans 4:17-21-“As it is written, “I have made you the father of many nations”—in the presence of the God in whom he believed, who gives life to the dead and calls into existence the things that do not exist. In hope he believed against hope, that he should become the father of many nations, as he had been told, “So shall your offspring be.” 

He did not weaken in faith when he considered his own body, which was as good as dead (since he was about a hundred years old), or when he considered the barrenness[b] of Sarah's womb. (his wife couldn’t have babies either) No unbelief made Abraham waver concerning the promise of God, but he grew strong in his faith as he gave glory to God, fully convinced that God was able to do what he had promised. 

This is what Abraham did to see his dead body (he couldn't have babies) come back to life:

1.     He heard the promise of God. We do this by getting into the Bible and finding out what it says about our situation. 

2.     He didn’t let doubt take him down. He didn’t weaken in faith but grew stronger in faith. 

3.     Give glory to God. Even if you don’t see what you’re believing, thank God as if it already happened! 

4.     He walked in victory! And so can you if you just don’t quit! 

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If nobody has told you lately…and even if they have, I want you to know that you are valuable. 

You are loved by God. He has a purpose and a plan for your life that are so much greater than you can even imagine. 

You are not here by mistake. You are not a mistake. 

Jesus loves you! He values your life so much that He was willing to give up His own life so that He could have a relationship with you!

This week on the UncommonTEEN Podcast, we are going to talk about the importance of what Jesus did for us on the cross, how it shows His great love for you and how much He values you, and what His dying on the cross actually did for us and for others!

1. Sin has a price tag. 

Romans 6:23 says, “For the wages (or the payment) of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life through Christ Jesus our Lord.

2. Someone must pay the price for that sin, and it should have been us since we are the ones who mess up. However, someone else paid the price…His name is Jesus. 

Romans 5:8-But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners.

3.    Jesus paid the price so we could go free.

 Romans 3:23-24 says, “For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard. Yet God, in his grace, freely makes us right in his sight. He did this through Christ Jesus when he freed us from the penalty for our sins.

4.    And because of what Jesus did, you no longer have to pay the price for sin.

Think about it this way, If you were at a restaurant with your family and your parents paid the bill for your food, would you still go up and try to pay the bill again before you leave? Of course not, the bill has already been paid. 

Jesus has already paid it and all you need to do is receive Him!

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“I don’t care. I just don’t care. It’s not that I don’t want to care. I just lack any motivation. When it comes to reading the Bible, I want to read it, but I just don’t. I can’t even tell you the last time I opened my Bible on my own if I have ever read it on my own. When it comes to praying, I tend to forget. I just don’t think about it. When it comes to church, I like hanging around my friends. I’d rather talk to them than listen to the pastor.” 

This is a hypothetical conversation but working with teens for over the past 25 years, this is something I hear and see more often than not.

There are teens who I know who have gone to church their whole lives, their parents are in ministry and care nothing about God. It isn’t that they are pushing back against God, they just don’t care. They serve doing things that seem fun, but when asked if they will help in other areas, they roll their eyes and walk away. They have lost their desire to share the love of Jesus with others. 

The definition of spiritual apathy is a lack of interest, enthusiasm, or concern about your relationship with God. You couldn’t care less. 

The definition of complacency is being satisfied with where you currently are in your relationship with God. You don’t desire to grow, but you’re just okay. I

As Christians, we all have to fight apathy and complacency from time to time. I would be lying if I said that I never had to fight it. There are times when other things get my attention, and I have to fight those feelings. 

Here’s how to overcome spiritual apathy and complacency.

1. Change your perspective. Reading your Bible, praying, going to church, serving…those aren’t something that you have to do…they are something that we get to do. 
2. Push past your feelings. Ask God to help you. Ask Him to give you a desire to want to serve Him. 
3. Start small. First 15.
4. Find a friend or a youth leader who will hold you accountable. 
5. Become part of something bigger than yourself! 

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This week, we’re going to talk about the faith of Caleb and Joshua. Joshua and Caleb, when they, along with 10 other spies were faced with a big challenge, they were the only two that chose to put their faith in God instead of bowing down and giving into their circumstances. 

Ladies, we have a choice when it comes to facing big challenges. Are we going to complain about our problems, give up all hope, and let the enemy steal our victory or are we going to put our trust in God and not move on the promises He has given us? 

Just like with Joshua and Caleb, God has a plan for your life of good and not of evil to give you a future and a hope…Jeremiah 29:11. You can bank your life on the promises in God’s Word and watch Him come through for you every time. 

This passage from Joshua 1 gives us the steps to overcome any challenges in our lives.

