Unshakeable Leaders: Success Mindset Show

In today's episode, I will be discussing the power of being held accountable. The moment I was truly held accountable, my life started to change dramatically. Do you wiggle out of it? If so what's the cost on your happiness, freedom and momentum?

The biggest shifts I've had in all areas of my life financially, emotionally, spiritually, and in my relationships haven't come from easy, fluffy conversations.

My turning points have come from challenging conversations I've had with my mentors and coaches - the people who held me accountable by holding my ass to the fire. It was difficult at the time, but I can look back knowing they were right.

There's a deep emotionally and energetically intelligent level to accountability. There's also the aftermath - when someone holds you accountable you can look back and appreciate it was a pivotal turning point in your life.

You Get Stuck

If like most people you find it hard to ask for help, it’s likely that you’re avoiding feelings you know will come up - you desire a loving correction and you want encouragement, but when you get the opportunity to be held accountable you avoid it. Your mind finds a way for you to wiggle out of the opportunity, so your little problems end up turning into big ones.

Accountability requires commitment and for you to let go of your pride.

Breakthroughs happen when you can admit you have no idea why you’re showing up in a particular way and you trust someone to bring awareness to it.

When I've been held accountable by my mentors it forced me to up my game. That lead my confidence to grow which meant I was able to make shifts in other parts of my life and create more opportunities.

Good accountability means you’ll get more done in less time.

You Take Action

Milestones and deadlines get you where you need to be. The consequences in the Super High Performance Formula means you have to follow through and take action.

Get honest and think about the things that you're not following through on and the long term impact that’s having on your life. When you avoid being accountable you don't get the benefit of staying focused and achieving milestones - I used to let things continue and pass by for years.

Open yourself up to being accountable with someone that knows where you need to go and how to get you there; you'll shortcut your success, and the pain you’re feeling.

Think about how accountable you are. Do you sidestep things you know you need to take action on even tough you know it will benefit you emotionally and professionally?

Are you afraid of confrontation, do you think the things will simply go away and do you need someone to bring attention to your blind spots? Your blind spots pull you down, but when you’re aware of them, you catapult yourself to your next level of happiness.

Without being made to be accountable are you going to get where you want to be? How long will it really take you?

Find the right person to get you where you want to get, and then get them to hold you accountable. Be very conscious to find the type of energy for you, so they hold your ass to the fire, and there will be consequences if you don't follow through.

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If you watched the presidential debate, you would have experienced a lack of self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and been extremely frustrated with not being able to listen to a healthy discussion. In this episode, I share why it happens and what you can do about it.

Why do people interrupt others during conversations and how can you become aware so you stop doing it?

I can become frustrated during conversations if I can’t hear what’s being said by each individual even though I’ve personally developed when it comes to interrupting other people. I still have the habit of interrupting people during conversation, so I appreciate someone bringing it to my awareness when I’m doing it.

If we’re honest, we can all get better at not interrupting one another.

When it comes to your business, working with your team, and your relationships, you can improve your conversations by not interrupting.

A lot of people question leadership when someone is not able to listen.

Look at why it happens, and what you can do about it, because interrupting others comes from a lack of self-awareness and emotional intelligence.

Take Interest

When you’re having a discussion and interested in hearing what the other person has to say you’re genuinely curious.

A reason you might interrupt a conversation is because you’re hearing what is being said and you want to bring up something important to you. This is done with good intent because you’re excited, you want to participate and interrupt the conversation to get your point across so you can feel good about what is being spoken about.

Raise Awareness

If you get interrupted it’s ok to consciously ask someone not to interrupt you because in most situations, the person isn’t aware of what they are doing.

It’s very important where your energy comes from – if you ask with frustration it’s likely the response you receive will mirror your irritation. 

When someone interrupts you, speak consciously, and calmly ask if they will let you finish. By raising their awareness you’re encouraging it not to happen again, but when someone doesn’t listen to your request and they continue to interrupt you, you can go into silence.

When there isn’t a strong enough consequence from non-interruption it will continue throughout the conversation, so if you’re not being heard the presence of your silence will create the space for the other person to realize there’s no point in you speaking.

When you have self-awareness you hear when people feel frustrated by the interruption.

It’s hard to take people seriously and receive the words spoken when you’re interrupting people – you take them off track from what they want to say and you’re left with unhealthy energy.

In some cases, interruption is an important thing. I consciously interrupt people during coaching calls to break language patterns. If I don’t bring awareness to a pattern, it could stop that person’s development in moving forward.

Understand there are different cases in which interruption is important and there are many cases when you actually shouldn’t interrupt because you also gain respect by listening.

Actively Listen

Being conscious with somebody, really hearing what they say have to say and receiving their words, means you’re actively listening.

