Uncorking a Story

I’ve always been fascinated by tales of demonic possession. I fully realize that is an odd thing to admit, but it’s true. I’ve seen The Exorcist more times than I can count and include similar movies such as The Exorcism of Emily Rose, The Rite, and anything from the Conjuring series as classics. Maybe it’s my Catholic upbringing, but if we believe that goodness exists and came to Earth in the form of a God, then the opposite must be true, right? If God and the Angels can do it, why not the devil and his demons? When I was given the opportunity to interview Lynn Hightower about her latest book, The Enlightenment Project, in which an exorcism features prominently, I simply couldn’t pass it up.  

MEET LYNN HIGHTOWER

Lynn Hightower the author of numerous thrillers, including the Sonora Blair and Lena Padget detective series. Her internationally-bestselling novels have been included in the New York Times List of Notable Books, the London Times bestseller lists, the WH Smith Fresh Talent Awards, and the Shamus award. Lynn teaches Master Novel classes in the UCLA Extension Writing Program and works as a Manuscript Consultant/Writing Coach for novelists. Her latest book, The Enlightenment Project, is available now wherever books are sold.

KEY TOPICS IN THIS EPISODE:

• How her love of writing in grammar school got her into trouble in History, Math and geography class.
• Her fascination with haunted places and how she lived in one while writing a book.
• The interesting premise behind her latest book, The Enlightenment Project.
• Why cases of Exorcism are on the rise in Italy.
• How her creativity and investigative research fuel her successful career.

KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM MY TALK WITH LYNN

• Put yourself in the reader’s seat. Tell a story you want to read, but that hasn’t been written yet.
• Give yourself permission. Allow yourself to follow your dream, if your dream is writing a book.
• Boundaries matters. The business side of the publishing world is juxtaposition to the creativity that fuels writing. Create a boundary between the two to keep your sanity!
• Follow your instinct. As an author, the best decisions are sometimes made through gut instinct.
• Love wins. The only thing that matters in life is who you love, so love well.

 WHERE TO BUY THE ENLIGHTENMENT PROJECT:

Amazon  Bookshop.org

HOW TO GET IN TOUCH WITH LYNN HIGHTOWER

Website: https://www.lynnhightower.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lynnhightowerauthor/

Twitter:      https://mobile.twitter.com/lynnshightower

MEMORABLE QUOTES FROM LYNN

“I have a lot of advice for aspiring authors. Tell the story you wish someone would tell you, the kind of story you would just love to curl up with and read. Readers will forgive you anything if you deliver on once upon a time. I really believe that. Second, give yourself permission to be a novelist. This is the work of your heart. It's what you really want to do, and it's not for the cool kids or for the special people. If you have a story to tell, go ahead and tell it and get it down as best you can. After that, it's a brutal business. Not every novel that should be published is published. So, the only way to keep yourself sane, is to do everything you can, but just accept that your story is going to find its place in the universe, and send it out there and hope that it finds its way into the hands of somebody who would like to read it. That's how I survive.”

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Have you ever had a chance encounter with someone who changed your life forever? Nita Prose did and wrote a bestseller about it. Allowing herself to follow her curiosity was key and it paid off—The Maid is a #1 New York Times Bestseller and is deserving of every accolade it has received.

MEET NITA PROSE

Nita Prose is a longtime editor, serving many bestselling authors and their books. What drew her from a job as a special needs teacher to a career as an editor? What motivates her most when working on an author’s manuscript? How did she make the leap from being an editor to having a smash-hit debut novel? Listen in to uncover the answers to these questions as well as learn the newfound appreciation Nita Prose has for authors after walking in their shoes.

KEY TOPICS IN THIS EPISODE:

• Why Nita made the leap from special education teacher to editor.
• Nita’s perspective on a successful editor/author relationship.
• How she taps into empathy while editing an author’s work and how she tapped into empathy while writing her debut novel.
• How the idea of The Maid came to her and why it’s so important for authors to follow their curiosity.
• How she has dealt with success of her debut novel and what she’s learned about being an author that she can now use when working as an editor.

KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM MY TALK WITH NITA:

• Always be curious. Nita followed her curiosity about what it’s like to be a hotel room maid and turned it into a #1 bestselling novel.
• Write what you know. Nita leaned on her experiences as a special needs teacher to inform key elements of her protagonist.
• Love what you do. Nita loves working with authors to make their work as good as it can be. Loving what you do is a true blessing and a key to a successful career.
• It’s never too late. Nita’s debut novel came out when she was 49. You are never too old to follow your dreams!
• Success never comes overnight. Nita's debut novel The Mai” went on to be a best-seller, but she had a long career before ever seeing success as an author.

MEMORABLE QUOTES FROM NITA

I love working with my authors and I love being involved in their creative processes and helping them survive it and get through on the other side. I didn't have a master plan to write a debut novel. In 2019, I went to the London book fair, and I was staying in a London area hotel, and I stepped out for a bit for a meeting and came back at an unusual hour in the morning. I opened my hotel room door, and completely startled the maid who was cleaning it. And I remember her, you know, jumping backwards into a dark corner. The highly embarrassing part is that she had my pants in her hands, because I’d gone for a run that morning and I left my sweatpants in a tangled mess on my bed. And she was holding those and looking shocked to see me and I just thought to myself, wow, it's such an intimate and invisible job to be a room maid. You know, she'd been cleaning my room for days, so she knew so much about me, but I knew nothing about her. So that's, how it started. A few days later, I was on my plane ride home after my trip and that's when it started to really gel for me. I started to hear Molly's voice, the protagonist from The Maid, and it was crisp, it was clean, and precise and it was polished to perfection. And I heard it, I heard it just like that. And I grabbed the napkin from under my drink because I didn't have any paper and I started to write what is now the prologue to the book in a single burst. And that is when, even though I didn't know it at the time, I started my debut novel.

WHERE TO BUY THE MAID:

Amazon  Bookshop.org

HOW TO GET IN TOUCH WITH NITA PROSE

Website: https://www.nitaprose.com/

Twitter and Instagram: @NitaProse

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Imagine having a tool at your disposal that could help spark innovation and that this magical tool didn’t require capital investment. Now imagine that we are all capable of possessing this tool, if only we were able to open ourselves up to the vulnerability that makes it possible. What am I talking about? I’m glad you asked. I’m talking about empathy.

Empathy is defined as the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. This deep understanding of how other people feel can be honed to fuel both new product ideas as well as innovations to make existing products more useful. April Bell, today’s guest, knows this well and describes how we can further develop our own empathy so that it fuels inspiration, and I couldn’t have been more excited to speak with her about that.

MEET APRIL BELL

April loves to solve problems. She has conducted more than 11,000 hours of empathy research through her boutique research agency, April Bell Research Group, working with many of the world’s giant brands such as PepsiCo, P&G, Hewlett Packard, and Pfizer to name a few.

She’s observed the impact of empathy, not only on user experiences but also on personal and organizational transformation. These experiences inspired April to write her first book, The Fire Starter: Igniting Innovation with Empathy.

KEY TOPICS IN THIS EPISODE

• How April got into the insights business and how she uncovered how important empathy is to her work.
• Where the idea for The Fire Starter came from.
• What she learned about herself during the writing process.
• The distinction between empathy and sympathy, and why so many people confuse the two.

KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM MY TALK WITH APRIL

• Ask for help. The Fire Starter is April’s first book and, while she was inspired to write it, she had a difficult time maintaining focus. Working with an author coach will help with the process of crafting your book so that it is structured well and well-paced from start to finish.
• Empathy is not easy. It takes vulnerability to put yourself in someone else's shoes and understand their feelings as if they are your own. While there’s always a risk associated with doing this, it pays off in the form of having a deeper understanding of what other people are going through. In this way, it is fuel for innovation.
• Gateway to empathizing. Being in tune with your senses can help you be more empathetic.
• Innovation is key. New products and processes will always be needed to meet our every changing needs as a society. Necessity may be the mother of invention, but empathy is required to help craft the right inventions.

ADVICE FROM APRIL

“If you thought about emotion differently, that emotion is actually a gift to give you information in order to create something new and use it as that, it actually does solve really big problems. I mean, you and I know that it when we're innovating products, the way to the key to the kingdom is to find the emotional attachment associated with whatever is wanting to be created, because that gives a purpose or a point for it. But when we allow like our bodily sensations and our emotional sensations and our mental sensations to kind of come together, the sixth, seventh and eighth sense, then we can actually create, you know, a more holistic way of thinking or solving a problem. And so I think, you know, again, you know, empathy is kind of a gateway to doing that.”

