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In this solo episode, Rebecca explores the big topics of death, love, and God. She shares a comforting but potentially confronting perspective on how all these 3 are connected and how they also inspire us to live more authentically to who we are meant to be as souls having a human experience (and this experience is unique to all of us!). If you’ve been having an existential season of your life, this episode is for you.

This episode explores:

-The effect a dysregulated system has on the ability of human beings to be creative channels. 

-The importance of approaching your healing jouney with the trinity–mind, body, soul. 

-The beginning high of a spiritual awakening and how easy it can become to get lost in the etheric and celestial experience. 

-Rebecca shares the experience of tapping into her psychic abilities when she had her “spiritual awakening”.

-Healing emotional trauma through somatics (the body) instead of just using the mind. 

-The perspective of death actually being a messenger from love and life. 

-What it means to truly love yourself. 

-Healing the state of humanity beings with every individual’s self-love. 

-Rebecca’s journey with God–the forgetting, the remembering, and the reconnection. 

-The nervous system’s dysregulation and constant state of survival are a block to feeling and receiving God. 

-Not being able to think your way to God.

Additional Resources 

-The Body Keeps The Score

-The Mountain Is You

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I think it’s safe to say that most people have a love- hate relationship with their twenties. Oh the golden decade! But is it really? What were we sold about our twenties that turned out to be a huge and humbling reality check? Or what decisions did we make that actually changed the trajectory of our entire lives during that decade? In this episode we have 2 of our best friends, Erin Ryan & Rory Hinz, on here to talk about the truth about the twenties–our highs, our lows, and everything in between that has shaped us to be the women we are today. 

This episode is a beautiful invitation for you to reflect on the growth you’ve experienced in your twenties and in whatever other decade you’re currently in!

In this episode, we explore:

-the dismantling of past beliefs and identities in your twenties. 

-the multiple identities you get to try on to find yourself. 

-the journey of finding your voice in your twenties to actually speak up about your needs and wants. 

-the big decisions in our twenties that each of us made in our twenties that changed the trajectory of our lives. 

-the reality check of wanting the world to be your oyster in your twenties while still figuring out how to support yourself.

-the expectation of you “growing up” when you hit your twenties, but is that actually true?

-the reason why the concept of balance can be life-changing for you in your twenties. 

As always, thank you for choosing to be here with us as we navigate this vida together as a community!

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Everyone talks about healing the mother & father wounds as part of personal development, but what about the impact that our sibling dynamics played in our attachment styles and our core wounds? And how do you actually become friends with your siblings when you’ve grown apart from them? Rebecca & Shay share their own personal journeys with their sibling relationships–the ups, the downs, the lessons, the blessings, and the ongoing efforts to heal & maintain the sibling relationships.  

This episode explores:

-The work that it takes to maintain and nurture a sibling relationship as adults 

-Younger siblings experiencing the abandonment wound from older siblings when there is a large age gap. 

-The possible threat that can happen in the older sibling’s brain when a younger sibling is born.

-The importance of parents preparing the older sibling for when a new sibling is born.

-The relationship of the siblings being impacted on whether or not parents encouraged connection.

-The division that can arise between siblings during a divorce. 

-What it means to have your family as your community. 

-How does your relationship with your siblings potentially influence how you relate to friends and romantic partners? 

-How to navigate different parent/family perspectives between siblings. 

-How to relate to your siblings as adults and create a friendship when there are differences & emotional distance. 

As always, thank you for choosing to be here with us as we navigate this vida together as a community!

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Rebecca & Shay hand over the mic to the men. They gathered questions from women who wished they understood what goes through a man's mind when it comes to dating, intimacy, and relationships. Kris & Josh are 2 men who are childhood best friends and have gone through so many different seasons of life together. They're men who are doing the "inner work" in their own ways and they come on here to share honest, real, and no-BS responses about what it's like to be a man in this modern-day world & how this impacts intimacy, dating, and relationships. 

This episode explores:

-What makes a man become "ready" for long-term commitment in a relationship?

-The big piece it takes to actually be "just friends" with an ex. 

-Men actually like to be pursued and how women can shoot their shot. 

-The current social climate has made it difficult for men to casually approach women. 

-Money talk: do men care if women make more money when they're in a relationship? And if they do, why would they care? How to navigate different spending habits when you're in a relationship. 

-What does it take for a man to want to commit to marriage?

-Red flags for men when they're dating or in a relationship. 

