Unshakeable Leaders: Success Mindset Show

Do you avoid talking to people that you care about your achievements, goals, dreams, and successful moments? In this episode, I'll share why and exactly what to do about it.

It’s natural to want to talk to people. You feel excited when something is happening in your business and you have a new opportunity coming up – but have you stopped telling the people close to you about your achievements because every time you do, you receive a hostile or negative reaction?

When you talk about new projects coming up in your business with positive intentions, and you’re communicating because you’re excited or you want to inspire, it can be deflating when the response you receive isn’t what you expect.

You can tell you’ve hit a nerve, and the conversation becomes awkward so you stop having those conversations with people, and that’s a shame.

Obsessively Making Comparisons

So many people spend their time in comparison obsession, feeling less significant than other people, watching what they are doing and wanting their success – it’s easy to create an illusion of how other people’s lives are behind the scenes.

We’ve all been guilty of overlooking the hard work that went into someone’s achievements and it’s important to have empathy and think about how you have felt or reacted in the past. When you have empathy you put yourself in the other person’s shoes.

I had a six-figure book deal with HarperCollins for a book called the Lunch Box Diet. I took the simple concept of eating from a lunchbox and wrote a best-selling book. Many of the personal trainers working with me were triggered when my book deal happened because they ate from lunchboxes too – but they hadn’t taken the action that I did and they didn’t see how hard I’d work to achieve that deal.

When you talk about things people become aware of their own lack of action.

When you share what you’re achieving and how you’re gaining momentum, it shuts other people down because you’re doing the things they are not.

The next time you express your achievements and you get a snarky remark remember it’s because they’re triggered about something in their unconscious.

Avoid The Trigger Loop

What you don’t want to create is a trigger loop – you verbalize something because you’re excited, it triggers someone’s negative response and that triggers you. You want to create space for communication to happen so you can continue to openly speak about what you want to.

They won’t even know why they made the remark, because they’re living unconsciously.

Most people don’t understand that a trigger is the feeling you get to trigger an action or a reaction.

Most of the time that happens unconsciously. People say things and they’re not aware of what or why they’ve said them – it ends up becoming a fight and the energy between you is off so you need some space from them. Then you have a conversation about apologizing – all that stems from that initial trigger; it’s not about you doing anything wrong.

If you go into a conversation with the intention of wanting to get to the other person, the responsibility is on you and you need to take a look at yourself. If you have a conversation with good intentions, you’re sharing your success, and suddenly you feel a shift in energy, it’s because you’ve triggered a feeling within someone else – their feelings are transmitted by a shift in energy and that energy shift comes out verbally.

It’s important to let people know how you feel about their response. When you feel triggered be calm and share with how it makes you feel. If you don’t have that discussion you can bail and run.

Success Isn’t Easy

There’s a misconception of what it takes and the effort that’s led up to the moment that you share your success. A sale or an opportunity doesn’t just arrive.

This meditation has been designed to get you into a state of extreme focus so that you can have a productive day. If you have trouble with concentration, this will help you to build up in small bursts and improve over time.

It’s important to know how to let go of any stress, especially if you’re in business and you have trouble concentrating. When you know how to focus you relax and have your most productive days.

Allow yourself to absorb this meditation and notice how relaxed you feel. As you drop deeper your calm mind and body will encompass you and you’ll release any stress. You’ll feel at total peace.

When you allow yourself to be calm and still each day, you’ll naturally laser focus on the present moment so nothing distracts you. You can fully focus on everything, including all the things you want to achieve in your business. 

As you strengthen your power of concentration you’ll observe how intense focus is one of your greatest abilities. 

Take long deep breaths, let go of all your stress, effortlessly focus, and have a good day.

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What if you could change your financial future by doing the very thing you don't want to do. In this episode, I share the story of my 7-Figure Jump that assisted me in making my first million dollars in 2015. This show could just change your life forever.

When I was at 10,000 feet in the air I thought I was going to die, but I never knew the positive impact that moment was going to have on my future finances.

The decision I made to jump out of a plane wasn’t because I wanted to but because I really didn’t want to. Falling out of that plane made an impact on me personally and shifted my growth in terms of making money.

It was an internal shift so big it sent me off like a SpaceX rocket ship. No-one could stop me.

As I went up the first time I remember being sat on the edge of the plane. I was at 10,000 feet and as the door opened I felt my heart pounding.

When it was my turn to jump out I felt pure panic. Then I fell.

I safely landed, and with my feet firmly on the ground again I felt pumped full of adrenaline and excitement.

Why Do It?

My biggest fear was of heights and the thought of jumping out of a plane terrified me. I had to skydive because I knew if I could break through my fear of heights and ultimately make myself leap out of a plane at 10,000 feet, I could overcome anything.

I call it my seven-figure jump.

