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A solo episode with Rebecca! This is a flow of thoughts, reflections, and advice all on the very human experience of rising to the next level or starting a new chapter in your life. With all of these exciting changes also come the limiting fears that want to keep you in the zones of familiarity. Rebecca discusses her own personal journey with reaching new heights, self-sabotage, foundational tools to keep you from running away, and the balance of the subconscious work and spiritual perspective throughout this journey. 

This episode explores:

-28th Solar Return musings and reflections! Unwavering trust, clarity, and building a legacy being the themes for this 28th year.

-Rebecca’s desire to build a legacy not just for her future generations but for her family today–knowing that when you come from an immigrant familial lineage, you support your parents when you become financially stable and successful because you can. 

-Looking at the stages of your life through the archetypes of The Gardener and The Backpacker along with the medicine that each has to offer and which you need more based on the state of your life.

-Creating a sustainable mini solar system of your passions, projects, and endeavors around a core source of fulfillment or stream of income.

-The unavoidable fears and internal limiting voices that arise when you begin to up-level in your life and how to move through this temporary halt so you don’t run away.

-Rebecca’s personal experience with self-sabotaging every time she reaches a new level in certain areas of her life. 

-Being human through the experiences of exploration, evolution, and creation. With these foundations, you’ll naturally be inclined to reach new levels of your life. 

-Being able to still diversify your endeavors without completely jumping ship and always starting over again each time. 

-Signs that you’re going to start leveling up in a specific area of your life. 

-The way the subconscious mind plays an influential role in whether you feel worthy and capable of rising to your new level. 

-The necessity of actually letting the negative self-talk and limiting stories have their space to be played out and acknowledged in order to let them go. 

-Foundational resources and tools that can support you in rising up even when you want to give up.

-Common signs of self-sabotage that can actually guide you into asking WHY you’re wanting to run away and which resources to utilize.

-The internal resource of trust as a foundational key for when you’re at a fork in the road and you’re desiring to walk a new path. 

As always, thank you for choosing to be here with us as we navigate this vida together as a community!

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Rebecca:

https://www.instagram.com/rebeccaaespinoza

https://www.tiktok.com/@rebeccaaaespinoza

Shay:

https://www.instagram.com/shayfrago

https://www.instagram.com/flirtyfertileandthriving

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What if your sexual liberation and deep connection to intimacy were foundational pieces to you living an authentic and magnetic life? In this conversation, Somatic Sex Coach, Erin Ryan also known as The Intimacy Artist, shares why it’s essential for women to connect to their yonis (vaginas + vulvas) physically, emotionally, and energetically so they can experience healing, transformation, and pleasure. 
 

This episode explores:

-The shame that is so commonly felt when you want to deeply explore your sexual pleasure.

-Erin’s experience having grown up in a household where she was 1st-gen American and how her family’s lineage played a role in sexual repression.

-The misconception of there being a sexual factor to a therapeutic yoni massage.

-The understanding of a therapeutic yoni massage and the reasons vulva-havers would want to experience one. 

-What a yoni massage ceremony looks like with Erin as a practitioner.

-The types of sensations that are felt during a yoni massage and how to navigate them. 

-How to navigate feeling pain or numbness in the yoni when you’re self-pleasuring or during a therapeutic yoni massage. 

-The unexpected surfacing of uncomfortable emotions like anger and sadness during a self-pleasure journey and how to move through the experience. 

-The process of alchemizing your anger during a self-pleasure practice. 

-The understanding as to why emotions and the yoni are connected. 

-What intimacy can be, not just in a sexual setting, but in all areas of life. 

-A potent practice of yoni-gazing a woman can do to start connecting more intimately with their yoni. 

-The multifaceted meaning of sexual liberation and how it’s unique to every individual. 

You can connect with Erin below! 

https://www.the-intimacyartist.com/

https://www.instagram.com/theintimacyartist/

As always, thank you for choosing to be here with us as we navigate this vida together as a community!

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Rebecca:

https://www.instagram.com/rebeccaaespinoza

Shay:

https://www.instagram.com/shayfrago

https://www.instagram.com/flirtyfertileandthriving

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As human beings, we are a reflection of nature. Just as nature has its different seasons, we do as well! You can’t have an abundant summer without a barren winter. However, we have to learn how not to get stuck in the darkness that is felt in the winter and have the courage to step into a new stage of life. 

