Wake Your Dream

By Annaliese SeabornSociety & Culture Health & Fitness Mental Health Education Self-Improvement Relationships

Wake Your Dream episodes

June 26, 2024 48 - How Honesty Impacts Your Life
In this episode, Annaliese and Alan dive into the transformative power of honesty, especially when it feels risky. Annaliese shares her personal journey in embracing honesty and offers practical tips on how to let go of people-pleasing to become your true self across all areas of life.
You'll Hear About:
- The fear we each have of being more honest, and how facing it helps build your self-trust as you accept and embrace your reality.
- How when you contribute your authentic self more in your interactions, you feel more assured that others are experiencing you as you really are.
- How choosing honesty empowers you to make decisions based on your actual desires rather than external pressures or expectations.
Resources:
- Experience coaching with Annaliese! Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule your FREE, 1-hour Discovery Chat. Share your story and get valuable tips to start making your real life changes.
3 Places & Ways to Be More Honest:
1. Inside yourself:
- Prioritize your own thoughts, feelings, and values. Take some quality time with yourself to understand what you truly think and care about.
2. In your home & relationships:
- Bring more of your own authenticity to your marriage, parenting, and friendships. This openness from you on purpose invites others to do the same, fostering deeper connections and being more open to risking misunderstandings for a better quality relationship.
3. At work:
- See where you can create necessary conversations and increase your own self-awareness in the moment. Identify where you're avoiding issues and take small steps to address them. Aim to be more solution-oriented and clear inside yourself about the goals you're shooting for to get better results.
We hop you join us as we all explore how honesty can lead to a more authentic and empowered life.
32 min
June 19, 2024 47 - How Self-Compassion Brings Real, Lasting Growth
In This Episode:
Annaliese and Alan explore a simple, important building block for making your growth lasting and real. Annaliese highlights the transformative power of building your growth on the foundation of self-compassion, which helps you thrive and trust yourself beyond just hitting goals.
You’ll Hear About:
-The myth of doing “more” or “enough” might be a reason change hasn’t stuck for you. Discover how pushing yourself less and supporting yourself more is what helps you move forward while growing your self-belief.
- Using self-compassion to change:
1. Check that no goal you make overshadows your personal priorities and the things that truly matter in your life.
2. Aim for goals that enhance your quality of life, not diminish it in pursuit of success.
-Shaming yourself as motivation really harms you by damaging your self-concept and decreasing the sustainability of changes you make.
-Recognize your mindset when pursuing change. Are you supporting yourself, envisioning possibilities, and allowing yourself to learn and start anew? These types of self-compassionate thoughts are key to more effective growth goals.
Resources:
- Experience coaching with Annaliese! Schedule your FREE, 1-hour Discovery Chat at www.linktree.com/coachannaliese. Share your story with her and she'll personalize actionable tips for the real changes you want to see.
How Compassion Builds Better Change:
- Your Thoughts: Shift from the limiting defeat of “I don’t matter” to setting yourself free by accepting mistakes more and embracing all the steps of change along the way.
- Your Feelings: Move from feeling trapped and judgmental to feeling allowing, calm, and free to try.
- Your Actions: Transition from forced actions and overthinking to being open, curious, and willing to try new things.
The Cost of Not Having Compassion:
1. Narrows your perspective, making success seem more important than better quality of life.
2. Limits your choices based on limiting thoughts of worthiness, cutting you off from possibilities that are actually available to you.
3. Reinforces harmful self-ideas, linking your worth to perfectionism.
4. Increases stress and misery; because harsh approaches create a harsh reality.

Listen today to stop getting trapped in a cycle of harshness as you're pursuing your goals - make your growth journey a way better experience for yourself!
35 min
June 12, 2024 46 - What Makes It Hard To Communicate? (And What Can Help!)
In this episode, Annaliese and Alan dive into the challenges of effective communication and explore how to have more productive conversations. Annaliese shares practical tips to enhance self-awareness and improve your interactions with others, leading to smoother and more meaningful exchanges.
You’ll Hear About:
- How misunderstandings happen without us realizing it, and strategies to stop the negative narratives in your mind. Practicing self-awareness in communication helps you respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively, making you feel proud of your interactions.
- The benefits of planning your key points before a conversation and being mindful of jumping to conclusions about the other person’s responses. This preparation can lead to more effective and smoother discussions.
- Techniques for staying present during tough conversations, reminding yourself that you have control over how and what you communicate. This approach helps prevent spiraling into negativity or shutting down when facing difficult talks.
Resources:
- Experience coaching with Annaliese! Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule your FREE 1-hour Discovery Chat. Share your story and gain practical tips from Annaliese on how to create real change in your life.
WHAT CAN HELP COMMUNICATION:
1. Check in with yourself to understand your current emotional state and experience.
2. Pair this mental check-in with a reassuring touch, like placing a hand on your chest or arm, to feel more grounded and open.
3. If the conversation isn’t going well, try introducing the mood or statements you wish were present. Remember, you and the other person can always explore different angles.
4. Ask more questions to invite openness and curiosity, reducing defensiveness and fostering a calmer conversation atmosphere.