I wanted to make my first million dollars so I knew breaking through my biggest fear would shatter any other fears I had in my life.

When you do something you’re scared of and you breakthrough that fear a huge change happens to you internally. It might not necessarily be jumping out of a plane, but whatever you need to breakthrough will ultimately change your life.

You become fearless and unstoppable.

When I looked back on my skydive I recognized the amount of overthinking I did – I was scared of everything that could go wrong.

I had mental associations with stories I’d heard on the news or from films I’d watched – I thought my parachute wouldn’t open, I’d have a heart attack on the way down and I was going to fall to the ground and I’d be a horrible dead splat on the ground.

Mental Associations Matter

After my successful first jump, I went up again six times, and what I noticed after each fall was that the chattering in my mind started to decrease. The second time I went up, it wasn’t as bad as the first, and the third time I went up, it wasn’t as bad as the second. The fourth time that I went up I noticed I went into a place within me of pure inner peace.

My mental associations changed dramatically from my first jump – they altered from terror to triumph and peace.

The mental associations you have are the key to your confidence. Think about what you want your next level to be? It could be financial growth or putting yourself out into the world to create more impact.

Some things need to happen in order for you to move forward. A shift needs to take place within you so you drop your fears, you have more confidence, or you let go of the thing that’s holding you back.

If you do nothing you’ll stay stuck where you are.

For you to break through to your next level, you need to think about the things you don’t have the confidence to do. What are some things that you struggle with? It might be putting out social media videos, hiding behind your brand, or hiring staff.

Stop The Stories

A reason why you don’t take leaps is because you think something that happened before, will happen again, or the thing you’re thinking isn’t a reality.

You create stories that aren’t true – you feel the pain you associate with them and your feelings hold you back.

Jumping into a negative future causes anxiety and shuts you down. When your body shuts down, you don’t take action,

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Do you struggle with true confidence in your business? In this episode, I'll share some fresh new ideas with you about some areas to focus on if you want to start growing your company. A confident entrepreneur is a happy entrepreneur.

My spiritual journey has taught me to slow down and think about how my energy affects the man I am, the people I lead, and how I run my business.

I spent many years living from and operating at draining levels of energy – I was compulsively impatient, rushing around with nervous energy.

Now, I don’t do that. I live my life and run my business very differently becasue I learned how to feel calm and tap into my confidence.

When you really embody living from a place of calm confidence, you can move forward in your business. Follow my top 10 ways to help you become a calm, confident entrepreneur.

Connection 

How deeply do you connect with yourself? If you’re struggling to connect with others, it means you’re disconnected from yourself. When you’re an entrepreneur you really need to be able to connect with all kinds of people.

Maybe you have lost your connection with your confidence. When you say you have lost confidence, you didn’t lose your confidence, you lost your connection with it.

Your confidence is always there – if I asked you when you last felt confident and you don’t think you have ever felt confident, your response has come from your ego. When you drive a car, you have to be confident – to say you’ve never been confident is a self-sabotaging statement.

You always have confidence within yourself.

To be confident, you need to connect with yourself and your heart. When you create coherence between your mind and heart you’ll realize how confident you can feel.

Open 

You can be closed-minded or open-minded. You can be skeptical or look at things and have a go at doing them.

I’ve never been super skeptical but I have shut things down and then later, I’ve understood that that thing I shut down was actually my biggest area of growth.

It’s important for your confidence for you to be open to new ideas because when you shut things down you don’t learn. You become very single-minded and have tunnel vision.

You need to be open up to different viewpoints and different ideas.

It’s a good idea to expand your reading and try books you’re not usually drawn to. The books you wouldn’t normally go for can hold gems of wisdom. That can be really valuable to you in business.

Negotiation 

When you’re dealing with people, one of the important things to do is to get curious and to ask questions.

It’s important for you to negotiate certain things in different situations because otherwise, you become submissive and will beat yourself up emotionally.

In order to negotiate, you need courage and you need the confidence to be courageous. When you build your confidence, you’re willing to negotiate and to dive into challenging conversations so that both of you win and have the outcomes you want.

It’s not about you winning, it’s about both parties feeling good about the outcome. In negotiations, you can feel you got ripped off or you got less than the other person.

When you consciously negotiate, you try yo understand what the person needs and why they need it.

That becomes important to you because you’re not just about yourself, you’re about togetherness.

Faith

Faith means different things to different people. To me, faith is about being behind something.

It’s about tapping into the spiritual connection you feel. 

When I’m feeling a little bit low reaching for that connection gives me faith and I feel I have a divine conne...

This week the focus of the show is confidence in business and leadership. Confidence is critical to success and growth in entrepreneurship. This meditation is designed to help you have a confident day by taking you into a space within you that recalls your most confident moment. Please share this meditation with others who you feel may benefit.

Your confidence is critical to your growth and success.

