UnMuted Love - Episode 36: Spotlight on Holidays and Vacations with Ce Eshelman. Holidays and vacations require just a little bit more thought than most of us wish. If you are visiting friends and family for the holidays or going somewhere new, beware, kids like routine and by definition holidays and vacations are off routine. That means the dysregulation is on. Listen to this podcast to prepare for challenges ahead. You got this.

From Ce Eshelman:

Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!

Access Free Resources!

✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!

Additional Resources:

📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew

📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents

▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman

🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog

🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com

📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials

👉 Find Ce on Social Media:

🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting

🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting

Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.

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"The holidays" start every year in October and they keep on rolling until after the New Year. Let's face it, "fun" can be stressful for everyone. Ce Eshelman knows you can create joyful experiences this holiday when you consider each person's capacity to tolerate social, physical, and emotional stimulation. It helps to have the right tools, too. It is possible to enjoy all the seasons' festivities with children from difficult beginnings if you plan thoughtfully for the hustle and bustle. It never seems like we have enough time for slowing the rush and simply breathing into the holiday spirit. Enjoy today's episode to get some timely tips for what holidays are ahead.

From Ce Eshelman:

Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!

Access Free Resources!

✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!

Additional Resources:

📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew

📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents

▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman

🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog

🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com

📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials

👉 Find Ce on Social Media:

🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting

🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting

Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.

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Ce Eshelman interviews Ginger Healy, the Director of the Attachment and Trauma Network (ATN), a parent-created national organization supporting traumatized children and their parents. In 1995 three mothers who were parenting children diagnosed with Reactive Attachment Disorder met to support one another only to find how similar their journeys were and that they truly were “Not Alone,” ATN was born. Ginger is an incredible champion of parents of children from difficult beginnings all over the country. 

The mission of ATN could not be more aligned with Ce's mission at The Attach Place and in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. These are ATN's posted beliefs that resonate deeply with Ce, as every day she walks the same path with the same beliefs:

• We believe that children impacted by trauma and those with attachment disorders can heal.
• We believe that parents, who are supported and taught therapeutic parenting, are the best healing agents of their traumatized child.
• We believe that children impacted by trauma need trauma-informed, attachment-focused therapies.
• We believe that all children learn best in trauma-sensitive schools where strategies are in place to help the children and adults feel safe, stay regulated, get connected, and not be re-traumatized or triggered. We believe trauma-informing schools empower trauma-responsive educators.
• We believe that providing resources to the families from the start is the best way to minimize crises and promote healing.
• We believe that ongoing peer-to-peer support is critical to empowering caregivers and communities with strategies, resources, and strength to persevere daily.
• We believe that “touching trauma at its heart” is more than a tagline, it’s a healing mission.

From Ce Eshelman:

Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!

Access Free Resources!

✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!

Additional Resources:

📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew

📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents

▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman

🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog

🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com

📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials

👉 Find Ce on Social Media:

🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting

🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting

Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.

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In this last episode. Amanda Savarino and Ce Eshelman wrap up the Brave Love Series with a recap of the important concepts in the series and a frank discussion about grief in adoption and surrender to "What is" when you love a child who has been traumatized. You won't want to miss this episode because it is full of reflection and hope. Brave Love is a series developed by Amanda Savarino for parents of children from hard beginnings. We hope you loved listening to this series as much as we loved making it.

From Ce Eshelman:

Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!

Access Free Resources!

✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!

Additional Resources:

📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew

📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents

▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman

🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog

🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com

📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials

👉 Find Ce on Social Media:

🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting

🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting

Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.

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Amanda Savarino again joins Ce Eshelman for an informative discussion about narrow bandwidth, low charge in the battery, and increasing capacity for one's parenting life in any given moment. You won't want to miss this episode. Brave Love is a 6-part series developed by Amanda Savarino for parents of children from hard beginnings.

From Ce Eshelman:

Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!

Access Free Resources!

✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!