Listen today to feel less alone, and more capable to try different ways to have better conversations about hard things!
29 min
June 05, 202445 - Healthier Habits For Your Day: Part 2
Annaliese and Alan unpack their own experiences more, and talk through practical ways to check in with yourself when you feel your daily experience needs a shift. They share their personal steps and offer insights on how you can implement these practices to create meaningful changes in your life.
YOU'LL HEAR ABOUT
Notice What Works for You: Give yourself permission to experiment with different check-in methods, such as physically slowing down, focusing on your breath, placing your hand on your chest, or clenching and unclenching your hand to notice your feelings.
Daily Check-In Practice: Learn how to start a consistent check-in routine to better trust and support yourself.
Permission to Say No: Understand the importance of saying No to create the margin for the Yes’s that truly matter.
RESOURCES
Experience Coaching with Annaliese:
Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule your FREE, 1-hour Discovery Chat. Share your story and receive personalized tips to make real changes in your life.
Practices To Check In with Yourself:
Clench Your Hand: Interrupt negative or fearful feelings by making a fist and identifying the sensations in your body. This practice helps you become more familiar with your emotions, providing stability throughout your day.
Slow Down: Take a physical posture of ownership by slowing down. Notice and experience your feelings with curiosity and openness. Allocate time for yourself and remind yourself that you are in charge. This helps you understand your thoughts and improve them.
Early Day Journaling: Spend 3-5 minutes brain dumping your thoughts. Then spend another 3-5 minutes listing truth statements for yourself. These truth statements are reminders that help you focus on who you want to be, how you want to act, and the feelings you want to cultivate during your day and whatever you're doing.
Listen in for more about these simple yet powerful practices and how you can use them to transform your daily life!
38 min
May 29, 2024 44 - Healthier Habits For Your Day: Part 1
Annaliese and Alan talk about how to begin healthier habits by recognizing and understanding your daily experiences so you can make new choices that work better for you. Annaliese shares actionable tips on how to begin helpful change by choosing different little ways to handle your day. They emphasize that meaningful, proactive living begins with small, intentional steps to grow your awareness.
You’ll Hear About:
- How when you notice your daily experiences, it can seem like “it is what it is,” but reminding yourself that awareness is the first step toward any healthier changes you might make.
- The significance of identifying when something bothers you, prompting you to check in with yourself to understand your feelings, what they're caused by, and what they're telling you.
- Developing healthier habits by paying attention to your emotions helps guide you to choosing the support you need.
- How practicing trusting your awareness and insights more is what helps you realize you’re on the right path.
Resources:
-Experience coaching with Annaliese for yourself! Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule your FREE, 1-hour Discovery Chat. Share your story with Annaliese and she'll help you gain helpful tips to make real changes in your life.
The Best Way To Start Becoming Aware of Your Daily Experience:
1. Focus on your inner experience (feelings) rather than just your outer accomplishments.
2. Don’t discount your feelings as too small or petty; each one is significant and conveys important information to you about you.
3. Use what you're seeing about your overall experience to identify where you need extra support or where you can offer yourself more grace, understanding, or empowering messages.
3 Questions To Start More Self-Awareness in Your Day:
1. What feels unhealthy about my day?
2. What might I need more of?
3. What am I doing or feeling too much of in my day?
Embrace your answers with curiosity; sometimes what feels bad is actually good for you (ex. the challenge of self-discipline), and what feels good may not be beneficial (ex. "the right thing at the wrong time").

Be encouraged as you listen today to make real change in your day!
37 min
May 22, 2024 43 - Are You Succeeding At The Wrong Things?
Annaliese and Alan walk through idea of succeeding at the wrong things in life and what truly brings you satisfaction and fulfillment. Annaliese highlights the difference you feel when you focus on who you’re being and becoming, rather than just chasing external success.
You’ll Hear About:
- The myth of what you’re “supposed to” be doing and pursuing. True fulfillment comes from recognizing if your goals are genuinely satisfying and purposeful.
- How meaning and purpose are what should drive your actions. Outer achievements can't create inner peace and satisfaction.
- Identifying your “thing" by examining your default priorities and motivations. Are they providing security, satisfaction, and fulfillment? By understanding your usual patterns, you can start asking the right questions to solve problems more effectively.
- The importance of your own definition of success. Do you know what it is? Reflect on why you pursue things the way you do. Clarifying your goals helps you recognize where you might be missing the mark.
Resources:
- Schedule your FREE, 1-hour Discovery Chat with Annaliese at www.linktree.com/coachannaliese. Share your experiences and get coached on achieving the results you're hoping for, while taking away practical tips for real change.
HOW TO FIND WHAT YOU’RE SUCCEEDING AT:
1. Define “success” for yourself. What does it mean, and is it working for you?
2. Identify how your current habits block you from new experiences (e.g., constant busyness prevents rest). The status quo can hinder change.
3. Describe the “right” things for you. What’s missing that you want more of, and how would achieving them improve your life?

