Unshakeable Leaders: Success Mindset Show

With so much stress and anxiety around COVID, I wanted to share something that I was reminded of last weekend that can be very powerful around supporting your mental health as a business owner. The most simple things can really help and we all need a gentle nudge and reminder.

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Finally, if you’re ready to get to the next level and you’re a CEO, entrepreneur / leader head to www.simonlovell.com to find out more. The Super High Performance Formula is my signature 6 week intensive that has changed the lives of so many people. Go and watch the amazing videos and check out the program details.

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Back in 2018, I went through a big spiritual awakening where I came home to my true self. In this episode, I talk about releasing shame and what happens when you finally start to speak your truth. Do you have a secret, something that you have been holding back? Most likely you have a black ball which could be shame, embarrassment, or guilt.

A black ball launched itself out of my hands. I didn’t throw it. Everyone looked at the ball on the floor and I felt massive relief because I’d just let go of the thing I’d felt shame about and I never wanted to talk about.

Many people feel heavy and hold on to pain from events in the past and that can impact you living in the present moment. Holding onto the feelings of shame and embarrassment makes you feel heavy.

I struggled to find myself for a long time and I didn’t feel I was being true to myself. I spent years searching for the real me and I was so confused.

One Event Shifted My Life

I don’t think that any events are by coincidence. I think the universe is always presenting opportunities to evolve and it’s a choice whether you take them or not. The invitation to a party, a mentor that shows up at the right time, or the person that you have a conversation with.

Suddenly you get an opening to change, admit the truth, and take an opportunity.

I suffered a lot with social anxiety so I decided to give improv classes a try. I became friends with someone from the class and I was invited to do some connection games with a group of people at his home.

That event has had such a massive impact on my life.

I loved the idea of connection games; networking events usually involve surface-level conversations, but connection games go deeper so everyone has the opportunity to connect.

A safe, confidential environment was created and we began to play games to help everyone settle in. As the games moved on, a game called ‘anybody else?’ began. We all made a circle and took it in turns to stand in the middle to say something personal. Anybody else who felt the same way then stepped into the circle to support the person opening up.

It was very powerful because it’s easy to think you’re the only person going through something. When other people admit they feel the same way it makes you realize you’re not alone.

Courage Destroys Fear

It’s powerful supporting other people in their courage. Courage is very important when it comes to getting to the next level because it helps to destroy fear.

When you move into courage, you can leave fear behind and step into a new place of authentic power.

A guy stepped into the circle and spoke about something I had also experienced. He asked the question ‘anyone else,’ but I noticed resistance. I couldn’t step in.

I was frustrated with myself for a couple of reasons. I had invested over $250,000 in personal development. I thought I was very self-aware. I also thought I had a lot of courage.

When this man had the courage to admit his truth I couldn’t step in. Physically my body was not able to move. I couldn’t give him the gift of support and let him know I’d been through the same experience. I wanted to do that, but I couldn’t.

My conscious mind wanted me to do something, but my subconscious was locking me to the floor.

As the day went on I continued to feel more frustrated with myself. I felt I had missed a window of opportunity.

The Black Ball

Later in the day, everyone was sat chatting and I noticed a black juggling ball on the floor, I picked it up and began playing with it. I subconsciously fiddled with it, moved it around, and threw it up and down. It was an outlet for my energy while I was thinking about the reason why I didn’t step into the circle.

The final connection game was called hot seat.

Overcome stress, anxiety & worry as a CEO with the Calm CEO Meditation. Are you feeling right now like you have more stress than normal or higher levels of responsibility? This meditation will help to move you into your heart and have a more productive day. Please do share to other CEOS who would benefit. Would you like to deepen your practice? Head to http://www.simonlovell.com/SHP for The Super High-Performance Formula.

If you listen and you enjoy the episode then I would love to know that it impacted you. Please take a screen shot of it and tag me on Instagram instagram.com/simonlovellofficial/ and you may also reach my followers to grow yours!

Have you written a review yet? It’s really simple, just rate the show and there’s a space to add a few lines. I do read them all the time and am personally touched of the stories of how the shows or meditations have impacted you.

In addition, if you would like to ask a question, please visit https://www.simonlovell.com/ask

Finally, if you’re ready to get to the next level and you’re a CEO, entrepreneur / leader head to www.simonlovell.com to find out more. The Super High Performance Formula is my signature 6 week intensive that has changed the lives of so many people. Go and watch the amazing videos and check out the program details.

