Unforgetting

Are you excited about getting older? Ordering a drink when you turn 21 is exciting, and renting a car at 25 is sort of cool…but how many of us truly embrace aging?

For a lot of us, the idea of getting older is something we either avoid thinking about or maybe even downright fear. 

And society isn’t helping.

Today I’m talking with Lee Zavorskas about:

1. What she’s noticed as a Holistic Esthetician about the collective opinion on aging.
2. How society is pressuring people, and most often women, to somehow not age. And how that’s screwing us up. 
3. Ways we can rebel against unrealistic beauty standards by choosing to embrace, not erase our faces.
4. How to handle ignorant comments about our aging bodies.
5. And why getting older is actually really fucking awesome.

About Lee:
Lee Zavorskas is a Holistic Esthetician and the owner of Holistic Skin + Tonics. With trainings from the best in the Holistic Industry, her approach is “less is more” with an age embracing mindset. Her work is centered on a no BS approach and “Embracing not Erasing Faces.”
Website: holisticskinandtonics.com
IG: @holisticskin_and_tonics

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When was the last time you felt like everything in your life is totally manageable. The pace of your life feeling both relaxed and interesting, having enough space for everything with time to spare. 

Chances are… you can’t remember a time like that.

Many of us are consistently pushed beyond our limits - at work, at home, in parenthood, everywhere.

This week, I’m talking with Lisa Robbin Young about:

1. How to define our actual capacity, rather than what the world demands from us.
2. Enoughness - what it is, and how to figure out how much is enough for us.
3. The Marginalization Tax and who pays this extra cost daily.
4. How we can honor our true capacity restraints while still living the life we want.
5. Why saying no to our friends more often can actually strengthen our relationships.

About Lisa:
Lisa Robbin Young is an award-winning speaker, best-selling author, and accomplished musician with multiple albums to her credit. Lisa's been featured on Disney+, is the host of Creative Freedom, and founder of Ark Entertainment Media - a growth consultancy for maverick micropreneurs who want a business that works for how they're wired to work.

Lisa believes that the best way to be truly successful in life and business is to be yourself – warts, sparkles, and all – so you can Own Your Dreams Without Selling Your Soul TM.

IG, FB & X: @lisarobbingyoung
YouTube: @younglisam
Website: https://www.lisarobbinyoung.com/

Mentioned in this Episode:

Fence Illustration with commentary

Episode 19 on Capitalism with Rachael Kay Albers

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Have you ever been arguing with someone, and the misunderstanding is so deep that it feels like you’re practically speaking different languages?

Well, maybe you are.

This week I’m talking with Lena Morgan about:

1. What the five Fight Languages are, and how we end up defaulting to our own language preference without even realizing it.
2. Why we seem to have the same fights over and over again with our partners.
3. The resolutions that we’re subconsciously seeking out during every conflict.
4. What your partner is wishing you’d do differently during a fight.
5. How understanding your Fight Language provides insights to both your strengths and blind spots during conflict.
6. How to argue in a way that doesn’t feel like shit.

About Lena:
Lena Morgan began her career as a midwife and for over a decade she helped people communicate their needs effectively, especially in high stress situations. Pulling from this, she developed the Fight Languages; a radical conflict solution.

IG & FB: @hi.lenamorgan
TT: @lenamorgan
Website: fightlanguages.com

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Most of us have a really hard time setting boundaries.

If you’re like me, you might have trouble knowing how to set them, actually holding them, and feeling okay during the whole process.This week I’m talking with Morenike Olorunnisomo about:

1. What a real boundary is vs common misconceptions about them.
2. Why we need them.
3. How to know the difference between a need and a preference.
4. The first step to creating a respectful boundary.
5. How to deal with the aftermath of setting a boundary.
6. Examples of healthy boundaries we can set with others and ourselves.

About Morenike:
Morenike is a Licensed Professional Counselor and somatic practitioner in training based in Dallas, TX. She mostly works with women navigating the impact of complex trauma come back to themselves by reconnecting with the body, setting boundaries, and building self-compassion and self-trust. She is a lover of plants, lavender candles, and strong cups of coffee.
IG: @body.mind.soul.healing
Website: https://empoweredhealingdallas.com/morenike-olorunnisomo/
Somatic Movement Virtual Sessions

Mentioned in this episode:
Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Tawwab

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This week, we’ve got a big announcement about the future of Unforgetting.

We talk about:

1. What’s changing about the show.
2. My personal journey with accepting the faster AND slower parts of myself.
3. How the ways I’ve been relaxing have actually been stressing me out.
4. What the attention economy is and how we fit as consumers.
5. How the noise of constant information overwhelms our brains.
6. The ways Unforgetting will be creating more space for stillness, reflection, and rest within our community.