Continue this conversation by listening to our “Find Your Why” episode so you can explore your next steps of building real success in your life: https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-9hjpq-14c476d
35 min
May 15, 202442 - Core Values Part 2: Bring Yourself More Direction
In this uplifting episode, Annaliese and Alan delve deeper into the transformative power of Core Values, pointing out the freedom and clarity you gain when you use your Core Values to help you live a more purpose-driven life.
You’ll Hear About:
Alignment with Purpose: Discover how recognizing and embodying your Core Values leads to a profound sense of purpose and fulfillment inside you in your daily life. You'll hear how to live in more alignment with your values so you can be you more authentically. In these ways, you get to express your true self more daily, which helps yourself move in the direction you want to!
Intentional Living: Explore the concept of living more intentionally and see how that will impact your personal growth. By regularly revisiting your Core Values and intentionally integrating them into your daily routines, you can cultivate consistency and authenticity in your actions.
Celebrating Progress: Hear about the importance of acknowledging and celebrating choices you make that align you with your Core Values during your day. By crediting yourself for intentional actions, you reinforce the better actions and results you want, and empower yourself to continue to create better results in your life as you journey into personal development.
Resources:
Experience the transformative power of coaching with Annaliese by scheduling a FREE, 1-hour Discovery Chat at www.linktree.com/coachannaliese. During this session, you’ll have the opportunity to share your story and goals with Annaliese as she provides personalized coaching and guiding tips to help you create practical, meaningful change in your life.
Practicing Your Core Values Intentionally:
Proactive: Embrace proactive living by lining up your actions more with your Core Values. By keeping your Core Values more top of mind, you'll recognize moments ahead of time in your day where your values guide your choices, and that helps you cultivate authenticity and purpose more naturally in your daily life.
Practical: Take practical steps to integrate your Core Values into your daily routine by using simple tools, such as writing down your values on your phone and on Post-It's you place around you in key spots in your home and car and workspace. These little steps help you remind yourself of your Core Values for better daily alignment and clarity in your actions and decisions.
Purposeful: Embrace more purposeful living by celebrating the moments you practice alignment with your Core Values! Recognize and credit yourself for intentional actions, growing a sense of satisfaction and joy in your journey of personal growth.
Listen in to discover how walking in your Core Values aligns you with feeling fulfilled and on track in life - even more the ways you want!
31 min
May 08, 202441 - Core Values Part 1: Bring Yourself More Joy
Annaliese and Alan talk through how knowing your Core Values is so powerful for your life! Uncovering and embracing them more proactively helps you experience greater joy and satisfaction in your life.
Discovering Your Core Values:
When you identify and name your Core Values, you're essentially pinpointing what truly matters to you. These values resonate deeply, making you feel authentic and aligned with your true self. By keeping these values at the forefront of your mind, you naturally gravitate towards experiences and connections that bring you joy and fulfillment.
Living Authentically:
Embracing your Core Values allows you to live authentically, which in turn leads to a sense of satisfaction with life. When you consistently align your actions with your values, you become more in tune with your purpose and identity, fostering a greater sense of fulfillment and capability.
Gifts to Yourself and Others:
Acting in alignment with your Core Values not only benefits you but also enriches your relationships and community. By embodying your values, you contribute to a more authentic and fulfilling life for yourself and those around you.
RESOURCES:
-Experience coaching with Annaliese to see how she could help you get the results you want for your life! Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule your FREE, 1-hour Discovery Chat. You’ll spend the call sharing your story with Annaliese as she coaches you on the results you’re looking for. You’ll gain helpful tips from your call that you can use to make a real change in your life.

-QUICK WAY TO DISCOVER SOME OF YOUR CORE VALUES:
Google "Core Values" and browse through image search results. Pick a word list and select 2-5 words that you notice resonate with you and make you feel something. You've just found some of your Core Values!

