We will all spend more time below ground than above. How does knowing that change the way you view your above-ground time?

How you feel about yourself is the most important choice you’ll ever make. And it is a choice. The narrative you repeat in your head that’s on repeat, that narrative is self-hypnotizing you. That narrative determines how you see yourself, and as you project that narrative into the world, it determines how you experience the world. If you repeat, “I’m not good enough”, you will believe that. But if you repeat, “I’m enough”, you’ll believe that. Get curious about the narratives you repeat, and ask yourself, is that what you want to believe? If not, change the narrative. 

The present moment is your seat of power. It’s the only moment you can act in. It’s also your eternal now. There is never tomorrow, since by the time it arrives, it’s now. The only moment you’ll ever have is now. So how will you spend your now?  Will you waste it, by waiting for tomorrow? Each day staying on the fringes of life, not diving into the messy existence that’s calling you? Life is messy. Life is a living thing, and living things have unpredictability, but with that is immense beauty.

You are not your feelings. Your feelings interact with you. Your feelings are visitors, to the house of you, each with a message to give you. But you are not your feelings. 

Have you ever noticed that when you move out of a house, the rooms look smaller once everything is out of them, not bigger? This always perplexed me. But now, I understand why.

Dream journaling can be a rich area for insights from the void. In this episode I share two insights around intention and connection that came to me during a dream. 

This episodes expands off the last episode on radical transparency, sharing the following two examples of radical transparency:

Simon Sinek https://www.tiktok.com/@motivationstop/video/7213401106372742405?_r=1&_t=8cEXlhLjK4Q

Weather man https://www.instagram.com/reel/CmhRh1VD309/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link 

I’ve been playing with the idea of internal radical transparency and external radical transparency. Cultivating radical transparency is a direct route to awareness and ultimately clarity. Let’s dive in, but first we’ll do a quick look at what Internal Family Systems (IFS) is, and how it can play a role in radical internal transparency. 

For each of these podcast episodes, I only do one take, and I have no script. I start each episode with one idea of what I want to talk about (for example, this one is sharing why I only do one take), and then I just talk. This pushes me out of my comfort zone. It makes me feel more exposed, but there are a number of reasons I choose to do it this way. The main one, is I think too much of life is perfected to the point of being lifeless. There is beauty in leaving room for the unexpected, the unscripted, and the purely inspired. 

Here’s what’s striking about my dogs behavior: He doesn’t connect rejection to his identity. He never associates rejection with something he did wrong, or the notion that he isn’t good enough. He doesn’t let rejection infect the pleasure and joy he gets out of an activity. Humans are different. Humans internalize rejection, bring it into our identity and wrap it in shame. But we don’t have to. We can learn from man’s best friend.