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Kaleb and Kyle bravely unpack what it means to return to Knoxville, Tennessee and Sonoma, California as gay adults who've built lives elsewhere. Their contrasting experiences highlight the psychological weight of hometowns for LGBTQ+ individuals. As Kyle notes, "There's a lot of trauma stored in hometowns for gay people."

The hosts explore the fascinating psychological shifts that happen when returning to spaces that once felt limiting. They share vulnerable stories about everything from their first time painting their nails (and the shame that initially came with it) to navigating family relationships that have surprisingly evolved over time. 

Whether you're planning your next hometown visit or processing your last one, this episode reminds you that going back doesn't mean going backward. Subscribe now and join our community of listeners navigating similar journeys with humor and heart.

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What happens when a sommelier stops drinking for a month? Kyle shares their experience giving up alcohol for Dry January, revealing surprising insights about social anxiety, habitual cravings, and the cultural normalization of drinking.

As a Level 2 sommelier whose job literally requires tasting wine, Kyle found themselves drinking every night – a glass after work that often led to more. The experiment wasn't just about health but about breaking automatic patterns that had formed around alcohol consumption. The results? Discovering that fun, connection, and social confidence don't actually require alcohol, despite years of conditioning suggesting otherwise.

Most powerfully, we discuss how temporary "resets" from habitual behaviors create space to observe our patterns and make more conscious choices. Just as removing social media apps reveals how often we mindlessly reach for our phones, removing alcohol reveals automatic drinking habits we didn't realize we had. Whether you're sober curious or just interested in understanding your relationship with substances better, this episode offers practical insights without judgment.

Ready to examine your own habits with compassion and curiosity? Listen now, and if you've tried your own version of Dry January or another wellness reset, we'd love to hear about it! Share your story with us at [email protected] or on Instagram @unfamouslyandwell.

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Welcome to Season 3 of Unfamously Unwell! We're kicking things off with a bang as we dive into what might be our most chaotic episode yet.

Remember when Kaleb dabbled in witchcraft to help me land my dream job? The spell worked so well that I not only got the position but also scored a raise before even starting. We're talking candles, crystals, milk offerings, and magical aftershocks that apparently got me everything I asked for. Should I be worried about Kaleb's newfound powers? Probably.

The heart of this episode revolves around Kaleb's 27th birthday celebration in Portland—an absolute disaster that somehow still makes for an incredible story. Picture this: a friend fresh from the hospital with his medical bracelet still on, me with a back spasm so severe I needed a walking stick (which led everyone to think I was blind), and a night that included Hooter Girl costumes, friends getting cut off before ordering drinks, emotional breakdowns in Airbnb bedrooms, and hookups in teepee-themed rooms. It was meant to be a celebration but turned into what can only be described as beautiful chaos.

Between the laughs, we get vulnerable about turning 27—finding a sense of home after years on autopilot, making intentional decisions rather than just following a predetermined path, and dealing with that internal conflict between logical choices and gut feelings about where life should go next. Meanwhile, Kyle opens up about adjusting to his new job while fighting off that persistent imposter syndrome voice telling him he doesn't belong.

We've decided to shift to a bi-weekly release schedule for Season 3, so mark your calendars for new episodes every other week! Connect with us on Instagram @unfamouslyunwell or shoot us an email with your own stories—we'd love to feature them in upcoming episodes!

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Music isn't just background noise—it's the soundtrack to our lives. On the last episode of 2024, we chat about our top-played songs and how they reflect pivotal events, from energizing gym sessions to emotionally charged concerts. Join us as we explore the magical resonance of favorite artists like Pink and Jess Glynne, and debate Spotify's algorithmic quirks. Listen to how these melodies have become intertwined with our memories, shaping our daily routines and connecting us to deeper emotions.

Relationships can be our greatest teachers, and this year brought lessons in abundance. We recount stories of growth sparked by loved ones and even ex-partners, emphasizing the crucial role of a strong support system. Dive into our spirited discussions about overcoming self-doubt, embracing authenticity, and trusting our instincts more. With an eye on 2025, we celebrate the irreplaceable value of moments shared with friends and family, acknowledging that life's most cherished memories often lie beneath the surface.

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Inspired by the wildest, most unhinged moments of our year, we're bringing the drama with the Unwelly Awards. From our best (and worst) spending habits to hilariously awkward romantic encounters, get ready to hear the juicy details that shaped our year. We're promising you nothing less than a riotous recounting of our adventures, complete with the quirky charm of color stories and cornichons.

Money talks, and boy, do we have some stories to share about the art of "unwell" financial decisions! Whether it's indulging in our Starbucks habits or splurging on Lyft rides, we’re breaking it down with humor and honesty. Join us as we navigate the absurd side of adulting with tales of rug burns, peppermint milkshakes, and the occasional romantic mishap. Through laughter and real talk, we’re shedding light on the ups and downs of modern adulthood, reminding you that it’s okay to laugh at life’s unpredictability while cherishing the connections that keep us grounded.

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What if a single holiday could become the compass for your personal transformation? Kaleb reflects on how Halloween became the unexpected marker of life's twists and turns, sparking joy, heartbreak, and self-realization.

