Sign up to save your podcasts
Or
Share Very Good Enough
Share to email
Share to Facebook
Share to X
Share to email
Share to Facebook
Share to X
Or
Very Good Enough
Very Good Enough episodes
- You Matter | How to overcome people pleasing and get your needs met
Do you get praised for being "easy" or "going with the flow" but deep down, feel exhausted? Us, too. In this episode, we explore the hidden costs of people pleasing. We discuss how this behavior is rooted in childhood experiences and the belief that our needs are a burden. We unpack the connection between people pleasing and codependency, and how we often absorb discomfort to keep others happy. We delve into the fear of being selfish and the challenge of advocating for ourselves. Finally, we share practical steps, based on our own experiences, to help you reconnect with your needs, find your voice, and start setting healthy boundaries. Learn how to break free from people pleasing and allow yourself to be supported by the people who care about you.
Share your thoughts or ask a question - [email protected]
Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
Find us on Instagram:
Jess - @jess_hover
Layne - @enquiryco
51 min - Toddlers Can't Share | Why forced sharing leads to people pleasing
This week the girls chat about Layne's viral reel on why sharing is not developmentally appropriate for toddlers and how forcing them to share actually leads to people pleasing tendencies in adulthood. We discuss how conflict avoidance and the fear of being judged affect parenting choices. We lay out more age-appropriate ways to help toddlers negotiate shared space and materials, how to support healthy boundaries for children and how to help them regulate the difficult feelings of wanting something you can't have right away. We cover what to do when a child hoards all the toy dinosaurs, taking turns on the swing set, setting timers and so, so much more.
Share your thoughts or ask a question - [email protected]
Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
Find us on Instagram:
Jess - @jess_hover
Layne - @enquiryco
1 hr 3 min - BONUS - How to encourage a timid toddler to try new things
This week's listener question:
Trying to find the balance of how to encourage a timid toddler to try new things while not pushing too hard. Things as simple as going down a bigger slide at the playground, trying a new food, or jumping off the side of the pool into dad's arms. How can we foster bravery in our (especially extra timid) toddler while not pushing too hard?Email your questions to [email protected]
Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: enquiryco.com/coachingJoin Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
15 min - Whole Brain-Child | How to boost your child's brain development
This week Layne breaks down how a child's brain is wired, how it grows and how learning a little bit about it helps us raise calmer, happier kids. Different parts of a child's brain develop at different speeds and understanding these differences can reveal how to help your child through difficult feelings, how to respond to outbursts and how to support their growth into mentally well adults. Learning about brain development is the #1 tool that helped Layne crack the code on toddler behavior, become less frustrated and feel equipped to develop strong, trusting relationships with her students. She's not a neuroscientist so this conversation happens in simple, friendly language without a lot of technical terms (because she doesn't know them).
The book we discuss: The Whole-Brained Child by Daniel Siegel, Tina Payne Bryson - https://a.co/d/4TqK1vS
Share your thoughts or ask a question - [email protected]
Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
Find us on Instagram:
Jess - @jess_hover
Layne - @enquiryco
1 hr - BONUS | How to honor your child's developmental rhythm and stop comparing
This week's listener question:
How to honor your child's own developmental rhythm and stop comparing to other childrenEmail your questions to [email protected]
Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: enquiryco.com/coachingJoin Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
13 min - Reclaiming Your Identity | Quigley Goode on Motherhood, Mental Health & Creativity
Quigley Goode joins for this JUICY 🍊 convo about reclaiming your identity and charting your own course without letting the world define you. She shares her journey from being on American Idol to leaving music and pursuing a career in social media and fashion. We dive deep into her motherhood journey from a pandemic pregnancy and absolutely CRAZY birth story to quarantining in the hospital with a Covid positive newborn to weening a breastfeeding toddler AND weening herself off SSRIs at the same time. Finally, Quigley shares her vision to return to music and become the first 35-year-old mom pop star: "If it hasn't been done, that means you're the one to f*cking do it!" We left this conversation madly inspired--tune in for a big ol' dose of empowerment!
Find Quigley on Intagram @officiallyquigley
Share thoughts or ask a question - [email protected]
Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
Find us on Instagram:
Jess - @jess_hover
Layne - @enquiryco
1 hr 12 min - BONUS | My toddler won't stop screaming
This week's listener question:
My daughter seems to have anger as a default emotion lately (crying emoji). There's no build up to her screaming. It's like everything she feels is a huge, shrill scream and it causes such a visceral reaction in me. I feel like there's nothing that seems to get her to stop screeching with rage.Email your questions to [email protected]
Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: enquiryco.com/coachingJoin Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
17 min - I Want to Believe In Myself | How to have faith in your life direction
Welcome back! We are starting Season 5 with a juicy, sweet, vulnerable conversation between two friends (plus you).
We get an update on the "C" word about Jess' upcoming surgery (if you missed her cervical cancer announcement, check it out on Youtube). Then Layne shares about the loss of her job which leads to a conversation about what it means to believe in yourself, how to stay the course when your life's direction feels unsteady, and how to trust yourself enough to move forward. There are confessions of impostor syndrome, encouragements to let go of old stories about yourself, and questions of faith & spirituality.
There is also some swearing, so pop in a headphone if you're listening with kids around.
Share your thoughts or ask a question - [email protected]
Learn more about Layne's new TANTRUMS MASTERCLASS: enquiryco.com/mastertantrums
Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual!
Find us on Instagram:
Jess - @jess_hover
Layne - @enquiryco
1 hr 5 min - The Good Enough Mother | What does it really mean to be a good mom? [RE-RELEASE]
This week Jess and Layne reveal why we named the podcast Very Good Enough. Jess talks about founding Very Good Mothers Club on the belief that a very good mom is someone who loves their kid and tries. Layne walks us through the Donald Winnicott's concept of "the good enough mother" and why being a good enough parent is better for your kids than being a perfect one (there's a real reason and it's not just because perfect parenting is a MYTH - which it is).
Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month)!
Find Jess at Jessica Hover on Youtube and @jess_hover on Instagram
Find Layne @enquiryco on Instagram
55 min - On vs IN | How to cultivate a sense of direction in life [RE-RELEASE]
It’s easy to get stuck inside the experience of each day and let one string together with the next until they slip way from you. This is a conversation about coming up for air and looking around. Of course, you have to be “IN” your life and experience it in the present with your kids, your work, your passions. But you also have learn how to rise above the hustle, how to check in with yourself, how to get clear on your vision and set direction in order to live the life you want. Jess and Layne have been talking about this for a few months (as you’ll here) and we’re excited to bring you all into the conversation.
Join Very Good Mothers Club to be a part of our community - our first podcast call is Tuesday 2/28 at 12pst!
Find Jess at Jessica Hover on Youtube and @jess_hover on Instagram
Find Layne @enquiryco on Instagram
38 min
About Very Good Enough
From the publisher's feed
Very good is a moving target, but we think you can be a very good (enough) parent if you love your kids and try hard. Join mother of three Jess Hover and preschool teacher Layne Deyling Cherland as we tackle how to understand toddler behavior from THEIR perspective, how to build a non-judgmental community of moms, how to repair our mistakes and have healthy relationships with our partners/kids/selves, plus so much more of what we call "people stuff". We take care of the people who take care of children - moms, dads and everyone else!
From Very Good Mothers Club
Theme by Conner Cherland
More shows like Very Good Enough
The Daily
111,873 Listeners
The Unplanned Podcast with Matt & Abby
16,089 Listeners
Good Hang with Amy Poehler
12,489 Listeners