1. Know that God is for you. He is not against you! Joshua 1:5 says, “No man shall be able to stand before you all the days of your life. Just as I was with Moses so I will be with you, I will not leave you or forsake you (or abandon you).”
2. Don’t let anyone or any circumstances steal God’s Promises from you. The beginning of Joshua 1:5 says, “No man shall be able to stand before you all the days of your life.” Don’t let anyone or anything move you off of the promises of God!
3. Stand on the Word of God, do what it says, and do not move off of it until you see what you’re believing for! Joshua 1:8- This book of the Law (God’s Word) shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. 
4. When fear, doubt or discouragement creep in, kick it out! Joshua 1:9- Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened and do not be discouraged, for the Lord Your God is with you wherever you go.” 
5. See God come through for you! Joshua 1:8- This book of the Law (God’s Word) shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success. Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous.

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Can God Really Use Me? It’s time to get rid of excuses!

So many times, we disqualify ourselves from being used by God, saying things like, “God could never use me. I’m a mess up. I don’t even have friends. I’m afraid to talk to people. Or whatever other excuse we come up with. 

God doesn’t want to use you because you’re perfect and have everything together. He wants to use you because you are available and because you know that the only way you can win is with God.

Isaiah 43:1-5- Last part: “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine. 2 When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you. 3 For I am the Lord your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior. I give Egypt as your ransom, Cush and Seba in exchange for you. 4 Because you are precious in my eyes, and honored, and I love you, I give men in return for you, peoples in exchange for your life. 5 Fear not, for I am with you; I will bring your offspring from the east, and from the west I will gather you. 6 

1.    God Knows You By Name (Isaiah 43:1)

2. God Is Our Protector, You don’t need to Fear (Isaiah 43:2)

3. God Has a Purpose for You (Isaiah 43:5-7)

4. You can trust God!

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Ladies, we have a big God and He wants to do big things in your life!

Isaiah 26:3 says that God will keep us in perfect peace when we keep our minds focused on Him because we trust in Him. 

You may be walking through a challenging time right now. You may be walking through a hard diagnosis right now. You may be walking through a friendship that failed. No matter what you are going through, there is hope. Keep your eyes on God and watch what He does for you! 

It only took a small amount of faith to change the whole trajectory of your life when you gave your life to Jesus. With a small amount of faith, the biggest miracle was performed. You went from darkness to light. From being a slave to sin to being a daughter of the most High King. You were saved from hell and now get to live forever with Jesus. 

If, with just a little bit of faith, God was able to perform the greatest miracle ever, why does it seem like we need to have a huge amount of faith to receive other miracles, such as healing or even making great friends? 

Maybe you have heard this saying before, or maybe you have said it yourself…I sure hope not! But if you have, please know that it is not in any way encouraging or Biblical! But the saying is, “Well, you didn’t pray hard enough.” Or “I guess you didn’t have enough faith.”

The problem isn’t the amount of faith that we have. Jesus even told us that if we had faith the size of a mustard seed, we could move mountains. The problem is that we need to learn how to release the faith that we do have. 

In Matthew 17:14-21, the disciples tried to cast demons out of a boy like they had done many times before, but this time, they couldn’t understand why they weren’t able to do it. In verse 20, Jesus doesn’t tell them that they needed more faith. He actually says to them that it was because of their unbelief. 

So, the problem wasn’t more faith, it was that they needed to kick doubt out. Unbelief will override faith. 

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This week, on the UncommonTEEN Podcast, we are on Part 2 of Fighting Human Trafficking with Lisa Ivy of Street Hope TN. 

If you have not yet listened to part 1, I highly encourage you to do so first. 

This week, we are continuing our conversation on what to do if you find yourself or someone you know if you have been trafficked or exploited online. We also talk about how to heal. Is it even possible to live a victorious life afterward?

Ladies, please share this with your friends and family members. This message is so important for everyone to hear!

Get more resources at StreetHopeTN.org

If you have encountered human trafficking or exploitation, please reach out and get help. Make a report with your state's bureau of investigations. We need to get these people off the streets! 

Those of you in TN can report here: https://www.tn.gov/tbi/crime-issues/crime-issues/human-trafficking.html

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Lisa Ivy is the Director of Prevention Education at Street Hope TN. Her heart is to prevent teens from ever being a part of human trafficking or exploitation. 

In the state of TN, every single county has been affected by Human Trafficking and we want to bring awareness to stop it in its tracks. 

"Street Hope TN's is a nonprofit organization on a mission to eliminate the sexual exploitation and trafficking of children in Tennessee and provide safe environments to foster hope and healing through Jesus Christ.

Statistics cannot define slavery.