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Do you blow up and get angry in situations that are causing pain to yourself and others? In this episode, I want to explain the main root of anger and how we can start to deal with it at an emotional and energetic level. If you want to be a calm, confident entrepreneur then this episode will be for you.

The steps I took to heal my anger through emotional & energetic intelligence (EEQ) that literally changed my life.  

My blood used to boil and a man emerged I didn’t even know. I would be so enraged that I would blow up on people, completely unaware of the cause but very aware of the effect it had on my relationships, my happiness, and my business. In addition to feeling angry, I felt guilty for the pain I knew I caused to others.

In fact, I missed quite a few business opportunities because of this.

Let’s be honest, no one likes to lose their shit. When you don’t understand why, it’s even more painful…

The problem was, I didn’t understand what was happening within me. It can be incredibly painful for anyone holding onto anger. But the reality is, anger is energy, and just like a balloon, you can pop it so that you don’t react in the same way.

People think that they have to be angry forever. If anyone ever says “it’s just the way I am”, then know this is denial.

Attacks that arise from rage usually leads to beating yourself up emotionally after an incident. You may turn to alcohol or drugs because it soothes and calms you down – once you’ve relaxed, you don’t know how to deal with the situation and you feel like you’re trapped in a very dark place. That was my experience. It’s a dangerous cycle. 

The Healing Process

1. One of the first steps in healing is to hold your hand up and admit it, own it. That is actually getting your power back over it but this can be a challenge due to shame.

You should never put someone else through the pain because you cannot manage your emotions.

Become emotionally intelligent by admitting to yourself how you are negatively impacting yourself and other people – decide you want to react to people calmly and handle yourself with dignity.

First of all, we need to recognize the difference between managing anger and ‘ tools vs energetically shifting the event that caused it. Meditation, for example, is great to calm you down, but if we don’t get to the root, you will always need to calm yourself down. That being said, tools are very important…

Wanting to be aware of new ways to manage your anger is great, but there is no excuse in attempting a new approach and then slipping back into repeated patterns of negative behavior.

2. Be Aware Of Your Triggers 

When you’re having a good day and suddenly something sets you off, that is when you’re being ‘triggered.’ That event set off the rage inside you – causing your physiology to change. You were in a state of calm, feeling relaxed, but your blood starts to boil and parts of your body clench. At this moment your ego is trying to protect and defend itself.

Recognize what has triggered you and as fast as you can apologize. Your ego likes to punish people for long periods of time, but you can start to resolve things quickly – once you’re aware you’ve behaved angrily apologize to put right the situation as quickly as possible. Your ego won’t want you to do that but the next time it happens, now that you’re aware of it you can immediately take ownership.

If I say something I shouldn’t have, I quickly catch myself before the other person has time to react. I’ll acknowledge how my ego was compelling me to try to validate myself or justify something.

It’s not weak for someone to do that. If someone was to snap at me and catch themselves I’d have so much respect for them!

3. Become Aware Of The Cause

Have you ever been in a very uncomfortable situation with a client and not know how to handle it? In this episode, I'll explain to you how to handle difficult clients so that you can create calm more quickly. This will help you in the future especially as you're starting to grow and scale your business, all based on personal experience. Are you ready to handle some conflict consciously? Let's go.

Situations happen out of the blue. You’re minding your own business and something can happen to put you in a tailspin to make you anxious. When that happens you need someone to be there to listen to you.

If you’re a coach or you’re in business it’s likely you’ll experience someone attacking you at some point.

People get frustrated and they blow up at you.

Everyone gets emotional and everyone handles situations differently. Something may have happened to you in the past and because of an event with a client, you find it difficult to move your business forward.

I’ve had situations when I wasn’t emotionally strong. I looked at the situation in a certain way; it was devastating to me and it stopped my business growing. 

You may have already dealt with situations in your business that made you feel uncomfortable and you want to know why they happened? And as your business grows, more situations are going to come up. It’s important to know how you can deal with them differently.

It’s Not About You

Everybody responds to situations differently. You could work with a client for a long period of time and then one thing triggers them; they start to act in a certain way and you’re completely blindsided by it.

You take them on and you think they’re really kind, they start your program and suddenly they are angry, maybe even nasty and manipulative.

You wonder what’s going on?

Sometimes it’s not about you. It’s nothing to do with what you said and it’s got nothing to do with your program or process. They have other things happening in their life, they become triggered and it’s the final straw. You’re just in their firing line.

It’s like when you’re in a relationship and you’re blowing up about the toilet roll or the messy kitchen, it’s really nothing do with that. It’s about the issues that haven’t been expressed.