This episode explores:

-The different seasons that human beings experience just as nature does. Shay is currently in her summer season and Becca is stepping into her spring. 

-The importance of surrounding yourself with relatable expanders in your community who have gone through the cycles you’re experiencing so you can see what’s possible.

-Shay’s journey from being at a rock bottom when she made a big move to Reno and coming out of it feeling stable and fulfilled today. 

-Becca’s perspective on crossing the bridge from one state to another to welcome a new life. 

-Supportive internal and external resources that Becca and Shay have utilized while transitioning from their winter seasons into their spring + summer. 

-A deeper dive into the resources of community, therapy, NLP, breathwork, microdosing mushrooms, journaling, staying inspired, connecting to nature, and having fun. 

Thank you for choosing to be here with us as we navigate this vida together as a community!

Rebecca:

https://www.instagram.com/rebeccaaespinoza

Shay:

https://www.instagram.com/shayfrago

https://www.instagram.com/flirtyfertileandthriving

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We made it to the 10th episode of Vida The Podcast! It’s been such an expansive and fun journey creating this podcast and sharing it with you. We have a big vision for Vida not just for season 2, but for what it has the potential to become. Creating a passion project or a business with your best friend is probably one of the most fun experiences ever but it can also be quite challenging. Luckily, we knew that starting Vida together would fill us up as individuals but it would also nourish our friendship. We’re taking a small break and we’ll be back for round 2! In the meantime, listen to this episode as we share a bit more about the Vida journey!

This episode explores:

-Our reflections on making Vida–the lessons, the growth moments, and our favorite episodes while recording.

-The empowered journey of sharing our voices and stories so openly in a public capacity. 

-The lesson of aligning our time and energy with what we prioritize while having busy schedules. 

-The challenge of pursuing passions that make us happy but aren’t a source of income (yet) while still working regular jobs to pay the bills. 

-Our honest opinions on working with your bestie–there are some you get into business with and some you don’t. 

-The challenges that arise when the friends you’re collabing with have differences on having structure.

-The importance of knowing whether or not your friendship can withstand the minor quakes that occur when working on a project or running a potential business. 

-The vision we have for season 2 of Vida and the community! Hint: more guests and more solo episodes.

-Our desire to highlight the voices of minorities and POC who have wisdom and stories to share with the community and the world! 

As always, thank you for choosing to be here with us as we navigate this Vida together as a community!

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Rebecca:

https://www.instagram.com/rebeccaaespinoza

https://www.tiktok.com/@rebeccaaaespinoza

Shay:

https://www.instagram.com/shayfrago

https://www.instagram.com/flirtyfertileandthriving

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We dive into a topic that can be considered absolutely controversial, but if you’ve been with us since the beginning, you know we don’t shy away from talking about these potentially taboo topics. Feminism has experienced up to 4 waves, each one building on the other and also being different from the last. But what has it become today? And has modern-day feminism potentially created more division and confusion among women and men? We want to acknowledge our gratitude for all the movements that came before us that fought for the rights women have today. But here’s the question–has the pendulum swung too far in a way that women are now operating like men in our society? And how can we find harmony within society that honors both women and men for their differences? We get into all of this and so much more!

This episode explores:

-A brief review of the evolution of the feminism movement and its multiple waves to understand why we are where we are today with feminism.

-The conversation and debate around the question, “Are modern day women being failed today?” 

-The progression birth control provided for women to catch up in society both in careers and their sexual liberation, but now is it deterring women? 

-Was society actually ever ready to celebrate the freedom of sexuality of women? Men and women weren’t ever taught how to revere this true freedom. 

-The lack of balance that exists when there’s a movement that can potentially divide groups (i.e. women and men).

-Has feminism now made it so most men feel like they don’t know what to say or do today without being made to feel like they’re doing more harm than good? 

-Is the matiarchy really “better” than a patriarchy? Or do we need a balance of both expressions in society?

-Women feeling like they have to choose between pursuing a career the way men do or raising a family. Can we actually do both and feel fulfilled?

-Biologically, considering women’s unique hormones, women are not set up to succeed in traditional society. It’s a society created by men specifically for men. But in actuality, is this societal 9-5 work lifestyle made for humans at all?

-The need for corporations and businesses to get on board with honoring the unique needs of women.

-The way your perspectives change around money and career the moment you choose to be in a life partnership with another person and also decide to start raising a family. 

