Unpacking Myself

Had this debate with some people recently. Is it better to start people at a 0 and let them prove themselves to you or do you just assume the best and good in all initially? Often times the latter can be misconstrued as being naive but is it? Can't you start people at a 10 and then still be smart about it when they do something hurtful or something you don't like? It's easy to write people off or make them "prove" themselves to you but do we miss out on meaningful relationships when we do this? Do we miss out on deeper connections with people potentially? How can you give people grace and the benefit of the doubt but not be naive? I dive into all this in this weeks episode.

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Had a major epiphany while doing this episode - it's easy to be intentional with our days than our months & year. I don't know about you but I'm kinda getting tired of seeing the years just passing me by. Yes they are filled with love and joyful moments BUT am I making progress and moving forward in the way I want to? Are my years as planned or am I just high-fiving myself for getting things done in my day. So many moments lead me to realize the things I need to do this year so it doesn't feel like I'm just riding the wave of life. Excited to share what I learned and how I'm going into 2023 in this week's episode.

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I lived in India for 8 years of my life. I visited even after moving away but something about this recent trip just hit differently. Was it the place or was it my heart and mind's ability to receive this time around. Amazing how different and profound an experience can be when you are open and allow it. This isn't a sequel to Eat Pray Love…ha! It's me unpacking and finding lessons in the simple things and the experiences. How did I even know there was anything there to unpack? Well it was just a feeling….the way people and things made me feel. It just hit differently, deeply. You know when things touch you deeply and have an impact on you. I hope these insights and realizations resonate with you just as much as they did with me.

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There is "who we are" when things are good - people are kind, loving, respectful to us and then who we choose to be when people aren't kind, loving and respectful. It's hard to stay true to who we are and stick to our values when people push us in a negative way. We will feel the urge to do "tit for tat" but staying true when others are not good to us is when the true test of our character. More than that, it allows other people to get a glimpse into "another way" and you never know when that glimpse will eventually be how they choose to behave and be. It can literally change their life. Staying true to who we are regardless of what is happening on the outside is one of life's biggest challenges for us. In this episode, I share my experience with doing this with others and how others showing me a different way helped me be a better version of myself.

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There are stats, research, studies, experts that tell us when the odds are against us but this information can also create worry and block us from having the outcome we desire. It's easy to let our past and things that happen to us to define who we are today but it doesn't have to be that way. I share my story of how I shouldn't be who I am today considering the things that have happened in my past. But I believe we all can push through the things that happen to us and not let it define and dictate our future. Listen in!

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As kids, we see the world with so much curiosity and get engrossed in whatever is in front of us. Then at some point in our life, we find ourselves standing to the side, being more of a bystander than a participant, being more in our head than engrossed in what is in front of us. This is something I noticed about myself and I'm learning to lean in more, allow myself to be engrossed and enthusiastic about what is in front of me and save the analyzing and thinking for later. Listen is as I unpack this topic and why I am pushing myself to be "engrossed" more in the things I do.

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As the end of the year approaches, I noticed in myself and others how easy it is to jump from one exciting holiday to another, and life in the future rather than enjoying the simple, quiet, day to day moments in life as well. There is a balance between enjoying holidays and special events versus using these big events to make your life exciting. They can either add more joy or be the main source of joy in your life. When it is the main source of joy then it becomes more like an addiction and "regular" life isn't as fun or exciting. Which is it for you? This week I unpack this topic as I reflected back on a few busy weeks I had and how it affected me and my mindset.

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Part of the human experience is lots of interactions with others, and lots of interactions with others means there will be conflict, hurt feelings, disappointment, frustrations. I would love to be the bigger person in all situations but sometimes it is hard for me to do. I got curious about when I was able to be the bigger person and let it go and when I wasn't able to as easily. As I started unpacking why this was, I discovered some interesting things. In this episode I share one of the major roadblocks to letting go of grudges and what I learned I can do more of to let go of grudges in the future.

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Observing myself and others I've noticed that most of us have an ongoing, recurring "theme." A certain emotion, thought or experience that seems to happen throughout our lives whether it be at work, at home, with friends, in our marriage, with our kids. There are things that keep coming up for us regardless of the external scenario. In this episode, I share the deeper purpose and reason for this recurring "theme" that seems to follow us around in life. I also share the theme I noticed in my own life and how knowing what it was helped me free myself from repetitive patterns and experiences in my life so I can experience more love, joy, peace and change for the better.

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I was feeling nostalgic about the time I lived in India recently and as I sat with those feelings, paying attention to how I felt and why, I realized that what was making me feel nostalgic was very specific. For many of us we feel nostalgic about certain places, things we used to do, certain people, even certain smells. I think nostalgia is more than just a fond memory of the past. I think there is a reason why we feel certain memories so deeply within us…kind of like a longing within us. Listen in as I share how nostalgia can help you find the things you should create more of in your life.

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