As we share experiences of personal growth, heartache, and new beginnings, you’ll hear about Kaleb's journey from a rocky relationship-fueled move to Cleveland to the bright opportunities awaiting in Seattle. Halloween serves as a backdrop, showcasing how life changes dramatically over a year—a theme that resonates with anyone navigating the complexities of romance and self-worth. From karaoke nights and Grindr adventures to embracing newfound independence, these stories remind us that life, much like Halloween, is full of surprises.

Join us as we explore the importance of self-love, the joy of self-gifting, and the challenges of managing holiday stress. We touch on everything from preparing for significant exams and reflecting on love’s many forms to the relief found in letting go of outdated versions of ourselves. This episode is a celebration of personal victories and a testament to finding joy in life’s unpredictable journey, encouraging you to embrace change and savor each milestone.

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What happens when you mix modern dating misadventures with the magical world of Broadway? After a Thanksgiving filled with reflection, "Wicked" had us thinking about defying gravity not just on stage but in our own relationships. This week, Kyle's sister, Isabella, joins us to share what it's like navigating the dating scene as a Gen Z woman in Washington DC. Our conversation bounces from her humorous takes on dating apps to the quirks of gay culture and how these elements shape sibling dynamics. 

From ghosting and spit-roasting to family dynamics and sibling shenanigans, we tackle the chaos of dating in the digital world. We swap stories about dating apps like Hinge and Tinder, weaving in listener tales and personal anecdotes that highlight both the highs and lows of finding love—or at least a good time—online. We’ve got some laughs and insights for you, wrapped up in a package of personal growth and reflection. 

Get swept away this week (by a huge wave in Hawaii, like Isabella) and by our stories about relationships, which we discover aren’t just about romance; they’re about understanding who you are and where you come from. Childhood misconceptions, sibling rivalries, and family dynamics play their part in your understanding of love and commitment. We share our own family tales, from the absurd to the heartfelt, and how these experiences influence our current relationship aspirations. All of our journeys are as much about our bonds with each other as they are about the new connections we seek. Tune in for lots of laughs, relatable moments, and a fresh look at love and life.

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Happy Kylesgiving! This week, Kyle is giving us 9 things he's learned about life in the last 36 years. Why nine? Because his aunt was abducted by aliens, that's why! 

As we explore life's most spontaneous moments, we also peek into universal insecurities and the empowering force of confidence. The episode delves into the complexity of emotions, particularly anger, and celebrates the importance of self-acceptance and growth over the years. Relationships, intimacy, and the balance of interdependence weave through our chat, where emotional intelligence meets genuine connection.

Finally, we reflect on the unique roles friends play and how embracing vulnerability can deepen these bonds. As the holiday season looms, we share humorous tales of Thanksgiving plans, concert ticket excitement, and the unforgettable retail chaos of Black Friday. Tune in as we set discuss setting boundaries, prioritizing what matters, and reminiscing about the joy of JoJo's music. This episode is a heartfelt tribute to life's beautifully chaotic journey.

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Ever had a bathroom encounter that spiraled into an escapade worthy of its own episode? We certainly did, and we're here to spill the hilarious details! Join us as we recount an unexpected midday adventure that segues into a vibrant Pride kickoff party in Palm Springs. Meet the man who might just be Kyle's future ex-husband and enjoy a digital-age proposal via Grindr, all while brushing shoulders with RuPaul's Drag Race royalty, Mayhem Miller. It's a whirlwind of mimosas, karaoke, and the kind of flirtations that define a truly unforgettable night.

Navigating the lively chaos, we find ourselves juggling overindulgent suitors and the mishaps of romance—bleeding fingers included! These experiences open up conversations about the pressures of body image and social anxiety within the LGBTQIA+ community. Reflecting on a night spent in the company of stunning individuals, we explore the struggle between external appearances and embracing the beauty within ourselves. Through laughter and candid moments, we discover that humor and authenticity shine brighter than any superficial façade.

Our adventure wraps up with introspective poolside revelations and the joyous freedom of expressing our nerdy sides without restraint. The journey from chaotic night to self-acceptance is marked by growth, community bonding, and a newfound self-assurance—mustache included. We share personal insights on breaking free from toxic relationship patterns, fostering healthier connections, and celebrating the victories of personal growth, all wrapped in the vibrant energy of Palm Springs Pride and life’s colorful celebrations. Tune in for a rollercoaster of emotions, self-reflection, and, of course, a hearty dose of humor!

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Prepare this week to laugh as we recount the chaotic pre-Halloween preparations that include makeshift costumes and unexpected party advice. From turning into Lara Croft and a grandma to cash-only drinks and unexpected encounters, the night proves to be a whirlwind of spontaneity and friendship. As if the night wasn’t eventful enough, a surprise hookup among friends adds a juicy twist with an unexpected bath-time snack of corn.

Our journey doesn’t end there; with a fun pre-trip waxing session filled with ADD-fueled chaos and playlist dilemmas, we gear up for Palm Springs. From a serendipitous business brainstorming session in Puerto Vallarta to humorous cooking misadventures, this episode is all about embracing life’s unpredictability. As we share our financial triumphs and prepare for a sommelier exam, we invite you, our cherished listeners, to continue sharing your stories with us. Let’s keep the laughter and unexpected adventures rolling!