WHERE TO BUY

Amazon  

GET IN TOUCH

Instagram Website

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INTRODUCTION

Are you someone who has a hard time putting themselves first? Do you have a hard time vocalizing what your needs are? Many of us who answer yes to both of these questions often struggle with our interpersonal relationships, especially romantic ones. We do things for other people while ignoring or not even realizing what it is we really want. This can lead to resentment, frustration, and feeling like our needs don’t matter. Oftentimes, this is something we learned in childhood when high expectations are thrust upon us, and we don’t realize the wounds that cause until later in life when we can process it with more fully formed minds.

Ashleigh Renard knows what I mean all too well. She spent her childhood, and a good part of her young adult life, on the ice. She skated through injury and pain because she felt she needed to be perfect. During this time in her life, she was rewarded for suppressing her needs and living for others. However, this came to haunt her in adulthood when her marriage nearly fell apart. She worked her way through it, though, in a way that many of us might find unconventional—by opening up her marriage. After doing so, she realized what she needed in life and found the strength and courage to admit it to her husband—and now their marriage has never been stronger. Listen in to hear her talk about that, and so much more!

MEET ASHLEIGH RENARD

As a figure skating coach and choreographer, Ashleigh Renard spent two decades building trust and fostering teamwork, growing her synchronized skating organization to one of the biggest in the world. Now she offers support and encouragement to millions of couples every week through her lifestyle blog and coaching practice. She also co-hosts a podcast for content creators looking to grow their platform. Her memoir, Swing: A Memoir of Doing it all, has been called the sexiest, funniest, most deeply felt memoir you will read this year. I’ve read it and completely agree!

KEY TOPICS COVERED

• Ashleigh’s background as a figure skater and coach
• How putting her needs last impacted her relationship with her husband
• Her motivation for writing Swing and the risks she took opening up about her personal life throughout the book
• The importance of prioritizing ourselves, understanding and voicing our needs
• The secret to building a platform for content creators
• How her advice blog is impact relationships and marriages in a positive way

    KEY TAKEAWAYS  

• Find your voice. While many of us have been rewarded for putting ourselves last, it is important to remember that we are human, we have needs, and we need to express them. No one will just know them without us speaking up.
• It's not too late. If your personal relationship is on the rocks, it’s never too late to turn things around. Communication is key!
• Monogamy isn’t for everyone. Sometimes opening up a marriage can lead to increased communication and stronger feelings of trust and love.
• Get Physical. Physical intimacy is a natural and healthy extension of a relationship. Our best sexual intentions are often put to rest, however, as we collapse into an exhausted heap at the end of the day. Instead, you and your partner need to consciously commit to turning up the heat.
• Be Vulnerable. Sometimes you must dig deep and become vulnerable. Couples may find it surprising, but if each one becomes curious about one's own blind spots, discovers them, and then is courageous enough to share that vulnerability, it can help create deeper intimacy.

MEMORABLE ADVICE

“Give yourself permission to do something physical, get in your body, do something that's that lights you up, whether that's painting, taking a ceramics class or taking the dog for a hike. Those are the things that I think are going to help you connect with your partner physically.”

WHERE TO BUY SWING

Amazon  Bookshop.org

GET IN TOUCH

https://ashleighrenard.com/links

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Welcome to the first ever best of episode of Uncorking a Story.

Today, we revisit our first ever episode with Fr. Dave Dwyer, who talks about how he pivoted from working in comedy to becoming a Catholic priest after hearing a calling at a World Youth Day.

I hope you find this story as inspiring as I did.

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William Sullivan, known as Sully to his friends, is a former Division 1 basketball coach who discovered a love of Shakespeare later in life. He penned his first novel back in 2001 and kept his fans waiting for two decades before publishing his second—Tilting with Lips, a comedic mystery to setting four friends on an adventure to uncover who William Shakespeare really was.

How did he become a D1 basketball coach? What key lessons did he learn after penning his first novel that he applied to his second? Why is it so important to research your subjects and experience their environment firsthand? Listen in to learn the answers to these questions as well as Sully’s take on the greatest hockey movie of all time (hint, it’s not Youngblood).

MEET SULLY

William “Sully” Sullivan is a 1995 graduate of The University of Connecticut. He is a retired D1 college basketball coach living in Connecticut with his wife, Jennifer and their children Holden and Conor. As the world’s greatest collector of friends, he can also be found hoisting the occasional pint in the corner pub with his brothers. “Tilting With Lips” is his second novel.

