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- Babies Not Bullies | How to understand and respond to toddler aggression
Join us as we unpack a real-life playground incident and explore why labeling toddlers as 'mean' or 'bullies' misses the mark. We discuss why your little one's pushing or hitting is actually a direct route to getting what they want, not intentional meanness. We offer practical strategies for responding to aggressive behavior, setting boundaries, and teaching better tools. And we address the importance of healthy aggression in child development and how to channel it positively. Whether you're the parent of the 'pusher' or the 'pushed,' this episode offers compassionate insights and actionable tips for navigating this very normal developmental stage.
Share your thoughts or ask a question - [email protected]
Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching
Find us on Instagram:
Jess - @jess_hover
Layne - @enquiryco
52 min - Tiny Therapist Tendencies | Why is my preschooler obsessed with MY feelings?
Today we're answering listener questions about a common parenting challenge: how to respond when your child becomes hyper-focused on YOUR emotions.
We explore:
- Why preschoolers suddenly become aware of and fixated on their parents' feelings
- Navigating situations where your child witnesses your sadness or stress
- The dangers of leaning on your child for emotional support and healthier alternatives
- The importance of modeling healthy emotional regulation
- How to reassure your child while setting boundaries around emotional responsibility
Discover practical strategies to nurture your child's emotional intelligence while maintaining your role as the caregiver in the relationship.
Share your thoughts or ask a question - [email protected]
Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching
Find us on Instagram:
Jess - @jess_hover
Layne - @enquiryco
37 min - Sad Mom | Parenting through mental health struggles
We know mom's mental health has a huge impact on a child's emotional well-being, but the fact is: a lot of us have anxiety. Or postpartum depression. Or the other kind of depression. We're people. We struggle. So how do you parent well in the midst of mental health challenges? Today, Jess shares her personal journey with medication: what worked, what didn't and how to advocate for yourself in healthcare system. Layne shares how your mental health impacts your child's development and strategies for creating a stable environment, even when you're feeling bad. We address the delicate balance of sharing your emotions with your children, what's appropriate to discuss and what to keep private. Discover practical steps to prioritize your well-being, support your child's growth, and lean on your support system as a mom.
Share your thoughts or ask a question - [email protected]
Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching
Find us on Instagram:
Jess - @jess_hover
Layne - @enquiryco
49 min - Fear + Force | Why we're leaving old-school discipline styles behind
Is the constant power struggle leaving you drained? This week, Layne and Jess look at old-school methods of parenting that rely on fear and force to control children's behavior. We dive into how fear hinders internal motivation and discuss ways to foster cooperation. Jess shares her journey raising a strong-willed child, finding leadership without resorting to dominance.
We discuss:
- The long-term effects of fear-based parenting on adults
- Why compliance shouldn't be our ultimate parenting goal
- How fear-based discipline impacts a child's decision-making skills
- How to maintain parental authority while fostering internal motivation
And ya, we talk a little bit about spanking.
Join us as we share personal struggles, insights, and practical tips for becoming the strong, compassionate leader your child needs.
Previous episodes we mentioned:
Season 3, Episode 11 | Best of Toddler Advice
Season 5, Episode 9 | Less Gentle Parenting
Share your thoughts or ask a question - [email protected]
Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching
Find us on Instagram:
Jess - @jess_hover
Layne - @enquiryco
1 hr 10 min - Rest Before You're Sick | How to prioritize rest as a mom
In this episode, Jess shares what she learned through surviving cervical cancer about why prioritizing your well-being is crucial for your entire family's health and happiness.
We get into:
- Practical tips for communicating your needs to your partner
- How to identify what you truly need when feeling overwhelmed
- Why mom's wellness is essential for your family's functioning
- Easy ways to incorporate rest into your busy schedule
We explore how to embrace guilt-free rest and share actionable advice for weaving REAL self-care into your daily routine, even with young children. Don't wait until you're sick or burned out – learn to prioritize your needs and create a more balanced, fulfilling life for yourself and your family.
