It’s interesting to realize that you use manipulation tactics…without even realizing that’s what you’re doing. This happened to me recently, and it took me by surprise. 

Most answers reveal themselves through doing, not thinking. I spent my life the other way around. Trying to out smart everything, including myself. Including what my body or intuition was telling me. When you’re doing something, all your senses come online - you have access to so much more information than what your brain - trapped inside your dark skull - can give you on its own.

Sacrificing your enjoyment for other people’s enjoyment is a misconception. Even if you don’t say it explicitly, your death of delight will impact the collective delight. Delight builds off delight. If you truly want to support others' experience, the best way to do that is to be honest about your experience too.

Sacrificing your enjoyment for other people’s enjoyment is a misconception. Even if you don’t say it explicitly, your death of delight will impact the collective delight. Delight builds off delight. If you truly want to support others' experience, the best way to do that is to be honest about your experience too.

Emotion = energy in motion. When we trap emotion, trying to suppress it, the feelings grow bigger and bigger as they try to get your attention. Over years the emotion grows in your body, as more pressure is needed to keep it from bubbling up. Until you feel your anger, if you let it out, will consume the world. Until you feel your grief will drown you. Until you fear your shame will confirm your worst fears that you’re not enough or a bad person. Emotion is meant to be in motion. Felt and released, not trapped and stored. 

Be careful how you respond when someone sets a boundary, particularly when a grown child does. At some point, a child will need to start energetically separating from their parents. They need to figure out where their parents end, and where they begin. They’ll need space to figure out who they are. Try different things to see how they feel. Use their voice to express themselves. Be careful how you respond as they voice who they are. LISTEN. Show up. You can say when you're disappointed. When you wish they’d choose something else. But be in their corner no matter what. Ready to pick them up if and when they fall. Do not punish your child as they try to figure out who they are. Pushing them away sends the signal that your love is conditional. 

When my husband leaves for a business trip, I feel very ungrounded. I used to feel bad about this ungrounded feeling, but now I feel differently. 

When good things happen to you, accept them with a gracious heart. There have been many bad things. There have been times you weren’t picked. The times you were forgotten. And there will be more bad things along the road. So when the good comes, lean in fully. Embrace it with open arms. Accept the blessing with thanks. If you want to share your good, do. Sharing shows the universe you know it’s not the last good. You know there is abundance, and will accept it with open arms one blessing at a time. That you also understand the honor of being able to invite others to your table. Others whose blessings are tied up. Others, who through their experience with you, might start believing in abundance too. In graciousness, gratitude, and the deep joy that comes from sharing.

There is power, presence, and peace found in allowing. Allowing means allowing others to be as they are. Not trying to change them. Not trying to control them. Not being frustrated that they are how they are. The practice of allowing starts with allowing yourself to be. Stopping the war against self, and allowing yourself to exist exactly as you are in each moment. Not wishing you were different. Not wishing you felt different. But instead allowing exactly as you are to be, to move, to change, to shift. Allowing means freeing yourself from the illusion of control. Allowing means freeing yourself from all the internal friction that is caused by resistance to what is. 

Our bodies are wise. Our bodies let us know when we’re operating out of alignment with ourself. Out of alignment with our inner truth. Our bodies let us know when we’re operating off of fear instead of love. If we fail to listen to our body, it will increase the volume of its signal to try to get our attention. What is your body trying to tell you?