Unshakeable Leaders: Success Mindset Show

Feeling stuck? In this show, I wanted to give you real-world examples of times in my life where situations happened but then I got back on track. This can happen to all of us, and I hope that one of these three stories really helps you.

Like everyone else, I’ve experienced times in my life when I’ve had no idea how I was going to make it out the other side; I didn’t see a way through or have clarity around the situation I was in. 

I was stuck in a deep funk, but by taking actionable steps I created momentum again in my life and for the business I’d created. 

If you’re in a funk I want you to be happy and fulfilled. I want to catapult you, to help you get back to where you need to be for your business, for your team, for your personal life, and your relationships.

Your Persistence Is Key

When I was a personal trainer in 2005 I came up with an idea for my book called The Lunchbox diet. It had already come out as an E-book and had been on the cover of magazines in the UK and the United States.

Penguin Books were very interested in The Lunchbox Diet and contacted me about having a book deal with them. As a recently qualified personal trainer, I was excited by the opportunity.

Penguin Books had created a vision for me – I was in conversations with the publisher, but after a few months of talks, things started to quieten down. They changed their minds and decided they didn’t want to publish my book.

l felt sad. It hit me hard because the prospect of my book being published and the excitement of seeing my book on bookstore shelves sparked something within me.

I had a choice to give up or to pursue. I knew I wasn’t going to give up because I was determined to get a book deal.

The frustration I had with the publisher drove me to pick up the phone – I’d already received media coverage for my ebook in publications; instead of phoning up publishers and asking for a book deal, I leveraged what I already had in terms of publicity to get conversations going.

At my first meeting with a publisher, I received an offer of £15,000.

With the confidence of getting that offer I knew I could get an offer from another company, and I got an offer of £25,000. Then I went to another and I got an offer of £50,000. At that point, I went to an agent and they took me on as their client.

The agent created a publishing battle between different companies and I received a £120,000 book deal with Harper Collins in the UK.

That process taught me the lesson of not giving up at the point when someone says no. I had to be courageous and ballsy.

My first book called The Lunchbox Diet was published in 2009.

Don’t give up, pick up the phone, and use the energy of frustration when someone says no. Persistence is key and it’s the thing that got me to where I am today. 

Turn Your Dream Into A Statement

When I was living in the UK I wasn’t feeling happy with my life. I decided I needed to get away, so I booked a hotel just an hour and a half from where I lived to have a change of scenery and think about what I wanted to do with my life.

When I arrived at the hotel I sat in the reception area with a notebook and pen, writing down what I wanted, and why I wasn’t happy. The dream I had of moving to the States kept coming to me, so I wrote down why I’d not already moved there.

I’d been telling myself I wouldn’t get a visa and I wouldn’t be able to drive on the other side of the road. The stories I’d created were blocking me from making power moves to progress forward and be happy.

What story is stopping you? What is your brick wall?

I looked at my dream and turned it into a decision.

I made the simple switch from dreaming to deciding to make it happen. I felt what it would be like to live in the Sta...

Would you like to change something about yourself that isn't supporting your highest potential? In this episode, I give you a quick and easy tool you can use with people you care about to help break through negative patterns and behaviors.

When you’re an entrepreneur or a leader in business, and you’re committed to being the best version of yourself to grow and scale your company, it’s important you change any negative thinking patterns you have.

Use this interruption technique to reprogram your mind. It’s simple – you can use it today and it has the potential to help you make some big changes to your life and business.  

Why I Used This Technique

I used to have trouble connecting with other people – I wanted to connect with and meet more people because I wanted to build deeper friendships, but I would create excuses for myself.

My self- sabotage was in the form of making two excuses – I would say I was too tired and too busy.

As my self-awareness grew I started to notice the pattern I was repeating; I would be invited to meet new people who I wanted to connect with, but by making excuses I was self-sabotaging and I was keeping myself disconnected.

Get Honest And Ask For Help

Once I noticed my pattern I decided to change it. That meant I had to be vulnerable, and have a conscious conversation with someone I trusted so I could share my self-sabotaging habits.

You may need to get over mental hurdles to open up and speak openly with someone you trust. I chose to speak to my housemate.

The person you confide in needs to know why you’re asking for help and why it’s important to you.

They need to know your motivation – they also need to be someone you know will be around to intercept you!

I had a conversation about my patterns, why I was doing them, and why I wanted to change them. Explain why your patterns are not serving you, how you’re self-sabotaging, and what your outcome is.

What’s Your Outcome?

My outcome was to get out of my comfort zone, be around lots of new people, and to build new connections and friendships.

