Self-care and rest isn't just a nice thing to do, it's ESSENTIAL! After feeling pretty exhausted this week after working for months on the Vibrant Living Wellness Conference, I thought it would be worth digging into the importance of REST and SLEEP!   It is definitely a fundamental that affects so many other things in our life. It’s harder to have the energy to move and exercise when you are tired. It’s harder to eat well when you are tired. It’s harder to be positive and happy when you are tired.   In this episode, we'll be talking about the power of sleep and rest and WHY IT IS SO NECESSARY!!

The definition of “Becoming” in the dictionary “is to pass from one state to another”. It’s all about growth and change. We are on a journey of BECOMING…..transforming…….progressing…...evolving……to the next best version of ourselves! In this episode, I'll share the S.Y.S.T.E.M. (Save Your Self Time Energy and Money) steps, and habits that we can implement to create that SUSTAINABLE change!

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Well - This is the last of Gottman's 7 Principles to Make Marriage Work! It's the icing on the cake - Creating Shared Meaning! If your marriage adheres to the first six principles, there's a good chance that your relationship is stable and happy. But if you find yourself asking, "Is this all there is?", you may be missing a deeper sense of shared meaning. Marriage isn't just about raising kids, splitting chores, and physical intimacy.

It can also have a spiritual dimension that is rich and meaningful and has to do with creating an inner life together. It's creating those rituals and an appreciation for your roles and goals that lead you to what it means to be a part of the family you have created.

Welcome to this last episode of the Gottman Principles. I'll also be reviewing each of the 7 principles, the 4 Horsemen of the Apocolypse, and the Magic 6 Hours for your happy marriage maintenance weekly!!

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In this episode, we'll be discussing the 6th Principle - Overcoming Gridlock when trying to resolve conflicts. Most of the conflicts you'll experience in marriage are perpetual (66% in fact according to Gottman)- meaning they may be with you for decades or more, but you can learn ways to overcome the gridlock and open the conversation to working together to compromise and create dialogue to move forward.

Learn the steps to work through gridlock and create meaning and discover each other's hidden dreams!

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Every marriage is a union between two separate individuals who bring to it their own opinions, personality quirks, and values. So it's no wonder that even in very happy marriages the husband and wife must cope with a number of issues. Some conflicts are just minor irritants, but others can seem very complex and intense.

Often couples feel stuck in conflict and may distance themselves from each other as a protective device. Dr. Gottman found that all conflicts really fall into one of two categories: Either they can be resolved, or they are perpetual, which means they will be a part of your lives forever, in some form or another. Welcome to the human experience!!

In this podcast, I will be sharing ways to solve your solvable problems!! Don't forget to catch the early bird pricing for our Vibrant Living Wellness Conference on May 14! www.vibrantlivingwellnesconference.com

In this episode, we'll be discussing the 4th Principle - Let Your Partner Influence You! What does it mean to let your spouse influence you? It's when we respect and honor each other's opinions and feelings. It's understanding that for a marriage to thrive, we have to share the driver's seat.

In Dr. Gottman’s long-term study of 130 newlywed couples, he has found that men who allow their wives to influence them have happier marriages and are less likely to divorce than men who resist their wives' influence.

Statistically speaking, when a man is not willing to share power with his partner, there is an 81 percent chance that his marriage will self-destruct. Come learn to share the driver's seat and be influenced by your spouse.

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In this episode, we'll be discussing the 3rd Principle - Turning Towards Your Spouse.

When you need attention, support, and comfort from your partner, you are likely to say something or make a gesture to elicit a response from them. This is what the Gottmans call a “bid.” Your spouse turns toward that bid when they reply with what you need. When we turn away or against each other, that spells disaster for any relationship.

In this episode, I share ways to build up your emotional bank account and what Gottman has found through his research as the magic 6 hours - What you can do every week to strengthen your marriage!

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In Thursday's episode, we'll be discussing the 3rd Principle - Turning Towards Your Spouse.

When you need attention, support, and comfort from your partner, you are likely to say something or make a gesture to elicit a response from them. This is what the Gottmans call a “bid.”

Your spouse turns toward that bid when they reply with what you need. When we turn away or against each other, that spells disaster for any relationship.

In this episode, I share ways to build up your emotional bank account and what Gottman has found through his research as the magic 6 hours - What you can do every week to strengthen your marriage!

To register for our fabulous upcoming conference on May 14, go to: www.vibrantlivingwellnessconference.com

Everyone loves to hear something nice about themselves, and it means the most when it comes from your spouse. Sharing fondness and admiration is simply vocalizing the characteristics that you appreciate.

Dr. Gottman says this principle - Fondness and admiration are two of the most crucial elements in a rewarding and long-lasting romance. In this episode, I share action items and exercises you can work on.

Enjoy!

As a Gottman-trained workshop leader, I decided over the next 7 episodes to take one principle from his 7 Principles to Make Marriage Work program and share on my podcast.

We will start with the first principle - Building Love Maps. Essentially, Love Maps are how couples can stay curious about one another. It’s asking questions to explore each other’s inner world. As you both ask questions and take notice of the little things, you start to build a mental map of who your partner is—their likes and dislikes, hurts and hopes, and everything that makes them who they are.

It's the foundation of a "Sound Relationship House". By creating and building Love Maps, we deepen friendships.

Come join us for this discussion, and I'll be sharing action items you can work on this week to build your Love Maps!

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