-How women can support men support women (in relationships) better.

-Men's perspectives on being vulnerable and the challenge that comes with it. 

-The primal instinct men hold to provide & protect at all costs.

-Generational influences men have on each other. 

-The most challenging part about being a man. 

As always, thank you for choosing to be here with us as we navigate this vida together as a community!

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Just because friends follow you on your social media, doesn’t mean they’re actually your friend. In this age of social media, we can easily make ourselves believe that we know the real truth of what’s going on in people’s lives, but the reality of that is that we’re only catching a highlight reel. What does this illusion do to friendships? Does it make people try less to have offline connections? Do people only want to show up when they see the positive moments in your online world? And what does social media do to the dating experience early on? Shay digs into all of this in this short but fuego solo episode!

This episode explores:

-Shay’s journey with a romantic breakup becoming a friendship group breakup as well 

-Shay’s transition into being a blogger in 2018 and starting to share parts of her life online 

-People showing up in your life to only celebrate your highs but not being involved in any other way

-The drawbacks of becoming social media friends too quickly with someone you just started dating when you openly share online and they don’t

-Making the effort to connect with a friend offline or IRL when you they share something online 

-Doing a self-check for what kind of friend you are and how you define a friendship in this modern-day experience

-The hamster wheel you can easily get caught up in with needing to keep “showing up” online when you’re a content creator

As always, thank you for choosing to be here with us as we navigate this vida together as a community!

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Astrology is one of the most mainstream spiritual "woo-woo" resources out there now. However, it's still deeply misunderstood. It's a lot more complex than what people take the time to understand. The ancients initially believed astrology to be a science as it correlates with the patterns of the sky and how these patterns influence human beings. As above, so below. It's a complex language and study, however, we have an expert here to break it down for you and teach you how to apply it in a way that is more than just reading your horoscope! Astrologer, Kristina Gonzalez, gives you guidance in this episode on how to begin working with astrology to better understand yourself, others, and the types of relationships you're capable of creating. 

This episode explores:

-Your birth chart as your soul contract for your life. 

-Understanding and working with astrology as a set of patterns and cycles to better align your life. 

-Simple ways to start working familiar with astrology. 

-Working with your moon sign to understand your inner world more authentically.

-A forecast of major 2024 astrological events & themes that will impact all of our lives (have your notebook and pen handy!). 

-How to work with lunar & solar eclipses in a way that's beneficial.

-What it means when a planet is in retrograde and how to respond to the energy of the retrogrades for your highest good. 

-How to use astrology to strengthen relationships and deepen compatibility. 

As always, thank you for choosing to be here with us as we navigate this vida together as a community!

Additional Resources:

@queercosmos on IG

Astro-seek.com

Astro.com

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92Scales.com

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Communication truly is an art and most of us haven’t mastered it. And will we ever? The moment you choose to walk the path of inner healing, communication will undoubtedly be a focal point. When you begin to evolve your communication through personal development & self-awareness, you will also deepen the intimacy and health of your relationships. But HOW do we begin to navigate healthy communication if it’s something we never learned or were never modeled? Rebecca & Shay provide some honest insight!

This episode explores:

-What does healing mean to each of us? 

-Healing DOESN’T mean you’re broken. 

-The differences between healthy and unhealthy communication. 

-The different levels of healthy communication.

-Rebecca & Shay share their own journey with the evolution of their communication that was once explosive, passive, and manipulative. 

-The importance of having a strong internal dialogue so you can then have healthy, compassionate, and effective communication in relationships. 

-Staying in your heart during challenging communication moments so a relationship doesn’t end in a blow-up.

-Rebecca & Shay share a moment of friction they experienced in their friendship and how they navigated it with healthy communication which strengthened their friendship. 

-Knowing when to just hold space and listen for another person instead of giving advice. 

-Being able to rely on yourself as your own best friend and being able to take your own advice. 

-Navigating communication with family members.

-Differing communication styles and experiences between men and women.

-Asking for consent to start a difficult conversation between you and another person. 

-How does having intimate, vulnerable AND healthy communication within romantic partnerships? 

As always, thank you for choosing to be here with us as we navigate this vida together as a community!

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Being attached is a part of the human experience. You came into this world already attached and the environment you grew up in influenced the way you attach to people as an adult. Are you living with a secure or insecure attachment style? If you default to an insecure attachment style, there is space and opportunity for you to become secure and deepen the quality of relationships with other people so you have more aligned and fulfilling human connections.