You’re asking the person you trust to interrupt you, to raise your awareness and create space for you to make a different decision. During the times when you have these habits, patterns take over and at the time you don’t always have the awareness to stop them.

You get caught up in the moment and let your desires take over.

Afterward, you feel regret – you look back, and emotionally beat yourself up, wishing you’d taken a different decision.  

Giving someone you trust permission to interrupt you stops you unconsciously self-sabotaging. They create the space for you to pause, enabling you to consciously decide the action you want to take.

You need to give the person you’ve confided in permission to break your pattern, but how they interrupt you is very important because it could act as a negative trigger. Be specific about the language you want to be used.

When you’re interrupted, it’s also good to be reminded of the benefits you will gain or of the consequences. Ask to be reminded of the potential outcome so you can pause (ideally for a minute) and consciously make your choice.

When you’re repeatedly interrupted, you become more conscious and you’re able to catch yourself. You take control of yourself and you’re able to make informed choices.

The turning point happens when you create your new behavior and establish a new positive habit so you’re able to make the right decisions for yourself and your business on your own.

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Let's be honest, from time to time we lie to ourselves and we lie to others. This mediation will help to ground you into leadership with integrity by setting a clear intention for the week. Lead powerfully by leading with integrity.

Take yourself to a place of peace, where you feel calm and relaxed. Slow down, allow yourself to be present, and connect with yourself at your deepest level.

As you meditate ask yourself how honest you are with yourself and those around you? Feel how your energy changes when you focus on what your levels of integrity really are.

Your levels of integrity seep through everything you do. Hold high standards for yourself and match your values with positive intentions to gain true respect for yourself and your business.

Use this meditation to set your intentions for your week ahead and guide at your highest level of integrity to stretch yourself and lead your company.

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About five years or so ago now I took a trip into the Amazon rainforest for my first ayahuasca ceremony. In this episode I wanted to share my journey with plant medicines and how it played into me becoming a better, more grounded, happier leader and my views on what others should do if they are interested in taking the plant medicine path.

I wasn’t the best version of myself when I was taking drugs, smoking, and drinking, but when I started my journey with self-development I committed to being the best version of myself.

Now I do whatever it takes – I make investments for myself, to work with people I align with, to do the best for myself and my business. When I feel something I align with I don’t hesitate; I invest in it, book it, get on a plane, or go to the event that I feel called to attend.

I don’t have much skepticism, I’m open to change and surrendering to what I’m called to do – taking fast action makes me a better leader in my business and lead me to experience plant medicine and ayahuasca ceremonies.

Feeling Safe

When I went on my first trip to Peru I went with the intention of killing the heaviness I was carrying within me.

I’d previously taken ecstasy, cocaine, and party drugs so I needed to feel safe taking plant medicines; I was on the path of recovery and I wanted to clean myself up.

I arrived at a location before the event and met with a dozen people. We were warned that on the previous trip they had been held at gunpoint along the river; I immediately wondered if I should turn around and head home, but I’d already traveled a long way and I wanted to see the trip through.

There was a lot of anticipation for what lay ahead.

During the evenings, the shaman lead the ceremony – everyone sat in a circle and each person was called to kneel and take the thick tea-like drink – it tasted horrible.

Raising Consciousness

We would experience each other releasing toxicity; the ceremony highlights parts of your life you want to ignore – the things you’ve done and things you’ve pushed away – helping you to see the changes you need to make. I saw a lot of things and I purged a lot.

The subconscious becomes conscious so you can choose to transform and make changes to your life.

You can expect to notice differences in yourself straight away when you’re on the journey of transformation and you go through intense, transformational experiences with coaching, attending events, or taking medicines.

Often, it isn’t until you get back into your normal life when changes about yourself hit you.

Losing My Addictions

When you’ve evolved because you’ve spiritually woken up, parts of you fall away. When I came back from Peru, I noticed I was able to go out and drink alcohol without the need to binge.

I don’t drink at all anymore, but at the time I was someone who needed to party; my first ayahuasca ceremony helped me to remove 80% of my addictions.

It raised my consciousness level and brought things to my awareness. I felt like a different person.

Addictions cause you to show up in your business and around people in a very toxic way and actions that aren’t aligned with who you are, make you unhappy with the person you became in those moments.

You beat yourself up for your mistakes.

I didn’t want that life. I didn’t want to hurt people and I didn’t want a life where I was continuously knocking myself down – I was feeling bad, and that was having a negative impact on my business and the people around me.

