Wake Your Dream

Wake Your Dream

By Annaliese SeabornSociety & CultureHealth & FitnessMental HealthEducationSelf-ImprovementRelationships
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Wake Your Dream episodes

  • 8 - Mindset Shift Part 2: Radical Acceptance And Self-Compassion

    Annaliese and Alan talk about how if you're going to make changes in your life and get better results, you're actually start with practicing thinking about and treating yourself differently. Annaliese brings up Radical Acceptance and Self-Compassion as Part 2 of mindset shifts that have helped her change and move forward from unhelpful past patterns. She's made shifts from being self-judgmental and only prioritizing the hustle, to prioritizing what really matters and what feels satisfying, good, and refreshing in her life.


    You’ll Hear About:
    -To feel new and different about yourself, you need to think and act in new and different ways
    -Ask yourself: “What are the practical things I’m doing to treat myself more like a friend? More like someone who wants the best for me?”
    -Ask yourself: “What would actually help me right now? Not help me get tasks done, but help me?”
    -Radical Acceptance and Self-Compassion are about being kinder and more loving and accepting toward yourself. This helps you take charge in your life in ways that feel much better and work more effectively for you
    -You know yourself better than you think you do. It’s a really important way to feel about yourself to trust that. This helps you decide whether you’re letting yourself down or not, and just see your choice a different way. No punishment or striving needed.
    -“Treat yourself like your WHOLE self belongs in the room. Your struggles don’t disqualify you. There’s no reason to run or hide from reality. It’s okay that you’re going through this, and you have other parts of you that can come in and help you right here.”


    Resources:
    - www.linktree.com/coachannaliese
    -Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind To Yourself by Dr. Kristin Neff
    https://www.amazon.com/s?k=self+compassion+neff&crid=3FAPHU5ZDDF17&sprefix=self+compassion+nef%2Caps%2C104&ref=nb_sb_noss_2

    -Self-Compassion: The 3 Elements of Self-Compassion by Dr. Kristin Neff
    https://self-compassion.org/the-three-elements-of-self-compassion-2/

     

    Music Credits:

    Lo-Fi Chill Hip Hop - Rob Barnes



    46 min
  • 7 - Mindset Shift Part 1: Extreme Ownership

    Annaliese and Alan talk about the ways you intentionally (and unintentionally) show up in your life and how that impacts you. Annaliese brings up Extreme Ownership (taking full responsibility for the good stuff and the bad) as Part 1 of new mindset shifts that have helped her change how her life is going. It's helped her move from a victim mentality to acting and feeling more proactive and confident in her life.


    You’ll Hear About:
    -Dismissing your responsibilities will leave you feeling stuck and confused
    -Being fully honest with yourself and taking actions that show you actually care will give you more of the results you want in your life
    -When you act like you can control things that you can’t, you’ll be depleted and exhausted
    -Acting like you can’t face reality makes you feel like you can’t face reality. You start believing it.
    -It feels scary to be in full responsibility because that means you’ll break down your impression of yourself. But that’s a good thing because it helps you see and be your true self.

    Resources:
    - www.linktree.com/coachannaliese

    -Your Resources: Time, Money, Attention, Energy

    You are the adult of your life. You choose how to use these resources. No one else chooses or gets to tell you the “right” answer for how you’re using your resources or how you’re making decisions in your life.
    -Extreme Ownership helps you take full responsibility for your choices so you feel aligned with who you really are and are making life decisions from a stable, true place inside yourself.
    -Ask yourself regularly:
                -“Am I proud of how I just showed up?”
                -“What’s the reason I just showed up that way? Where was I coming from?”
                -“How do I feel as I’m pushing toward this goal? Do I like this feeling? What if I choose what I'd rather feel as I’m moving forward?”

    Music Credits:

    Lo-Fi Chill Hip Hop - Rob Barnes



    49 min
  • 6 - How Differences Help Your Marriage

    Annaliese and Alan talk about how different personalities and needs impact relationship dynamics for the better. Annaliese brings up why showing up as who you really are matters the most in your relationships.


    You’ll Hear About:
    -Being honest and real is the best way to help your relationships in a long-term way (especially marriage!)
    -Your partner's differences can help you grow. Ask questions instead of trying to read their mind or thinking they’re against you. Make differences work for you, not against you.
    -Notice that your partner’s differences (that sometimes seem like problems) are also some of the strengths you rely on them for. 

    Resources:
    -www.linktree.com/coachannaliese
    -What’s the way through incompatibilities? Honest communication. Being willing to say, “I don’t usually say this part to you, it might be messy because I’m not sure how to say it, but here goes…”

    Music Credits: Lo-Fi Chill Hip Hop - Rob Barnes

    56 min
  • 5 - Self-Management Is Key For A Healthy Marriage

    In This Episode:

    Annaliese and Alan talk about relationships and the personal work and different ways of processing that belong in a healthy marriage. Annaliese brings up how being a healthy individual and focusing on personal growth is some of the most important work you'll do for a healthy marriage.

    You’ll Hear About:
    -It takes self-awareness to help you show up how you need and want to in your marriage
    -Approach your partner with curiosity, not by thinking you figured them out or that you have to fix them
    -Checking in with yourself in the moment and being responsible for your posture in your marriage – are you being a victim or teammate of your partner?