Get Conversations Flowing

A client attacking is in direct relation to the things they feel, but they don’t talk about. That’s why it’s very important, especially when bringing clients that you make it clear you need to have authentic, transparent communication; that may be a new concept for some people.

Most of the time when you’re attacked it can come from nowhere. Being attacked can come as a complete surprise when nothing has been verbalized leading up to the attack. If issues were raised, but you didn’t deal with them maybe you do need to take responsibility.

It’s not fair for them to attack but it is fair for them to speak to you about it calmly.

You have to hold strong boundaries when someone comes at you with negative energy, language, or actions. I know a lot of coaches and consultants avoid difficult conversations and they let things pass because of their attachment to money – you’ve signed the deal, and because the client is paying you you let things go.

If you allow yourself to be attacked, it’s going to affect your relationship with your client and it’s going to affect your ability to want to help them. Your feelings about the situation will also affect your business and personal relationships.

Do you avoid difficult conversations? I love to dive into difficult conversations, especially when my clients want to avoid them. I hold my clients accountable in situations they feel uncomfortable in and typically avoid – people have a habit of bailing from situations they don’t want to be in when it’s difficult.

Manifesting money comes from putting yourself into the right energy and the sound 'AH' is an important frequency for this session which you will want to speak out loud. This may seem strange if it's your first time. It's also important that you surrender to when the opportunity will come up but you will notice that you will start to attract more quickly by using this technique.

Every sound you speak omits a different frequency.

The sound and frequency of ‘ah’ is used to manifest your desires, and focusing on your third eye helps you to connect your mind and body.

Listening to the sounds of ‘ah’ and feeling its vibrations while you relax, help you tune in to your true desires.

Instead of thinking specifically about what you want to manifest, go into the feeling of having what you desire and what that really feels like for you.

Truly believe you already have what you want. 

Notice what starts to show up in your life and don’t miss any opportunities that come into your life when you apply this practice to your daily meditation.

To take my meditation challenge as part of The Super High Performance Formula head to www.simonlovell.com/SHP

If you listen and you enjoy the episode then I would love to know that it impacted you. Please take a screen shot of it and tag me on Instagram instagram.com/simonlovellofficial/ and you may also reach my followers to grow yours!

Have you written a review yet? It’s really simple, just rate the show and there’s a space to add a few lines. I do read them all the time and am personally touched of the stories of how the shows or meditations have impacted you.

In addition, if you would like to ask a question, please visit https://www.simonlovell.com/ask

Finally, if you’re ready to get to the next level and you’re a CEO, entrepreneur / leader head to www.simonlovell.com to find out more. The Super High Performance Formula is my signature 6 week intensive that has changed the lives of so many people. Go and watch the amazing videos and check out the program details.

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https://blog.simonlovell.com/category/super-high-performance-results/

A recent question that was dropped to me on a Super High-Performance call was "How much does your environment impact success?" In this episode, I want to do a deep dive because there have been so many changes that I've made to mine that have caused huge shifts in my success and I want you to have those too.

When you’re an entrepreneur or leader in business you need to be aware of the environment you’re keeping yourself in because it’s going to make a huge impact on your levels of success.

There was a low point in my life when I was living on autopilot in an environment that wasn’t supporting me. I was doing things I knew weren’t helping with my success. When an opportunity came to move, I packed up my things and got out of the area I was living in.

I needed a clean break.

Before I moved I was drinking, taking drugs, and smoking. As soon as I moved I noticed my life started to get easier because I didn’t feel pulled to those negative behaviors.

The distance I’d created between myself and my unhealthy environments meant I felt free. I gave myself space to let go of what I knew wasn’t good for me to do better things with my life.

There are different environments you have in your life that have an impact on you. You can clean up your life by decluttering and once you start to have a cleanup it frees up energy for you to experience new things, people, places, and opportunities.

Don’t Fear Change

It’s common to want to make a change, but many people struggle with that because they feel they’re going to upset or lose people. Ultimately if people love you they’ll understand and want you to be happy.

If you stay out of alignment and you know your living situation, job or relationship is wrong and it feels off, that’s your signal to make a move.

Before you can do that you need to address your fears and the stories in your head stopping you from taking action.

When I moved I created space to feel like myself again, and clear out some of the clutter. Reducing the number of things I was doing that were destructive gave me the time and space to be able to collect myself and to start to look at different opportunities.