Be Honest With Yourself

It’s not easy to admit you’re an erratic, toxic person, but when you’re able to face that you can start to get help. You get called to the path of personal development; you hire a coach, you begin to meditate and become open to discovering holistic,

I recently attended an intimate event with Teal Swan that brought awareness to some important areas of my life that needed attention. This also plays a huge role in terms of leadership in my personal and professional life. In this episode, I cover the 5 different takeaways that may help you to become a better person and leader.

I just had one of the most awkward, but transformational weeks of my life – I chose to work with the spiritual teacher Teal Swan at an intimate event in Utah because I knew she would challenge me.

It was exactly what I needed to experience. Even though I want to evolve and grow I initially found it awkward – but then everything came together.

There were a number of things I didn’t want to admit, but by admitting my truth I can serve you.

Needs

I thought I knew myself well, but I wasn’t aware my biggest need was to feel wanted. I knew events from my childhood lead me to feel like this, but I wasn’t aware of how my need to feel wanted was a huge need of mine and how that had made such an impact on my life.

Have you ever stopped to think about what is your biggest need is?

Self-Sabotaging

When you’re interacting with people in personal development and transformation, as a coach or a mentor, you want to find things out so you can help them.

This comes with good intention, but it can also cause problems. If you treat all your relationships with people like you want to fix them you end up sabotaging your relationships.

I wasn’t aware that as I was trying to fix people I was pushing them away.

I had the unconscious need to feel wanted; my safety net was being a coach to everybody because I thought if I could help, save, or teach someone something, they would see me as a worthy person.

It was a huge issue for me to want to help and serve everyone I came into contact with – I’m going to continue to devote myself to serve my clients and help people, but I’m also going to live my life, be myself, and truly connect with people.

Self-Expression

I’m calm and confident in many different situations but I noticed how I suppress my emotions too.

I’ve evolved from someone who used to unconsciously react in personal relationships by throwing toys out of the pram to suppressing my anger and saying nothing.

I stopped expressing how I was really feeling because I didn’t want to upset the person I was with and I didn’t want to make them feel bad especially if they were going through a challenging time. By keeping my emotions to myself I wasn’t aware that I was suppressing feelings that I could have expressed in a healthy way. 

I learned the person I was showing on the outside wasn’t what I was experiencing within – I was disconnected, wearing a poker face that people couldn’t read.

I’m now able to match what I’m feeling with what I express on the outside. Instead of holding my feelings in, I want people to see my sadness, anger, or joy.

Are you positioning yourself in a certain way that pushes people away from you? If there’s a disconnection you need to start to express who you are and what you are feeling so people can experience the real you.

Asking What Someone Needs

Do you need to take ownership of your leadership? With leadership, partnerships, and especially in my intimate relationships, I felt the need to ask what someone needed so I could meet their expectations, instead of messing things up. 

Someone’s needs and desires are really important – asking a person what they need, are feeling or what they want are all appropriate questions unless you’re in a situation where the other person needs you to lead them.

I had a fear of rejection and of screwing things up.

When I asked what someone needed I felt it enabled me to meet their needs because I wanted to get everything right.

Do you feel that you have a shield that is blocking you from a deeper connection with yourself and others? Today's meditation is about starting to disarm that protective shield that you have had around yourself.

When you create a hard shield to protect yourself from the world it blocks you from having deep connections with yourself and the people around you.

This meditation takes you to an environment that’s relaxing for your mind and body so you can allow your shield to soften.

Focus on the power of your heart to connect more deeply with yourself, and notice that as your shield weakens your energy becomes stronger.

Become aware of the parts of your body that begin to feel lighter as you disarm the shield you created. It means the real you can shine through and you can connect with more people at your deepest level.

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Finally, if you’re ready to get to the next level and you’re a CEO, entrepreneur / leader head to www.simonlovell.com to find out more. The Super High Performance Formula is my signature 6 week intensive that has changed the lives of so many people. Go and watch the amazing videos and check out the program details.

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Many business owners and entrepreneurs are really bad and taking time off and the impact of that is a huge amount of breakdown and overwhelm. Over the years, I've gotten a lot better at listening to what my body needs. In this episode, I want to share all of the reasons that I recently decided to take a week off with the intention of helping you.

If you don’t take time away for yourself when you need to you’ll feel your life going downhill. You’ll struggle with your energy levels; your mental health, and your relationships will suffer, leading you to experience problems in your business.

Entrepreneurs and business owners are notoriously bad at taking time off, but it’s crucial you take a break to have time for yourself, to recharge, and find yourself.

You may find it hard to take time away because your ego encourages you to push through and carry on but that’s often at the expense of your health. 

Understand that if you don’t take the break you won’t be able to achieve the personal and professional outcomes you want.

How Are You Feeling?

When you stop doing what you love because it feels heavy, or you feel there’s a block in your business it can be a sign for you to take the break you need so you can come back stronger.

