Unfuck Your Life by Laura Herde

What if you finally created the life you worked so hard for, and it still doesn't feel the way you thought it would?

In this solo episode, I unpack what happens when a life that looks successful from the outside no longer feels aligned on the inside. We talk about outgrowing the identity that made you successful, the exhaustion of always being the capable one, learning how to receive, and why sometimes the answer isn't more freedom — but better structure.

Because you don't need a crisis or a dramatic reason to change your life. Sometimes, “this doesn't feel good anymore” is enough.

• How to recognize when you've outgrown a life that once felt exactly right
• The difference between creating a life that looks good and actually enjoying living it
• Why always being the capable one can become exhausting — and what receiving requires
• How boredom, stillness and the right structure can help you hear what you actually want
• Why you don't have to burn your life down to create a different experience of it

Timestamps

00:00 - 07:45 - Are you actually enjoying the life you’ve built?

07:45 - 12:06 - Does your life still fit the woman you've become?

12:06 - 17:17 - When your dream life doesn't feel quite like yours

17:17 - 23:02 - Creating a life you truly love living that fulfills you

23:02 - 26:16 - How to release the need to be the capable one

26:16 - 30:37 - Creating change without burning it all down

30:37 - 32:58 - You don't need a crisis to adjust things

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EP 177: From survival to sustainable success: Why high-achieving women struggle to slow down + how to heal that pattern

EP 173: The receiving-gap: Why high-performing women self-sabotage when life gets real good & struggle to go 10x

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Connect with Laura: 

Laura’s Website:⁠ ⁠https://www.lauraherde.com/⁠⁠

Laura’s Instagram:⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/laura.herde/⁠⁠

Laura’s 1-1 Coaching:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.lauraherde.com/application-1-1⁠⁠

Laura’s Mastermind: ⁠https://lauraherde.kartra.com/page/the-magnetic-woman⁠Laura’s Coaching Certification Course:⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/embodiedcoachacademy/⁠⁠

>> EMAIL ME TO CONNECT/ FOR QUESTIONS: [email protected]

>> FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM FOR MORE CONTENT:⁠ ⁠@laura.herde⁠

Feel free to share this episode with your bestie, and tag us on IG when you listen so we can repost you.If you’re a loyal listener and would like to support the show, leave us a rating/ review, it means the world!

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Thank you so much for tuning in, love xx

What if the energy you're living from is shaping far more of your life than you realize?

In this episode, I sit down with Heather Askinosie, co-founder of Energy Muse, to unpack what we actually mean when we talk about energy and frequency — and how our thoughts, our emotions, relationships, environment, habits and consumption can influence the way we feel & experience life.

We talk about:

• How your thoughts, emotions, environment and relationships influence your energy
• Intuition vs. fear, and how to overcome overstimulation and mental fog
• Energetic hygiene, boundaries and protecting your energy
• Manifestation, self-trust and aligning with the life you desire
• Ancient wisdom, modern technology and simple practices to feel more grounded and connected to yourself

Timestamps

00:00 - 05:12 - What is frequency? Understanding energy & why we can feel it

05:13 - 12:47 - The energetic body, thoughts, emotions & what actually shifts your frequency

12:48 - 20:36 - Intuition, overstimulation & why we struggle to hear our own internal signals

20:37 - 28:41 - Energetic hygiene, boundaries & how our relationships affect our energy

28:42 - 36:55 - High achievers, decision fatigue & the energetic cost of constant stimulation

36:56 - 44:32 - Food, movement, sleep & learning to listen to your body's signals

44:33 - 52:18 - Manifestation, “high-vibe” culture & becoming energetically congruent with what you desire

52:19 - 01:00:24 - Ancient wisdom, modern technology & Energy Muse's Frequency Generators

01:00:25 - 01:06:42 - Heather's lessons from 25+ years of studying energy + her tip to unfuck your life

FREQUENCY GENERATORS

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EP 176: How to become a high-value woman: The traits required to build a top tier mind, body and lifestyle

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Connect with Laura: 

Laura’s Website: ⁠https://www.lauraherde.com/⁠

Laura’s Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/laura.herde/⁠

Laura’s 1-1 Coaching: ⁠https://www.lauraherde.com/application-1-1⁠

Laura’s Mastermind: https://lauraherde.kartra.com/page/the-magnetic-woman

Laura’s Coaching Certification Course: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/embodiedcoachacademy/⁠

>> EMAIL ME TO CONNECT/ FOR QUESTIONS: [email protected]

>> FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM FOR MORE CONTENT: ⁠@laura.herde

Feel free to share this episode with your bestie, and tag us on IG when you listen so we can repost you.If you’re a loyal listener and would like to support the show, leave us a rating/ review, it means the world!

