Unlearning

In this episode, Erika talks about Asian kids and boundaries that they’ve set (or, in most cases, never set) with their parents.

There’s always a lot of overstepping and “I know what’s better” which makes it difficult to have conversations, but how is this something you overcome? How do you get the older generation to unlearn what’s been passed down for years?

DM us something you’ve been struggling to tell your parents ;) @UnlearningWithUs on IG!

In this episode, Erika talks about how she felt confident across the years and how this feeling of confidence has changed.

Confidence comes in many forms; from accepting your body to seeing where you fit in with your peers. Most importantly, confidence comes over time and Erika talks about how, while there’s been so much growth, she still isn’t at 100% (but she’s getting there).

How do you work on your confidence? Has it changed in any way since you were a kid? Let us know @UnlearningWithUs on IG!

In this podcast, Roxi talks about how she manages taking care of both herself and her son while also balancing her husband and all her other priorities– all leading up to mom guilt.

How do you negotiate with a baby, with a kid that can barely talk let alone comprehend the balance that your life needs to have? Is mom guilt talked about enough? How do you balance what goes first when your husband, kid, yourself, and friends all deserve that spot?

If you’ve ever experienced feeling guilty about your decisions as a mom, let us know @unlearningwith us on Instagram!

Some of the common fears people tell us when they want to consider starting a business are: the fear of losing stable income, the fear of dealing with all of the government requirements, and the capital needed start. The biggest one though is always, “What if it doesn’t work?”

In this podcast, we talk about how we related to all of those fears (and still do) and how we built our business into something we think is very successful now. But also learning that businesses go wrong all the time and, if this is something you want to do, you just need to go for it!

Are you thinking about hopping out of your full-time job and starting something on your own? Let us know @unlearningwithus on Instagram!

In this episode, Erika talks about how she tried something new “later” on in her life and her expectations about learning to cycle (which proved to be wrong).

There’s always a reason to not learn to do something new– why learn to cycle when there’s public and private transport available everywhere or if you already have expectations about how difficult it’s going to be? Unless you try something, you’re never going to know if you love it, hate it, or even if it’s what you think it’s going to be.

Tell us about a new thing you learned to do later in life! How did it go? Tag us @unlearningwithus on IG!

In this episode, Erika talks about what living with your partner before marriage really entails– the good and the bad, but why it’s necessary for relationships to grow.

Getting married first before living your partner is expected in Asia, but it’s not that big of a deal in Europe. I mean, your aunt praying over you because you live with your partner shows that clearly.

There are a lot of reasons, though, to move in with someone: practicality, relationship progression, dynamic understanding.

What do you think about moving in with your partner before marriage? Is it still frowned upon? Let us know @unlearningwithus on Instagram!

In this episode, Roxi talks about the relationships she’s been in in the past and how they’ve contributed to her personal growth, despite how sh*tty they were in the moment.

In this episode, Roxi talks about her outlook on life, success, and the need to be results-driven.

In this episode, Roxi talks about cultural differences and societal expectations with casual dating and how they navigated these “relationships”.

Did you have an on or off switch where you realized that you’re done with the exhaustion of getting to know someone with purpose? Like Roxi, you might come to a realization that you’re sick of the whole “romancing” dating scene!

As a Filipino or someone in another culture, how does casual dating work? Do you agree with the dating rules set by your culture? Let us know @unlearningwithus on Instagram!

In this episode, Roxi and Erika talk about what it means to love your body and Roxi discusses her body issues before, during, and after her pregnancy.

It’s both interesting and important to think about the conversations you have with yourself about your body and why they’re either defined as positive or negative (although, let’s be honest, mostly negative). Loving and accepting your body will always be a work in progress, but the goal shouldn’t be weight it should be simply not caring.

How do you deal with body image issues? Tag us @unlearningwithus on Instagram if this podcast helped!