When you start to make difficult but powerful decisions in your life, you realize how important they are and see the opportunities you could have missed.

Who’s In Your Life?

When you’re living or working in an environment and other people don’t align with your values, it can be very problematic.

Differences in values can mean you don’t see eye to eye with people. It’s not that you shouldn’t be around people with different values, but when you find yourself feeling shut down because of that, at some point you have to be able to make a change.

If you’re around people and you don’t feel good, their values are probably different. My Super High Performance Formula, helps you understand values and how they affect attitude. Once you start to get clear about your values and beliefs everything starts to change, because you start to know yourself and have a list of non-negotiables.

I want to be around people I can disagree with, and have healthy discussions with because I want to learn. My friends should be people l feel good around, who lovingly challenge me to support me in my growth, and see the best in me. I want friends that can listen and that also I can listen to, and I can sit down and deep discussions with.

It’s important to reevaluate. When you start on your personal development journey, the hard truth of it is that as you start to grow and align, there’s going to be situations when people get to raise their standards to meet your new standards or they will fall away.

It doesn’t mean that they’re going to fall away forever, but you become less attached. You shouldn’t keep your standard low because o...

Once we realize that we are addicted to our business, only then can we start to remove the shackles that stop us from living. This episode is designed to bring your awareness back to connecting with yourself, so your business can grow, just in the right way. If you find yourself doing a lot, but not succeeding a lot, this may also prove useful.

Are you staying up late at night unable to peel yourself away from the computer because you’re addicted to your business?

I would be lying to you if I’m not slightly addicted to my business. I’m just not as addicted I was, and I now have the awareness to notice when I’m sabotaging myself.

It’s important to get away from your laptop so you return to your business stronger.

Time away from your work so you’re not completely fixated on business allows creativity to flow, new ideas to happen, and allows you to reenergize.

An addiction is something you can’t stop. It’s something that takes control of you rather than you being in control of it, just like social media or something else, but your business can be an addiction.

When I ask people what they do outside of their business they can find it hard to tell me about their hobbies and the people they’re connecting with.

Are You Subconsciously Disconnecting?

A reason why you get addicted to our business is that sometimes you don’t want to connect with other people. When I was at school, the main reason why I started my video games magazine, was because I was bullied. I found safety in being with a group of my friends and spending time creating the fanzine.

We sold Megabyte in small newsagent shops – that was where my entrepreneurial journey began.

I was very young and I was spending a lot of time creating a magazine to avoid being bullied. The more time I spent in front of my computer the more numb I became and blocked out my feelings.

I was isolating myself in my fanzine because I was shut out by other people or I was choosing to shut myself out because of what I thought other people thought of me. If you don’t connect well, or you consider yourself as an introvert, you’re going to do things to make yourself feel safe.

The more you do that, the more you get hooked in. It’s just like smoking or taking drugs for the first time. You like the feeling, and then you want more of it. It’s easy to distract yourself in front of the computer screen, starting new things, writing and being creative but if the things you’re doing aren’t productive then you’re wasting time.

Entrepreneurs often fall into the loop of creating but not completing, and you can spend a lot of time doing things, but not getting results. An OCD loop happens; you open the computer, you check your email, you look at documents.

You can just work and work, but you’re just chipping away at yourself. 

Are You Paying The Psychological Price Of Entrepreneurship?

You wear down your own confidence when you don’t allow yourself to enjoy the gifts around you. You can’t enjoying deep connection with other people or allow creativity to flow.

You become more and more isolated, more lonely, and you begin to feel disconnected from yourself.

You feel confused because your computer and work create a reality that’s not real. You think you’re leading your life, but you’re not living your life.

I believe you should be building your business, you should be creating impact and you should be working. Have an honest conversation with yourself you ask if it’s worth you losing your health and mind?

Stop Procrastinating

You may feel like you’re progressing with your business, but when you’re addicted to your business, you’re not progressing; you’re filling time. You need to have a brutal, honest checklist with all the things that you’re doing and ask yourself if they are brin...

Social media can be a challenge to handle and the more we use it, the more we get addicted. This meditation is designed to help you notice the energy between you vs social media and also presents a challenge at the end of the session. Please do share this with others who may find the challenge useful.

Social media can be very addictive and for many people and it can be a real challenge to disconnect.

When you slow down and connect with yourself through your heart, you have the opportunity to tune in to yourself instead of using social media to fill a void in your life.

You can disconnect from your attachment to social media to give yourself freedom from the constant pull to keep checking in on other people’s lives and to stop comparing yourself to others.