This episode explores:

-The 4 main attachment styles–what they are, how we develop them in childhood, and how they influence our adult relationships. 

-Rebecca & Shay’s personal journeys with moving through insecure attachment styles to their secure attachment styles.

-What people with different attachment styles can learn from each other.

-Attachment styles arising specifically from relationships, not just a self journey. 

-The benefits of knowing your attachment style. 

-How to begin exploring the experience of being secure with the self so it can translate into relationships.

-How to navigate a relationship in which people have different attachment styles. 

As always, thank you for choosing to be here with us as we navigate this vida together as a community!

Additional Resources:

-Attached by Rachel Heller Amir Levine

-Attachment styles quiz https://www.attachmentproject.com/

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Solo episode with Rebecca!

Ancient cultures such as India, Egypt, and China have philosophies that regard eros/sexual energy as a precious and divine source of creative power. They knew the magnitude of our sexual magnificence. However, what happens when this energy becomes leaky and is lost in the modern-day hookup culture? When this energy becomes depleted and is easily given away to other people, you lose a part of yourself, and, women specifically, can take on their partners’ energies and store them inside of the vessel that is the yoni. Rebecca has had her own journey with reclaiming her sexual energy, losing it, and enlivening it through the practice of celibacy with other partners. This practice has deepened the connection to her own body, activated her creative magnetism, and opened her to deep heart-centered pleasure. Anyone can be taken on the journey of the self through sex AND celibacy. 

This episode explores:

-An honest conversation about having sex for the first time. 

-The difference between having sex with someone you’re deeply emotionally connected to and someone you’re just ‘hooking up with’. 

-Transitioning from the hook-up culture to intentional sex. 

-Yoni eggs, yoni wands as practices for clearing past partner’s energies inside of you. 

-A perspective of eros/sexual energy through the lens of ancient cultures and practices. 

-Sex magick as an avenue to reconnect to your own eros and deep heart-centered pleasure. 

-The bonding experience in sex is felt differently between men and women due to their different responses to oxytocin.

-How the power of your sexual energy can be used as a creative force in other areas of your life when you’re not having sex. 

A simple practice you can start using now to activate and move your sexual energy through breathwork. 

As always, thank you for choosing to be here with us as we navigate this Vida together as a community!

Additional Resources:

-Magdalen Manuscript: The Alchemies of Horus and The Sex Magic of Isis by Tom Kenyon and Judi Sion

-Tao Tantric Arts for Women: Cultivating Sexual 

Energy, Love, and Spirit by Minke De Vos

-Yoni Pleasure Palace (eggs and wands) https://yonipleasurepalace.com/ 

-This Tantric Life by Layla Martin (podcast episode with Men’s Sexologist, Taylor Johnson)

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/using-sexual-energy-to-rewire-your-brain-with-taylor/id1685418994?i=1000630591033

https://spotify.link/S6scaQDW1Db 

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Three best friends just spilling the tea about love, life, and friendships. Rebecca & Shay have one of their closest friends, Erika, who they both met through an online women’s community (the same one where Rebecca & Shay met!) to have a ‘real talk’ moment. Erika has been on a personal development journey of finding herself and accepting all parts of herself through the power of relationships. Whether it was a toxic partnership, expansive friendships, family dynamics, or a healthy love, Erika has navigated honest “Who am I?” moments as a result of her connection with other people. Relationships are our biggest and most profound teachers (if you let them be); Erika’s story and heroine's self-discovery journey is an unwavering testament to this. If you’re currently navigating the challenge of identity in relation to others, this episode is for you. Enjoy this unfiltered, fun, and vulnerable conversation between 3 friends who don’t shy away from deep heart talks. 

This episode explores:

-The power and influence of online communities as a source of aligned friendships.

-Finding acceptance and honesty in who you are if you’re looking to create authentic friendships.

-A vulnerable practice to find acceptance of the self. 

-Family as a catalyst to be better for the individual and collective relationships within the dynamic. 

-Heartbreak and a toxic relationship as an avenue for an awakening of the true self. 

-Learning how to let yourself be taken care of by a partner and softening into vulnerability after being  “single and independent” for years.

-Childhood and adolescent dynamics with multiple father figures and how they influence a woman’s journey with dating men. 

-Fun rapid (not so rapid) fire questions–movie recs, tv recs, book recs!

As always, thank you for choosing to be here with us as we navigate this vida together as a community!

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