A change of scenery can create mental shifts and clarity for you.

When you disconnect and recharge, you come back with a clearer mind enabling you to tap into your creativity. Some of my best ideas have come to me shortly after returning from a trip away because I come back with a clear mind, having let go of things that were previously blocking me or weighing me down.

I’ve also noticed that the biggest jumps in my business have been on the other side of taking time out for myself.

I used to be bad at taking time off, but now when my intuition tells me I need to take some time I listen. The more I’ve become self-aware and connected with my body, the more I’m able to recognize the calling to take prolonged amounts of time away.

On return from my trips, I always come back feeling re-energized and stronger.

I’ve done different things in the past to recharge and disconnect; I’ve been away to attend events, taken plant medicines on trips to Peru, and been away for 10 days to sit peacefully for 10 hours each day in meditation.

Despite reading, meditation, and using my knowledge to keep my vibration high I’ve recently felt a strong desire to take another break. It’s time for me to listen to my body again, to take time away, and experience different surroundings and people.

What’s Your Reason?

There may be one reason you want to take a break, or there can be many. Maybe you’re feeling sadness, or you’re under too much pressure? Are you attached to your phone too much and you need to disconnect? You might want to connect with new people and make new friends or your mind might need to go away to focus on learning or healing in a different environment? Perhaps your body is screaming for you to slow down? You may even need to go somewhere where you’re not around people wearing masks!

I want to go away again because I feel a calling to go somewhere different to come back stronger for my clients and pass on what I learn.

I want to be at my best and I’m going away because my mind, body, and soul is calling to relax and recharge. Every time I invest in myself, I’m able to go deeper with my clients and speed up the process of their transformation.

Come Back Stronger

I’ve noticed that when I’ve taken time away to relax or to grow and learn, the faster my clients have got results. When I’m recharged I have greater mental clarity; I fine-tune and tap into my intuition so I get into problems faster and help my clients resolve them. I’m always trying to keep ahead so I can bring a new skill set to the people I’m working with.

Do you ever suffer from panic attacks? If so the key is to slow down the mind and to pop the panic bubble. In this meditation, you will learn how to separate yourself from your thoughts and I'll give you a process you can easily use to come into a place of calm and relaxation. For a deep dive into meditation over 6 weeks head to www.simonlovell.com/SHP

In times of panic your breathing changes, your heartbeat races, and you become disconnected with yourself.

Use this meditation to slow down, control your thoughts and bring yourself back to your calm centered self.

Observe the thoughts that come into your awareness and as they come up, turn them into bubbles and watch them float away into the distance.

As you release each bubble breathe deeply, and notice how you feel calmer and how your heart begins to slow down.

Become more relaxed and notice the energy shift in your body. Allow all thoughts to move away and observe how you can bring yourself back home to you.

If you’re a CEO, a business owner of an entrepreneur, and you want to take a deep dive into a meditation challenge check out the Super High Performance Formula

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If you listen and you enjoy the episode then I would love to know that it impacted you. Please take a screen shot of it and tag me on Instagram instagram.com/simonlovellofficial/ and you may also reach my followers to grow yours!

Have you written a review yet? It’s really simple, just rate the show and there’s a space to add a few lines. I do read them all the time and am personally touched of the stories of how the shows or meditations have impacted you.

In addition, if you would like to ask a question, please visit https://www.simonlovell.com/ask

Finally, if you’re ready to get to the next level and you’re a CEO, entrepreneur / leader head to www.simonlovell.com to find out more. The Super High Performance Formula is my signature 6 week intensive that has changed the lives of so many people. Go and watch the amazing videos and check out the program details.

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The Blog

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Do you find it easy to get support for business activity but when it comes to what's real and raw for you personally you would rather handle it on your own? Deep down though, you know that it's not going to go away. In this episode, I share with you the different reasons why CEOs fail to ask for help and what to do about it.

Were you the kid at school that put your hand up when you had a question? Or were you the shy one that kept quiet and you failed to speak up?

If you asked my teachers what I was like prior being bullied they would have said they couldn’t shut me up, I was full of energy, enthusiasm and I was always asking questions!

You may be running your business very successfully, but when it comes to asking for help with deep, personal issues you might feel there’s no way you can ask for help.

Not asking for help will have an impact on many things for you personally and professionally. Once you’re aware of issues holding back your growth, you can resolve them and move forward.

Issues Have An Impact

You can hide your needs, but they will sit within you, bubbling away stopping you from living the quality of life you deserve.

At some point they will resurface.

If you don’t release them and ask for the help you need, events and situations will continue to repeat themselves.