KEY TOPICS:

• How and when he discovered his love of Shakespeare
• His motivation for writing
• What he’s learned about himself through the writing and publishing process
• How he got into coaching D1 College basketball
• The inspiration behind “Tilting With Lips”
• Advice he received from Wally Lamb, the Bestselling author of “She’s Come Undone”
• Life lessons from the 1980’s classic Mr. Mom

KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM MY TALK WITH SULLY

• Show up to class. You can’t teach yourself Shakespeare.
• Do your Homework. In-depth research your subject brings authenticity to your writing
• Embrace the Pivot. He’s a former division one basketball coach who is transforming his love of writing into a new career.
• Inspire Others. As a D1 basketball coach, Sully had to inspire his team on the court. Listen in to hear his advice to aspiring authors.

MEMORABLE QUOTES FROM THE EPISODE

“If you're not ready to work to promote yourself and the book, get ready for your friends and family to be the only ones who read it. Because that's the hard part for me! I love coaching basketball and I love parenting my children, but I am not in love with the idea of throwing the books in the trunk of my car and going to the Lebanon Shakespeare Festival [but you must do it].”

“Finding a literary agent is the equivalent of finding a leprechaun riding a unicorn at a Red Sox victory parade in the 1960s. I got one response out of all the ones I sent out, and it's always been hard for me to figure why no one jumped on a book about Shakespeare written by a college basketball coach.”

Where to buy his book:

Amazon, Bookshop

How to get in touch with William

Twitter: @twotwenty221

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Growing up without a father figure can be difficult for someone who has no other male role models in their lives. Author Kendall Smith, son of a single mother, joins me to share the wisdom he has gathered from his own experience as a father, from observing other dads, and from interviewing various generations of men.  How did being raised by a single mother lead to his desire to write this book? What has he learned by interviewing various generations of men about their perspectives on fatherhood? What is the most important thing you can do as a father? Listen in to uncover the answers to these questions and be inspired by his story.

Meet Kendall Smith

Kendall Smith is the author of Rookie Father: A Playbook for Men Experiencing Fatherhood for the First time. His work includes self-help, fiction, and satire, and he’s a dedicated father and husband living in New Jersey. His core focus is fatherhood and providing relevant, pragmatic advice to new dads.

Key Topics in this podcast:

• His motivation for writing non-fiction after establishing himself as an author of fiction.
• The importance encouragement plays for writers.
• How being raised by a single mother impacted his life and his desire to write this book.
• The differences between writing fiction and non-fiction.
• What he’s learned by interviewing various generations of men about their perspectives on fatherhood.
• How he feels fathers are portrayed in the media, and what we should do about it.

KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM MY TALK WITH KENDALL

• Be Present. Fatherhood is not easy but being there for your kids no matter what makes the struggle worth it.
• Be Patient. It's a parenting feat all parents should strive to achieve.
• It's all About Them. Never forget that your role as a father must be rooted in the lives of your children.
• Sharing is Caring. Kendall is a role model not just to his children but to other fathers and he generously shares his advice and observations in his book.

The Hot Seat Questions for Kendall:

• What was your favorite TV show when you were a kid?
• How do you feel when you are staring at a blank piece of paper or a blank computer screen?
• What lesson about writing or publishing did you learn the hard way?
• What’s the best piece of advice you would give to an aspiring author?
• What words of advice would you give your younger self?

Memorable Quotes/Advice From Kendall

“Bear in mind that whatever you endured in your childhood— watching your parents separate or divorce—a new child represents a clean slate. You can craft your path of fathering however you'd like. Be patient and know that your child it's a fresh start, and you can correct a lot of imbalances that you experienced when you become a dad yourself.”

Where to buy his book:

Amazon, Bookshop

How to get in touch with Kendall Smith

Website: https://therookiefather.com/

Instagram: @therookiefather

Twitter: https://twitter.com/authorkendall 

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An editor should be an author’s best friend, but oftentimes authors view editors as taskmasters. Editor and author coach Claudia Volkman wants to smash this notion! Editors not only help correct errors in grammar and spelling but can also provide valuable insights to make a story stronger and polished to perfection

Claudia joins me today and we explore how she helps authors journey through the writing and publishing process with an eye towards making it more marketable. Her tips will be applicable for every writer who is in the process of writing a book.