-The societal expectations of men and women in a family dynamic and the need to rewire them when they don’t actually match individual desires. 

-The importance of women to be connected to their natural cyclical rhythms (aka menstrual cycles) so they can actually know what it is they want for themselves vs the game played in society. 

-Are women operating like men today so they can keep up and feel valuable? And what does this do for women’s bodies and minds? 

-Collective society needing to ask not just what women need but what do men need as well so we can all feel supported in our differences AND understand one another regardless of those differences. 

As always, thank you for choosing to be here with us as we navigate this Vida together as a community!

Connect with Rebecca & Shay below! 

Rebecca:

https://www.instagram.com/rebeccaaespinoza

https://www.tiktok.com/@rebeccaaaespinoza

Shay:

https://www.instagram.com/shayfrago

https://www.instagram.com/flirtyfertileandthriving

https://www.tiktok.com/@heyshayfrago

Resources:

-Voxer

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As human beings, we’re naturally sexual and sensual! Rebecca & Shay love talking about the topic of sexual expression. They’ve both gone on individual journeys to heal the taboo and shame experienced in society when you’re an erotic being, especially as a woman. They get into all things sexuality including their personal journeys overcoming sexual programming, the exploration erotic blueprints, and the importance of creating safety in sexual containers before you’re intimate with another person. 

This episode explores:

-What does sensuality and sexuality mean to each of us? 
-Sensuality is more than it relating to sex–it’s a way you connect to life. 
-The navigation of what sensuality has been programmed to be in modern culture. 
-The journey of healing shame in sexual desires, curiosities, and kinks on an individual level and within a partnership.
-Shay’s experience growing up in a Catholic household and how that influenced shame in sexual expression, especially as a woman.
-A discussion on the programming of the “Virgin Mary” and “Mary Magdalene” aka “the whore” and how these religious stories have influenced women in their sexuality. 
-Rebecca’s experience of being shamed as a young girl for being curious about her pleasure. 
-Why is it common in our society to normalize men to self-pleasure, but not expected for women to do the same?
-The different types of erotic blueprints (created by Jaiya)–sensual, energetic, sexual, kink, and shapeshifter. What are they and how does knowing them expand your authentic expression as an erotic being?
-Shay’s experience with having a psychological kink preference.
-What it’s like feeling empowered to vocalize your sexual likes and dislikes with a partner.
-The popular media and porn’s unrealistic interpretation of sex and the lack of diversity in people’s sexual desires.
-Rebecca’s journey with being a sensualist and what it takes for her to feel turned on. 
-The importance of communicating blueprints within a partnership, especially when they’re different, so you can have a fulfilling sexual container.
-Creating an open and safe space for your partner to communicate their own desires, even if they’re different from your own.
-As a woman, understanding that your sexual expression will ebb and flow based on your hormones. Shay shares her knowledge on hormones and how your sexual mood changes depending on your menstrual cycle.
-Jaiya’s different stages in your sexuality as an erotic being–resting, healing, curiosity, adventurous, and transformative.
-Having safety conversations so you can go deeper into an intimate sexual experience (RBDSMA–Relationship status, boundaries, desires, safe sex, meaning, aftercare)

As always, thank you for choosing to be here with us as we navigate this Vida together as a community!

Connect with Rebecca & Shay below! 

Rebecca:

https://www.instagram.com/rebeccaaespinoza

https://www.tiktok.com/@rebeccaaaespinoza

Shay:

https://www.instagram.com/shayfrago

https://www.instagram.com/flirtyfertileandthriving

https://www.tiktok.com/@heyshayfrago

Resources:

-The Erotic Blueprint Quiz: https://missjaiya.com/ 
-Come as You Are: The Surprising Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski

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If you’ve been with us long enough, you’ve noticed that we enjoy talking about relationships. Relationships are an essential factor in human happiness. We all know how much of an influence our romantic partnerships have in our lives, but is today’s dating culture making it difficult to find fulfilling relationships? In this episode, we chat about the journeys of dating in this modern-day world, especially with apps highly influencing human interactions and romantic relationships. Are they doing more harm than good? Is the norm of dating now being on the apps? We explore topics so many people have thought about, debated on, and even cried over. 

In this episode, we talk about:

-Each of our current journeys in dating and our experiences with the apps.

-Our opinions on the dating app culture and what it’s done to modern-day relationships and dating.