If you have the desire to feel free of the attachment to mindless scrolling, you can ground yourself and bring yourself to the present moment. You have the space to feel grateful for who you really are instead of comparing yourself to the false perception of what you’re drawn to.

It can be very powerful to feel what it’s like to be so connected to yourself that nothing else matters. 

Think about your attachment to social media. Consider if you are searching for a feeling outside of yourself for validation? Maybe you are drawn to the false perception of yourself and others, or is your desire to scroll a subconscious reminder to check in with yourself?

When you control it, instead of it being in control of you, you gain a deeper understanding of yourself and who you really are – you lose your attachment and notice how your true, authentic reality connects you with your soul.

See how long you can disconnect from social media.

To deep dive into a meditation challenge as a business owner check out The Super High Performance Formula.

If you listen and you enjoy the episode then I would love to know that it impacted you. Please take a screen shot of it and tag me on Instagram instagram.com/simonlovellofficial/ and you may also reach my followers to grow yours!

Have you written a review yet? It’s really simple, just rate the show and there’s a space to add a few lines. I do read them all the time and am personally touched of the stories of how the shows or meditations have impacted you.

In addition, if you would like to ask a question, please visit https://www.simonlovell.com/ask

Finally, if you’re ready to get to the next level and you’re a CEO, entrepreneur / leader head to www.simonlovell.com to find out more. The Super High Performance Formula is my signature 6 week intensive that has changed the lives of so many people. Go and watch the amazing videos and check out the program details.

The Super High Performance Formula

https://www.simonlovell.com/SHP

VIP Coaching / Mentoring

https://www.simonlovell.com/SHP

The Blog

https://blog.simonlovell.com/

The Results

https://blog.simonlovell.com/category/super-high-performance-results/

Do you struggle to charge what you are worth? In this episode, I break down the different areas that will determine how and when to increase your prices. Also, I give you my personal examples. This episode will help you to better understand pricing, timing and following your gut.

Here’s the truth. In order to charge what you’re worth and price yourself properly, you’re going to have to understand yourself at a deeper level. As your self worth increases, your revenue will go up.

There’s a misconception in this area with rules and I want to get into that because there are multiple variables when it comes to increasing your prices and charging what you’re worth.

Does the amount of money I make have an impact on my confidence? One hundred percent, yes, it does.

I’ve worked with hundreds of people and as I’ve helped them I’ve seen their growth. It’s not just about hitting the financial number, it’s how their evolution and their growth plays into how much money they make and also keeping – you can make money and then sabotage it.

I spent a lot of my life making money. My ego really kicked in and wanted things I didn’t really need so I was overspending. When you make money, you want to look at what you’re investing in, what you’re entertaining yourself with, and any negative spending habits you have. Ask yourself if you let money pass you by because you don’t think you are good enough to receive it?

Get Confident

When you’re starting a business you need to build confidence. That can come from the results you get and being good at what you do. In the beginning, sometimes you need to offer free work to receive testimonials, especially if you don’t have the confidence to charge for your services.

That can be a really good way to jumpstart moving forward in your business – give away a few sessions, really focus on the people you start working with, get great results and use those results to be paid. It’s easy to self-sabotage not start to get your new business moving because you’re so afraid to ask for payment.

When you have case studies and results you feel the service you’re offering or the product you have is valuable.

That plays a massive role in you moving forward when it comes to having the confidence in asking for and making more money.

Is There Demand For What You’re Offering?

How much demand is there for what you have? I work with entrepreneurs, coaches, and consultants, and I have a group program called the super high performance formula. Right now the investment for that program is $3,000, and in time, that price will go up. When it first came out in its beta stage I wanted to put people through it to get results and to fine-tune it so the investment was $1,500 and people wanted that. It was my job during that six week period to focus on those clients and get them amazing results.

Achieving amazing results helps me to take products to their price point. 

Super High Performance is designed for coaches, consultants, and entrepreneurs who want to become more emotionally and energetically intelligent so they make more money.

The outcome for people going through that program is more business opportunities or reconnection with themselves or family members. If you want to go and check out the results, you can go to simonlovell.com/results.

I scale the pricing by starting off with a beta, and then I go to go into the main program, and then it can move up from there. If I had a different audience for that program and it wasn’t entrepreneurs and business owners, then it wouldn’t be at that price point. People wouldn’t invest in it and it wouldn’t match the product.

When I created the Lunchbox Diet I was working with a very different audience of mainly women who wanted to lose weight; it was a different product that lead a different price point.