Additional Resources:

📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew

📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents

▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman

🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog

🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com

📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials

👉 Find Ce on Social Media:

🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting

🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting

Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.

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Ce Eshelman and Amanda Savarino discuss the ins and outs of trauma behavior in children. If all behavior is communication, what is your child's behavior telling you? Brave Love is a 6-part series created by Amanda Savarino for parents loving children from hard places.

From Ce Eshelman:

Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!

Access Free Resources!

✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!

Additional Resources:

📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew

📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents

▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman

🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog

🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com

📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials

👉 Find Ce on Social Media:

🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting

🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting

Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.

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Ce Eshelman and Amanda Savarino discuss Behavior, A Nervous System Perspective. If all behavior is communication, what is your child's behavior telling you? Brave Love is a 6-part series created by Amanda for parents loving children from hard places.

Resources

Beyond Behavior, Mona Delahooke, PH.D.

15-Minute Focus Regulation and Co-Regulation, Ginger Healy, LCSW

Drowning with My Hair on Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents, Ce Eshelman, LMFT

From Ce Eshelman:

Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!

Access Free Resources!

✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!

Additional Resources:

📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew

📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents

▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman

🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog

🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com

📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials

👉 Find Ce on Social Media:

🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting

🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting

Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.

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This episode is devoted to the importance of finding "your people" when parenting children from difficult beginnings. Amanda Savarino again joins Ce Eshelman for a lively discussion of how they weathered the storms of their early parenting years alone and isolated until they found real hope in the form of others on the same journey. Brave Love is a 6-part series created by Amanda Savarino for parents loving children from hard places.

From Ce Eshelman:

Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!

Access Free Resources!

✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!

Additional Resources:

📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew

📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents

▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman

🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog

🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com

📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials

👉 Find Ce on Social Media:

🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting

🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting

Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.

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Ce Eshelman and Amanda are kindred spirits who love talking together about the things they each learned from parenting their children from difficult beginnings. Both women have professional careers dedicated to supporting parents with what they learned when they were first parenting their own children.

Resources

Books:

Brene' Brown, I Thought It Was Just Me

Brene' Brown, Daring Greatly

Brene' Brown, Rising Strong

Esther Liu, Shame

Karen Anderson, You Are Not Your Mother

John Bradshaw, Healing the Shame That Binds You

Kristen Neff, Self Compassion

Kristen Neff & Christopher Germer, The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook

Lisa C Qualls & Melissa Corkum, Reclaiming Compassion

Tara Brach, Radical Compassion

From Ce Eshelman:

Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!

Access Free Resources!

✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!

Additional Resources:

📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew

📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents

▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman

🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog

🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com

📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials

👉 Find Ce on Social Media:

🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting

🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting

Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.

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The series begins with these two moms chatting about their lived experience. Ce and Amanda both struggled separately with feelings they came to understand as "Blocked Care." Little by little both found their way to living a life they love. If you find you resonate, there is always hope.

Resources

Books:

• Brain-Based Parenting, by John Baylin and Dan Hughes
• Raising Kids With Big, Baffling, Behaviors, by Robyn Gobbel
• Drowning With My Hair On Fire, by Ce Eshelman
• Reclaiming Compassion (Christian Faith Components), Melissa Corkum and Lisa C Qualls

Web Sites:

• Eileen Devine's Blog, https://www.eileendevine.com/blog
• Ce Eshelman's Blog, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog
• Robyn Gobbel's free resources page, https://robyngobbel.com/freeresources/

Podcasts:

• The Baffling Behavior Show with Robyn Gobbel, https://robyngobbel.com/podcast/
• Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/podcast
• Adoption Wise with Lisa Qualls and Melissa Corkum (Christian Faith Component), https://adoptionwise.org/listen/

From Ce Eshelman:

Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!

Access Free Resources!

✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page!

Additional Resources:

📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew

📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents

▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman

🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog

🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com

📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials

👉 Find Ce on Social Media:

🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting

🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting

Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.

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