You have confidence, but to be confident you need to access the feelings of confidence you hold within yourself. 

Relaxing allows your mind and body to release tension enabling you to drift into a calm state of inner peace – this allows you to connect with and become present with your body.

Welcome confident memories from your past to drop into your conscious awareness. Surrender to your feelings and remember how you felt during your most confident times.

Acknowledge the energy of your confidence and remind yourself how strong your mind and body felt.

Reconnect with your confidence to be an unshakeable leader today.

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The facts are clear. Over 90% of top performers are emotionally intelligent and the great news is, we all have the opportunity to be less stupid and more emotionally intelligent. In this show, I'm going to share with you 5 areas in which you can significantly shift your emotional intelligence in business and leadership.

I want to deep-dive into emotional and energetic intelligence so that you can understand the importance of these areas when it comes to your success and performance in your business as a CEO.

When you feel your best and you’re on fire you can move forward with the things you want to do because you’re aligned with everything.

It’s been proven that people with high levels of emotional intelligence are happier. They grow their businesses; those entrepreneurs are the top performers.

90% of high performers have high levels of emotional intelligence. The great news is that you can improve your emotional intelligence too.

Linking Emotional And Energetic Intelligence In Business

Emotional intelligence is an emotionally intangible asset in the entrepreneurial world – you need to look at yourself as an intangible asset. When something’s tangible, you have something physical, and when something’s intangible, you don’t necessarily have it in front of you, but there is a huge benefit to it.

It’s deeper than making money and material success, it’s about you feeling genuinely fulfilled. Life is not just about little shots of happiness. It’s about creating a deeper level of fulfillment and you can get there by becoming more emotionally intelligent.

It’s about what you see, how you perceive, then what you do, and how you act; ultimately it’s about your attitude. Have you ever been around someone who has something amazing to offer, but you didn’t move forward with that person because their attitude sucked and it felt energetically off?

It’s about how you personally and socially show up. 

Once change happens with your levels of intelligence within different areas you can understand how impactful that may be for you and your business. There are positives and negatives depending on how emotionally and intelligently aware you are.

The Socially Skilled CEO

The negative result of having low emotional intelligence is self-sabotaging by creating stories – you say you don’t have time or you’re busy. It’s not true, but you use it as a sabotaging statement to avoid networking events that could be really beneficial to you.

When you have a bad attitude you push people away.

A positive version of when emotional intelligence is high is being engaged, having eye contact, feeling connected so people trust you, and want to see you again. They start to communicate with you more and that starts a relationship.

Your social skills are very important. I’ve really developed mine over the years because I used to isolate myself a lot and it had a huge impact on my entrepreneurship journey.

The Self-Aware CEO

Self-awareness is growth. The more self-aware you become of the things you don’t see is how you evolve -that’s how you grow. For someone who’s incredibly stubborn or closed-minded, that’s going to really impact growth and impact revenue opportunity.

When you’re not aware of something, that’s one thing, but you’re aware and choose not to do something about it, that’s another thing.

Maybe you want to build relationships, but you’re sabotaging. You don’t understand the reason for that is because of something that’s happened in your past – a trauma, or an event has an impact on how you now show up.

A positive example of using self-awareness with emotional intelligence is being with the trigger and noticing how you react in the moment to situations.

I feel so much happier since I stopped drinking alcohol back in 2017. In this raw, honest episode I want to share my journey with you as I know that many entrepreneurs suffer from similar challenges with alcohol. If you want to quit, or even reduce your alcohol consumption, this may hit home.

I want to touch on the really important topic of alcohol in entrepreneurship because numbing pain is real. It was for me.

I’m going to be raw and honest becasue this was my life and I have my own personal journey and relationship with alcohol that ended in July 2017. I reached the point when I knew I didn’t want to drink it anymore, but there was a lot that led up to that moment.

My journey with alcohol started when I was working on video games and magazines. I was 16 years old, I’d just moved to Bournemouth in the UK and I was working as an editorial assistant on the magazine I used to love to read myself. Yes, this was my ‘dream job’.

Everyone went to the pub after work to drink. I was part of the afternoon work gang, drinking to the point when I’d almost pass out. I spent a lot of time drinking within my work environment and it just became a habit.

I had a cycle of drinking and smoking. That got worse as I got older when I started to get into drugs, taking cocaine and ecstasy,  At the time, I didn’t think much of it. I was just a young guy going out and drinking alcohol, but I can see it was a way for me to fit in.

I never really liked the taste of alcohol and I didn’t like how I felt when I was drinking, but just through repetition, and the circle of people that I chose to hang around with it felt normal.

I would go out on Friday and Saturday nights, sometimes midweek, hook up with girls, and get drunk. This was me from the age of 16 until my early 30’s.

Things started to take a bit of a different turn when I got involved in drugs, taking cocaine at parties before going to nightclubs. I was introduced to cocaine from another personal trainer.