    Resources:
    -www.linktree.com/coachannaliese
    -Helpful practice: Own your choice. Say to yourself, “I’m in charge. Am I being the me I want to be here? I get to choose.” Ask yourself at the end of the day, “Was I honest, clear, and kind?”. Remind yourself you get to pick to be the kind of partner you want to be in your marriage.

    Music Credits:
    Lo-Fi Chill Hip Hop - Rob Barnes

    42 min
  • 4 - Doubting What You Do Know

    In This Episode:

    Annaliese and Alan talk about what to do as you're noticing where you feel on track or off track in the changes you’re making in your life. Annaliese brings up how doubt shows up in the “confusion” or “stuckness” you feel when you’re trying to grow or do a new thing. That happens because your brain doesn’t like change so it creates doubt to try to protect you. Even when doubt makes sense, every situation has pros and cons. You get to take charge back by choosing to move forward based on what you do know, and not get so caught up worrying about the doubt.

    You’ll Hear About:
    -“Discomfort is the currency of your dreams.” - Brooke Castillo. You will feel uncomfortable while you’re practicing your dreams in real life and actually living out the growth you want
    -The messy middle is a valuable place for you to be - having doubts doesn't disqualify you
    -You get better results by moving forward based on creating something you want, not avoiding something that may or may not happen

    Resources:
    - www.linktree.com/coachannaliese
    - The Life Coach School Podcast with Brooke Castillo
    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-life-coach-school-podcast/id870239631?i=1000362748209

    Music Credits:

    Lo-Fi Chill Hip Hop - Rob Barnes

    40 min
  • 3 - Do You Agree With Your Thought?

    In This Episode:

    Alan talks a bit about his own speaking and writing background and his view on helping people grow. Annaliese talks about what “Thought Work” is (taking charge of your thought life), and practical ways to start being more aware of your thoughts and your feelings on a daily basis so that you accept yourself and feel yourself moving more toward where you want to go.

    You’ll Hear About:
    -You can pick to agree or disagree with your thoughts (they're optional!)
    -To think better thoughts, you practice repeating them, it’s intentional not automatic
    -Acting in a more mature way with your thoughts and feelings (think "respond" not "react") helps you feel like and be the adult you've been wanting to be in your life
    -Feelings are a signpost: they’re meant to be felt, seen and understood (not avoided). Feel it and name it to help your feeling work FOR you not against you.

    Resources:
    - www.linktree.com/coachannaliese
    - The Life Coach School Podcast with Brooke Castillo
    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-life-coach-school-podcast/id870239631?i=1000362748209

    - Mindfulness practice card deck, “Stress Less Cards”

    https://www.amazon.com/Stress-Less-Cards-Mindfulness-Meditation/dp/B01CP326ME/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?crid=2VYKYEEBUSHYX&keywords=stress+less+cards&qid=1689010286&sprefix=stress+less+card%2Caps%2C122&sr=8-1-spons&sp_csd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9hdGY&psc=1

    - Helpful practice: Be physically still for 2 minutes. Feel your feeling and name it. Think, “I’m allowed to pick to feel this feeling. I give myself permission to pick to spend 2 minutes doing this.” Remind yourself that rushing stops you from getting a clear mind.
     
    Music Credit:
    Lo-Fi Chill Hip Hop - Rob Barnes

    39 min
  • 2 - Growth Takes Being Stretched

    In This Episode:

    Annaliese and Alan talk about the 4 Zones of Growth (Comfort Zone, Fear Zone, Learning Zone, Growth Zone). Annaliese shares about how fear is involved in trying new things or making a change, and how to use our thoughts to stretch past that fear to grow like we want to.

    You’ll Hear About:
    -Notice your Comfort Zone and learn how to start moving yourself out of it
    -Fear and mistakes don’t mean you’ll fail when you’re trying to make a change
    -Live more proactively and intentionally instead of avoiding stretching yourself

    Resources:
    - www.linktree.com/coachannaliese

    Credits:

    Lo-Fi Chill Hip Hop - Rob Barnes

    33 min
  • 1 - Awareness Is A Step

    In This Episode:

    Annaliese introduces her husband Alan and the podcast! She shares how she created this podcast to talk about how waking up and paying attention to your experience helps you live life on purpose. The podcast will address the most common and practical topics she helps people with in their personal and professional goals as a Life Design Coach.

    You’ll Hear About:
    -You have a choice about what you think (different perspectives exists!)
    -Starting right where you are even when it’s hard
    -Acting on your awareness is one of the first motivations for change

    Resources:
    - www.linktree.com/coachannaliese

    - Episode 2 talks more about how feelings sometimes stop us from changing


    TIP TO HELP YOURSELF STAY AWARE: Let it be important. Write your awareness as a sentence you can repeat to yourself (ex. picking: “I want to believe that feelings are valuable.” instead of: “I think feelings are a waste of time and energy.”)

    Music Credit:

    Lo-Fi Chill Hip Hop - Rob Barnes

    41 min
  • Wake Your Dream Teaser

    Annaliese introduces her new podcast! She shares how she created this podcast to talk about how waking up and paying attention to your experience helps you live life on purpose. The podcast will address the most common and practical topics she helps people with in their personal and professional goals as a Life Design Coach.


    1 min

About Wake Your Dream

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Join Annaliese Seaborn, Certified Professional Life Coach, on this bi-weekly podcast as she talks with her husband Alan about growth, how your brain works, and how to make shifts in your thoughts and…