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Thank you so much for tuning in, love xx

What it takes to create a life that feels just as good as it looks

What if the next level of your life doesn't require more discipline, more information or more hustle, but learning how to actually enjoy everything you've already created?

In this solo episode, I unpack what it really takes to create an extraordinary life without constantly operating from pressure. We talk about the difference between knowing something and actually embodying it, why structure should create freedom rather than take it away, and how to hold ambition, discipline, softness, pleasure and surrender at the same time.

Because the goal isn't to become less ambitious or want less. It's to create a life that looks incredible from the outside and actually feels incredible to live inside of.

Inside, I talk about:

• Why you probably don't need more information — you need embodiment, new standards and different behavior
• How your approach determines the quality of your experience, even when the external circumstances look the same
• Why feminine power isn't about choosing between softness and ambition, but learning to hold both
• How structure, discipline and routines can create more freedom, ease and space for pleasure
• Why the next level isn't necessarily doing more — but learning to create, receive and enjoy your life with less force

Timestamps

01:00 - 09:11 - Creating a life that feels as good as it looks
09:11 - 16:49 - Discipline, embodiment & rewiring your patterns
16:49 - 24:52 - Knowing versus actually living it
24:52 - 31:29 - Feminine power, structure & freedom
31:29 - 38:21 - The resources behind sustainable high performance
38:21 - 46:26 - Lightheartedness, sensuality & reconnecting with your body
46:26 - 49:36 - Less force, more freedom & the power of support

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EP 174: What it takes to become highly favored

EP 176: How to become a high-value woman: The traits required to build a top tier mind, body and lifestyle

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Reflection questions

• Where am I trying to solve an embodiment problem with more information?
• Where am I using discipline when what I actually need is trust?
• Where have I confused structure with rigidity?
• Where have I confused surrender with passivity?
• Where am I successful externally but still experiencing my life through pressure?
• Where am I making something harder than it needs to be?
• What would change if I stopped trying to earn the life I want and started practicing being the woman who naturally lives it?

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Connect with Laura: 

Laura’s Website: ⁠https://www.lauraherde.com/⁠

Laura’s Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/laura.herde/⁠

Laura’s 1-1 Coaching: ⁠https://www.lauraherde.com/application-1-1⁠

Laura’s Coaching Certification Course: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/embodiedcoachacademy/⁠

>> EMAIL ME TO CONNECT/ FOR QUESTIONS: [email protected]

>> FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM FOR MORE CONTENT: ⁠@laura.herde ⁠

Feel free to share this episode with your bestie, and tag us on IG when you listen so we can repost you.If you’re a loyal listener and would like to support the show, leave us a rating/ review, it means the world!

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Thank you so much for tuning in, love xx

In the second half of my conversation with Phoebe Kuhn, we go deeper into consciousness, ancient civilizations, aliens, remote viewing, human potential, and what it means to build a sovereign life.

We also talk about fear, division, self-reliance, protecting your attention, and why creating the right environment can be just as important as having the right information.

Key topics:

• Phoebe's predictions around environmental shifts and the future of humanity
• Aliens, disclosure, remote viewing, and different forms of consciousness
• How division keeps people disconnected from idividual & collective power
• Building sovereignty through community, land, resources, and self-reliance
• Creating environments that support focus, execution, and human potential

Time stamps

00:00 - 15:26 - Future predictions, ancient civilizations & aliens

15:27 - 19:21 - Staying grounded & building personal sovereignty

19:22 - 26:32 - Money, financial systems & the importance of self-reliance

26:33 - 32:53 - Clairvoyance, telepathy & Phoebe's UFO experience

32:54 - 46:51 - Division, consciousness & why humanity stays powerless

46:52 - 56:54 - Living differently, plant medicine & deeper discernment

56:55 - 70:41 - Execution, human potential & Phoebe's top tip to unfuck your life

Connect with Laura: 

Laura’s Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lauraherde.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠

Laura’s Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/laura.herde/⁠⁠⁠⁠

Laura’s 1-1 Coaching: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lauraherde.com/application-1-1⁠⁠⁠⁠

Laura’s Coaching Certification Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/embodiedcoachacademy/⁠⁠⁠⁠

>> EMAIL ME TO CONNECT/ FOR QUESTIONS: [email protected]

>> FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM FOR MORE CONTENT: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@laura.herde ⁠⁠⁠⁠

Feel free to share this episode with your bestie, and tag us on IG when you listen so we can repost you.If you’re a loyal listener and would like to support the show, leave us a rating/ review, it means the world!