Mentioned in this episode:
Episode 27 about astrology with Gwen Yi
My favorite meditation song

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When you’re in relationship, do you find yourself so worried that something will go wrong that you want to badger the other person for reassurance? Maybe you have the opposite feeling and in relationship often feel yourself shutting down or running away when things get vulnerable? Or maybe you’re go back and forth between both of those feelings and never feel secure when you’re getting close to someone.

This week I’m talking with Nicole Walker about:

1. What attachment theory is, and how it relates to the ways we subconsciously approach relationships.
2. The four different attachment styles, and how our family dynamics as children shape these styles.
3. How anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles leave us feeling misunderstood and disconnected from the love and connection we desire.
4. What secure attachment is, and why it’s what we should be working toward.
5. Practical tips for how we can heal insecure attachment to receive more security, safety, and love.

About Nicole:

Nicole Walker is a licensed counselor and relationship coach. Her company, Renovate Your Relationships, offers courses and coaching and has become the trusted guide for modern adults who want to find and keep the love they deserve without the shame, stigma, or confusion. 

IG: @renoyourrelationships
Website: renovateyourrelationships.com
Course: Renovate Your Foundations
Free Attachment Styles Workbook

Mentioned in this episode:
Mary Ainsworth’s Strange Situation Experiment
The Power of Attachment by Diane Poole Heller

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Either you are a single parent, or you know someone who is. Nearly a quarter of US children under the age of 18 live in a household with one parent. That’s a lot of families navigating this dynamic.

Although I have several single mothers in my life, I really haven’t sat down and talked with them in depth about what it’s actually like. So today, that’s what we’re doing. 

This week I’m talking with one of my very best friends, Erin McNulty about:

1. What you don’t know about being a single parent unless you are one.
2. The hardest parts for her personally about being a single mom, but also her favorite things about raising her kids this way.
3. The gifts she offers her children through the way she parents.
4. How our communities need to change to be more accommodating for single parents.
5. Ways we can better personally support our single parent friends.

About Erin:
Erin lives, writes, and loves on the Seacoast of New Hampshire with her two young children, surrounded by the most supportive of communities. She loves authentic connection and conversations about the juiciest parts of life. She is a creative writer and founder of Solono, a company that supports solopreneurs to spend more focused time doing what they love most in their business.  Erin enjoys working on her forthcoming book of poetry, reading far too many books at the same time, hiking small mountains with her children, and taking frigid dips in the Atlantic Ocean.
IG: @erinmcnultywriter
Website: solonosupport.com

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Toxic positivity is bullshit. When we experience something painful in your life, the last thing we need is to be told that it’s all for the best. Because honestly, it kinda seems like the “best” outcome wouldn’t have involved that much pain.

This week, I’m talking about:

1. Why toxic positivity sucks.
2. Reasons why your trauma doesn’t make you a better person.  
3. Why rushing ourselves through healing doesn’t actually work.
4. How we can integrate our pain, grief, and trauma into our lives without being crushed by it.
5. How my own grief impacts my life and how I’m creating more space for it.

Mentioned in this episode:
ODESZA song -  Intro + A Moment Apart: on YouTube and Spotify

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Astrology is more than just funny, relatable memes. It can teach us a lot about ourselves, but most of us don’t know much beyond the sun sign related to our own birthday, and anything beyond that feels confusing. 

This week on Unforgetting, I’m talking with Gwen Yi about:

1. What astrology is.
2. How an astrologer reads your natal chart.
3. The 12 houses of astrology, and what the heck they mean. 
4. The difference between your sun sign, moon sign, and ascendant (or rising) sign.
5. Examples of how knowing these big three signs can help you better understand yourself.

About Gwen:
Gwen Yi is an esoteric astrologer who believes in making the cosmos fun, practical and accessible for everyone. Her first touchpoint with Astrology was at 13 years old, clipping horoscopes out of the Sunday paper for her and her crush. Fast forward to today, and she is now a full-fledged astrologer on the cusp of her Saturn Return, having received her professional diploma from Debra Silverman earlier this year.
Website: theasianastrologer.com
IG: @theasianastrologer
Substack: theasianastrologer.substack.com

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If you're often praised for never giving up and always making things happen, it's also possible that you don't know when to quit and when to give up, and you run yourself into the ground no matter what to make something happen.

In this solo episode, I'm talking about:

1. Why quitting is really hard for some of us. 
2. Internalized capitalism and why some of us are more comfortable with productivity than we are with rest.
3. How society and biology both play a part the learned behavior of pushing beyond our limit.
4. A personal story about how I recently re-learned the importance of quitting while hiking in Scotland.
5.  Some tips and strategies for practicing getting better at quitting. 

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