In today's episode Ce gives you a short and sweet neuroscience lesson on why kids self-sabotage so much and how parents can be the changemakers in the way they respond. There isn't anything more frustrating than wanting your child to be able to have fun at an anticipated birthday party, overnight with friends, or a trip to Six Flags, and just before the event they pull out some kind of behavior that ruins their opportunity to do it. Ce helps parents prevent their children's self-sabotage by changing their own responses to those behaviors. Thank you for listening to Unmuted Love.  

From Ce Eshelman:

Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!

Access Free Resources!

✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!

Additional Resources:

📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew

📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents

▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman

🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog

🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com

📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials

👉 Find Ce on Social Media:

🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting

🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting

Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.

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Ce Eshelman, LMFT, embarks on a journey through the big emotions that come when adoptive parents bring their children home and the reality doesn't match the dream. There are many ways to understand these emotions, and learning ways to process them will help parents stay out of Blocked Care. Ce shares some awareness, insights and practical solutions in today's episode.

Resource:

Reclaiming Compassion

The Adoptive Parent's Guide to Overcoming Blocked Care with Neuroscience and Faith by Melissa Corkum and Lisa Qualls

From Ce Eshelman:

Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!

Access Free Resources!

✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!

Additional Resources:

📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew

📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents

▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman

🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog

🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com

📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials

👉 Find Ce on Social Media:

🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting

🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting

Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.

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Ce Eshelman shares her notes to "Lucy," a fictional young adult with complex developmental trauma.

From Ce Eshelman:

Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!

Access Free Resources!

✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!

Additional Resources:

📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew

📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents

▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman

🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog

🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com

📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials

👉 Find Ce on Social Media:

🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting

🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting

Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.

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Ce Eshelman shares from her heart about how Valentine's Day can hit parents of children from difficult beginnings right in the gut. If you are feeling blocked and you want to stick your head in the sand until Feb 15th, then you will want to listen to this episode of Unmuted Love. There are tips, neuro hacks, suggestions, and supports for a healthy glimmer of warmth when it feels like your heart has frozen over.

From Ce Eshelman:

Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!

Access Free Resources!

✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!

Additional Resources:

📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew

📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents

▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman

🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog

🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com

📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials

👉 Find Ce on Social Media:

🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting

🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting

Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.

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Ce interviews Naomi Houston about her journey from being adopted from China by American parents through her recovery from complex developmental trauma.. Naomi has written a lovely account of her therapeutic recovery to date from abandonment trauma in adoption in her first book, A Glimpse into the Unknown. Naomi speaks frankly about her childhood struggles and gives her thoughts on what to do or not to do when parenting children who are struggling after adoption. I hope you enjoy the show.

I recommend this book for deep-thinking, teen readers, as well as, for young adults who have experienced trauma in their early years. It may be hard to read for some who are not used to complex sentence structures, analysis, or insight into the trauma recovery process; but, for some, it will be a lovely roadmap to freedom from self-destruction, self-loathing, and grief. There will be more books from Naomi, I feel certain, in the future. She has a beautiful, writing voice, and a sound therapeutic sensibility.

A Glimpse Into The Unknown by Naomi Houston is available now on Amazon.

From Ce Eshelman:

Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!

Access Free Resources!

✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!

Additional Resources:

📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew

📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents

▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman

🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog

🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com

📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials

👉 Find Ce on Social Media:

🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting

🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting

Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.

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Ce shares some startling statistics about how teen girls were impacted by the pandemic as well as how they are fairing with the toxic influences of social media. When you know the data, your head with spin. This is an opportunity to tune in and open up communication with girls to lift their feelings of depression, anxiety and social pressure in this "anxious generation."

Resources:

Girls on the Brink by Donna Jackson Nakazawa

Dial Down the Drama by Colleen O'Grady

No More Mean Girls by Katie Hurley

From Ce Eshelman:

Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!

Access Free Resources!

✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!

Additional Resources:

📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew

📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents

▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman

🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog

🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com

📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials

👉 Find Ce on Social Media:

🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting

🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting

Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.

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Ce takes you on a journey to explore the tip of your blocked parenting iceberg. The Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program takes a deeper dive into blocked care and Ce gives you an overview here to help you get yourself on a healing path. You can warm your tepid, blocked heart. You can check out Love Matters Parenting Society below for more information about becoming more healing in your relationship with your child from difficult beginnings.

From Ce Eshelman:

Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!

Access Free Resources!

✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!

Additional Resources:

📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew

📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents

▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman

🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog

🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com

📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials

👉 Find Ce on Social Media:

🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting

🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting

Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.

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Ce welcomes you to the first podcast of 2025 and shares her thoughts about resolutions and why she doesn't make them anymore, plus some of her thoughts on how to deal with social media in the years ahead. 

From Ce Eshelman:

Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!

Access Free Resources!

✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!

Additional Resources:

📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew

📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents

▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman

🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog

🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com

📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials

👉 Find Ce on Social Media:

🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting

🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting

Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.

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Contrary to popular belief, Ce doesn't work around the clock. She is on a holiday break from the podcast, and her incredible producer, Siah Clark, has stepped in to give you a little mash-up of podcasts past. Thank you for being such loyal listeners. You are the moon and the stars to us here at UnMuted Love. Let's sail into the new year with intention in our minds, determination in our bones, and love in our hearts. We are wishing you little glimmers of happy all through the New Year.  

Eileen Divine, who is featured in a clip today, can be found at https://www.eileendevine.com

From Ce Eshelman:

Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!

Access Free Resources!

✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!

Additional Resources:

📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew

📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents

▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman

🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog

🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com

📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials

👉 Find Ce on Social Media:

🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting

🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting

Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.

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Sometimes we, parents, just need something running through our minds that reminds us that "every little thing is gonna be alright." Today's podcast is a very long list of mantras you can pick from to run around in your brain to remind you of what is important while living with children from difficult beginnings. You can also listen to this podcast on repeat for a lovely long list of affirmations to put you to sleep, pick you up, and/or carry you forward through the rest of the holiday season. Remember, your love matters, when more than love is required. Happy holidays from Ce and the UnMuted Love team. 

From Ce Eshelman:

Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!

Access Free Resources!

✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!

Additional Resources:

📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew

📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents

▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman

🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog

🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com

📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials

👉 Find Ce on Social Media:

🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting

🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting

Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.

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