-The cons of dating apps: short-term dopamine hits for pleasure, a form of escapism,  intentionality being stripped from human connection, dating becomes a numbers game.

-The pros of dating apps: a tool to connect with people when you’re too busy to go out & a resource to meet people you wouldn’t have normally met (but this potentially being a con).

-The reality of long-term relationships not being common in our society today.

-People’s inability to take action in person when they’ve become used to only meeting potential partners online. 

-The necessity of investing your time, presence, and energy to create long-term relationships.

-The controversy of ‘elitist’ apps perpetuating hierarchies of division and separation within our society. 

-The way cultural backgrounds play a role in the partners you choose to date.

-The importance of intentionality when dating even when modern-day society is doing the opposite. 

As always, thank you for choosing to be here with us as we navigate this Vida together as a community!

Connect with Rebecca & Shay below! 

Rebecca:

https://www.instagram.com/rebeccaaespinoza

https://www.tiktok.com/@rebeccaaaespinoza

Shay:

https://www.instagram.com/shayfrago

https://www.instagram.com/flirtyfertileandthriving

https://www.tiktok.com/@heyshayfrago

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Have you fallen into the rabbit hole of twin flames? This concept has become buzzworthy in modern-day spirituality. Books have been written, Reddit pages are dedicated to it, and twin flame coaches are all over Instagram. Shay & Rebecca feel that this concept has become over-romanticized and they get into the realities of twin flame dynamics. Listen in and let us know your perspective on twin flames!

This episode explores:

-The spiritual meaning of a “twin flame” and the way new-age spirituality romanticizes it. 

-The anxious and avoidant dynamic at play within a twin flame relationship. 

-Shay & Rebecca's personal dating experiences with 'twin flame relationships' aka the anxious and avoidant dynamic.
-How the concept of twin flames can be a form of bypassing for what’s actually happening in a relationship.

-The importance of both people in the dynamic doing the internal work to match each other in a harmonious connection.

-The idea of “conscious coupling”--the need to have intentional conversations about what you desire in a relationship early on when you’re dating. 

-The importance of talking about your values early on in dating so you know if you’re actually compatible.

-Choosing yourself before choosing anyone else.

-Listening to your intuition and your body when you notice the red flags in a relationship. 

-Having self-awareness of your own patterns so you can move past the “twin flame” dynamic. 

As always, thank you for choosing to be here with us as we navigate this Vida together as a community!

Connect with Rebecca & Shay below! 

Rebecca:

https://www.instagram.com/rebeccaaespinoza

https://www.tiktok.com/@rebeccaaaespinoza

Shay:

https://www.instagram.com/shayfrago

https://www.instagram.com/flirtyfertileandthriving

https://www.tiktok.com/@heyshayfrago

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There's no doubt that spirituality has become a trend–it’s the “cool” experience to be a part of. But is this trend just diluting the core of spirituality that’s more than just needing to share on social media about the current spiritual experience you’re having? Rebecca & Shay share 5 spiritual trends they’ve partaken in themselves and the way these trends are influencing humans on a social and individual level.

In this episode, we talk about:

-What spirituality means to each of us.
-The dilution of spirituality because it’s a mainstream trend.
-The hierarchy and separation in the spiritual communities (celebrities, influencers)  due to the trend. 
-The mainstream promotion of ancient plant medicines and how this is minimizing the traditions of these medicines. 
-What happens when you engage in plant medicines “just because” and you lack the internal resources to support yourself? 
-The power of your own inner spirituality to discern an experience you’re ready to have vs just following a trend. 
-The oversell of “manifestation” in new-age spirituality and what is actually needed to manifest. 
-”Embodiment” as a buzzword but how it can fall flat when you need to actually walk the walk. 
-The overuse and manipulation of feminine sensuality in modern-day spiritual teachings. 
-The trend of romanticizing polyamory and how it’s become a form of avoidance for commitment. 
-Maintaining your integrity when you begin to explore these new-age spiritual trends. 

As always, thank you for choosing to be here with us as we navigate this vida together as a community!

Connect with Rebecca & Shay below! 
Rebecca:
https://www.instagram.com/rebeccaaespinoza
https://www.tiktok.com/@rebeccaaaespinoza
Shay:
https://www.instagram.com/shayfrago
https://www.instagram.com/flirtyfertileandthriving
https://www.tiktok.com/@heyshayfrago

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