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Thank you so much for tuning in, love xx

In this guest episode, I welcome back my dear friend Phoebe Kuhn onto the show – for a wide-ranging conversation about questioning mainstream systems, protecting your sovereignty, and becoming more discerning about the information, products, and narratives we allow into our lives.

We talk about education, healthcare, media, centralized power, Agenda 2030, AI, surveillance, consciousness, and the importance of staying grounded while questioning what we're told.

Key topics:

• Why Phoebe started questioning the education and medical systems at a young age
• How health, food, education, and media can shape the way we think and live
• Centralized power, corporations, powerful families, and the narratives shaping society
• AI, digital ID, smart cities, surveillance, and the future of technology
• Simulation theory vs. universal consciousness and different ideas about reality

Timestamps:

00:00 - 05:28 - Why question mainstream narratives in the first place?

05:29 - 14:51 - Education, health & the beginning of Phoebe's questioning

14:52 - 24:49 - From corruption to deeper conspiracy theories

24:50 - 34:52 - School, power structures & controlled opposition

34:53 - 40:45 - AI, digital ID & the future of surveillance

40:46 - 48:50 - Simulation theory vs. universal consciousness

48:51 - 51:31 - Information as a system of control

51:32 - 57:17 - Depopulation theories, climate narratives & planetary cycles

Connect with Laura: 

Laura’s Website: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.lauraherde.com/⁠⁠⁠

Laura’s Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/laura.herde/⁠⁠⁠

Laura’s 1-1 Coaching: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.lauraherde.com/application-1-1⁠⁠⁠

Laura’s Coaching Certification Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/embodiedcoachacademy/⁠⁠⁠

>> EMAIL ME TO CONNECT/ FOR QUESTIONS: [email protected]

>> FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM FOR MORE CONTENT: ⁠⁠⁠@laura.herde ⁠⁠⁠

Feel free to share this episode with your bestie, and tag us on IG when you listen so we can repost you.If you’re a loyal listener and would like to support the show, leave us a rating/ review, it means the world!

Make sure to be subscribed to UNFUCK YOUR LIFE, we publish episodes for you every single Tuesday.

Thank you so much for tuning in, love xx

What if your ability to handle everything is actually one of the things keeping you from fully enjoying the life you've created?

In this solo episode, I unpack the survival patterns that often sit underneath high achievement: hyper-independence, constantly pushing through, over-functioning, suppressing your emotions, and feeling like you always have to be the one who handles everything. Because let’s be real, the same strategies that helped you build success can eventually become the very things that keep you exhausted, disconnected and unable to slow down.

We talk about what happens when you keep saying “I’ll rest after this,” why your body eventually starts demanding what your mind refuses to acknowledge, and how to move from survival into safety, embodiment and expansion — without becoming less ambitious.

In this episode, I talk about:

• Why the woman who can handle everything is often the one who is secretly running on fumes
• How survival strategies like hyper-independence, control and constant achievement can become your default way of living
• Why “I had to keep going” can prevent you from processing what you've been through
• How to recognize when ambition turns into self-abandonment and constantly pushing through
• Why sustainable ambition requires recovery — and how to become the woman who doesn't need a crisis to finally choose herself

The Capacity Audit (exercise for you!)

1. What am I carrying right now?

• Work
• Relationships
• Family
• Emotional processing
• Life admin
• Expectations
• Other people's needs

2. What's actually mine?

3. What can be delegated?

4. What can be delayed?

5. What can simply be deleted?

6. Where am I saying yes because I don't want to disappoint someone?

7. What does my body keep asking me for?

8. What have I been postponing emotionally?

9. What would "10% less" look like this week?

Timestamps

00:00 The high-achiever’s survival pattern

06:12  Why survival mode goes unnoticed

10:08  The need for safety through control

13:02  How to process what you’ve been carrying

15:57  Capacity: What you can do vs. what you can hold

18:04  Listening to your body’s signals early on

20:55  What ambition without self-abandonment means

26:35  Why capacity matters more than capability

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Ep 160: The hidden cost of being a 'bossbabe' - and the #1 lie women are told about feminine energy  

EP 154: Discipline, devotion, soft power and embodied sensuality - how to embody a feminine baddie