Share your thoughts or ask a question - [email protected]
Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching
Find us on Instagram:
Jess - @jess_hover
Layne - @enquiryco
54 min - Everybody Gets What They Need | How to respond when kids say "no fair"
This week, Layne and Jess reframe fairness into a more powerful concept: equity, ensuring everyone gets what they need. We offer practical scripts to explain this concept to your child, and discuss how to navigate those inevitable one-toy toddler meltdowns. This episode dives into:
- Why "no fair" complaints emerge around age 3 and how it relates to brain development
- Understanding the difference between fairness and equity
- Emphasizing that parents' needs matter too in family dynamics
- Guiding children through disappointment and unfulfilled wants
- Building resilience and empathy in kids by focusing on meeting diverse needs
- Communicating effectively with your co-parent about family needs
- Prioritizing needs based on your values and current circumstances
Share your thoughts or ask a question - [email protected]
Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching
Find us on Instagram:
Jess - @jess_hover
Layne - @enquiryco
50 min - Things "Gone Good" | An even deeper dive into the secret of loving your life
To kick off Season 6, Jessica and Layne revisit the transformative power of loving your life, even amidst the challenges of raising young children, recovering from cervical cancer and figuring out how to pay bills. Jess introduced us to the mantra "I love my life" in the final episode of last season and while you don't need to hear it to enjoy this episode, it is a conversation that genuinely changed us both and we recommend listening when you can (find the link below)! Today we build on that with a discussion about how to find strength and "love your life" even on your worst days. We share stories about times in our lives when things "went good" instead of going bad. We offer encouragement about how to trust that the dark times are part of a story that's worth loving and that good things will continue to come in your life.
Share your thoughts or ask a question - [email protected]
Season 5, Episode 12: I Love My Life | How to stop waiting and start loving your life now - https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/JXo2kMmICKb
Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
Find us on Instagram:
Jess - @jess_hover
Layne - @enquiryco
1 hr 2 min - BONUS | Jess' surgery update + season 5 reflections
Jess is back to give us an update on her cervical cancer surgery and recovery. We take some time to reflect on the past few months and the conversations we shared with you. Thanks for listening! We'll be back in a bit. In the meantime, binge your favorite episodes and TELL YOUR FRIENDS!
Follow us @verygoodenoughpod for updates during the break!
Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
44 min - I Love My Life | How to stop waiting and start loving your life now
In this episode, Jess and Layne face one burning question: how can you truly love your life RIIGHT NOW? We discuss the trap of waiting for our circumstances to change before we can live a life we love and our tendency to overlook our wins, constantly moving the goalposts, missing the opportunity to celebrate our accomplishments. From recognizing the dreams you've already achieved (like becoming a mom!) to finding joy in the daily grind of motherhood, this conversation is all about the power of a simple shift in perspective – deciding to love your life now, rather than waiting for it to change in the future. Because that dream life you want? You might just be living it already!
Share your thoughts or ask a question - [email protected]
Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
Find us on Instagram:
Jess - @jess_hover
Layne - @enquiryco
41 min - Be Direct | Cut through the parenting buzzwords and connect with your toddler
In this episode, we dive into the importance of being direct and clear when communicating with your toddler. Say goodbye to the endless search for the "right" parenting language or trying to follow every expert's advice. We discuss why using straightforward language and saying what you mean can strengthen your connection with your child, build trust, and reduce frustration for both of you. Discover how prioritizing clarity over trendy parenting lingo can make your interactions more authentic and effective. We explore practical tips for being real with your toddler in the moment, without getting caught up in the latest parenting trends or trying to find the perfect phrasing. Unlock the power of direct communication and foster a deeper understanding with your little one.
Share your thoughts or ask a question - [email protected]
Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
Find us on Instagram:
Jess - @jess_hover
Layne - @enquiryco
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About Very Good Enough
From the publisher's feed
Very good is a moving target, but we think you can be a very good (enough) parent if you love your kids and try hard. Join mother of three Jess Hover and preschool teacher Layne Deyling Cherland as we tackle how to understand toddler behavior from THEIR perspective, how to build a non-judgmental community of moms, how to repair our mistakes and have healthy relationships with our partners/kids/selves, plus so much more of what we call "people stuff". We take care of the people who take care of children - moms, dads and everyone else!
From Very Good Mothers Club
Theme by Conner Cherland
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