What drew Claudia into this field? What are the qualities of an effective editor that every author should know? How can an author coach help make a writer’s work more marketable? Listen in to uncover the answers to these questions as well as her take on what aspiring authors need to know to be successful.

CLAUDIA VOLKMAN

Claudia has spent her entire career in the publishing industry, from her early days on the staff of a bi-monthly magazine and over eight years with a leading Christian publishing house working in special sales and product development. With forty years of experience in acquisitions, product development, editing, and typesetting, she now loves assisting all types of clients with their editorial and typesetting needs. A Chicago native, Claudia, and her husband now reside in Southwest Florida with their two charming Corgis.

CONNECT WITH CLAUDIA

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cvolkman/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/cmvolkman   Personal Website: CreativeEditorialSolutions.com  

Key Topics in this podcast:

• How did Claudia's editorial career begin within the publishing industry?
• What motivated her to become an editor?
• What is the role and importance of an editor in the publishing process?
• The best ways to find the right and qualified editor and publisher for your writing project.
• What is the role of an author coach and why is it important for authors?

The Hot Seat Questions for Claudia:

• How do you feel when you're about to open a fresh manuscript from a new client?
• What lesson about the publishing industry do you feel like you had to learn the hard way?
• What's the best piece of advice you could give to an aspiring author?
• What do you wish most authors knew or understood better about editors?
• What's your least favorite part of the editing process?
• What words of advice would you give your younger self?

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Editors are vital to the success of every book. Without editors, books wouldn't be as successful. They're one of the key players in making sure that a manuscript makes it from beginning to end without any errors or mistakes showing up along the way!
• Editing a book is not an easy task. The editor's role is to make the book more successful, compelling, and let the author's voice be heard.
• Look for the right editor. The cost of entry is a firm grasp on the rules of grammar and storytelling. That said, authors are encourage to find someone they can work well with and that may mean interviewing multiple editors before you find the right fit.
• Consider an author coach. When it comes to writing, some authors and especially new writers will benefit from the services of an author coach. Coaches can help shape creative ideas and educate prospective authors on the business side of publishing.

Memorable Quotes/Advice From Claudia

 Keep that dream alive. Just do what you need to do to get your book written. Don't get intimidated by the blank page, don't get halfway into it and think, 'Oh, well, I'm just gonna set it aside.' If you have that dream, do it. Make it happen!

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There is a rise in anxiety and depression among teens resulting from several factors including increased pressures on kids to succeed, unrealistic expectations set through social media, and, of course, social restrictions due to the pandemic. In this episode, Jay Reid joins me to uncork an intense story about teenage suicides with a personal story about losing his son to suicide. What are the factors that are leading to teenage suicide? How to spot if your child is suffering from anxiety or depression? How can you as a parent try to resolve this issue? Listen in to uncover these answers—and maybe help to save a life.

JASON REID

Jason Reid is a partner at CEO International, where he coaches CEOs on how to be successful. He is a leader, entrepreneur, and family man. Following the suicide of his 14-year-old son, Jason started the foundation Chooselife.org. The organization’s goal is to end teen suicide by 2030. Jason is on a mission to educate families nationwide and help young people heal and speaks to audiences around the country about his own experience and how parents can converse with their children about mental health empower every parent in the US knows how to have a conversation with their kid about depression and suicide.

CONNECT WITH JAY

Linked IN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jasonrreid/ ChooseLife.org https://www.chooselife.org/ Tell My Story Film https://www.chooselife.org/film Jay’s Talks https://www.chooselife.org/jays-talks

Key Topics in this podcast:

• Jay’s personal experiences with suicide.
• What he learned about the prevailing factors of teen suicide.
• The importance of taking ownership of your child’s mental health.
• How to create an open and proactive environment for your kids.
• How to resolve teenage suicides across the country by 2030.

 KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Vulnerability isn’t weakness. Let your kids (and family) know that it’s okay to have good days and bad days. That way they won’t be left thinking that something is wrong with them if they are not as “perfect” as you appear to be.
• Parents have to own their childrens’ mental health. Just like we ask questions when our kids experience physical pain (where does it hurt? when did it start? etc.), we must respond to their emotional pain as well (how long have you felt this way? Do you always feel this way? What triggers these feelings? Do these feelings ever go away? etc.).
• Being proactive is important. We all must do a better job of proactively asking people to share how they feel when we observe that someone feels sad or anxious.
• The need to adapt. The culture our kids are growing up in is vastly different than the one we grew up in. We can’t expect the culture to revert to where it was, but we can control how we help our kids navigate the world they live in. Asking them questions, listening to their answers, and creating an environment where they feel comfortable coming to us are all important.