I Led A Double Life

During the week I worked as a personal trainer and on the weekends I was a DJ. I had my own DJ set and I got a lot of attention for that. My cycle started on a Friday night – I’d go out, drink, smoke, to drugs, and then gamble. I had a sequence and a pattern of addiction.

I didn’t understand my addiction was directly linked to my lack of connection with myself.

I think everybody has a different relationship with alcohol, but for me, it was definitely unhealthy and it was linked to my lack of self-worth, my need to fit in, and my need for validation.

I remember getting called into the personal training manager’s office. I had been out at the weekend, doing things I shouldn’t have while wearing my personal training T-shirt and my manager wasn’t happy.

I look back now and laugh. I was out drinking wearing my T-shirt with personal trainer on the back, then getting drunk. What was I doing? I was trying to look good, trying to be somebody while I was smoking and drinking.

I was leading a completely double life.

The version of me I didn’t even like was behaving inappropriately and I was being called out it in my work environment.

I lied to my personal training manager and said the things I’d been accused of didn’t happen. My behavior was not something I was proud of, it was a version of me that was showing up and I didn’t like that.

I beat myself up. I would spend days and weeks in a depression because I’d heard things I had done that I was ashamed of. I felt really upset with myself.

‘Depressed is the need for deep rest from the character that we’re playing in the world’ – Jeff Foster.

After my spiritual growth and evolution, I can look back and understand I was playing a character.

This mediation is designed to put you in alignment with your mission this week. Who do you want to help? Who do you want to serve? The best way to connect with your mission is to connect with yourself first.

If you want to be deeply connected to your mission, you must take time to connect with yourself first.

When you feel in tune with yourself you feel inner peace. Feeling calm and centered is the perfect time for you to remember what your mission means to you and what instigated you to start.

Think about the people you have served and those who still need you.

Look deep within and feel your energy shift as you connect with your mission from the space of your heart. Feel your deepest mission and connect to it.

Focus on being in alignment with your mission and hold space in your heart for everyone you meet on the way.

When you’re a leader it’s important to be aligned with the things you feel deeply about. Part of my mission is to help put an and to child sex trafficking. Please click this link if you would like to find out more about how you can help save a child.

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For a long time, I thought that I was a 'high performer', but it was only when I started to fully let go that I understood a new level of fulfillment that I never knew existed as an entrepreneur.

In this episode, I take you through the four levels of performance so that you can identify where you are on the scale. It will also hit you with some hard questions.

High performance needs to be refined and hopefully, this episode will open your eyes.

I’m going to bring your attention to something that could change everything for you – a term used a lot in the entrepreneurial community is ‘high performance.’ I want to redefine that phrase and take it to another level because it can have serious consequences.

A lot of suicides happen with entrepreneurs you look at and think have everything. So many people take their own lives each year and many of those people were high performers.

I want to be really honest and look at what’s beneath that and think about emotional intelligence and energetic intelligence in relation to high performance.

The Levels Of Performance

Low performance is when energy is being taken away from you, maybe you’ve gone into a business, and you’re just not happy. There are other things happening maybe in your relationships, and you’re just not where you want to be. Your output is not optimal.

When you’re performing things are going okay. You might be working paycheck to paycheck and you’re coasting.

The next level is high performance – I think it starts to get slightly dangerous with this terminology because when a lot of people think about high performance, they think about being really focused and hitting certain targets. The reality is that there’s still a lot of burnout, depression, anxiety, and very destructive thought patterns happening even when people are performing at their highest.

Your Optimal Level Of Performance

I want to introduce a new level, this is ‘super high performance.’ This is about letting go and resolving things that have happened in your past.

People who are very successful, making the money and living in the home they want, still have things from the past they haven’t been dealt with. That takes up a lot of energy.

When you deal with that energy and start to have difficult conversations, you bring to your awareness something that needs to be tackled that you may not have known was an issue. Having that awareness is so important.

When you discover what needs to be uncovered (it could be a relationship with a family member or an issue around shame) it’s dealt with energetically and it can be resolved.

That release moves you into a whole new level of performance so things flow more easily, you’re in alignment, relationships are better and you even have better sex because of it!

Financial Success Is Not Enough

That energy is very different from when you’re focused, making money, and achieving but you know within you that something is wrong because things just don’t feel right to you.

I got to a place when I questioned where I was leading people. I had everything I thought I wanted and I’d reached all the goals I thought were going to make me successful. I reached a material success but I knew deep within me that there was so much more I needed to do.

If you aren’t aware you have things to heal you continue to push through until you hit your next target. You think you’re going to reach the top of the mountain and suddenly your life will be perfect. Nothing can become perfect but you can manage things differently and you don’t have a negative charge around something.

This is very common when it comes to anger. If something happened in the past and it doesn’t get resolved you show up the present mom...