When you’re not actively listening, you’re not actively present, the words spoken don’t register and you can’t properly reply or take an active role in the conversation. 

When you actively listen to somebody, you are present with them and they’re going to feel heard – a lot of people don’t feel they are heard.

This is about true connection and true depth of connection.

If you think someone is listening to you, but they’re not being present with you and they’re not act...

This meditation is all about feeling the electricity within you to go and have an amazing week. Enjoy feeling the energy balls as they rush into your body, heart and open you up for more possibilities.

This meditation has been designed to positively shift your energy and to allow you to bring more energy and power into your system.

Feel balls of energy fire around your body and notice how every cell within you comes alive with an eruption of energy.

Enjoy the feeling of the energy balls as they rush into your body and explode with positive energy. – soak up the energy moving through you, and feel the powerful balls of energy striking your heart.

Open yourself up to more possibilities as you welcome your newfound energy. Become in tune with everything around you, and notice how your heart opens up and every part of you feels more alive.

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If you listen and you enjoy the episode then I would love to know that it impacted you. Please take a screen shot of it and tag me on Instagram instagram.com/simonlovellofficial/ and you may also reach my followers to grow yours!

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Finally, if you’re ready to get to the next level and you’re a CEO, entrepreneur / leader head to www.simonlovell.com to find out more. The Super High Performance Formula is my signature 6 week intensive that has changed the lives of so many people. Go and watch the amazing videos and check out the program details.

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Do you want to get to the next level in business and life but struggle with certain areas? Maybe you're good at getting to the next level in some things but not others? In this episode I will break it down for you so you are clear about what to do.

If you don’t understand the principles of getting to the next level in all areas of your life, you’re going to stay stuck, feel down, and be frustrated.

It’s incredibly important to define what the next level for you is in your business. What does it mean for you to be able to get to the next level?

If you don’t know what it means to you it can be really difficult for you to start to move forward and get there.

My next level comes through my growth and journey; it’s about doing the things that scare me because facing them rewires my mind, letting my subconscious know I’m able to achieve them.

I also like to have idea and go after them. That might be something I don’t doubt, but it’s just something I like the idea of. I’m a creator so I’m always coming up with ideas I take action on. I’ve achieved my next levels by writing books, creating programs, or setting my next targets.

My success has come from doing what I’ve set my mind to – not procrastinating, but committing and taking action on it.

I’m open to seeing weaknesses in myself. I’ve noticed when I was lacking personally and committed to changing, dealing, and solving it – the next level is very important in all areas of life, not just in business. 

When you work on yourself, you commit to developing yourself emotionally, energetically, and spiritually – because you have a better connection with people and there’s a positive impact on your business. 

When it comes to investing in yourself personally your tangible rewards come from the actions you take that you once didn’t. The deeper I’ve gone within myself, going to the dark places and dealing with emotions and difficult situations, has enabled me to get to my next level.

It means going deep within you to deal and resolve something from your past. Once you remove and deal with it, you free up energy catapulting you to your next level – they are some of the most rewarding changes.

When you commit to your next personal level your business improves.

I would not have been able to the level of success in my business had I not dealt with my addictions, because my body would not have been able to handle the pressures.

I love to create extraordinary experiences for others – online, or in-person through masterminds and events. I take people to their next level experience so they appreciate how it feels. Most people don’t do that for themselves. To be forced into a situation and an environment you would never normally put yourself in opens your eyes to another level.  

When the next level is a big goal, most people don’t break down that goal into steps. Your next level in terms of a big jump are the micro next levels and the mini-steps to get to that bigger goal.

If you don’t have that, and you don’t understand that you have to get clarity, you have to seek and track down the person that’s already done it so you can get clarity on your next step.

Neutralize

You have to neutralize all of the parts that may be limiting you from moving upwards to the next level. That could bean an addiction, a toxic relationship, or a thought that is stopping you from breaking through.

To neutralize something is to free up energy so you can move forward and not procrastinate.

Execute

To be able to get to the next level, you have to be able to take action.

You need to take your ideas and move forward with them, even if they’re scary, even if you’re wondering if they are going to work out – while you’re stuck in nonaction and you’re not executing,

In this episode, I cover what happens when we get emotionally attached to a situation that really doesn't serve our highest good and how people pleaser syndrome can cause others to disrespect you. If you want to get your power back, listen to this episode and take massive action to get your life back on track.

You can’t put it off, you have to have difficult conversations – if you don’t you’ll continue to live a life that’s not aligned with who you are.

The emotional attachment you have with the outcome of conversations you want to have can stop you from moving forward and reaching your dreams.

When you create stories about what’s on the other side of a conversation you put off the challenging conversations you need to have. Your body can shut down and you feel anxious, but to be able to move forward you just have to know how to reframe the situation.