Memorable Quotes/Advice From Jay

“Kind of match vulnerability up with weakness, and I don't think the two are the same. Because I can tell you now that I am a lot more vulnerable, I'm definitely not weak. No one would ever assume that. Because if I were my son, that I am weak in any way. Because that's not how I show up every day. Right? I still show up as a really tough guy. But I am more vulnerable than I used to be. I think people respect that more, as opposed to the guy who always just actually, he's got his act together. And your family needs to see that. Your friends need to see that. Your spouse needs to see that. It's not, it's not a sign of weakness.”

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Is it possible that a simple phone could change your life? This is where Lori Jean Glass’ story begins, in a Chicago hotel room where she had suicidal thoughts and a timely call to her therapist saved her life and started her on the path to becoming a better version of herself.

Join me and Lori Jean as we uncork her story from being suicidal to becoming an educator, mentor, and certified relationship professional who coaches people through difficult times in their lives based on past attachment wounds from their past.  

Listen in as Lori shares stories that help guide others towards healing while illuminating how we can take steps toward transforming our own lives and become healthy adults.

LORI JEAN GLASS

Lori Jean Glass is the author of Healthy Adult: PIVOT from Fantasy to Reality, Confusion to Clarity, Isolation to Connection she is also an educator, mentor, public speaker, certified relationship, professional, and bereavement coach. She is the CEO and founder of PIVOT, a relational alignment group comprised of trained coaches and therapists certified in The PIVOT Process. Lori Jean’s personal experiences brought her to her current work, which focuses on those who struggle in their adult relationships based on attachment wounds of the past. She is also the CEO and founder of The Glass House, a residential setting offering workshops for individuals, couples, and families to take a deep dive into the PIVOT Process to get high-impact solutions to achieve positive relational outcomes.

CONNECT WITH LORI

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorijeanglass/?hl=en

Linked In: linkedin.com/in/lori-jean-glass

Website: lorijean.com

Company Website: lovetopivot.com/

Link Tree:  https://linktr.ee/Lovetopivot

Where to purchase Healthy Adult: PIVOT from Fantasy to Reality, Confusion to Clarity, Isolation to Connection” book?

Bookshop.org   Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Scribd, Book Depository

Key Topics in this podcast:

• Lori’s story and where it all started
• How she went from working in sales to becoming a coach
• Attachment wounds explained
• The difference between anxious, avoidant, ambivalent, and healthy attachment
• What is meant by our collective tolerance for unhealthy existence and how to resolve it the right way
• How to heal attachment wounds
• The Crazy Train explained

Hot Seat Questions for Lori:

• How do you feel when you stare at a blank piece of paper or a blank computer screen?
• What lesson of writing or publishing did you learn the hard way?
• What is the best piece of advice you could give to an aspiring author?
• How do you celebrate success?
• If you could write a letter to your younger self, what would you put in that letter?

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Suicide is never the answer. Lori Jean Glass almost took her life in a Chicago hotel room after chasing vodka with a handful of pills. Thankfully, she called the therapist who saved her from the brink and save her life.
• Be aware of your attachment wounds. Your attachment wounds are exposed in intimate relationships where vulnerability, trust, and safety are most vital. That's why someone you really care about can deeply trigger your wounds. Knowing what they are is the first step in being able to have healthy adult relationships.
• Resilience is the key. Her personal experiences with trauma brought her to her current work, which focuses on those who struggle in their adult relationships based on attachment wounds of the past.
• You can become a healthy adult. The PIVOT process will help you uncover the tools you need to form healthy relationships in all aspects of your live.

Memorable Quotes/Advice From Lori

“We tolerate relationships that aren’t good because we were drawn to what's familiar regardless of merit, and we want to have a corrective experience. I call it waiting for Christmas—we're going to stay in it until it changes, and it's not going to change until we have enough of motivation and a commitment to ourselves to lean into it to stay the distance until we can create change within the context of the relationship. But instead, people will just walk around the perimeter of their own equators in relationships and be afraid to jump in.”

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