Unpacking Myself

During a recent chat, a friend and I noticed similarities in our marriages because of how our spouses were. When someone is whole themselves, without us, they create a stability and ease in their relationships that benefits those around them. When we are not whole and seeking other things or others to complete us, our relationships become shaky and tumultuous. When we are whole, change or growth or success or failure in other people's lives doesn't affect us, even if its our spouse. I unpack why this elevates and becomes key in all our relationships.

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I recently noticed something my mind was doing. It did it back to back which allowed me to realize there was something to unpack. We are designed to protect ourselves from being hurt, not just physically but emotionally as well. If we don't take time to pause and unpack, we don't even realize the ways our mind tries to protect us. It creates false narratives, goes into judgment mode, makes things more complicated than they need to be. Listen in on how I unpacked my judgment of others and what helped me stop.

Most people are really uncomfortable with uncertainty, whether its in business or personal lives or career. Uncertainty brings up fear, stress, insecurities for us. We feel like we should know - what college we are going to, what career path we want, when we are going to get married, etc. And so to avoid the discomfort we try to plan everything and be ahead of it. We then impose our fear of uncertainty on our kids. Why do we do this? And what are we missing out on by avoiding uncertainty in our life?

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People always talk about how communication is key for any good relationship. Yes it is but what happens when people are honest in their communication, what happens when there are deeper issues they are dealing with? Communication doesn't necessarily help. The older generation and an eagle couple (yes you read that right) helped me unpack what might be the actual key to a good relationship. I unpack this and why we might get entangled in relationships that are up and down.

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I recently heard some wisdom and thoughts on a podcast that inspired me to do this episode :) They talked about what our true purpose really is and that life is meant to be good, filled with joy and love. But why does it feel impossible to get there at times? Why do bad things happen if the purpose is happiness? At first I felt that this idea was too simplistic and unrealistic but as I unpacked it, I found the beauty in the simplicity. I found a different way to get to what we all are hoping to get out of life.

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Most people just want to be seen, heard and understood. We have this innate need to be validated, we want to feel like we matter and are valued. And without even knowing it, we give away our power and put this validation in the hands of those close to us - a parent, sibling, boss, child. This then becomes a lifelong chase that impacts all our relationships. Why do we do this? I unpack this topic and why we should stop outsourcing our self-worth.

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Gonna give it to you straight right now - I see women holding back their opinions, their disagreements, their desires over and over again. I see it in the workplace, in their marriages, with in laws, with family, with friends. Why do we do this? Why does it feel safer to do this than to just say what we are thinking or say what we rather do instead? What are we missing out on by holding back who we are? I unpack all of this in this week's episode.

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The concept of Love Languages was developed for couples but I think we need to talk about this across all of our close relationships. Doing something kind is meant to make the other person feel special but what if we are just doing what is in line with our love language versus theirs? If we do something nice, we want to make sure the ROI (return on investment) on our time and energy and money is worthwhile but we can't do that if we don't know what truly makes the other person feel loved. But is it ungrateful to not simply appreciate any kind gesture from others? I unpack all of this on this week's episode.

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Michelle Obama recently said it loud and proud "I did not like my husband for 10 years of our marriage".... and guess what? It was while their kids were young. Bravo to her for admitting something that most people either didn't even realize was happening or were ashamed to admit. As I've gone through raising young kids myself and seen those around me do the same, I have noticed that more people feel this way at some point in their marriage than not. And more importantly, I couldn't help but wonder if people knew to expect this and that it wasn't permanent, how many marriages would have potentially turned out differently? Or how many people would feel hopeful as they are going through this now.

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It's easy to think it's okay to hide our crappy moods, temper and mess behind closed doors in our home where others except our own family can't see it but our home is a small representation of who we are and our life on a larger scale. I never really understood how this could matter or impact our life until some recent realizations. We can dismiss it or use it as a small stepping stone to make the changes we want to see in our life. The outside world will draw us "out" with the attention, compliments but how we are in our own home has a ripple effect on our entire life. Listen to this week's episode as I unpack all this!

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