What are the things that you’re doing or not doing in your life because you’re afraid of the conversation and the emotion that’s going to come up from the other person?

People-Pleasing

If you’re a people-pleaser it’s common for you not to want to feel the emotion of a reaction. You continue to say yes when you want to say no – you want to leave a situation but you’re afraid of the conversation because you don’t want to let people down or you think things will be bad for the person you’re moving on from.

The problem is by people-pleasing and avoiding the conversations you need to have you’re stopping yourself from living the life you desire.

Your body will start to remind you that what you’re doing is not in alignment with what you want. The universal slap – anxiety, depression, sadness, and worry will keep hitting you until you face up to things.

Look Within

The child within you can get stuck in the fear of the conversation and not wanting to deal with it emotionally. Recognize the part of you not wanting to be honest, speak your truth, or continuing to self-sabotage.

Once you see that, the adult within you needs to step up and have the power to stand within the situation, feel the emotion, and understand that a conversation is just energy in motion.

When you speak your truth, you’re opening yourself up to a high wave of emotion to come back at you. It may not even crash, it may gently come back to you and you might be pleasantly surprised.

Close your eyes and go through a scenario in your head – feel your emotions and allow the other person to get upset with you and let your feelings wash over you. The chances are your expectations will outweigh the situation.

Own Your Life

Identify the reality of the situation versus what you’re thinking. You may have created a story around how it’s going to play out, but what if the opposite is true? What if you have the conversation, you step into your power, and you’re confident about doing it? What if the outcome for them is far better than what you’re fearing?

Your mind is so good at convincing you that the path you’re thinking is what’s going to happen, but the majority of the time when you have the conversation and you step into our truth and own it is that you find the reaction is very different from what you anticipated.

The time you spend putting off conversations pushes your happiness and peace further away into the future. Your success, growth, and happiness come from the difficult conversations you’re fearful of. Own your life because you’re willing to make decisions. Even if they’re scary. 

You have a dream, there’s something you desire, a path you know you need to go down, but a part of you scared and the little inner child within you is afraid to speak up.

You need to get into a powerful state, own it, and don’t put it off.

Now would be a good time to have that conversation. If you wait for the perfect time,

Do you want to get that fire back in your belly so that you can have the best week possible? Sometimes we lose ourselves, but today I will take you into a place that helps you to remember who you are and what you are capable of. This is one of my favorites so far. Please drop a review and let me know if you enjoyed it.

Find the fire within you again.

Imagine you are sat by a campfire and become present with your senses.

Notice your body as you become calm, relaxed, and attuned to your surroundings so you feel more like yourself.

Give your worries to the fire – allow them to go up with the smoke and take yourself back to the time you felt the most alive and fired up.

Remember how alive your body felt and feel your fire as you remember the energy, passion, care, and love that resides in every cell within you.

Celebrate the fire that’s always inside you as you allow the flame inside you to ignite once again.

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Finally, if you’re ready to get to the next level and you’re a CEO, entrepreneur / leader head to www.simonlovell.com to find out more. The Super High Performance Formula is my signature 6 week intensive that has changed the lives of so many people. Go and watch the amazing videos and check out the program details.

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Recently I've been asked to share information on marketing on the podcast. In this special extended episode of the show I wanted to share an interview that was shared within the Kartra community that got a lot of amazing feedback. I wanted to share this because one of the biggest levels of resistance in putting a strong personal brand out there is mindset and all of my clients have had fears about taking themselves out there to a whole new level. This episode is also a video podcast so you get to see specific examples. Enjoy.

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Finally, if you’re ready to get to the next level and you’re a CEO, entrepreneur / leader head to www.simonlovell.com to find out more. The Super High Performance Formula is my signature 6 week intensive that has changed the lives of so many people. Go and watch the amazing videos and check out the program details.

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Recently I've been asked to share information on marketing on the podcast. In this special extended episode of the show I wanted to share an interview that was shared within the Kartra community that got a lot of amazing feedback. I wanted to share this because one of the biggest levels of resistance in putting a strong personal brand out there is mindset and all of my clients have had fears about taking themselves out there to a whole new level. This episode is also a video podcast so you get to see specific examples. Enjoy.

Here's a 14 day trial with Kartra if you like the look of what I've produced.

If you listen and you enjoy the episode then I would love to know that it impacted you. Please take a screen shot of it and tag me on Instagram instagram.com/simonlovellofficial/ and you may also reach my followers to grow yours!

Have you written a review yet? It’s really simple, just rate the show and there’s a space to add a few lines. I do read them all the time and am personally touched of the stories of how the shows or meditations have impacted you.