EP 112: Becoming a top 1% feminine leader and creating a balanced lifestyle with Corinne DeFilippis

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Connect with Laura: 

Laura’s Website: https://www.lauraherde.com/

Laura’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laura.herde/

Laura’s 1-1 Coaching: https://www.lauraherde.com/application-1-1

Laura’s Coaching Certification Course: https://www.instagram.com/embodiedcoachacademy/

>> EMAIL ME TO CONNECT/ FOR QUESTIONS: [email protected]

>> FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM FOR MORE CONTENT: @laura.herde 

Feel free to share this episode with your bestie, and tag us on IG when you listen so we can repost you. If you’re a loyal listener and would like to support the show, leave us a rating/ review, it means the world!

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Thank you so much for tuning in, love xx

What if becoming a high-value woman has less to do with being more successful and put together  — and more to do with becoming harder to hijack and be thrown out of center?

In this solo episode, I unpack what I believe actually makes a woman high-value: self-mastery, emotional regulation, discernment, feminine embodiment, and the ability to stay deeply connected to herself no matter what is happening around her.

Because being successful, desired, disciplined or productive means very little if you can't actually enjoy the life you're creating and stay grounded during chaotic times.

I chat about:

• Why a high-value woman has a high threshold for interruption and protects her attention
• How to feel your emotions without letting every feeling become a command to act on
• Why peace can initially feel boring when you're used to chaos and constant stimulation
• How to stop consuming endless self-development content and start actually embodying it
• Why high value means being deeply ambitious while being satisfied, regulated, content

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Time Stamps:

00:00 - 02:56 - What the term “high-value woman” really means

02:57 - 11:14 - Self-respect, boundaries & protecting your attention

11:15 - 20:15 - Emotions are information, not instructions

20:16 - 25:55 - Why peace can feel boring first & learning to enjoy life

25:56 - 30:37 - Consuming less, integrating more & not attaching meaning to everything

30:38 - 34:20 - Discernment, self-trust & wanting more without operating from dissatisfaction

34:21 - 35:17 - What actually makes a woman difficult to hijack

Connect with Laura: 

Laura’s Website: ⁠⁠https://www.lauraherde.com/⁠⁠

Laura’s Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/laura.herde/⁠⁠

Laura’s 1-1 Coaching: ⁠⁠https://www.lauraherde.com/application-1-1⁠⁠

Laura’s Coaching Certification Course: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/embodiedcoachacademy/⁠⁠

>> EMAIL ME TO CONNECT/ FOR QUESTIONS: [email protected]

>> FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM FOR MORE CONTENT: ⁠⁠@laura.herde ⁠⁠

Feel free to share this episode with your bestie, and tag us on IG when you listen so we can repost you.If you’re a loyal listener and would like to support the show, leave us a rating/ review, it means the world!

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Thank you so much for tuning in, love xx

In this episode, I’m joined by Zen for an honest conversation about self-concept, feminine power, sensuality and learning to trust yourself deeply.

We explore what happens when you stop blindly following inherited rules and start questioning what you actually believe, what you want and choose. From navigating a strict upbringing, daring to question and striving for self-expression to following your desires, tapping into your femininity and practicing self-honesty, this conversation is all about becoming more deeply connected to yourself.

We talk about:

• How questioning inherited paradigms can change the way you see yourself and your life
• Understanding societal rules and consciously deciding which ones are worth breaking
• Cultivating self-trust, self-honesty & learning to stop outsourcing validation
• Reconnecting with your body, desires, sensuality and femininity
  

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Timestamps:

00:00 - Zen’s story & why questioning everything changed her life

10:03 - Understanding the rules before deciding to break them

22:30 - Make-up, identity & learning not to center beauty for worth

35:36 - Reconnecting with your body, desire & pleasure

49:23 - How to actually test the rules you’ve inherited

61:59 - The questions women need to start asking themselves

68:27 - Journaling, self-honesty & reconnecting with who you are

85:33 - What femininity really means & Zen’s advice to unfuck your life

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Connect with Laura: 

Laura’s Website: ⁠https://www.lauraherde.com/⁠

Laura’s Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/laura.herde/⁠

Laura’s 1-1 Coaching: ⁠https://www.lauraherde.com/application-1-1⁠

Laura’s Coaching Certification Course: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/embodiedcoachacademy/⁠

>> EMAIL ME TO CONNECT/ FOR QUESTIONS: [email protected]

>> FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM FOR MORE CONTENT: ⁠@laura.herde ⁠

Feel free to share this episode with your bestie, and tag us on IG when you listen so we can repost you.If you’re a loyal listener and would like to support the show, leave us a rating/ review, it means the world!