-USING YOUR CORE VALUES INTENTIONALLY:
Relationships: When interacting with others, focus on some of your values. Looking at it this way helps you understand your value in the relationship and shows you how to invest in it authentically, naturally inviting deeper connections with both yourself and others.
Work: Notice where you can apply your values more proactively to your work - they give you more satisfying motivations and outcomes. Doing your work with this authenticity protects you from burnout and helps you feel more purposeful professionally.
Alone Time: During moments where you're alone with yourself, be intentional about letting your values influence you, and notice how important they are to you being you. Allowing yourself to fully enjoy these moments of self-discovery and authenticity brings you connection and trust in yourself.
Listen in for the chance to uncover and own your Core Values more, and see how it helps you stay tuned to a deeper sense of purpose and fulfillment in all aspects of your life!
25 min
May 01, 2024 40 - How To Take Charge Of Your Thoughts (Be "On To" Yourself)
Annaliese and Alan talk more about the topic of self-awareness, sharing practical tips to understand your thoughts and take control in the moment. Annaliese shares one of her favorite phrases for this, "be on to yourself," highlighting the significance of viewing your thoughts as optional. This mindset helps you stay present and connected with yourself in the hustle and bustle of everyday life.
You'll hear about:
-Practical Self-Awareness: Discover how being more self-aware in your everyday moments can boost your confidence and decisiveness.
-Being "On To" Yourself: Uncover the sneaky tricks your brain plays and learn how to catch them in action. Being "on to" yourself means pausing before making decisions and asking if your thoughts align with your goals.
-Embracing Uncertainty: Life is full of uncertainties, but recognizing that you have choices empowers you to handle them with grace and resilience.

RESOURCES:
-Experience coaching with Annaliese firsthand to see if it can help you reach your goals. Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule your free, 1-hour Discovery Chat. Spend 20-30 minutes sharing your story and the results you want more of with Annaliese, then receive 30 minutes of coaching on your chosen topic. You'll walk away with helpful tips and better ways to be you in your life!

-DAILY WAYS TO PRACTICE BEING 'ON TO' YOURSELF:

1. Set an alarm twice a day (e.g., morning and evening) to check in with yourself.
Use this to help yourself remember to take a second to check in with how you're doing and where your thoughts are at. Feel yourself drop down from your head into your body.
- Notice your body's sensations, not just your thoughts. Are you at ease, tense, worried, sad?
- Name the emotion you're experiencing.
- Ask yourself, "What am I thinking that's causing this feeling?"
- Now decide if you agree by asking yourself:
“Do I agree with this feeling and thought story in my head? Do I want to continue to be in this and let it drive me, or pick a better thought?”
2. Create a mental space so you can make a better decision.
Use this in the moments when you can tell you’re in your feelings/thoughts, in a mood, and just feeling overwhelmed, stressed, trapped.
- Picture two blocks: "Feeling/Thought" and "Action/Reaction."
- Now, imagine yourself creating a third block, which you label "Space."
- Push the "Space" block between the other two to pause and slow down.
- You're the one who's creating this space! Use this moment of space to choose a different, better action than your default reaction to the feeling or thought.

-BENEFITS OF BEING ‘ON TO’ YOURSELF:
1. You trust yourself more
2. You feel more capable of stepping into being in charge of your mind
3. You feel more secure in your decisions
4. You choose to be more authentic, more often

-BOOK TO GROW YOUR SELF-AWARENESS:
“Insight” by Dr. Tasha Eurich

Listen for practical strategies as you build self-awareness and take more control of your thoughts and emotions. Start living life more on your own terms today!
1 hr
April 24, 2024 39 - How To Make The Best Boundaries For You
Annaliese and Alan explore both the frustration and freedom of making and communicating boundaries in relationships. Annaliese underlines the best things about boundaries: they're not barriers to keep people out but pathways and guideposts for your authentic self to thrive in your life and relationships.
YOU'LL HEAR ABOUT:
-Boundaries Help You Grow: Boundaries serve as a great foundation for nurturing safety and support within yourself, and give you the ability to transform the dynamics of any relationship you have.
-Alternatives To People-Pleasing: Setting boundaries helps you uncover your people-pleasing habits, and empowers you to prioritize your needs and desires more authentically in your life.
-Accepting Uncomfortable Reactions: It's natural for others to resist your boundaries, but it's crucial to stand firm in your conviction, knowing that your needs matter just as much.
-Transforming Relationships, One Boundary at a Time: Boundaries act as bridges, facilitating healthier interactions and deeper self-awareness within your connections.
RESOURCES:
-Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule your free, 1-hour Discovery Chat. Spend 20-30 minutes sharing your story with Annaliese, then receive 30 minutes of coaching on your chosen topic for your life. Experience coaching firsthand to see if it aligns with your goals.
-Recommended Reading:
"Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How To Say No To Take Control Of Your Life" by Henry Cloud and John Townsend.
-Emotional Signals for Boundary Needs:
Pay attention to emotions like Anger, Irritation, Resentment, Sadness, and Feeling Defeated, which may show you where you need boundaries.
-Experiential Cues for Boundary Needs:
Look out for signs such as avoiding certain people or situations, having unproductive conversations, or experiencing consistent boundary violations by others.

Listen today to explore boundary-setting and feel for yourself its transformative potential in your life!

1 hr 4 min

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