• 94 Is the Average Number of reported children sold for sex online in Tennessee each month. 
• 13 Is the Average age a child becomes a victim of DMST (Domestic Minor Sex Trafficking).
• $99+ Billion reported annual revenue internationally for sex trafficking.
• 31.9 Million reports of online sexual exploitation of children in 2022.

These numbers may get your attention; however, they don’t tell the full story.

Modern-day slavery is a dark and hidden act, an act that often goes undetected and unreported.

The statistics available are based only on cases that have been identified and reported."

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I want to give a huge shout out to Dr. Doug Weiss and his training for Christian teen girls called "Princes Take Longer than Frogs." Dr. Weiss is a psychologist and the founder of Heart to Heart Counseling Center. Much of the information I am sharing with you, I learned from him. 

This week, we are going to talk about dating. 

• Some of you have started dating and it's okay with your parents.
• Some of you have started dating and are hiding it from your parents...which I totally don't recommend! Listen to your parents, they love you!
• Some of you want to date, but you're waiting for someone to tell you they like you. 
• Some of you are waiting to date until it's okay with your parents or until you are ready to get married (which I totally recommend!)

Frogs or Princes? Who to look for when you do start dating?

There are two types of guys in the world: frogs and princes. A prince takes longer to mature than a frog does. The younger you start to date, the more likely you will end up with a frog. You want to wait long enough for God to develop a man who is good enough for you! 

What a Frog Looks Like:

1. Frogs are motivated by fear. They will tell you things like, “You won’t do _____ because you don’t love me.” 
2. Frogs have secret sins. 86% of guys by the time they turn 20 are addicted to porn. What he is doing sexually in secret will hurt you. 
3. Frogs are liars. They will tell you what you want to hear to win you. 

What a Prince Looks Like?

1. Princes hate fear. They may have fears, but they are challenged by them. 
2. They have strong relationships with either their Christian dad or with an adult male role model who loves God and is helping them learn what it means to be a strong man of God.
3. They have strong Christian guy friends who are helping them to grow in their walk with God.
4. Princes want to protect your relationship with God and your purity.
5. Princes have a clear sense of who God created them to be. 
6. Princes will speak God's Word over you and will encourage you. They aren’t just going to tell you what you want to hear to win you. 

Be Careful not to attract frogs by believing lies about yourself!

1. Lie: I’m not good enough. I’m worthless. I’m damaged. I’m broken. This is not what God says about you! 
2.  Lie: I need a man to make me feel validated. You don’t need a man to validate you. God already says you are valuable, you are beautiful, you are amazing, and you are loved! 
3. Lie: He said he loves me, therefore, he must love me. Ladies, guys who are frogs will just throw around those words because

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AMA: Elly says, 

“So I recently cut off a friend at school because she doesn't have a relationship with God and I feel like she's going to influence me into the things of this world which will keep me off track with God, but I just have this feeling that I went about this situation in the wrong way by cutting her off completely. 

I asked God for wisdom and guidance and asked him if that was the right thing to do, but I'm still confused if that was the right thing to do. I just have two questions for you. 

 Is cutting off a friend completely for the sake of a relationship with God the right thing to do, and if not, how should I go about this situation?”

I’m so glad you asked this question because I know other girls listening are asking the same question. 

I also know other girls are listening who are holding onto friendships or relationships they know they should let go of.

 There is such a fine balance in friendships because on one hand, we see in the Bible how in Matthew 11:19 Jesus was called a friend of sinners. Then, in verses like 1 Corinthians 15:33, it tells us not to be deceived because bad company (friendships) will corrupt good morals. 

So, are we supposed to be a friend of sinners, or are we supposed to cut off those friendships? The answer is both!

The biggest key to ask yourself is, are you influencing them for Jesus, or are they influencing you for the world? 

 Another key is this…Jesus was a friend to sinners, but they weren’t his closest friends. 

Sinners were people He would shine His light to. He would invite them to lunch every now and then. He would have conversations with them and see where He could offer them just a little glimpse of hope. 

Looking at the life of Jesus, His closest friends were His disciples. They loved God and were on the same path as Him. Jesus would help them see those areas that they struggled in and showed them how to overcome those struggles.

In the same way, the people who are closest to us need to be on the same path that we are on. 

There is a saying that you will become like your 5 closest friends. If you look at your 5 closest friends, is this how you desire to be? If not, then it might be time to walk away from those friendships, at least as a close friend.

 Now, if you find that you try to walk away from those friendships that you know are the best for you and you keep getting pulled in, this is when it’s time to walk away from them completely. 

 Now, this doesn’t mean that you are mean to them. This doesn’t mean that you ignore them, but don’t go out of your way to say hi to them. If you do engage in conversation, keep the conversation at a surface level. 

What does it look like to be friends of sinners? The goal of these friendships is to eventually lead them to Jesus.

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