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Thank you so much for tuning in, love xx

In this solo episode, I’m diving into what it actually means to become highly favored — and why being “lucky” often has less to do with chance and more to do with self-respect, standards, and your willingness to actually ask for what you want.

We’re talking dating, business, feminine magnetism, receiving, opportunity and how to create more favorable outcomes in just about any area of your life – without chasing, forcing or proving.

We unpack:

• Why highly favored women aren’t afraid to ask for what they want
• How self-respect, standards & energy influence how people treat you
• The difference between persistence and acting from desperation
• How to receive freely, follow up and create + attract more opportunities

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Timestamps:

00:00 - 03:09 What it means to become “highly favored”

03:09 - 08:00 Creating your own luck through inner work and standards

08:00 - 15:27 Cultivating the courage to actually ask for what you want

15:27 - 19:55 Asking vs. chasing: how to express interest without attachment

19:55 - 24:15 Why warmth, clarity, and audacity create + attract more opportunities

24:15 - 29:24 Devotion and self-leadership – and other attributes of favored women

29:24 - 32:00 Holding high standards & positive expectation without entitlement 

32:00 - 36:20 Rejection, dating, and the freedom of not needing to be chosen

36:20 - 40:22 Receiving fully, reciprocating generously, and staying open to life

40:22 - 41:24 Final reminders: ask, participate, and let life surprise you

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EP 102: Becoming an asset for your dream man & dream career/ income and how to manifest your dream body & dream life

EP 167: The hidden reason you can't receive more love, money & success

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Connect with Laura: 

Laura’s Website: https://www.lauraherde.com/

Laura’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laura.herde/

Laura’s 1-1 Coaching: https://www.lauraherde.com/application-1-1

Laura’s Coaching Certification Course: https://www.instagram.com/embodiedcoachacademy/

>> EMAIL ME TO CONNECT/ FOR QUESTIONS: [email protected]

>> FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM FOR MORE CONTENT: @laura.herde 

Feel free to share this episode with your bestie, and tag us on IG when you listen so we can repost you.If you’re a loyal listener and would like to support the show, leave us a rating/ review, it means the world!

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Thank you so much for tuning in, love xx

In this episode, I’m diving into the receiving and identity gap — aka why high-performing women can be incredibly skilled at creating massive career success, but struggle to actually receive, sustain and expand the life they’ve worked so hard to create.

We’re talking about nervous system capacity, self-trust, identity shifts, detachment, desire, receivership and what it really means to become a woman who can hold more without sabotaging what she asked for.

Inside this episode, we explore:

• How to expand your nervous system capacity to hold more
• The identity gap between your current reality and your next level
• Why you might actually be afraid of hope — and how to let yourself want more
• Detachment, desire & becoming the woman who can receive and sustain her next level
• Why ambitious women are so good at making sh*t happen — but often struggle with receiving

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Timestamps:

• 00:00 - 02:21 Episode intro + the identity gap, explained
• 02:21 - 10:50 Life update, lessons & letting yourself receive more
• 10:50 - 17:14 Creating, receiving, and expanding your capacity for MORE
• 17:14 - 25:30 When ambition switches your nervous-system into survival mode
• 25:30 - 33:14 Why receiving can feel unsafe for high-performing women
• 33:14 - 46:51 Closing the identity gap and allowing life to be real good
• 46:51 - 59:48 Hope, desire, detachment, and living a life of overflow
• 59:48 - 70:50 Sustaining your next level without sabotaging

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Similar episodes: 

EP 167: The hidden reason you can't receive more love, money & success

EP 164: How to be 'that girl' who always gets what she wants - fusing 'IT girl' x 'magnetic queen' energy

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Connect with Laura: 

Laura’s Website: https://www.lauraherde.com/

Laura’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laura.herde/

Laura’s 1-1 Coaching: https://www.lauraherde.com/application-1-1

Laura’s Coaching Certification Course: https://www.instagram.com/embodiedcoachacademy/

>> EMAIL ME TO CONNECT/ FOR QUESTIONS: [email protected]

>> FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM FOR MORE CONTENT: @laura.herde 

Feel free to share this episode with your bestie, and tag us on IG when you listen so we can repost you.If you’re a loyal listener and would like to support the show, leave us a rating/ review, it means the world!

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Thank you so much for tuning in, love xx