In addition, if you would like to ask a question, please visit https://www.simonlovell.com/ask

Finally, if you’re ready to get to the next level and you’re a CEO, entrepreneur / leader head to www.simonlovell.com to find out more. The Super High Performance Formula is my signature 6 week intensive that has changed the lives of so many people. Go and watch the amazing videos and check out the program details.

The Super High Performance Formula

https://www.simonlovell.com/SHP

VIP Coaching / Mentoring

https://www.simonlovell.com/SHP

The Blog

https://blog.simonlovell.com/

The Results

https://blog.simonlovell.com/category/super-high-performance-results/

Are you getting frustrated because you are not being listened to, or disrespected? Are you finding that the company is suffering because you can't seem to get a grip on the actions of employees and can't figure out why? This episode won't only help you to regain respect but it will also help with your energy, confidence and get your passion back.

When you have respect for yourself and you receive it back from other people it gives you energy. You feel on fire!

When I’m working with the CEO’s and entrepreneurs, the frustrations a lot of the time are that they’re not being heard or listened to, and the things they ask for are not being done.

If that continues for long enough, your confidence as a leader starts to decrease, your thoughts become negative, and then you can make silly decisions,. There’s an increase in irritation and you can let people go because you feel frustrated.

How can you get back to yourself as quickly as possible and run your company from a place of respect?

Responsibility

This positive exercise helps you to take responsibility, regain energy and get back into control.

Take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. On the left side, write down everything you’re irritated by or frustrated with. Write whatever comes up for you – other people, employees, managers, new starters, and people you collaborate with.

On the right side, write down if you had to take 100% responsibility for the situation what would it be?

Ouch!

Your ego will hate this because you already feel you did things or you asked, but to regain authentic power you need to take responsibility.

Maybe one of your frustrations is that you’re not being listened to. How can you take responsibility for that? Could it be that you’re not connecting with that person and therefore they’re not listening to you? Were they onboarded properly? Have you been in a confident place so they don’t understand the consequences of the business?

Take ownership and responsibility instead of being the victim.

Completing this exercise gives you so much energy because you suddenly start to realize you can be in control.

Empathy

Increase the empathy you have towards the people around you.

It can be hard to understand what’s really happening in other people’s lives if you position yourself in a certain way so you can’t have deep conversations or you’re not approachable – a lot of people think they’re approachable, but they’re not.

You need to get a deeper level of connection with yourself.

This is why I’m working with entrepreneurs and CEOs on their emotional intelligence and self-awareness to regain connection because a lot of these CEOs, entrepreneurs are burnt out.

Maybe you’re burnt out and you’re struggling to connect with yourself. Because you’re so focused on what’s happening in your life, you struggle to connect and have empathy for what’s happening in other people’s lives.

Systems

When something breaks down, it’s because the system is broken. You lose respect because of a system that’s out of place.

You need to look at anything you’re frustrated by.

Is there a system you can put in place so a situation doesn’t occur again? I’m great at systems. I love looking at businesses and seeing how can I improve them. I’m always tweaking my programs.

If you’re at the point in your life and your business that you’re operating that you don’t care for it you won’t optimize it anymore.

When you were excited and focused you may have started to put systems in place, but over time you may have lost the desire to optimize those systems.

Present

The more I’ve removed distractions, the more I’ve been able to connect with myself and other people.

Today's meditation is designed to release tension from the body quickly use a tense and release technique that can be extremely powerful and help you drop into a calm place more quickly.

The tense and release technique is an extremely powerful method to use for your body to feel calm and relaxed.

By taking deep breaths and clenching different parts of your body you learn to release any tension you’re carrying within you.

Exhaling the tension allows you to release the pressure within your body so you can relax and drop into your space on inner calm.

Become present, and notice how different your body feels as you immerse yourself in the vibrations of the Tibetan bowls as you let their sound carry you into relaxation.

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If you listen and you enjoy the episode then I would love to know that it impacted you. Please take a screen shot of it and tag me on Instagram instagram.com/simonlovellofficial/ and you may also reach my followers to grow yours!

Have you written a review yet? It’s really simple, just rate the show and there’s a space to add a few lines. I do read them all the time and am personally touched of the stories of how the shows or meditations have impacted you.

In addition, if you would like to ask a question, please visit https://www.simonlovell.com/ask

Finally, if you’re ready to get to the next level and you’re a CEO, entrepreneur / leader head to www.simonlovell.com to find out more. The Super High Performance Formula is my signature 6 week intensive that has changed the lives of so many people. Go and watch the amazing videos and check out the program details.

The Super High Performance Formula

https://www.simonlovell.com/SHP

VIP Coaching / Mentoring

https://www.simonlovell.com/SHP

The Blog

https://blog.simonlovell.com/

The Results

https://blog.simonlovell.com/category/super-high-performance-results/