How do you solve a problem like an adrift niece who won't add you on Snapchat? Intern Anuli helps Cristen advise an unlady trying to get through to a distant 14-year-old, a 16-year-old unsure how to tell her mom she wants an IUD, and a job-seeker feeling hopeless about finding a meaningful career path.

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What is—and isn't—feminist porn, and why even make it? Emerging feminist porn director Bea Blue shares how she got started in Berlin, what feminist porn means behind the scenes and why she embraces radical consent and performer criticism. Cristen also touches down on the infamous "Porn Wars" of the 1980s that ironically allied radical feminists and right-wing evangelicals.

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From #FreetheNipple to Naked Athena, public nudity is likely THE oldest, most widespread form of protest. Unladylike intern Anuli Ononye investigates why naked and topless protests remain so popular and pop culturally appealing today. Then, she assesses their complex powers and perils with Cornell University professor Naminata Diabate, author of the award-winning book Naked Agency: Genital Cursing and Biopolitics in Africa.

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Ever feel like 'I love you' expectations are higher than ever in romantic relationships? Is there a right time to say it, and does it matter who declares it first? Love to See It co-hosts Emma Gray and Claire Fallon help Cristen decipher what those three magic words do and don't signify and advise an unlady who's in love and too nervous to say it out loud.

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How did 'self-care' become synonymous with skincare routines and beauty treatments, and what does it actually mean? Dr. Pooja Lakshmin reclaims the buzzword in her debut book, Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included). She tells Cristen about the existential crisis that led her to the Black, queer origins of self-care; the faux self-care sold to women; and why it's essential for taking better care of ourselves and others.

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How do you square the circle of recreational pole dancing for pleasure and strip club pole to get paid? Strippers United president Selena the Stripper confronts the tension between the polefit and sex worker communities and reclaims their pole space. Plus, we go deeper on strippers' decades-long labor movement and why some are going on strike.

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Unladies lead Whatthe way in this important follow-up to The Ozempic Weight-Loss Craze, sharing the less talked about reasons for taking the meds, including autism, IBS and polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS). Along the way, Cristen questions the feminist taboo of intentional weight loss and her own body-positive blindspots.

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What does recreational pole dancing reveal about sex work stigma, from social media to strip clubs? Dr. Carolina Are unpacks why and how pole dancers dodge shadowbans and deplatforming. Then, writer and activist Selena the Stripper pulls focus to the overlooked realities that's got strippers unionizing.

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Why is a medication that's safer than Tylenol at risk of a nationwide ban? Cristen crash courses the who, what, when and WHHHHYYY of the mifepristone lawsuit, its implications for medication abortion and the too-powerful judge deciding the case (whose last name Cristen unintentionally butchers throughout).

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Are women expected to put on a happy VOICE? Kristen Meinzer and Jolenta Greenberg from How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) lend their self-help expertise and empathy to listener questions about a "pervy" father in-law, professional dress codes and bitchy resting voice.

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