When you ask for help and allow yourself to become vulnerable, you start to untangle internal knots – they stop you from moving forward and can manifest into anger, lack of confidence, and anxiety.

The sooner you ask for help and speak up, the faster you move forward.

Shame And Embarrassment 

If you desire to ask for help, but you have shame and embarrassment, you’re going to deny yourself the opportunity of growth, and if you don’t find the courage to speak up you won’t bring yourself into alignment with who you truly are.

Allowing yourself to be authentic requires vulnerability and courage.

That may feel uncomfortable to you, but avoiding feelings keeps you feeling trapped and numb.

Achieving a breakthrough means you have to step up, feel uncomfortable, and ask for help.

Going Solo

You might be someone who tries to figure everything out on your own but that tightness creates friction and unease.

If you have the mindset of figuring everything out yourself, you need to ask yourself honestly how long you have been feeling the way you have?

What has been the cost to your health and finances?

It might be hundreds of thousands of dollars. I know if I’d not held my hand up to get the support I needed, I would never have taken my company to make the millions that it did.

My ability to continue to ask for help defines me and plays a huge role in how I move forward and evolve throughout my life.

The Illusion Of Feeling Good

Understanding the illusion of feeling good is important because once you’re aware of it, you can notice when you’re distracting yourself.

You can sit with a problem that needs to be solved for a long time. During those times there will be moments of happiness that mask how you feel.

That’s a dangerous place because living in the illusion of happiness and using avoidance strategies to distract yourself, instead of feeling it and asking for help masks over the issue.

Issues come up again unless they are dealt with at an emotional, spiritual, and energetic level.

Healing, coaching, and awareness help you untangle the beliefs that cause things to fester in your subconscious, but it’s a double-edged sword. You know you need help, but when you’re in the illusion of happiness you don’t think you need assistance.

You Feel Frozen

Feelings of fear can become frozen in time – you want to receive help to get an answer to your problems,

Vibration is your state of being and it's important to leadership because its how you operate in the world. It's how you connect and it's how you interact with others. In this episode, I share 6 ways that you can increase your vibration so you can have a bigger impact on the world.

Think about the moments when you feel alive and on fire.

During those moments your vibrational frequency was at its highest. You were aligned with something you loved, the people you were surrounded with, and you were thinking positive thoughts.

Vibration is your state of being and the energy you radiate.

You need to recognize your state of being because your vibration is critical when it comes to your leadership. If you can become energetically and emotionally intelligent to raise your vibration, you can make changes to your lifestyle to help to optimize your life and business.

Your level of leadership will benefit because your positive vibrations will have an impact on your team and the people you come into connection with.

You want to be in an energetic vibrational space where you’re drawing people closer to you, not pushing them away. To do that you need to plant positivity into your mind and take actions to raise your frequency.

There are lots of choices you can make to improve your vibration.

Food

Making small tweaks with your nutritional choices will help increase your levels of energy and vibration.

Be conscious about the choices you make – even if you already eat healthily there are ways you can improve your choices to boost your vibration.

Every food and nutrient you consume has an impact on how you feel.

Eating unhealthy food will make your energy levels and mood slump as your body focuses on processing any unnatural foods and chemicals you’ve consumed. That slump will have an affect on the energy you radiate.

Print out that list of high vibration foods and make the best choices when you go shopping or you eat out and notice how you feel after you’ve eaten.

Meditation 

The intention of meditation is to increase your vibration and energy.

Listening to different meditations will have an impact on your energy and vibration and how they make you feel will depend on the state you’re in when you enter the meditation – some meditations hit you at the right time when you’re in the perfect headspace.

The depth of your meditation and the length of time you are meditating for, will increase, not just your vibration, but how you move through the different planes of vibration and energy.

To reach that you need to be consistent and have discipline, you have to be consistent and practice. Meditating for two minutes is very different from sitting with yourself for a longer period of time.

The longer you can simply be with yourself, the more you allow your ego to drop away to free more space and energy to raise your vibration.

If there is a particular meditation you notice shifts your energy and increases your vibration go back to it and do it again.

Learning

When I feel in low vibration I make the conscious effort to learn; whether that’s reading, watching a documentary on Netflix (a great one called Heal), or listening to a spiritual teacher like Wayne Dyer on Audible.

Learning should feel light to you so choose things you feel aligned with.

Choose topics that lift and inspire you instead of anything draining or heavy and be aware of the way you learn best; sometimes a book is better listened to than read.

Exercise

You know that exercise makes you healthier, but when you look at exercise through the lens of vibration it can give you a different type of motivation

I exercise because I want to keep my body in shape but now I do it with a different intention.